"A person with more friends than fingers is a fool."
Reader Danny asks for my thoughts on marriage:
Vinay
One other great post indeed:)
By the way..wanted to ask you?
If you'd get married...what woman you'd chose?..a 10?.. 8?..since beauty is such a transitory factor for a woman before she gets fat?..
I wonder...
Kiss,mate!
Danny boy:)
One other great post indeed:)
By the way..wanted to ask you?
If you'd get married...what woman you'd chose?..a 10?.. 8?..since beauty is such a transitory factor for a woman before she gets fat?..
I wonder...
Kiss,mate!
Danny boy:)
My response:
You can never say never in
life, but knowing myself better than anyone else comes close to, and in
comprehension to the life knowledge I've acquired and understanding of women
that has developed over the years, I couldn't see myself marrying anything less
than a 7.5/10 looks rated woman. This woman referenced would need to
possess an excellent personality and be very enjoyable company that outweighs the
enrichment of an independent life. In addition to this, she would also
have to be somewhere near to my own level of financial assets, or come from a
wealthy background that could contribute to our common objectives.
If I sensed for a split second that compromise and empathy were not part
of her character vocabulary, she wouldn't last beyond her sexual use to me.
Female physical
attractiveness, in men's eyes, gives women more leeway with male
demands. I'm no different. This isn't, very often, the same
case in the gender inverse perspective. A man's good looks (or
better looks in comparison to a lesser looking man from the woman's
past) will rarely shorten the list or intensity of a woman's demands for
long term consideration. What good male looks do give men is more
opportunity for short term flings and one night stands.
To explain further, if the
woman was an 8/10, I wouldn't be as particular about her non-visual attributes
in relation to the 7.5/10 woman. This is mainly in thought to a
non-marital relationship. Likewise, a 8.5/10 woman would receive more
leeway than the 8/10 woman, and again a 9/10 woman receives more leeway further
still. But to reiterate, this is out of wedlock consideration.
The reason I stress that this
process only follows as a boyfriend and not a husband is because, as Danny
strongly alludes to, a woman's peak beauty period is short lived.
Marriage only compounds this sad but true case of events, because the majority
of women rapidly become more unattractive once married. General
observation is all you need to back this up. Why? Well most women
have achieved their life dream once the ring is on the finger and the big
wedding day is over, and they have little concern (although they
will have firm knowledge) to the primary reason her now husband proposed
to her - based on her looks. Whereas once the cakes and fast food
were resisted, and gym visits were more frequent, post marriage leads her to
the opposite lifestyle pattern. If a woman does keep up her good habits
post marriage, it is either (less so) because she deeply loves and respects her
husband and knows he may stray if she doesn't keep up her appearance, or (more
so) due to still being on the lookout for a better male alternative.
Kids, usually a by-product of
marriage despite many women in this day and age giving birth prior so,
physically deteriorate both women and men. There is no getting away
from this unfriendly fact. Not only do the little sods give parents half
the amount of sleep than the single or dating life offered, but the sheer
stress of financial burden that children manifest plays on a human's mind both
day and night. I'm not a parent, but any honest parent would admit this
is the case. But as time is a more vicious and unforgiving circumstance
to a woman's face and body than to a man's equivalence, the parenthood role
plays a more strenuous picture, although perhaps not mind, on her than
him.
Now add on the unproven but
natural consequence of marriage making women less charming and appreciative.
Prior to marriage, women have a far greater motivation to act friendly,
receptive and gratifying in order to secure the sucker who will take her
down the aisle. Afterwards, poof, the slippery slide will start.
Once a woman has a grip on a man's future, she has far less
inclination to be nice and accommodating. And her demands only become
stronger as each day ticks by, probably until the point (around late 30's to early
40's) where she knows very few men will marry her again. Some
of the friendliest women are in their late 30's and early 40's, but these
are mainly divorcees on the lookout for a new man. They have regained the
necessity to be charming once more.
So in essence, the moral of
all this is not to get married unless you, by magic, land on a female dime that
is as rare as rocking horse shit. Another argument could be if
you came into a fortune, but even then be prepared to lose a good chunk of
this later down the line. Marrying a richer woman than you is also a fair
justification, although these women are seldom the best lookers.
I often view marriage, or the
relationship with the woman a man marries, as a 10% happiness
life span. If the rough survival rate is around 85, at best you will
have 8 years of unbelievable happiness that exceeds the single life. Much
of this 8 years will be pre-marriage rather than post wedding
day. I'm a big statistic and percentage kind of guy, and for me, 10%
is not long or great enough to compensate for the other 90%
of indifference or misery.
My step-sister gets married
this late summer. I'll keep my mouth shut on the day, but
make no mistake that I have no problem telling people what I think on this
subject. The only exception is in the early days when a cute or
hot woman comes into my life. If they don't ask, I don't
tell....