Saturday 27 June 2020

Repulsive man/woman visual dynamics


“Tomorrow belongs to those who can hear it coming.”
(David Bowie)


When you see this below picture, what do you think?


The obvious answer, a topic that perhaps can be seen as somewhat dominated by this blog, is a considerably more physically attractive woman than her respective male partner.  She’s an 8.25/10, and he’s a 6.5/10.  Whilst this >25% gap between the two is larger than what is usually seen (most women go for men who are 10% to 15% lesser looking), it’s by no means a fall off your seat moment for people who observe in the real world.  You will see many women of >8/10 with 6.5/10 men in the physical looks department.

Of course the common phrase used to sum up these relationship comparisons is: "He's boxing (punching) above his weight."  This has become an almost enjoyable phrase to use by most people - distributors and recipients of the comment alike.  The female recipient likes to hear this because it enlarges her head and basically spells out that he needs to be grateful to be blessed with her all so valuable presence and existence.  The male side also emotes fondly to the words, because this is symbolic (at least this is what he naively thinks) that his non-visual attributes are what scores him a better looking girlfriend.

The problem is, this phrase is born out of artificial happiness which can, and usually does, have detrimental implications further down the line.  A woman dating a lesser looking man is by and large a case of making herself feel better about life, whilst the man is very rarely aware of this being the main motive on her part.  Don't get me wrong, this none organic way to get together can work if a man is aware of the circumstance and plays his strategy in accordance - flipping the script in convincing her she is the one who should be grateful to be with him - but only a tiny percentage of men are that clued up.

A story

A few years ago, long back when you could visit another country without contemplating quarantine procedures to enforce you not to go in the first place, I sat by the poolside during a vacation in northern Italy.  I was minding my own business, eyes shut and high into the sky, when a couple sat nearby and started talking in German (or a dialect of the German language).  I speak and understand reasonable German, but most certainly not to the level of comprehending what they were saying.  It mattered little anyway.

For my curiosity and interest in heterosexual couple dynamics, I discretely looked to my left hand side (for clarity, they are not the couple in the photograph!).  What immediately stood out to me, and if the truth be told moved me negatively, was how darker skinned she was than him.  They were both of Caucasian ethnicity, yet she was as tanned as a white woman I’ve ever seen and with dark hair, and he was as pale as could be with ginger/auburn locks.  It just looked weird.

The usual course of events

Putting sexual inclinations and satisfying their hearts as a priority to one side for now (and let’s be fair, most modern day women put their egos and motives to feel better about life ahead of both the aforementioned), this is what women ideally desire in a man as their male partner.  The list is not exhaustive:

·       A man who is taller than her
·       A man who is facially less gifted and stand out than her
·       A man who, in gender relative terms, does not have a better body profile than her
·       A man who has higher social status than her
·       A man who is smarter than her
·       A man who attains a higher job profession status than her
·       A man who earns more money than her
·       A man who possesses more money/assets than her
·       A man who has darker hair than her (or at least as dark)
·       A man who is darker skinned than her

Based on the fact which both science and real-life observation proves, when a man and a woman are of the same ethnicity, the male face and body is of darker complexion than the female equivalent.  With this base skin colour laid as the foundation, the man will tan quicker and go darker than the woman further still with spells in the sunshine of parity.

So when you see images as illustrated in the above image and as explained on the Genoese poolside, you end up scratching your head even more than usual.  Personally, I find it a strange, weak and even repulsive viewing when a woman is significantly more tanned than her boyfriend.  It just doesn’t sit right.

I’d even say that an Indian or African origin (to mention only two darker skinned ethnicity groups) woman alongside a white man gives off a much better dynamic.  With this, you are born with what you are.  Maybe the white man has a thing for women of this race, and vice versa.  They will also be churning out a cute mixed-race kid too, or at least with a higher probability if you go by the law of average.

But a white woman far darker than a white man?  No, I’m not having that without deeper analysis.

The reason?

The obvious reason is a compounded female ego that stretches beyond even the norm.  Not only does she want to be more eye catching than him in visual terms, but she also holds a greater motivation to push this gap even further apart with a better tan.  

What's even more bewildering is if women listened to men, they would actually know that there is sweet spot for how attractive men assess women's tans.  A bit like makeup/ and foundation, a little to medium amount makes her look more attractive, yet beyond that and it is counter-productive.

But not many women (outside of very savvy women) give a shit to what men desire, as long as they are out-doing their female peers.  Long live the female ego, and it isn’t going anywhere south in your surroundings any time soon.  If anything, it is only venturing in one direction.  That direction is not one I’m looking forward to.

Hair colour differences between men and women

I recall meeting a German woman on a beach in Athens (Piraeus to be precise) a few years ago.  We hit it off for a day or two, but we never stayed in touch.  She was cute (not hot), with a nice curvy figure, long dark brown hair, 5ft 3” tall, and white skin with just an obvious but not over-emphasized end of summer tan.

As we got the train back to the city, she leaned against my shoulder and commented on a blonde-haired guy a few metres away.  He had that surfer look, tall, not bad looking at all to be fair, and he was also German.  She whispered to me that she just didn’t find blonde haired men attractive at all.  Her words seemed genuine.  I replied in a light-hearted way along the lines of life just not being fair – stating that from my experience most blonde-haired women want darker haired men, and yet dark-haired women also prefer a man of darker shade.

And I can’t think of too many cases over the last few years where I have seen a woman with a lighter haired man.  As a percentage, it has to be very low.  Once more, if you do see it there is a strong chance the woman is self-attention and ego driven, although not in the same manner as a woman wanting to be darker skinned than her male partner - when both are of ethnicity equivalence. 

Q-tip:
Notice what else is a negative dynamic in the photograph.  He looks way, way happier to be there than her.  This is the exact opposite image a man should look for.  She should be the one smiling like a Cheshire Cat – even if in disingenuous manner and just for the cameras – and he should be the one sporting a mild to indifferent smirk expression.  You may think, and women will tell you, that women love to see their man express happiness in being around her.  But a woman will always try harder for a man when she questions his happiness, and she will try less to please a man when she has him in the palm of her hand.

6 comments:

  1. Just when I think I have you figured out mate, you come from left field at a different angle with this one, and trigger greater reflections on topics and factors that I myself dismissed as not important. Retrospectively speaking, I myself don't come across this very much also(darker skinned caucasian women, with lighter skinned caucasian men), for in sooth, I find that Western white women often say(and you should only take their words with modicum considerations) that they prefer not to date VERY light-skinned men such as those of Hibernian(Irish) descent. I do find Irish men and black women get on pretty well, as well as black men and Irish women also fancy one another, but I rarely find German women with Irish men or Asian women with Irish men-this is not to debase Irish men, for I've seen a few strikingly good looking ones that would have ZERO problems having their pick of pussy, but as a rule, I do not generally see this dark WW to light WM couple very often- if ever! My theory is, and tell me if you agree, that white women choose darker skinned partners than themselves from Germanic to Afrocentric for UV radiation resistance, or do you think that it could be something more shallow(aesthetics) for these low relationship representations?

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    1. I'd need to analyse a bit deeper on your UV radiation resistance theory!

      My theory is based on two-fold, but they kind of inter-link:
      First, women are conscious of good dynamics in a man to woman interface (as bullet pointed in this post). One of these dynamics is to be with a darker skinned man. It would take a fairly bizarre thinking person - woman or man - to truthfully believe that a photographic viewing of a darker skinned woman than man couple, equivalent ethnicity considered, gives off a stronger image than the inverse.
      Second, a woman has this tug of war battle going on in her mind when contemplating the value of the man she is with. Part of her wants him to be desired by other women to elevate her self-importance and social standing ("Hey, other women fancy him, so for him to choose me shows how valuable to the world I am..."), but the other part doesn't want him to acquire too much attention from other women due to her ego, insecurity and trust perspectives.

      With the above considered, tanned skin colour goes in line with this. A woman who is with a lesser looking man than her will have no problem, and will in fact have pleasure, in him attaining a tan. A rare woman who is with a man on her looks level or above will take far less kindly in him being tanned.

      This is why you will see some white women have no problem being with a black man (those who aren't prejudice to only go for white men), amongst other reasons, as he will not get more physically attractive the darker he gets (or, like in my Dad's case, there is only so much darker he can get).

      So the main point and critique to this post is regarding white women who go out of their way to be darker than their male partners. It is so rare that you can only conclude to her being of magnified insecurity and self-importance/ego motivation.

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    2. A man who is taller than her
      · A man who is facially less gifted and stand out than her
      · A man who, in gender relative terms, does not have a better body profile than her
      · A man who has higher social status than her
      · A man who is smarter than her
      · A man who attains a higher job profession status than her
      · A man who earns more money than her
      · A man who possesses more money/assets than her
      · A man who has darker hair than her (or at least as dark)
      · A man who is darker skinned than her

      just one question..my good man Vinay?
      how many of these attributes the female knows she does ,,,or more exactly ..are you telling me we are dealing with some species named,,women,,..who behave totally outside the realm of logic,and use pure instinct like a covid virus to just reproduce?..
      could be true?..because if true..would explain the senseless divorces and whatever...
      would also explain why the muslims keep their females in ,,burgas,,
      so the muslims knew something about women we do not?..incredible!!!
      Danny:)

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  2. I stand by that women float somewhere in between the subconscious and conscious when selecting men on the criteria I document. Sometimes they even entwine. For example, a woman may not consciously be aware she is seeking a man who is less physically attractive than her (although I would say in most cases women are conscious of this), and it is just the subconscious mind that draws her away from men who dent her ego (hence good looking men), and onto men who make her feel better about life (hence lesser looking men). Height selection is probably more conscious, where she is fully aware she desires a taller man (or in some cases with really insecure women, they seek out a shorter man!).

    You've lost me a bit on the "covid virus to just reproduce".

    Senseless divorces as you document... I'd say this is more a strategic subconscious plan on many women's part. Whilst there are a minority of women who consciously know they are marrying a man for resources, and they already have a time frame plan for when to start divorce proceedings before they even get married, I believe a lot of women who are in relationships with men who don't turn them on do not plan for the whens and hows, but at the back of their minds (hence subconscious) pre marriage they know that the man is not really the one they want to be with for the rest of their life. He is just a stop gap and convenient life plan for that period of time.

    I'll leave you to your theory on Muslims. I just thought it was a customary dress code in line with their religion, but you might be onto something there!

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