“The
real world is only an opening of the eyes away.
Sometimes we fail to recognize the harsh truth of this reality, and
other times we refrain from believing the facts of life. Whilst naïve, maybe we shouldn’t blame people
who choose either of these paths, as maybe it is a simple case of preference
towards the fiction of a fairytale world.
And on other occasions, it is easier for us to assume than to observe.”
Sometimes a woman will believe it can seem
like it is hard to find a good man.
After the bad boy has broken her heart, only for her to go on and try
another one, the nice guy is wondering why she keeps falling for those who care
little for her. Then when she gives this
nice guy his long awaited chance, she wakes up a month or two down the line
with thoughts of how to let him down gently.
When she meets the high value genuine man, the one who strikes the
balance, she rejects him due to her insecurity and trust issues, her fear of
not being appreciated enough, or her feeling in losing a sense of purpose to
her life due to the unspoken, yet felt, inability to leverage her physical
beauty. The sugar daddy is, well, just a
creepy old man. Oh, and that status man
at work - doesn’t he have a wife and two kids he won’t leave, even though she
pretty much tried everything to make it happen.
This is a typical pattern a woman will go
through in her dating years. As these
years pass, friends start to settle down with their dream man (yes, that’s what
they will tell her even though they are still convincing themselves), and this
just reinforces her self-pity and belief that no decent men are out there and
that life just isn’t fair on her. As far
as she’s concerned, she is the only woman in the world to have experienced such
bad luck in being placed in this lonely predicament.
Most women naturally mature physically a
couple of years before their male counterparts.
With the aid of fake identification, in addition to physical evolution,
girls will start to venture on nights out as early as sixteen years of age, and
they will encounter relationships with older guys. Some go to University, some don’t, but by the
time they have passed their mid 20s and their popularity and social networks
aren’t what they once were, they have saturated and exhausted the attention
seeking girls nights out. Even if they
still enjoy the female gatherings, the phone isn’t ringing to arrange the next
one like it did in previous years.
Basically, this kind of woman is single, lonely, lacking attention, and
questioning what the future holds. Some
may cloud their depression with vain attempts to convince themselves, and
others, that their career is the priority at this time in life. Others can devise false stories about not
having the time for a supplicated man right now. However, nine out of ten women who use
justifications of this nature are every bit as desperate to find a man as their
less work-orientated girl friends. This
woman wants to settle down, and settle down quickly.
When a woman reaches this stage in her life,
she is no longer thinking like the young girl who commenced her dating
adventure all those years ago. Back then
it was a simple case of thinking she needed the fictional nice guy in the movie
to treat her like a princess, whilst deep down knowing she wanted the bad boy
in hope she could be the one to change him.
In an ideal world, she now finds the jerk and captures his heart in
gradually making him responsible, calmer and nicer. But her logical mind has taken over and she
knows this won’t happen. A high value
man is desirable, as he has his life in place, but there’s still that question
mark that sits between her ears asking - “does he appreciate me enough?” Remember, she has her life planned out in her
head right now in these steps:
- Find a man
- Settle down quickly and live with him
- Engagement
- Marriage
- Children
She is in a place where she desires to
dictate the situation, one she cannot do with either a bad boy or a high value
man. So which guy is usually the prey to
be clutched from her claws? Of course,
it’s the beta male biting the bait.
Two of my closest friends have fallen victim
to this all so common occurrence of getting trapped into a relationship that
wasn’t on their terms. In all fairness, both
of them do seem happy on the face of it, but in truth I only see them a couple
of times a year, therefore who knows what they truthfully think? At the time, both of them were enjoying the
single life and acting in a way of living day by day within their own visions
and priorities. To put some context on
the two women they met:
- 24 year old woman with very few friends due to her recent move from an Eastern European country. She had a decent income and career, and she rented a house with a friend. The lease was due to expire in two months time.
- Woman just turned 30. She had been previously married and was going through a rough divorce. She was living with her parents at the time. Decent job and career. At the time she was dating a jobless local guy who was only 21.
Within 3 months of meeting these women, they
both suddenly had the bombshell dropped on them that their girlfriends were
pregnant. Houses, engagements and
marriages would follow shortly.
Sometimes things in life are just meant to
be. Maybe in these two cases this is
exactly what epitomizes the phrase? One
day they were enjoying their life, the next they are living in another
world. In my opinion it’s every much as,
if not more, my friend’s faults for getting themselves into this position. But on the other hand, if your girlfriend
informs you she is on the contraceptive pill, only to a month later tell you
she is expecting a baby, what is a guy to do?
I’ve heard the phrase of “I was sick just after taking the tablet” just
once too often to believe this is a sheer coincidence. Who knows, maybe the chemotherapy treatment I
went through to kill my cancer was a sign.
In summary, chemo kills a man’s sperm count, reducing his chance to
fertilize a woman.
Women can sense a man who will settle down
with them like ants can sniff sugar.
They will find out information on a man quicker than he ever
imagines. She will know the kind of guy she
can tie down, to be her lapdog, and to dictate his life. From here on in, she has the power. If she did capture an alpha style man, his
commitments to her and the situation enforce him to become more of a beta in
personality. If he was always beta, like
over 80% of men are in any case, then all that has happened is she now has attached
an extra couple of strings to the puppet that he always was.
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