“You should never answer personal questions to people you don’t 100% trust.”
I tend to prefer in referring to a male glamorous look – a look that attracts women on a visual and sexual way – on more than just a simple case of stating whether the man is facially good looking. This is simply because, in order to produce a real benchmark for male visual impressiveness that stands out beyond the many thousands of other men in your local area (or even further a field), the rational needs to be that little bit more rigorous than the random person is accustomed to be.
To me, the term physical attractiveness is a more valid and credible way to describe a man. The same can be said for women, but the criterion does not need to be taken as far. This is because a woman who is a couple of inches below average height (UK average female height = 5ft 4 ½ inches) could still be seen as stunning if she had a top end impressive face and body. Men will analyze the female face and body far more instinctively than the height. But with men, height is critical to be truly considered within the elite looking men in the world. So for young girls crying out that a cute boy band member of 5ft 8 inches stature is one of the most gorgeous guys on the planet, I’m sorry, this is not the case. You’ll figure this out over time. And on the other end of the spectrum sit the more mature ladies who bizarrely claim UK XFactor winners/finalists such as Olly Murs, Matt Cardle and James Arthur are hot. No, they’re not. This is just a blatant promotion due to high profile and male attainable look that attracts and comforts the average woman watching on the TV. Women, and men, should always honestly ask themselves the question if they would find these people physically attractive if they passed them in the street with no comprehension to their fame status.
Now before I go on, I can already sense those readers screaming out that this post is only aimed at people obsessed with looks. I should know as much as anyone that for men, physical looks are only a minor part of appealing to women, especially as the female age creeps over 23. Many of my posts will cover how I associate male looks in the appropriate position. But I do always believe, to attain a true understanding of women’s choices in men and men’s predilections for women, that a physical attractiveness grade for a person allows a foundation to consider the other metrics and reasons to how and why people get intimately involved. In time constrained moments a person’s physical attractiveness is the only aspect we can objectively measure someone on. If the world didn’t work like this, every heterosexual woman and man would be coupled off on similar visual impressiveness. And we all know it doesn’t work this way.
So for a man, in order to be classed as an exclusive hot man - 1 in every 1741 males - he will need to tick all 3 of the following boxes:
- Be 8/10< in facial looks. This would mean he would be in the top 2% of facially gifted men.
- Attain a near on body (hard to get this actual body) to what appeals to the majority of women - see below link judged by women. This would stipulate him being in the top 2% of ideal body profile.
- Height, as an absolute minimum, of 5ft 10 inches (the average UK height for men aged 16-34).
With the above in mind, it’s all about the good looks, appealing body and height combination. This is what sets a man apart from the crowd. Sure, some women may genuinely not find this look attractive (most that say this will be lying or playing with the truth due to him not being attainable to her own grade), but generally you would find a consensus that backs this up.
However, by ticking these boxes, it only tells half the story in actually how a man would be received, accepted or dismissed by a woman. The types of men that women find the most sexually attractive are rarely the men that women walk alongside as their sexual long term partners. A large explanation to this is because the vast majority of women will not be as physically attractive as these men in relative terms, and very few women are comfortable with this predicament no matter how genuine a guy he is. In addition to this, men usually desire to “grade up” rather than “grade down” in this respect. Women also place more emphasis on being with a good provider in preference to male aesthetic value, and even if they have egos that do not subconsciously draw them away from highly physically attractive men, they will lean towards their inclinations of other desirable factors.
On a similar playing field, the below frames of men can be looked upon. In this case, they all have the same personality, charisma, status, wealth, sexual prowess, intelligence, potential, etc. Ultimately, what measurement of the male face, body or height is the most important to attract women?
Man 1 - Good looks, good body, above 5ft 10 inches height
Give or take, these are the 1 in a 1000 men. Actually, a future post will explain how I believe it is 1 in 1741. On first glance, with all else equal, this man has it all. Nearly all women take a second glance when he is in their vicinity, and he appeals to the female eyes of all colours, nations, ages and physical attractiveness scales alike. But as explained above, women do not take kindly to being in long term relationships with men of higher physical grade. This will rule him out with the largest slice of the female population. Even a hot woman - women at least as physically attractive as him in relativity - usually needs to have conscious belief that the public will have eyes on her and not him. However, the positive part for him is that the numbers play in his favour. Although he rules himself out with over 80% of women due to female egoism, trust and insecurity reasons, it is better to have a 15% to 20% (% of women who are open to his advances) chance with 99% of women who find him attractive, than a man who barely any women desire.
Man 2 - Good looks, average (or below average) body, above 5ft 10 inches height
A scale below Man 1 from above due to a lesser body, this man will strangely find a path to greater numbers of women. They may not be as cute or hot as his counterpart with the better body, but more women find him attainable. I don’t think it’s any coincidence that since I started working out and developed a muscular tone, I’ve received more glances and attention from women but consequently a greater number of rejections. To my knowledge, I still have the same personality and I’m approaching the same amount of women. So a less striking body can actually play in a man’s favour, but it could equally rule him out in securing the hottest 1% of girls.
Man 3 - Good looks, good body, below 5ft 10 inches height
This is where it gets tricky. For women considerably shorter than him, he will be more than fine because height isn’t an issue in comparison to her. Like all good looking men with good bodies, they will encounter rejections from women due to female lack of confidence, but they will equally attain more opportunities than their lesser looking male equivalents. The problems start when he finds a woman he likes who is slightly shorter, as tall, or taller than him. More often than not, his looks and body will not save him from the height shortcomings.
Man 4 - Good looks, average (or below average) body, below 5ft 10 inches height
Same predicament as Man 4 due to height deficiency, but slightly fewer opportunities due to less impressive body. On odd occasions, with females of very low confidence and high insecurity and self-consciousness, his average body could play as an advantage because of a woman’s own body frailty obsessions.
Man 5 – Average (or below average) looks, good body, above 5ft 10 inches height
This is the man you need to watch as the one who has more opportunities than any other man out there. The reason this is the case is down to the perfect ingredients required for the female recipe that projects attraction but eases her ego concerns. That is, a tall man who isn’t facially as pleasing to the eye as she is. She is prettier than his comparative male looks, but he offers her security and an element of protectiveness. The good body he has is an added bonus, because given the choice she would much prefer him to sit over the bar in body terms and under the bar in facial terms, rather than the inverse. Look out for vast numbers of cute women and many hot women with these kinds of men. If he attains above average facial looks, his opportunities are all the more prominent. If below average, it will naturally be, in most instances, slightly less.
Man 6 – Average (or below average) looks, average (or below average) body,
above 5ft 10 inches height
Only a step behind Man 5, this is another man who will appear to have an array of chances to grade up. In some cases with women of low confidence, he will even be in a more beneficial position. Nevertheless, his opportunities with the hottest women may be limited to isolated strikes of the ball. The hottest women usually need to be seen with a man who has an appealing body, if not face. Cute women with inner doubts of their worth will swamp towards men in this category.
Man 7 – Average (or below average) looks, average (or below average) body,
below 5ft 10 inches height
This is where it starts to get towards the stage of taking the opportunities when given, because whilst it’s almost always an advantage to not be facially better looking than the target woman, and an impressive body may occasionally hinder rather than help, the lack of height is unforgiving for men looking to grade up. The best case for men here is to locate a cute woman, or a short hot woman, with magnified egoism, insecurity, confidence and trust issues. This is because a woman with these traits can only feel comfortable with a man who isn’t attracting other women or public attention. These women are rare, because deep down they know they can do better. If they don’t, they still end up resenting the situation of wondering and pondering.
As stated at the top of this post, so many other sexual market metrics are in place to throw this out the window. But the counter-argument to this is that most men do have status, incomes, resources, potential and personalities of not outlandish disparities. This is why the consideration to physical attractiveness, no matter how high or low he sits on the line, is important to understand when women select or reject the possible male candidates. Sometimes a man is doing everything he can to be the most visually attractive man within his capabilities, but oddly this may be taking him in the opposite direction to long term partner suitability.
Nevertheless, men should not read this and think they can simply tuck into regular take-away food and beer to ease a woman’s egoism and discomforts in consequently making her feel better about herself. The line is a fine one, and a woman still has to feel he is worth taking.
Fundamentally, height is more important than an extremely good looking face or body, but it is no point being a tall fat man. Height, with a toned body and average face, is arguably the best position to be in for the greatest number of opportunities for long term relationships. The tri-combination of good looks, high calibre body and height is most advantageous for receiving female eye contact, attention and potential short term sexual encounters, but it usually won’t lead to the highest quantity of doors opening in being classed as good perceived boyfriend material. Of course, if you were me, you would simply just try to be the most attractive man you can possibly be and view outcomes as a circumstance. Any man who alters his physical appearance to suit a woman is a man waiting for a woman to lose any ounce of respect she had for him in the first place. But whilst I disagree with this accommodating approach, I do understand that securing a girlfriend is what stands as most men’s priority, even if it means pleasing her before looking after their own welfare. If this applies to men reading now, I warn of darker days ahead.
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