“Life takes no
prisoners, but sometimes experience, perspective and knowledge of a better day
to come can erase the holes created.”
When
I embarked on this blog just over a couple of years ago, I hoped that I could
at least make a difference in some men’s lives in passing on what I know, and
what I have learned in life. In the
main, the posts published were revolved around becoming more clued up with the
female emotional mind and the consequent choices they make, but I hope that,
whether in isolation or as a by-product, I have offered some readers a guide to
become a “better” man too. Or, to put it
another way, they now choose a path to make wiser choices in acquiring a
happiness that wasn’t once present.
I’m
pretty confident it has positively assisted a decent number of men out
there. I know this from private e-mails
I have sent back. Has it made a
wholesale change? I very much doubt
it. As although it is clear that more
men in percentage terms are boycotting marriage, going their own way, and not
abiding by social conditioning and external pressures, the vast majority of men
are still beta males who cannot bring themselves to believe the way the world
works, and in particular, the way women’s minds work.
The
last 15 months have been pretty tough for me.
Without being able to draw on past memories of a young boy assisting his
father during the civil war in West Africa, or fighting a two year cancer
battle just a few years ago, this may have took the former me over the
edge. I’m not for a moment going to say
it has been a stroll, but in relativity to the two chapters in my life
mentioned, it has been far easier to take the high road and let the water roll
off my back.
Without
boring anybody, a lost baby, the ending of a long term relationship with the
respective mother, a job redundancy, and a new position in a new corrupt
industry that takes up far more of my time than I would wish for, have took my
life a little off path over the last year or so. This is, for anybody who has been wondering,
why this blog has taken a back step in my priorities.
But
I’m a great believer in fate, learning from the past, embracing the good times
that came with it concurrent to not resenting the bad aspects, and being
excited for a new page that is still to be opened. I can’t, and would never, say that you will
find daily posts on this blog, but I do endeavour to get back on the saddle
once more, for a little time longer at least.
To
close out this post, I take you back to this particular article I wrote. I contacted this friend of mine the other
night to see how things are getting on.
It was quite a sickening feeling to hear he has gone from the once
optimistic, confident, presentable, extroverted and care-free man, in now
standing as a downbeat, timid, reclusive, depressed excuse for a human being
who is feeding off happy pills to ease his painful existence. Yes, all his problems are formed on the
doorstep of the woman he chose to marry.
Do
I feel incredibly sorry for him? Not at
all. If someone makes their own bed
without a gun to their head, they sure can go sleep in it as far as I’m
concerned. But his heart was always in
the right place, and I do find is as upsetting as pitiful to hear him announce
himself this way. It’s no coincidence
that this guy, for all the time I knew him up until the day he met his wife
(they are still not officially divorced), treated women as secondary human
beings in respect to the priority that was his own life. They always came running back for more.
No
sooner did he for the first time reluctantly bow down to marriage and
fatherhood duties, was he now the powerless, accommodating and fearful man who
ended up exerting all his energy on a selfish bitch who wanted more. Bear also in mind that this was an eastern European
woman who, whether through innate character or learned strategies, performed
the role of a more accustomed western world female who became over expectant
and under appreciative.
So
the lesson should be crystal clear to those who choose to pursue a happier
life, or otherwise play ignorance. But
which path do you choose to take….?