Wednesday 15 June 2022

Feral girl summer – a load of cobblers


                                            “You can’t win unless you learn how to lose.                                                (Kareem Abdul-Jabbar)


Call me behind the contemporary times, or simply being savvy in spending my time on useful reading, pastimes or alike, but I’d never heard of this feral girl summer rubbish until a few days ago.  Like most female memes of today, the words mean little to the substance.  In other words, anyone can say anything they like, but if they don’t act out these words in practice, or they always have a price where they bow down to hypocrisy, then the meme isn’t worth the paper it’s written on as far as I’m concerned.

What is a feral girl?

Why hear it from me, when you can hear it from a feral girl herself linked to this article:

To be "feral" is to go against the expectation to be more organized and more optimized, or to strive for a clean lifestyle. As this TikToker put it, "I will never wake up at 5am to drink green juices and be hyper organized. I will instead be in 4am reddit holes, diet coke first thing in the morning." It's like a more energized version of goblin mode.

What is feral girl summer?

Once more, answered by the feral girl…

Feral girl summer is the act of causing good trouble and having carefree times at any location in 2022 — from party settings to the pantry — during the summer season.

Above all, feral girl summer encourages tossing caution (in regard to fear of judgment, at least) to the wind and having fun.

“Time to wreak havoc, cause chaos, align your rodent chakras, and just completely get after it,” one post on TikTok about feral girl summer encouraged. “Life is supposed to be fun.”

In easy language…

Allow me to give you a proper and honest explanation to what these young (and some older) women are saying.

In essence, a feral girl (or a woman on a feral girl summer) is effectively thinking that she can do what she wants without any accountability, without any responsibility, without a care to what people think of her, without any concern to the consequences it brings on herself or other people, and without any thought to the judgement those will have on her actions and life choices.  In that same timeframe, she believes that other people, including male suitors, should and will just accept her for what her all so mighty presence brings to the world.

Why do women get away with this?

As pitiful as this attitude and life execution is, the reality is that a high percentage (>60%) of women in the western world will get away with this to a great extent.  I offer the following reasons why:

·       An oversized male population (>80%) which consists of weak beta males, lapdogs, men lacking any grain of knowledge in how to deal with women and put them in their place, men so desperate for sex that they turn a blind eye to any female habit that in reality is a huge distaste to them, and men who have no idea how to tell a woman that the choices she makes will be a big mistake.

·       A growing “girl power” and feminist culture we live in - brainwashing young women into thinking they can just live a fun life, and any mistakes can be picked up by others or resurrected later down the line.

·       A lack of firm father figure leadership to forbid her from making poor decisions in life.

·       Single parent upbringing where fathers are, either entirely or in the main, absent from offering any guidance or opinion on key decisions in her lifestyle.

·       Mothers, older sisters, older female friends, and older female work colleagues or social acquaintances who, such is the year-on-year growth of female immaturity and fear of getting older, promote the whole “fun girl” lifestyle rather than providing efficient advice to what will benefit said feral girl the most.

·       The social media craze that promotes women to exploit their fun-loving lifestyle to show the world they are having such an exciting time out there.

The problem with this is….

Sure, women can get away with this mentality, way of living, and behaviour with most men – as explained in the first bullet point above.  These men are low sought-after in the dating market, and as the majority of men fall into this bracket, there will nearly always be a male taker for any half-decent (or greater) looking woman out there. 

The problem arises when women actually desire, and why wouldn’t they, a higher sought-after man.  These men are much rarer and harder to find, as men in this coveted compartment are found in a ratio of at least 1:5 in comparison to good-looking women.  In theory then, these men will not only select a hot woman, but they will decide which woman is worthy of his selection based on other desirables (mainly personality, small number of sexual partner history, lifestyle, loyalty, faithfulness, and likeability) she can bring to the table.

Therefore, if women aspire for more than just the run of the mill man who makes her feel better about herself due to his comparative physical ugliness and willingness to kiss her rosy ass, then she needs to think about the repercussions to her implementations.

Feral girl lifestyle is unforgiving

The other big consideration, and most likely the biggest implication, to this pathetic feral girl conditioning is the fact that this lifestyle takes no prisoners free of charge.  I’ve seen it with my own two eyes on countless occasions.

Just in the last few weeks I could count on two hands where I’ve seen women in the gym – ranging from cute (7/10) to lower hot (8/10), who seem to flip flop between two to three weeks of regular attendance, followed by a no show for a couple of weeks.  On each and every occasion on their return, there is a pronounced level (even though not excessive) of extra fat sitting in their arses, upper thighs, arms and neck on the first day when coming back to training.

I’d hedge a fair bet that this decreased attendance at the gym in this truancy timeframe coincided with a few too many nights out, accompanied with poor dietary routine.  The point is, even at a female age of late teens or early twenties, a woman’s body is, absent of incredibly kind genetics, unforgiving to a lapse in physical exercise and increase in higher/poorer calorie intake.


The smartest women know what the highest quality men hunger from them, and these women tailor their lifestyle to suit said man’s requirements.  The dumber women, or perhaps the most arrogant and ignorant women, simply do what they (women) want to do, in either naively believing any man will make any dispensations for her fun-loving times, or more likely knowing she can always settle for the masses of low regarded men who will always be forgiving to her ill-advised choices.

A final thought

One thing I will say, as a saving grace if it can be seen such a way, is that the majority of women, even women who hold a far greater need for attention, self-indulgence and ego massaging (which just so happens to be most women of today in the west) than the motivation to be attractive to men, are smart enough to know where the boundaries lie in terms of how far a said feral girl can push these limits.

What I mean by this is that whilst a woman loves the feeling of feeling better about herself and holding thoughts that the world is watching her, most of them do usually hold the knowledge to be comprehensive that sleeping around with men quicker than they can lift their pants up from the last one who nailed her is not productive at all.  No man is attracted to a woman who attains a reputation for sleeping around no matter how hot she is, and this even includes the most desperate and undesirable men out there.  If a certain man still goes for this kind of woman, it isn’t because he is turned on by her notch count.  It is because he is desolate and petrified that this slag is the only woman who will take him.

With this acknowledged, it kind of all loopholes back to how the modern-day western woman can be summarised.  In essence, her ego is bigger than her heart, but she will still moderate this obsession for attention and feel-good factor in order to eradicate any brakes being placed on the best life she can provide for herself.


Wednesday 1 June 2022

How nice or jerky should a man be?


“Save in the good times, spend in the bad times.”


I tend to think to think that most men, on more than a few occasions in their life, have asked themselves or others why certain women end up with men who treat them badly.  It’s a question most men will ask, as contrary to what many fallacy mindset women will try and convince you (and herself), most men (>80% of men) are nice guys.

Q-tip 1:

It is an easy link for women to broadcast that most men are jerks, because women do not like to face up to the reality that most relationships and interactions consist of the woman playing with the man’s emotions, far more often than the inverse scenario. 

Where do I stand on this topic?  As always, I like to illustrate the variables before issuing the answer.  Although this post was devised over eight years ago, and granted my writing is most likely more polished now than it was then, nothing has occurred in the interim time to change my view one bit.  Time will pass, life may change, but women’s emotional habits, psychology and decision-making generally stay the same.

Whilst I would fully recommend reading the full post, I snapshot the following:

·       The hotter the woman, the more of a jerk the man should be.

·       The less attractive the woman, the more beneficial it is to do nice things for her.

·       Any man, with any woman, should not be too nice, and he should not be too nice all the time.

·       The more physically attractive (especially 8/10 or greater) the man, the more productive his niceness will be.

·       The less physically attractive (in particular below 7/10) the man, the more productive his jerkiness will be.

·       The bigger the gap in physical attractiveness between the woman and man – where she is (in usual scenarios) better looking than him, the more of a jerk the man needs to be.

·       The smaller the gap in physical attractiveness between the man and woman (and in particular in rare situations where he is as or more physically attractive than her in gender relative terms), the nicer, within reason, the man needs to be.

·       Even a hot man (say 8.5/10) hitting on a cute woman (say 7/10), in spite of the above points, should not construe being too nice as being beneficial.  It is simply more a case of not being too cocky, arrogant, or apathetic.  The nuance should not be oversighted.

·       Men should not be too giving, in both emotional and monetary terms, too early on in the relationship dynamic.  If he is, he sets himself up for a fall later on.

·       If a man attains other appeal blessings – personality, wealth, high status, charisma, style etc – in addition to his top end physical attractiveness, he needs to be a margin nicer in comparison to the equally good-looking male counterpart without these none male beauty positives. 

·       An aesthetically pleasing man with very little else to offer – hence, a lunkhead jerk – should just continue being a jerk.  There are enough cute and hot women out there who love jerks for being jerks to outweigh the jerks in number per se, and him becoming nice would only serve to lose his own unique (or at least rare) selling point.

·       If a woman has a self-opinion of herself that is higher than what she truly has to offer (hence mainly her physical beauty), a man consequently needs to crank up his jerkiness level to align with her self-leverage. 

The limitations of nice guy / jerk online information field

I do not mind saying that I’m quite critical of the information given to men on this subject – information and advice distributed by both women and men. 

My critique towards women advising men will always be primarily due to the fact that women by nature, and this includes even the more honest women out there, will often inform men that they (men) should do the things that aren’t in conjunction with how women truly feel or how women act out in reality.  Don’t get me wrong, some female writers and vloggers do give a reasonable amount of honest counselling, but it seems to me like they are incapable of doing this in entirety. 

My condemnation towards a lot of male instructors was alluded to further up.  That is, these men are only offering one source of instruction on a one size fits all basis.  They are, or at least the vast majority are, never taking into consideration the variables which impact on the sweet spots between niceness and jerkiness in so far as analysing robustly the differing calibre of the woman and man within the dynamic.

Maybe this is due to time constraints?  I accept that to put a video together (and to a lesser extent, a written post) with all the editing involved is a hard enough task as it is, therefore to sub-divide each inconstant as I subscribed above (and there are a few more I haven’t shown) may be beyond feasibility.  On the other hand, are they just ignorant to the variables, or too bloody-minded to accept this is a major implication on the final product and end results?

A final thought

When all is said and done, and with all the complexities to consider as explained above, it perhaps is an easy conclusion for a man to simply say that he should just be himself, and let the rest take care of itself.  This argument could be further reinforced when you consider that, when you do not know a woman personally, you only have your gut instincts and past life experience with other similar women to fall on.  She could in fact be different to your perception of how she is.

To be fair, this isn’t half bad advice.  If a man obtains the knowledge that women are complex creatures, and he holds the authority that she just accepts him for who he is and the rest is the rest, then in theory this approach should be a golden ticket.  It is effectively then, in theory, no skin of his nose either way.

The problem is, this is, as repeated, in theory.  In practice, most men do get stressed over women, they do get manipulated by women, and they usually leave the scene of crime with more questions than answers simultaneous to placing his head in his hands.  Therefore, a man being himself in isolation to anything else, as good as it sounds on paper, rarely can be used in practice to reap the final rewards.

This is why I always think there is a sweet spot to strike between the two schools of thought.  I agree that a man should not change his general persona and habits for a woman (although compromises always have a place in my life), however this should be in conjunction with ascertaining the full grasp of how women are psychologically and emotionally made up, and how their decisions are a by-product of this.  When you mix the two pieces of the puzzle together – being yourself in addition to understanding women - perhaps then it will genuinely be no skin off your nose.

Q-tip 2:

Many men are outright misogynists, and they detest women of all kinds because of the ill experiences they have sustained.  Believe it or not, there are some men out there who know women for what they are, they choose to tailor their game to how women will act, they accept the outcomes for what they will be, and they gain pleasure in sharing these experiences (which will sometimes be failures of some nature, coupled with more than a few success stories) to benefit the good guys of the world in hope of a brighter day for them.  I guess it is up to others to distinguish between the two types of men as exampled.