“A drunken man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”
The resistance to this self-controlled and self-objectified view will not arrive without contest and resistance. For example, if you spell out this trend, many people will turn a blind eye or disagree due to the pain of the truth you have exposed. These people - and most people fall into this category - prefer the fallacy and idealistic world that perhaps brings no shame on them for being this way. Effectively, they are people belonging to a blue pill world that doesn’t take fondly to exposure of their weaknesses, misdemeanours and lies.
Another example is the old aged fall back of “exception to the rule”. Women are masters of this in topics of emotional behaviour or relationship analysis, because they will try and convince the naïve onlookers, and themselves, that one case which is an exception to a clear general trend, especially an exception that suits their personal agenda, is the normal course of events. Women make a living out of plausible deniability, because ultimately this act can, due to the lack of proof, conceal their lies and manipulations of the truth.
On the assumption you want to be a man who is strong-minded and believes things seen with his own two eyes, it is important to laugh at these people and stay loyal and faithful to your belief. You cannot have a fear of the consequences, even if this fear is losing a woman you like. She will, or she should, respect and like you more for standing apart from the hordes of agreeable men she is accustomed to. If she doesn’t, it is because ultimately her ego (hence being with a man who kisses her rosy ass) is bigger than her heart. Is it worth not being your own man for the sake of that one woman?
Nevertheless, this post is about one trend I picked up on many years ago, but equally it was a trend that went straight over me for many years prior. It was like something dawned on me after approaching inundated women over countless years, in response to never previously looking at it like this. In essence, nine times out of ten, women who chose to take things further with me were women who asked me questions during the first conversation. Likewise, nine times out of ten, women who did not choose to take things to the next level were women who asked me next to nothing (or nothing at all!) about myself. It’s important to add that, with discrete differentials, nearly all these women in both compartments had given me prior indicators of interest – by and large, looking in my direction whether close by or from more of a distance. Not all, but most.
Some of the women who asked me nothing were those who could not stop looking at me from merely a few feet away, and on regular intervals. When I approached them, from point dot most of them barely gave me any eye contact during conversation, and certainly nothing in terms of any conversational interest in my life. If ever there was a case in point that believing a woman giving you bed eyes is a passport to taking things to the bedroom or further development, then think again. I’m even struggling to recall one woman asking me nothing who did decide to give me a chance.
Then I contrast the none asking (and hence those not wanting to take things to the next stage) women with those who did show an interest in my life with more than a couple of questions during the primary conversation. I wouldn’t for a moment state every one of them did give me their number or hold inclinations for seeing where things led, but most of them did. I would also add that those who did ask questions, irrespective to whether they were willing to move things on, were often those who gave me less eye contact and interest indicators in comparison to those who asked nothing and did not want any part of me when interacting (yet women who looked over at me a lot).
Why is this the case?
Women and men differ in countless emotional, character, behavioural and decision-making ways, however one way they are exactly the same is in their instinctive reactions to members of the opposite sex they are sexually attracted to. In the same way a man instinctively looks at a woman he wants to bang, a woman uncontrollably looks at a man who she would like to sleep with if there were no other consequences involved. When I illustrate consequences, I’m not simply and only referencing having a boyfriend/husband. A consequence to woman – a woman who has seen a man who sexually arouses her – is often a follow on thought that she views him as poor partner material, who makes her feel inadequate due to his equal or superior physical attractiveness status in gender relative terms, or who puts her nose out of joint due to her not being the star of the show when together (as he strikes more attention than her).
Therefore, a woman cannot control, at least in the immediate term, her eyes to not look at a man who see would like to have sex with. This is simply an animal trait in a human body and mind that will never change and cannot be controlled. Bear in mind too that in a world where >99% of men fall anywhere between ugly, average looking, to above average looking (hence anything ranging from 1/10 to 7.75/10), a woman doesn’t see many men on a regular basis who gives her this uncontrollable feeling. A high percentage of these women are with boring and sexually unappealing husbands too, and seeing men leagues above in aesthetic value only compounds the difference in physical attractiveness levels.
However, when the man approaches a woman, her secondary emotion comes into play. Women have fragile prides yet strong egos, and once you place both traits in a melting pot it produces an ugly recipe known as a woman in either antagonism and hostility mode or, at best, someone who just acts with discomfort and a lack of eye contact. The by-product of either is one who consciously does not ask questions. “If I don’t ask him anything about himself, it proves I’m not interested!” This is her vain and ingenuine attempt to protect both her pride and ego. Add on her perception that a “golden boy” must have so much going on in his life, and her counteraction to this irritable feeling is to avoid any inferiority or jealousy running through her veins. If she doesn’t ask, she can believe what makes her feel better about herself.
Contrast this with women who do ask you questions early on. By clear majority, it is no coincidence that women who showed verbal interest in me early on also came across as far higher in internal confidence than women who did not ask questions. This confidence goes hand in hand with women who are willing to date the highest quality (or best looking) men. They have confidence in themselves, therefore they have confidence these men won’t stray. Again, a by-product of a woman who wants to take things further with a man is to find out more about him – and hence ask questions. A woman I was seeing at the back end of last year fitted this explanation like a glove, to the point where she went toe to toe with me on proactive flirty comments and discrete physical touch from the moment we met. I do sincerely and whole-heartedly miss her, but when the circumstance is living a four hour drive away from each other, something inevitably and eventually has to give.
Q-Tip 1:Confident women, matched with beauty and feminine ways, are extremely rare but they do exist. You just need to screen much harder for them and accept that they almost exist like unicorns.
A final thought
There is an extreme opposing view that needs to be explained, and it is one that could come across as a contradiction to all as explained above of not analyzed accordingly. There will be many cases where a woman will ask a man questions, even if in fact she has no intention of getting sexual with him. In this case it will be the common event where the woman likes the attention he gives her, she likes the ego thrill boost of standing next to someone who is less physically attractive than her, and she ultimately has not an ounce of desire or hunger to get physical and sexual with him. Effectively she is too comfortable, which is actually a greater detrimental consequence to a man than her feeling at unease next to a man. Ultimately, when a woman is at total ease with the environment, her eye contact and question distribution will be far higher.
Similarly, but more idealistically for a woman, is the perfect scenario where all the boxes are ticked as illustrated in the above paragraph, yet she holds enough attraction onto him for sexual endeavours. This is where she strikes the perfect middle ground between too much comfort and feeling inadequate. Most of these men will not strike her immediate attention from a distance, but there is enough liking on her part to see where things go. An average looking man with a cute woman, or an above average looking man with a hot woman, is the dynamic you need to look for here.
A final (final) thought
I approached the brunette as explained in this post the other day. I wasn’t bothered about the bling ring she was wearing the week before, and as it turned out she wasn’t wearing it once I engaged with her. To say she was lacking in responsiveness was an understatement, and I barely opened my mouth before noticing a lack of enjoyment in her facial expression that I had approached her. Far cry from the woman who had been staring and smiling at me on more than a few occasions only a week before.
Was it a case she was at her highest fertility cycle point last week (hence holding inclinations to be with an edgy man), and back on normality cycle point a week later (hence back to the more dependable inclination for a mundane man)? Can’t be ruled out. If so, maybe I need to wait another three weeks before going up to her again!
In true predictability:
· She asked no questions, with the exception of: “I can’t believe you just come up to people you don’t know like this…do you do this to a lot of women?”
· She gave me hardly any eye contact.
· When I asked her name, she straight away (after telling me her name) said: “Unfortunately I have a boyfriend.”
· Despite the numerous stares in my direction as little as seven days ago, she claimed she had never seen me in the gym before.
· When I subtly said (concurrent to a smirk on my face) I could have sworn she was the girl looking at me last week (although followed by saying my eyes aren’t what they used to be), she said I need my eyes testing. I responded by saying, “I think they call it plausible deniability - on your part.”
As a last note, a lot of men, as I once did in my younger days, dry up and react with disillusioned and demoralizing internal emotion when a woman drops the “boyfriend” word. I gave her my usual response that has never failed me in any past situation of equivalence:
“Just tell him you’re upgrading, he’ll understand.” She froze faster than a teardrop during a Siberian winter.
Q-tip 2:If any mission in your life cannot be completed, whether within or outside of your control, make sure you have fun along the way. At the end of the day, the fun was in the attempt and not the accomplishment.