“Women love the
men the most who give the least,
and they love the
men the least who give the most.”
Do
you remember the days in school when a cute girl may have patronizingly
complimented a boy on his great personality?
It was always, and probably still is, the perennial case of a pretty
girl feeling sorry for the ugly boy who isn’t very popular. He stands alone in the playground in hope
that, just by magic, she may see something in him over the more popular and
cuter looking boys. Isn’t the world of
attraction so much easier in those days, absent of any female needs for status,
money, resources, trust or egoism? Bide
your time my ugly friend, because if you work hard at school you will have a
route to a better job. A better job
means potential money and status. Voila,
there’s that pretty girl 20 years on who is now with a man looking similar to
you.
What
actually is personality? I’m not talking
about the dictionary definition, but instead its true relevance in how women
view it, assess it, and prioritize it in terms of a male desirable. To me, personality in this context is a man’s
ability to talk, listen, understand and contribute to a woman’s feelings in
life. Anything outside of this is a mere
irrelevance if it doesn’t have a positive impact on her life.
So
how important is a man’s personality in the whole scheme of things? Two schools of thought can be taken. To a woman, her own existence, and how she is
perceived by the world, is the most important aspect with no substitute that
comes close. With this in mind, a woman
would place a man’s personality, and the traits that come with it, above any
other appealing metric. On the other
hand, women generally are not viscerally attracted to men who talk for hours
about nothing and who display this power of knowledge. They may benefit from the knock-on effect of this
knowledge per se – hence status, take-home pay or DIY skills – but this doesn’t
push their sexual buttons one bit. In
consideration to this claim, a man with extensive verbal delivery, if not used
in seduction process, can actually make a woman feel inferior against him and
not attracted towards him.
You
only need to look at a couple that are obviously and subconsciously in love,
with no front to convince others of this fact.
There is very little conversation.
It’s short, concise and playful with no philosophical hint arriving from
either’s lips. When she talks, he
listens. When he talks she is mesmerized
and infatuated, but he knows how and when to end it. There will always come a time when two people
in their mature stage of the relationship do talk for hours about nothing, as
in truth the sexual urges for each other will have optimized a long time
ago. But it pains me when I see younger
guys think this is the way to woman’s heart in verbal blasts to their thoughts
of the world. You’re rarely going to see
a highly physically attractive woman with one of those men unless he is someone
who can offer her other things in great measures.
I’ve
been that guy myself in the past. You
know, the guy thinking this is what women desire. You do this because you think, with some
justification, that by passing on opinions in longitude form leads her to
believe what a comfortable partner you will be during Sunday afternoon strolls. You think she will be so grateful to a lack
of silent moments or conversation breakdowns, as you will always be there with
a masterful topic in production. You
believe the dense jerks who had nothing productive to say are with these women
because the women are of unintelligent parity and insecure nature. This doesn’t even come close to the true
reasons.
But
then you assess again, and you recollect some of the happiest moments with
girlfriends were when nothing was said for hours. She didn’t need you to. You were just the comforting pillar for her
to rest upon in tranquility. Women will
instigate something to say when they are good and ready. Be assured of this. She will drag a man back into her world when
she senses him slipping away.
And
I think this sums up how much personality a man should have in overall
consideration to attracting a woman and maintaining a woman’s interest. Near on 90% of what a man says to women is pretty
much irrelevant – most of the time. The
way he says it, and the body language he portrays, is far more important. The great master will have an abundance of
personality, in the verbal form, under his sleeve to use at any given
appropriate time. But he only uses it
when absolute necessary, and when it benefits him the most.
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