“What she doesn’t have is what she wants, and what she doesn’t want, but is something else her female counterpart could have, she doesn’t want her to have it.”
There are a few reasons why you see a considerable higher ratio of male personal trainers in the gym you attend in comparison to female personal trainers.
Any honest person, woman or man, will confess that when they have been in a relationship with someone they genuinely loved, nobody can replace them until they meet someone who is at least on the same level. They could go on dozens of dates and still feel this way. However, when they do meet that new person who is on equivalence or higher, the ex-lover takes up barely a moment of their reminiscent mind.
At the risk of talking about myself, I do play some part in all this tri-factor. Even when the ex-fiancé was dating the male personal trainer, I also sensed some attraction from her onto me. Don’t get me wrong, I very much doubt she would have even come close to taking things on with me in replace of him had I (done the wrong thing) and asked her out, but it did come across as the natural female inclination to be interested in man who is objectively more impressive than her male partner – better looking, taller, at least equal body impressiveness, more masculine voice, better body language, better personality and, such was the evidence of dress style and car, wealthier. She may have even told her ex in the past that, if they weren’t together, I’d be her type. Maybe not, but we can but not speculate.
The current girlfriend has also given me more than a few glances and smiles, making sure the personal trainer is not nearby. Again, women aren’t stupid, and they can work out male value pretty quickly. Both the ex and current see me occasionally working on my laptop after a gym session in the week prior to any client meetings, and a man dressed in a suit will, for those few seconds, negate the social status attributes that are blessed to male personal trainers.
It made me chuckle this morning, as all three of them were in. I caught the current girlfriend catching me checking out the ex-fiancé, and the ex-fiancé didn’t seem to make any kind of excuse to walk past me on a couple of occasions. The girlfriend, to me, seemed to have that amalgamated rollercoaster feeling going through her mind in positive/negative terms. Part of her had that ego satisfaction of getting one over the ex, knowing she is the chosen one who is now dating the man her foe was once engaged to. On the other hand, concurrent to me checking her rival out was a likely negating irritable emotion. At that moment I bet she had visions of the two of us (the ex and I) one day being a couple. In conclusion, a woman only likes another woman being with a man who is not objectively more impressive than the man she is with.