“If they tell you that you have big
shoes to fill, then tell them you have big feet.”
There are
certain situations in life that bring about an inevitable outcome. One scenario could be a person’s disgusted
face when a neighbour’s cat craps all over your garden. Another instance could be your inner desire to
vomit when inflicted to the smell of piss when walking down the stairs of a
multi-storey car park. Or perhaps it’s
the sight of a full English breakfast the morning after a big night?
In any case,
life experience, assisted with possessing a few brain cells and not fearing
reality, allows you to expect, if not be surprised, when a circumstance evolves
from an apparent happy beginning. Sometimes
it is a simple case of just opening your eyes and not living in a world of
fallacy and ideology. Other times people
open the wrapping paper for you, in confirming what you already knew.
This article
gives a reader a real-life synopsis of what can happen when a woman dates a man
who is significantly boxing above his weight in physical attractiveness terms. As secondary onlookers (hence not knowing the
people involved personally), we can only fill in the blanks of what else went
on, and what goes on, within our best estimate outside of a one-page summary.
First, not for
a moment am I doubting the woman’s integrity and honesty, nor am I defending
this pathetic man. He’s been jailed for
11 years; therefore he clearly took it up upon himself to use violent abuse on
her amongst anything else. Beating up a
woman, in my opinion, is the most despicable and cowardice act (outside of
murder and rape) alongside paedophilia.
I don’t care how much a woman provokes you or cheats on you, a man who chooses
to use physical aggression on a woman is a complete coward and poor excuse for
a human being with testicles. Yes, woman
do provoke and cheat, but a man who is ever is confronted with these moments
must take the high road, move on, and be the bigger person. If a man can’t accept that a woman never grows up,
then there’s little benefit in getting seriously involved with her in the first
place.
Here’s the
once happy couple:
The above picture
doesn’t do her much justice in terms of her hotness. This one does:
Albeit in a WAG way, and in the absence of seeing her whole figure,
she is a solid 8.5/10 at the appealing age of 24.
Granted, from my experience women who doll themselves up to this level take
a huge dip in natural look (it may well be if you saw her in the morning she is
no greater than a 6/10), but as I’ve always said, you can only judge a person’s
aesthetic value on what you see there and then.
On the other hand, he is struggling to even tip to 6.25/10 in
gender relative terms. That’s a near 40%
leverage (or deleverage in her case) of partner physical attractiveness disparity. A woman generally seeks out a man who is 10%
to 15% less physically attractive than her, and it certainly isn’t alien to see
women with men who are 20% less aesthetically gifted, but a 40% drop is rare outside
of a man possessing fame and fortune.
The article does tell us she is a mother of one, and this one
fact alone will deter many men, but her hotness level and relative youth
mitigates a lot of her parentage baggage.
We don’t know the facts, but this is my take on the process
of events from a general analysis when I see couples of this dynamic.
1) A woman (especially
above 23 years of age) has an ego driven motivation to be with a man less
physically attractive than her. The
bigger the gap, the better she feels about herself and believes he will strive
harder to please her.
2) A single
parent mother, no matter what her looks level, will have fewer male suitors
than her equivalent non parenting status – all else equal. This knowingly (although not admitting it to
others or herself) makes her demands for a “suitable man” that little bit more
flexible.
3) A man in
this dynamic, especially in a small town, will feel he has won the lottery in locating
a woman of this hotness level to date him.
4) At first,
all is rosy in the garden. The woman has
her head (hence ego) swelled to a size that can barely fit through the door,
and the man benefits from the best sex (or at least the best ejaculations) he
has ever experienced in his whole life.
5) As time
goes on, resentment on her side strikes first.
Although appreciative of his efforts in the short term, she can’t help
but think as each day passes that he is not the best man she could be
with. The smiles on her face dry up, and
the good feeling she gained from being with a much lesser looking man
diminishes.
6) As time
goes on, but later than the time as explained in 5), he senses her interest dwindling. Sex is not as frequent, and her gratitude is
not as common.
7) As time
goes further on, his sense of her growing apathy and disinterest manifests to produce
enhanced jealousy and frustration on his part.
The existence of a kid (I can only assume the child is from another man’s
seed), will only further compound his anxiety that he is not a priority in her
life.
8) She wants
out - but will likely wait until there is a near guarantee of another man to
give her boyfriend validation.
9) He senses
she is cheating, and his obsession of her and inner thoughts that he will never
secure anyone as sexually attractive again, takes control of his mind to
violently abuse her.
I want to reiterate once more that, no matter what happened
(and I’d hedge a fair bet I’m not too far off the mark at all), any man who uses
violence on a woman should have the book thrown at him and then have the key tossed
away. You could carve a better man out
of a carrot. I doubt she cheated anyway,
but even if she did, any man in this position should just walk away and realize
she did him a favour.
Q-tip:
If a woman ever cheats on you outside of
marriage, comprehend that she actually did you a big favour. This may seem illogical and bizarre when your
heart is shaking like a volcano and the nausea feeling won’t leave, but
ultimately she has given you a crash course in finding out what she is really
like. You could have spent months, if
not years more of your life, before finding her true colours for the woman she truly
is.
For the record, I have never knowingly been the victim of
infidelity, but I can’t say in practice this was the case for sure. What I do know
is that I have been with more than a few women who were looking for, and
contriving a strategy for, their next boyfriend whilst still with me.
A final
thought
The article
states that the man confessed to cheating on the woman on the same night as the
torture started. This is the part that
doesn’t add up to me. If a man has been
cheating on a woman for a sustained period, I very much doubt that once confronted
by his girlfriend regarding this adultery, he flips his lid and starts beating her
up. Surely, he just uses this as an excuse
to get out (assuming why he was cheating in the first place?) or he asks for forgiveness
in a way of holding his hands up? I
fully appreciate that a man can have sex with a mistress (even for a decent
timeframe), yet still be in love with his girlfriend/wife, but I find it hard
to understand how a cheating man then beats her up. I’ve known first-hand of men to beat up their
female partners once knowledgeable of her infidelity, but becoming violent when
he is the one with pants caught down just doesn’t tally up.
My two
pennies worth derive to these four possibilities:
·
He was
never cheating, and this part of the story is make-believe.
·
She
was cheating, and he found out.
·
He maybe
cheated on isolated occasions as the sex frequency with her fragmented.
·
Neither
was cheating, but his obsession towards her simultaneous to his sense of her
drifting away took charge of his mind.
Acknowledgements
BBC NEWS (Online)
"The woman has her head (hence ego) swelled to a size that can barely fit through the door"
ReplyDeleteXD. Love your sense of humour dude.