Women’s choices: men’s divorces was originally written as a book
proposal. In essence, it is a completed
product to share with the outside world.
However, after consideration, and a number of publisher rejections, it
became evident that my thoughts, opinions, substantiations and observations
would be best utilized as an internet blog.
Without sounding like a case of sour grapes, and I’m sure people may
interpret it this way, someone only has to walk into a bookstore and open the pages
of a relationship themed publication to realize publishing companies are not
very inclined towards subjects that hit the hard truths. There are isolated exceptions, and when all
is said and done, publishers are a business at the end of the day. You’re simply going to offer a fallacy
selling commodity in preference to one with integrity but with less
demand. I guess this is why some
romantic novels are so profitable.
Nevertheless,
there is a pronounced and growing audience – from mainly the male field, but
some women too – that appear to be willing to face up to the reality that
arrives in heterosexual bond dynamics.
People can only pull the wool over their eyes from the harsh truth for
so long, because the repercussions are a far worse dealt fate than living in
blissful ignorance. With this in mind, I
welcome and embrace the reading and views of honest people who are strong
enough to deal with aspects of emotive scenarios that they feel were once
beyond them. I was once this person, and
I’m a much happier human being for no longer belonging to this “eyes wide shut”
group.
I also do
not have predilections in being part of the extreme misogynist manosphere
spectrum. Some of my best friends over
the years have been women, and I have listened to their words wisely and
carefully. I would like to think I
balance out the arguments and perspectives from a male and female viewpoint. However, I’m not going to be completely two
faced here, and if it wasn’t for some of the online male written material, I wouldn’t
be in a position to comprehend in the manner I do today. As although some of the language may appear too
explicit and aggressive for the liking of many observers, the associated blogs
I have read do mainly spell out what occurs in the real world. They often bring a rise smile to my face too.
There is an argument
that blogs of the genre I write about should only be accessible to the male
population, but I disagree with this consensus.
Although I’m a firm believer that, by and large, men base their thoughts
on facts whilst women form a more ideological picture of the world in
heterosexual relationships and connections, the two extremes can bounce off
each other. In any case, an astute
person who does nothing more than step outside of their bubble can easily
locate and identify the people who bring opinions that are from a fantasy world
or devised from their own insular spectrum.
My primary
objective is to assist those good-hearted, genuine and well intentioned men out
there – hence usually nice guys as most are by definition – who perhaps need a
steer in the right direction to answer unexplainable queries behind their lack
of understanding and fortune in the sexual market with women. But as the manuscript developed, it was clear
how the chapters written could also help the female happiness perspective, even
if the likely outcome is one of their denials.
The two avenues – male knowledge of interaction strategy and female psychology
– are inter-linked to form a better life in relationships for both parties
involved.
In summary,
I am here to offer my view on the world in terms of female and male intimate
interactions and associations. Like
anybody else, I have many weaknesses in life, but if there’s anything I value
most in myself it is my honesty, objectivity, eradication of self-bias or any
agendas in partiality to the true happenings, and a level headed mindset. I thrive on people challenging me – women and
men alike – and I’m certainly not a person who closes his ears once words are
heard that are adverse to my take on things.
As a good friend once said to me, “if we both agreed, then we’d both be
right, and what’s the fun in that?”
All I admire
in people is when their sentiments are based on a fundamental honest nature, and
their egoism orientated wishful thinking is silently sidelined within their own
ears. As my sports teacher in secondary
school told me when I cut corners of the running track – you’re only cheating
yourself. We can run, but we can’t hide
when life’s reality smacks us full on in the face.
So there it
is. It's about time someone from outside North America joined this party, and I aspire to give a different perspective as a writer from the UK. It's strange, because British women, in percentage terms, will only be marginally lower than their transatlantic counterparts when it derives to certain curious decision making when interfaced with men in varying situations. Yet British men appear light years behind American and Canadian males in their comprehension to women's emotional deliverables. Maybe they are too trusting, more willing to give benefit to possible doubts, or more likely, they have not been as exposed to the material and information out there. In addition to the published posts
taken from the completed book, I intend to add frequent subsidiary articles
that didn’t quite make the manuscript, or topics I write that inspire me on a
given day. I hope you enjoy reading the
posts as much as I took pleasure out of writing them. Most importantly, I hope you can take
something out of it, no matter how great or small, in order to benefit your
future encounters.
Vi Nay.
Vi Nay.
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