“The two guarantees in life are that we will change and die. Some take on change
because it feels right or like a smart decision at the time. Others feel like it is more of a
necessity to change, even if they are not quite ready to do so.”
You could argue media exposure on female decreased fertility likelihood from 30 onwards plays a big part in this optimum depression – if they are yet to take on motherhood. Another big reason will be the envy of female peers who have become mothers, even if these friends are with less sought-after men (which is usually the case – the fewer options a man has, the more inclined he is to hold desires to be a husband and father). Finally, there will be the voice within asking questions to what she has actually accomplished in life, coupled with family hints and subtle words to allude with this.
In terms of the 25 age as explained in the first sentence up top, this is a decent benchmark. It could be argued that in a smaller town this is brought forward a couple of years. If from a small village or the countryside, knock off another year or so. Smaller networks may bring about a non-career orientated woman (and let’s not forget most women are still not career-minded) due to fewer pastimes to keep her mind occupied. Women get bored easily, and they do not stick to much for long.
In larger cities, especially where a woman will reside in the centre, add on at least a couple of years to this 25 year yardstick. City centres will have attracted a high percentage of women who are university graduates, and a career to justify the financial outlay slows down the settling down phase somewhat. Whether educated or not, women who live in city centres will also be prevalent in being social media exhibitionists and attention seekers, therefore once more this self-centered motivation delays any thoughts of marriage and kids until the late twenties.
Nevertheless, taken as an average over all women, 25 is still a fair age to analyze the change of male type women transition through. From 16 (to keep it clean and legal, even though in reality many are at it from an earlier age) to 23, male physical allure and sexual appeal will be top, if not very high, on the priority list women select upon. At 24, this is most likely the year where she starts to reluctantly choose to stray away from the best-looking men if a more “rounded” male candidate is in her vicinity. At 25, strong thoughts and proactive intentions of finding the man who will commit to her take on the baton.
This is easier said than done though, which pretty much sums up why women end up unhappy. If on the one hand women have a mating strategy that draws them towards men who sexually arouse them and give them the most satisfying orgasms, yet many of these men are not high in commitment, responsibility, financial or even personality terms - hence, not great long-term consideration - this man cannot give her the tick in the box of a nice house, money in the bank, and a dependable father figure. If on the other hand women have another mating strategy that requires a man who can be provisioning, reliable, loyal, and who will value her and stick around, yet many of these men derive from the less aesthetically gifted and sought-after male population segment, this man can give her safety but not excitement. Life’s a bitch, right?
So, in a pie in the sky carte blanche scenario, if you offered them a man who could be manufactured to totally tick all the boxes in both categories, would women sign up for this? The obvious and naïve answer would be of course so, however women rarely play the logical role. My answer would be that they would like this man in practice, but not in mind. In other words, the Alpha man would never be the man she marries, but instead she takes on all the day to day tasks and offerings with the Beta, except bedroom activity and offspring genes.
A final thought
I was at a wedding with a woman I was seeing in the late summer of last year. It was a fairly affluent affair, as the bride came from a wealthy background and the groom a tier or two below maybe. Naturally I got talking to a few people during the day and night, in addition to my firm observations, and what stood out like a sore thumb more than anything (with the exception of a couple of women with fake tits!) was the jealousy in certain opposing male partners amongst the women. Those who were with the more boring (but wealthier) men were clearly thinking of a night with one of the few better physically gifted men that day. Those who were with the physically gifted men had to endure the stories of holidays, cars and nice houses granted to other women.
But it wouldn’t be fair to just pencil a mating strategy that solely exists with women. Men also, whilst not in totally the same manner, have a formula that works for them. A man wants a total whore in the bedroom, but a loyal, honest, genuine, presentable and likeable (hence, the gender equivalent to a beta male) woman in the day role. Where men do differ from women though is that, unlike women being attracted to the jerk characteristics of a man, he desires his woman to be likeable and genuine etc. all the time. She just needs to be as hot as possible in the meantime. This is what women cannot get into their heads. If a man ends up with a bitch (and clued up men should not end up with a bitch over a long period of time), it isn’t because she is a bitch per se. It is because she is a bitch who is a decent margin hotter than the more aimable women he could attain.
But it goes beyond that with men too. Any honest man will admit that in some stage in his life, most likely on more than one stage, he has indulged in a timescale of watching porn during single relationship timeframes or when regular sex is no guarantee. Any man who tells you otherwise is a liar. This honest man will also tell you that, with all the female pretty faces and good bodies to choose from, it is unlikely he will select the same woman to jerk over as the day before. Men like variety, no matter how beautiful the woman he labels his girlfriend is.
The other day I saw a hot long-haired blonde in the gym with high, tight shorts on who struck my attention. Her upper thigh tattoo only made me want to nail her more. I’d say she was 23. I know she has a boyfriend, so I didn’t approach. About ten minutes later, standing near to the blonde was a long-haired brunette with tight leggings on. Maybe a year older than the blonde. What she perhaps couldn’t compete with the blonde on in terms of leg and ass tone, she made up for it with a slightly prettier face and bigger/firmer boobs. Unfortunately, she was wearing a bling ring on the commitment finger. The point is that even if I was with one of them, I’d most likely want to be with the other.
Q-Tip:The brunette was giving me quite a few glances over. The blonde was far more discrete in eye contact towards me, but her proximity indicators would suggest some level of attraction. I don’t mind admitting for one single second that, had they not been in the same small real estate area at the same time, neither would have been so eager for me to validate them back. In essence, they were far more motivated by the competition between each other than their sexual attraction onto me.
In summary, women, and men, can never be totally satisfied with the partner they end up with, and this even applies to those who end up with good-looking celebrity partners. This factor merely delays the inevitable parting of ways. The mating market is effectively a food chain, and there is always something different on the shelf next week you may like more.