“Life is a simple concept. It’s only people who make it complicated.”
A reader makes a few interesting points on the back of this previous post:
Hello Vi Nay,
I have really enjoyed your post, the story about Bunny and Ben is definitely fantastic ! You said : « If a man doesn't hit her emotional buttons early on, it isn't going to ever happen. Chemistry isn't something that you wake up with out of the blue.». I agree with these words but as you know a woman or girl can't get any chemistry with beta male because a beta male looks unattractive, his obvious lack of confident, his betattitude (beta manners) are immediately detected by the girl he tempt to approach. As you said a girl will only say yes to a beta male if she doesn't get the attention she desires with an attractive alpha male around her. My question is : You seems to say that a girl get chemistry only with an attractive man = alpha, on other side the chemistry in a natural feeling no one can't create it, so : HOW a beta male can hit a girl emotional buttons early ? For me, a beta male will always suffer until he gets conscience that his manner to value a good looking girl immediately high value than him will make him unhappy and treated like shit in the future. Without acting like alpha is impossible for a beta to hit a girl emotional buttons early. What do you think about that ?
My tips (with additions to the response I gave him):
If a beta male insists or persists in staying beta, or he refuses to change even with knowledge to how the world and women work, he will forever make the same mistakes and sustain the failures and rejections that accompany the consequential choice that these characteristics produce. Enough said...
The way a beta can enhance not just his fortunes with women, but life generally too, is as follows:
- Put on some muscle. Not in a beefcake way, but enough to stand out above the average guy. This more dominant body frame will cloud some of his mediocre facial projection, and make women find him more instinctively attractive. Unless he has very high status, a man without a presence is a man who radiates zero attention onto himself.
- Dress more stylish and unique. Similar to the body frame, women's eyes will project more easily onto him as opposed to the invisibility he once attained.
- Smell good. Not many men wear a classy eau de toilette on frequent occasions. This is mainly due to fear of releasing moths from the wallet, but partly due to fear of what other men will think. Who gives a crap about what other men think? Not me. Wear it daily, but purchase a few in refraining from predictability. I can assure you that six to eight sprays of a good fragrance will leave a smile on women’s faces when they encroach onto your vicinity, and as a ramification they will find you more sexually arousing than just a soap and water combo. A man smelling good and fresh can somewhat conceal his lack of physical allure.
- Maximize your career profile, without compromising other appealing factors. I’m a great believer that, generally speaking, the more ambitious a man is in work, the less ambitious he can with in his outside work life (as ambition usually comes with working longer hours with more stress involved). Nevertheless, a good job that arrives with high occupational status and earnings undeniably attracts just about every woman with a pulse. Bear in mind though that a man with money is only as good as his game, to the point where too much money – and the over expenditure he distributes on his loved one – will actually repel her over time. Why? Because she never had to work hard to please him.
- Get involved with a social proof group, no matter how local to the environment this is. Even a beta male - looking, acting and dressing in exactly the same way as always - will attract women far easier when he belongs to a "popular" group. Women, especially young women, love male high social status, and hanging out in a well-known gathering will not only open many more opportunities with women, but it will make him far more appealing to them.
- Treat women like crap. An extreme view I know, but far more advantageous than treating her like a princess.
- If the above jerkiness brings about too much self-guilt, at least develop a mindset of "women are easily replaceable." This adapts a far more efficient attitude onto women and life, and the female mind and sexual organs are uncontrollably attracted onto an apathetic viewing.
- Portray positive body language and confidence. Illustrate this every day, and everywhere. It is far easier to learn and deliver non-verbal demeanour than to become a natural verbal executor (if speaking doesn't come naturally to you). Remember that women, and people generally, notice and focus on body language and tone way above the content of words. Use it in the ratio that benefits most.
- Eradicate bad habits and actions from your character portfolio. Walk with stand-out posture rather than slouched shoulders, a hood over your head, and big earphones on. Negative posture reflects a lack of confidence, but it is emblematic of high insecurity and self-consciousness. These habits belong to women, but women can get away with it due to primarily and almost solely being judged on their looks in time constrained moments. Men can’t get away with it, because they are judged by women far more on attitude than physical looks. There are times to go toe to toe with women – and replicating what they do - when it comes to the mind games, but acting in body language terms like a woman is accustomed to do so is a no-go zone.
- Learn interaction strategy (aka game). Work out what makes women tick emotionally, and use it accordingly to enhance your attractiveness and noticeability when approaching or interacting with women. Nevertheless, don’t go overboard with game and learn too many role play openers. Less is more in this case, as it can border over to a man trying too hard. Women see through this, so a teaspoon in these instances trumps a tablespoon.
- Study red pill concepts. The world isn’t perfect, no matter how we may desire it to be, and nothing epitomizes this more than women’s choices in the men they are attracted to. Further realize that even when women make logical decisions, it is often down to being boxed into a corner (hence having fewer options than before, or an urge to settle down) than a natural attraction onto the chosen man.
- As a by-product of interaction strategy and red pill, learn about female emotional psychology in the form of blogs like this one. Don’t expect learning tools on bookshelves to help you out, as this literature is predominantly written by male suck-up lapdogs, feminists, or ego-seeking women. They won’t give you the truth or objectivity. Once you work out women, and their mentality, decisions, and physical decline, you will be in control of your own destiny.
- Have thorough comprehension that your overall average physical attractiveness – as >95% of men will fall into – is actually an advantage rather than a show-stopper. This is all the more relevant in terms of your mediocre facial features. All else being on parity, women prefer to be in relationships with men who are less physically attractive than they are, and this includes cute and hot women. Don’t think that every average looking man alongside a much hotter female partner is a professional footballer or a millionaire. The numbers just do not stack up this way. The majority of these men are just run of the mill earners. With this in mind, strive to grade up by 10% to 15% (or more) on your own objective rating. If you think you’re a 6/10, a 7/10 cute chick is more than attainable. A 7/10 looking man should be with a 7.5/10 looking woman at least.
- Finally, force it upon yourself to think like nobody is watching you. Rejection, failure, shortcomings, and trepidation of how people respond to you would almost entirely be erased if you were the only person in the environment when acting out the relevant moves.
It’s unrealistic, although not impossible, to tick every box above. For example, I have never held desires to belong to a high social proof group, despite knowing this would have given me easier and more opportune avenues with cute and hot women. I guess this is partly down to having less necessity due to having a unique look and character, but mainly due to, from my experience, knowing that men in the local popular groups are generally unintelligent and up their own arse guys who are not enjoyable to be around. Whilst I may criticize perennial nice guys in their dealings with women, I would take their company any day of the week over a well-known jerk who just so happens to know a few decent women.
But if a man can look to improve his overall existence by abiding by even just a few of the points given, he will unquestionably be much better off than before.
I’m from the camp that believes beta males are often afraid to stand up to a woman due to fear of upsetting her, throwing away any chances of getting laid, or just downright sympathy when the tears roll down her face in a cry for help. So if you are one of these men, allow me to throw this one at you: