Sunday, 9 February 2020

Women’s menstrual cycle impacting on their male preferences

“It’s tough to get out of bed to do roadwork at 5am
when you’ve been sleeping in silk pajamas.”
(Marvin Hagler)


A reader asks me to elaborate on what I had documented previously in this post.  Quite pertinent timing in fact, considering we are approaching Valentines Day and it's impending change of female habits a matter of weeks later (hence women dumping boyfriends post Christmas, New Year, Winter and Valentines Day). 

“Hi Vinay,
I would definitely appreciate a post of yours on the female fertile/horny week. I think this conundrum is often glossed over or not discussed in any blogs I see related to gender relations.
As a fellow good looking guy, I struggled with this for many months, often to the point of wanting to pull out my hair. A girl I meet out would be into me, touchy and flirty,etc. But yet I struggle to get dates and then a few months go by and I see her with her boring boyfriend. It didn't make much sense to me until I started to figure out that basically we are dealing with 2 different women in one body.

Looking back at what I had previously written, even if I do say so myself, I think it was a pretty good summary in explanation of what the reader is quizzical over.  Nevertheless, as it is a gripe that is somewhat giving the reader head scratching moments, even if the education on this blog has cleared the waters a little for him, I will offer some more food for thought.

There is so much you can search for online with regards to this topic – how women change their preferences in men dependant on the relevant time in their menstrual cycle – and much of it is written in a way of predictability.  This predictability comes in the usual form, most likely written by a woman or a male politically correct ‘yes man’, that is subscribed to forgive women of their actions (and consequently blame it on their genetic make-up), propaganda driven that is totally harmless and instead seen to be accepted as what women just do (in other words, don’t place women accountable or responsible for their misdemeanours in life), and almost laugh at the circumstance that results in women being able to have their cake and eat it.  Of course, compassion and willingness to bypass the truth, reality and detrimental outcomes is most certainly not what I was placed on planet earth for.

The most informative and realistic article I have ever found was written some ten years ago, but rest assured nothing has changed.  Unlike technology, economic peaks and troughs, or even human pastime predilections, women’s habits in reference to their menstrual cycle is fully consistent and ageless.  In my view here is a snippet which forms most relevance, but I’d advise reading from top to bottom.

“Take, for example, women's preferences in male partners. We may think that each woman has an unchanging "type"—but it turns out that women prefer quite different kinds of men depending on whether or not they are fertile. In the two days or so of the ovulatory phase—the time when women are most likely to become pregnant—they gravitate toward men with more "masculine" traits. That means a man who sports a leaner, V-shaped body, and a face with a squarer chin, straighter, heavier eyebrows, and thinner lips; one who speaks in a lower-pitched voice, and displays more aggressive, dominant behavior. When a woman is in the follicular or luteal phases—during which the uterus sheds its lining and then builds it up again, and in which she generally cannot become pregnant—she prefers men with softer features, less-defined bodies, higher voices, and a gentler manner.”

Note that the above states “two days or so of the ovulatory phase.”  I’ve read on other sources this is typically days 10 to 16 in the cycle – resulting in seven days.  Obviously one woman marginally differs to another in this respect, but by taking an average between the two schools of thought, there is roughly a five day strike zone for the hottest men to take advantage of.

Of course anyone who has become familiar with my way of thinking will be fully aware I’m a firm believer that your own two eyes and ears, providing you look and listen in an honest and objective manner (hence, not like women and most men who view and listen based on their best placed agenda and what makes them feel better about life), tells pretty much all you need to know in life.  I’ll give you a couple of examples based on my own experiences, and given the time, I could easily give you dozens more.

The hot hostile gym girl

I wrote a post on her in the early days, but the synopsis in easy terms was that she gave me indicators of interest on many occasions, yet the two times I approached her in the gym (which were about a year apart) she gave me the cold shoulder.  A couple of years later I saw her in the mall with her boyfriend, and in true predictability once more, he looked just as how I expected – the typical 15% less physically attractive than her, but not in an outlandish deleveraged aesthetic comparison.  Nothing new or unaccustomed there then.

Approximately three years later (I had hardly seen her in the interim period), she was on a night out with half a dozen female friends.  When they all walked into the first bar I was in, one of the girls grabbed my ass.  I know the others, and the gym girl, all saw the ass grabbing girl do it.  At the latter part of the night, the group entered the bar me and my buddies were in.  As they waited at the bar, the hot gym girl could just not stop staring at me from less than five yards away.  She didn’t even make any subtle excuse to look away. 

Q-tip 1:
Horny fertile female time, mixed with alcohol in her system, is the optimum opportunity to sleep with a woman who would normally reject you because you are above the physical attractiveness grade in contrast to the boyfriends she chooses and/or is with.  Don’t pass up this opportunity.

It was as easy as that, and a world apart from the woman who wouldn’t even look me in the eye or say a word back when I approached some years prior.  Let me tell you that her favourable demeanour towards me was because it fell slap bang in the middle of her horny week.  As I’ve documented in the past, I’m a strong advocator that women who are in relationships with men who don’t naturally and easily sexually arouse them will plan nights out, away from their male partners, during their most fertile monthly timescale.

Married women / Mothers

On a broader scale, married women and/or women who have mothered will give the hottest men tell tale signs to when they are at most fertile.  Generally speaking, a woman who is in a reasonably stable and secure relationship will be content with the life she lives.  She had the big wedding day, she sports the validation ring on her finger, she has perhaps mothered to the child she can exploit to the world on social media, she has a nice roof over her head, and she has a male provider to pay the bills.  All is rosy in the garden for the vast majority of the time.

Unfortunately, the man who has provided her with this life is rarely a man who can keep her fulfilled in passion and sexual arousal terms.  This uncontrollably enforces her to become sexual, flirty and often unfaithful within the one week horny period.  She probably hates herself after the seven days have passed, but it is an inner force within that cannot be tamed during.

I’ve had numerous women as explained above become flirty and sexual with me when they predominantly do no more than acknowledge, and once more I’d hedge a fair wager that on nearly every occasion it was sitting within the horny week.  Look for heel tapping, taking the shoe off unnecessarily, hair stroking, eye gazing, breast brushing (when walking past you, followed by an apology), physical contact (like massaging your shoulders) and even clumsiness when in your close vicinity.  If you get to the bedroom with her, it will be like dipping your manhood glory in a swimming pool with no side walls. And if doing it right, Niagara Falls will visit you without the need of visiting Ontario (expect her to have a Roger Rabbit assistance to further enhance what you can offer!).

Where does the female ego come into it?

As any regular reader will know, I base a lot of my writing on the unproven (but most likely) reason that women turn down being with top end good-looking men because they prefer the ego thrill boost of a man’s comparative lesser looks.  I will stand by this until my dying day, irrespective to female plausible deniability and male resistance to accept the truth.

Nevertheless, the question remains to how is the female ego implicated during the most fertile week in the menstrual cycle?  My take is simple.  It more or less follows pattern with their preferences for provisioning (but lacking in aesthetic offerings) men during the non-fertile three weeks of the month, and sexually arousing (but less dependable) men during the most fertile week of the month.  In other words, whilst women are never comfortable or at ease in being alongside men who are as or more physically attractive than them, their natural and innate need to fulfil their sexual optimisation (or at least be turned on instinctively) will manifest in their ego being negated, diminished or totally eradicated.  Further put, her ego cannot stand in the way of her sexual desires. 

Age dependant infidelity?

A lot like how women choose the best-looking men generally as explained in the past, age and life relationship status does play a big part in whether women will stray from their male partners when most horny for new flesh. 
·       Generally speaking, women aged 18 to 23, in particular on the assumption they are not married or are yet mothers, will quite easily play away without an ounce of remorse.  They have very little to lose if caught.  The only exception will be homely girls, who are very boyfriend oriented and far more loyal and faithful.  The thought of their boyfriends dumping them, and the prospect of loneliness and boyfriend validation absence (think of the women you know who cannot brace the thought of even a day in a life being single), will outweigh the sexual need of a hotter man.
·       Women who are married  – for argument sake take the age as 32 onwards – are also likely to cheat in this horny window.  This is because they have succeeded in the girlhood dream of the wedding day and house, and they have less to lose by the possible ramifications.
·       The least likely to adulterate when most fertile are women between 24 to 32, especially if not yet married.  Conversely to women who have walked down the aisle, women in relationships who think they have captured the man to give them the wedding and honeymoon will think twice in jeopardising the prospect.  They will think about it just as much, but the magnitude in what they have to lose is far greater.

A final thought

Walk into a bar, look down the street, pop your head in a restaurant, check out the retail park, look around the airport….and the world is swamped by cute and hot women with average looking men.  This dynamic, in all the years I have been writing and observing, shows not even the slightest hint of slowing down or becoming less commonplace.

I put this down to the modern day that consists of in your face social media, reality TV and status whoring (which in the non-celebrity world of >99% of people results in the best house and location to live in possible), and this brings about an insecure, self-conscious, expectant and social status exploiting woman that grows larger every day.  With all these ingredients placed in the recipe, the final serving on the plate cooks up a choice to be with a lesser looking man.

With all this in mind, the best-looking men outside of fame or high local social status and wealth will find it hard to be in a relationship with an equally attractive woman in physical perspective.  With this being the case, it may just be as well to not join the system that is 80% commitment time (for very little gratitude in return), and concentrate on the 20% non-commitment, and easy access to sex, time (for higher gratitude in return).

Q-tip 2:
Aim to give the least to life, and society, for the greatest return from minimal expenditure.  


Acknowledgements

Sunday, 2 February 2020

The ramifications of women’s online sex adventures

“Instant attention is short-lived.  The consequences of father time is undefeated.”


Anybody who has lived in the real world over the last decade will accept, for their favourable entertainment or conversely distaste of modern-day life, that there is a greater commonplace of young women taking part in online sex expeditions.  Some may claim they were unaware their unclothed experiences and exploitation of every single part of their sexual anatomy were going to be posted for a global audience to view, yet rest assured most would have been fully conscious of the final product, so to speak.

I’m not talking about professional female pornstars here.  They have different motives which are at least financially motivated, even though the longer-term consequences will be of similar ilk.  The purpose of this post is directed towards your “everyday girl” – some like me who you may know second-hand, or even first-hand.  For the want of a better definition – amateur porn.

The only starting place to even try and ascertain such foolish decisions is to analyse the motives behind why women will take part in online sex.  I offer you the following:
·       Attention.  Women are born to crave self-attention and be the talk of the town, and what better way to do this than rebelling against the norm and partaking in something seen as forbidden and outlandish.
·       As a by-product of the above, to stand out from the masses of female competition.
·       Misconception that it will make them more popular with men in the future, in naively thinking that showing off their full glory and sexual eagerness will attract, rather than detract, the vast majority of men men worth having.
·       Better sex.  As most women will be with average looking, average endowed and average sexually skilled men, an experience with a male act will most likely give her far greater orgasms in both number and intensity.
·       Sheer boredom in their small town life.  With a shortage of goings on and a lack of ambition in their existence, an urge to keep the flame burning will always be there.

Many of you will be crying out that I have missed off gaining money from the above list, and although I can’t totally disagree, there is a point to why I have deliberately refrained from it being a documented reason.  A woman off the street who posts an online sex adventure is unlikely to be ever seeing a sum of life changing revenue on the back of this.  Even those who sign up for a more established amateur porn site will receive a few thousand dollars at most, and whilst it is better than a kick up the arse, it can’t be seen as a worthwhile and justified compensation for the consequential risks that even the most unaccountable women in the world will know are to come.  If it was a six-figure sum, then yes, money could be seen as a motivation.  But as stated above, they are hardly in line for a cheque which will pay off a big car loan or to buy a trendy beach apartment.

What kind of social class girls?

It’s an easy, lazy and ignorant consensus – usually derived from the minds and voices of men who are too scared to stand up to women or face up to female misdemeanours in life (which is in fact, most men) – that all women who will process with online porn, irrespective to it being with their boyfriends or with a stranger, are lower class sluts.  Whilst I whole-heartedly agree that, based on my many years of direct and indirect experience with women, the vast majority of women who have high sexual partner counts and who are easier lays are from lower class backgrounds (and <7/10 in physical attractiveness), you will actually find a good percentage of online sex amateur women who range from middle to upper middle (and even in fewer case, upper class) social class.   

If you doubt such a view, take a few minutes in only listening to the voices of these women (and should you wish, watch further on!).  Any man with half a brain can determine from a woman’s voice what level of social class, intellect and educational background she belongs to.  Even in my neighbouring cities of Derby and Nottingham (which have a combined population of over half a million), it would only take me a few seconds in talking to a woman in being able to predict which suburbs her family upbringing resides from, and which suburbs she is definitely not from.  You don’t have to be a genius, or even skilled in female psychology or experienced with women in general, to ascertain this compartmentalisation. 

Therefore, it could be said that the percentage of attractive women from middle or above middle social class who make sex tapes outweighs the percentage of attractive women with high notch counts.  Simply put: women have a greater need for attention, validation and to feel better about themselves and better than their female competition, than the need for sex with many men.

The unconsidered consequences

And all this leads us to the most pertinent topic.  What are the consequences women will need to deal with should they choose this path as a result of mainly attention craving motivators?  Before this can be answered, the better question is why would women blind themselves from the ramifications prior to taking part in the first place?
·       The modern day society that results from shaming men and praising women – hence feminism or media brainwashing that women are dealt the misfortunes in life and men have all the luxuries – does not highlight enough the responsibility and accountability of female actions, no matter now muddy in the waters they choose to swim.
·       The modern day social media world we live in, where a woman’s self-objective value is over and above the reality of what she can offer – in the main down to female peer “likes” and insincere compliments (“you’re so beautiful, hun!”), and beta male ass kissing, blue balls desperation, supplication and sycophancy – results in a female mentality that her deliverables and actions are somewhat bullet proof to any possible, or probable, out-turn.
·       False female projection.  In association with the motive as explained earlier, a woman will think an online sex tape or otherwise will ignite men towards her.  In the same way women think men love bitches, female tattoos or being surrounded by other men (hence false female projection – women love jerks, tattooed and preselected men – so they wrongly believe men like the same or equivalent things in women), a woman will live in denial that men will like her less once she has revealed all for the world to see.
·       An absence of male leadership.  Where the young woman has been absent of a father in her life, or in particular absent of father firmness and punishment (hence he was there in spirit but not practice), women are left to stray with a mother who can see no wrong in her princess. Equally, a shortage of masculine and firm men as boyfriends / male partners result in women taking the piss.  This all manifests once more to a thought process that she can do whatever she wants in life, and all will be forgiven no matter what.

The problem is, women can only take advantage of men to a point.  It’s no hidden secret to clued up men that women in their prime attractiveness years of 18 to 23 (in particular those who are >6.5/10 in physical blessings) in the main can dangle a carrot, pull the strings and whistle the tune to >90% of men, such is the lure of female sexuality concurrent to male urge for sex.  With this in mind, there is very little women can do wrong – such as acting like a spoilt bitch, playing mind games, disappearing acts, blowing hot and cold, and flirting with other men – where negative impacts are placed upon them.  In other words, there will always be a man forgiving enough to stand by her, of if he is strong enough to put her in her place and move onto pastures new, another young man won’t be too far away. 

But even the most desperate, unwanted and low sought-after men draw the line somewhere.  It is one thing to put up with his girlfriend’s characteristic shortcomings.  It is another thing to turn a blind eye to dating or considering long-term plans with a woman he knows has slept with a few other men round town.  However, it is most definitely a no-go to be with a woman who has not only shown her naked body to a potential audience of millions (or billions?), but also being pulled from pillar to post by another man’s pork sword.  If that’s not humiliation of the furthest degree, then I don’t know what is.  If that’s not total disgust in contemplation to commit to a woman who took this path, then you really do have problems in life.  If a man thinks it is wise to view this woman as good long term hope, and believe me she will try and convince you how much she has changed and how much of an uncharacteristic mistake it was (strange, because I doubt an alcohol or stoned induced night coincides with professional or scripted cameras), then I pity you as a man as much as is possible. 

Q-tip 1:
Women don’t change from their natural character and tastes in life.  If you don’t like them in the first place, don’t ever go there, or simply go there with a short term “win-win” mentality.  It would be the most foolish of man to think she will change for you.

Where do I stand?

Honestly, all else equal I would never get involved with a woman I know has slept with many men than a woman who has slept with fewer.  Sounds obvious, but it needs to be clarified.  Likewise, naturally all else equal I wouldn’t get involved with a woman who has shown all to a worldwide audience than one who has not.  This isn’t to say that, if she was truly hot, I would cut my nose to spike my face and not take on the role of no strings attached sex with her.  Why knock a gift horse in the mouth?  Nevertheless, if she thought any kind of commitment would be forthcoming on my count, I’d suggest she goes find another sucker man.

And what about a woman’s future?

Once the first few days (or weeks at most) of boasting about the experience has worn off, the stupid woman now has to realize the reality of what she has brought on for herself.  Sure, some may be clever enough to not mention it to anyone, but based on her original motive of attention whoring, I would tend to think nearly all women want their local small town to find out.  Her parents and siblings, not so much.

Unfortunately, over the coming months the number of male suitors will diminish into almost nothing, with the exception of those using her as a cheap and easy lay.  Even unwanted men who are knowledgeable of her antics will rule her out as girlfriend material.  As for wife material, forget it.

The only real option for her is to move away and recreate a new identity.  Changing her name by default will help, but even if she finds a high calibre man thousands of miles away, how long until she has to bring him back to her old town?  It isn’t unaccustomed to see women who made these foolish decisions to cut their hair and have a couple of tattoos imprinted.  Conceal the old her, in with the new her.  It’s kind of ironic that she made this mistake of sexual exploitation when she was at her hottest, yet the mistake has caused her to take on actions that make her less physically attractive.  And the skeletons will never leave the closet, and the watching behind her back when the lights go out live forever. 

Why is it in the gender role reversal?

Unfortunately for women, there is no such way a man being seen with his junk out and having his cock sucked and ramming a woman's vagina or anal passage is any close near, if at all, detrimental to his future sex life, dating, long term relationship and marriage prospects.  I'd even go as far to say that a man off the street being seen having sex online could benefit his fortunes with women going forwards.

Why?  In easy explanation it all goes back to the preselection mentality that are polar opposites between men and women.  Men are not in the slightest more attracted to women who are seen with other men or who are notorious for sleeping around, and they will in fact repel from these women in preference of women seen with female friends only and not known for sleeping around (ideally men like women who have had two to three male sexual partners, even if this is pie in the sky hope in today's society).  On the other hand, the fact women are hard wired to be attracted to preselected men will only make them, even if in an irritable and uncontrollable way, want to be with men who have been seen having online sex even more.

Q-tip 2:
A man who has slept with inundated women can only draw or win.  He either has no negative or positive consequences with future women, or he likely has advantageous results.  A woman who has slept with numerous men can only lose in her quest for decent men to commit to her.

A final thought

Imagine being the father to this young woman.  You slave your guts off for twenty or more years in jobs you hate, in quest to give her the best upbringing, education, guidance and provisioning, and your two eyes are forced to watch your daughter humiliate you.  Kind of makes men who haven’t fathered become grateful, or those who have had sons to be relieved.

I stress fathers in being the biggest losers here, because it must be, without first-hand experience, the hardest gripe in the world to think you have failed in raising your daughter.  The only bigger gripe would be to see her humiliate you, with no or little remorse on her part, after all the sacrifices and endeavours you made.

Mothers will also be ashamed, but in a modern world where women in their 30's, 40's and even 50's are still acting in a maturity level comparable to their daughters, they kind of only have themselves to blame.  To an extent, anyway.  It wouldn’t at all surprise me that when the daughter, mother and father are forced to sit down for the first time in despaired conversation to what they will encounter, the mother defends the daughter and places all blame onto Dad.