“Shoot too soon
and you will likely never see the options that were in front of your eyes.
Strike too late
and the ship from years before may never sail past the dock again.”
This
post is dedicated to the category of women who are closest to my heart, as they
represent the majority of girlfriends I have been sexually involved with. Sometimes you simply collide with members of
the opposite sex by sheer accident, but usually there is a strike of lightning that
just so happens to place people of similar tastes, morals and characteristics
together.
A
“girl’s girl” is not to be found very
often amongst the array of her boyfriend requiring female counterparts. Her ostracism mentality – in refusing to
belong to the masses of women who will settle for an uninspiring man just for
the sake of having one – should be commended.
Typical things to look out for in girl’s girls are hotness,
independence, above average to professional careers, sole residence ownership,
and their irritation of men in intimate considerations. Of course this isn’t an absolute make-up, but
I can guarantee you many will fall into this compartment. They have high standards in men, and although
they seek for love as much as any other woman, they won’t waste time on lost
causes.
I
believe girl’s girls make up roughly 1% of heterosexual women in the potential
dating market. This may seem incredibly
low, but you’ve got to evaluate the whole female society out there. If you were to see numerous groups of women
on a night out, you would do well to find a perennial girl’s girl in many of
huddles, poses and high fives going on.
Some like to claim they are women who don’t need a man in their life,
but most of them are lying. Most of
these women seen are creatures who need the validation of a boyfriend to make
them feel alive and important, or they are women biding their time with a
current male partner until someone or something better comes along. This rolling of the dice method naturally
fragments as they grow through their years, as simply put, they no longer have
the options in comparison to their younger selves.
Girl’s
girls, despite usually being the hottest and highest quality women out there,
will actually have had the least amount of boyfriends within a relationship
history. They will also likely have
encountered less sexual partners than a lot of their female peers. This may sound like a strange concept to
naïve non-thinkers, but it all adds up when you cut a little deeper. Their strong prides and low tolerance of male
deficiencies manifest to produce a woman who will only give her body and heart
to one she sees fit as deserving. It’s
never a bad thing as a guy to hear the words of her referring to a low number
of ex-boyfriends, because you then know she will treasure what she has due to
the strict selection criteria put in front of men.
The
down side to this rigorous selectiveness is that you have very little leeway
when wrong moves are made. This has been
a problem for me in the past, and I will be the first to admit to previous poor
choices made in attempts to resurrect a sliding situation. On some occasions it was even debatable whether
I was the one at fault. But a much more
care-free attitude now leaves them with a “take it or leave it” option.
Deep
down, their egos are severed but their intimacy grows stronger with men who put
themselves first. At the end of the day,
a man who does this is acting on a mirror image to what a girl’s girl is
delivering herself. That is:
independence, selfishness, decisiveness, and prioritizing your own life before
others. So if a man lives his path to
how he so desires and she is a passenger on route to where he was going anyway,
the likelihood is she will respect, rather than repel.
Q-tip:
A woman’s fondest memory
of love from her childhood days will be from the bad boy she was infatuated
by. Her infatuation was formed by his
direction to put himself first. Whilst
she will talk more fondly about the nice guy who prioritized her in every such
way, it will be no coincidence that she departed from him.
A lesson to be learnt is
this: A good guy shouldn’t replicate being a jerk, but he should lean to the side
of jerkiness. Common found nice guy
traits of extreme consideration, listening ability and care should only be
distributed in small and infrequent measures, and only when she has acted in a
deserving manner.
From
my experience, a good number of girl’s girls are aged between 25 and 30. You will see them socializing with younger
female friends. This circumstance will
usually be down to the fact their peers of similar age have settled down, but
they also like to keep an air of immaturity in their character too. In a dating world where the norm is for men
to date younger women and for women to date older men, girl’s girls are the
types who are most accustomed to break this trend. Their hotness (and in truth less than 1% of
women are genuinely hot) allows them to be seen as attractive in the eyes of
younger men, and these younger men can often be good looking guys. Sometimes they may avoid dating older men
altogether, because it is like conceding to the soul-destroying fact they are
getting older. Good lord, what would
their younger friends think to all this?
And nobody worries more about how the outside world perceives her than a
girl’s girl.
The
reason you may find many of these girl’s girls with good looking men, despite
the fact you will see over 90% of women (caveat: 90% of women below the age of
40) with men who are less physically attractive in relativity, is that they are
women with a rare level of confidence.
This confidence allows their egos, to a point, to lead with sexual
thoughts and take a degree of oversight to insecurity and trust issues - that
are all so familiar with the bulk of female population. In addition to this, girl’s girls have high
self-opinions, even if their prides are as delicate as any other woman who
fears rejection, embarrassment or failure.
This elevated vision of her worth to the world can bring about a mentality
that bypasses any passing thought - of a man with equal eye catching value –
that he couldn’t appreciate her princess status as much as a lesser looking man
would do so. Nevertheless, a girl’s girl
is still like any other woman - in preferring to be with a man who both
sexually arouses her but doesn’t take public viewing away from her. Cue: top end above average looking men
(7.5/10 to 7.75/10 physical attractiveness rating) with high status. These men are more isolated than the scarce
numbers of hot women themselves.
And
status leads this post conveniently onto the problems a girl’s girl faces in
the dating field. The ego boost of
involvement with a younger good looking guy, but a guy who is simultaneously most
likely low or mediocre in most other desirable metrics, will only last for so
long before frustration in being with him starts to kick in. Just like any other woman worth having, but
even more so in her case, she attains the natural hypergamous mindset that
comes with being a modern day female. As
women are geared towards locating a man who earns more and has a higher
professional profile than them, a career orientated girl’s girl is not going to
settle for any run of the mill earner.
She wants a man who can prove he has “made it”. So in addition to desires of male physical
power and decent to good looks, this bar raising woman requires men consisting
of high level earnings and status. How
many men, outside of occasional professional footballers or similar, do you
know who tick both boxes? Although high
quality girl’s girls are rare, there will be dozens of them for every one of
these men. If she doesn’t strike while
the oven is hot, any chance of capturing this man starts to evaporate, as the younger
and hotter (even if less intelligent) female competitors are seen as more
alluring.
One
of the downsides to modern day society is, in my opinion, the phenomenon of
reality TV programs. In the UK, “The
Only Way is Essex” (TOWIE) and “Made in Chelsea” seem to take on their
attentions more than any of the other crappy options, in terms of regular women
wandering away with the fairies in hope they could be the next big actress that
a producer just so happens to bump into.
All this translates into is for a decent looking, but nothing special,
woman to believe she should be deserving of expensive clothes, affluent located
mansions, a rich and famous lifestyle and a profile representative to her
glamour. This is why you now see many of
these women book summer holidays to Marbella.
No longer are sun, sea and suntans the only requirement of a woman’s
annual calendar. The prospect of her
being selected as a famous and rich man’s future partner is within her
grasp. At least, this is what her poor
naïve brain allows her to fantasize.
So
during the female age between 25 and 30, and many go beyond 30 too, you start
to create a monster that has no comprehension to its limits. This is despite the produced specimen now
showing signs of a physical fragmentation from the pinnacle date. This girl’s girl has had a few years to
elevate her way up the promotion ladder at work, and the innumerable nice guys
complimenting and polishing her crown only further compounds the belief that
she will never take anything less than the best. These supplicated men are only trying to get
in her knickers, but she’s not going to give any of them a second thought. All they’re good for is to make her feel
better about life. In the meantime, she
spends the next day cursing the fact there are no decent men in the world that
little bit more than the previous day.
But
women of this kind rarely find a happy ending, because eventually something has
to give. Fundamentally, she is a
perishable item in the sexual market. Whilst
girl’s girls are best equipped to look physically better at 27 as opposed to 21
– something most women take the inverse process in – from that age (27) on
there will be slow signs of a less admirable reflection in the mirror. Once 30 strikes, the ageing blemish rate
speeds up two-fold. On the day of the 35th
birthday, well, if she still has the same demands as her former self of 10
years previous then she truly will never learn the reality of life.
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