“A
drunken man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”
The
resistance to this self-controlled and self-objectified view will not arrive
without contest and resistance. For
example, if you spell out this trend, many people will turn a blind eye or
disagree due to the pain of the truth you have exposed. These people - and most people fall into this
category - prefer the fallacy and idealistic world that perhaps brings no shame
on them for being this way. Effectively,
they are people belonging to a blue pill world that doesn’t take fondly to exposure
of their weaknesses, misdemeanours and lies.
Another
example is the old aged fall back of “exception to the rule”. Women are masters of this in topics of
emotional behaviour or relationship analysis, because they will try and
convince the naïve onlookers, and themselves, that one case which is an
exception to a clear general trend, especially an exception that suits their personal
agenda, is the normal course of events. Women
make a living out of plausible deniability, because ultimately this act can,
due to the lack of proof, conceal their lies and manipulations of the truth.
On the
assumption you want to be a man who is strong-minded and believes things seen
with his own two eyes, it is important to laugh at these people and stay loyal
and faithful to your belief. You cannot
have a fear of the consequences, even if this fear is losing a woman you
like. She will, or she should, respect and
like you more for standing apart from the hordes of agreeable men she is
accustomed to. If she doesn’t, it is
because ultimately her ego (hence being with a man who kisses her rosy ass) is
bigger than her heart. Is it worth not
being your own man for the sake of that one woman?
Nevertheless,
this post is about one trend I picked up on many years ago, but equally it was
a trend that went straight over me for many years prior. It was like something dawned on me after
approaching inundated women over countless years, in response to never
previously looking at it like this. In
essence, nine times out of ten, women who chose to take things further with me
were women who asked me questions during the first conversation. Likewise, nine times out of ten, women who
did not choose to take things to the next level were women who asked me next to
nothing (or nothing at all!) about myself.
It’s important to add that, with discrete differentials, nearly all
these women in both compartments had given me prior indicators of interest – by
and large, looking in my direction whether close by or from more of a distance. Not all, but most.
Some of the
women who asked me nothing were those who could not stop looking at me from
merely a few feet away, and on regular intervals. When I approached them, from point dot most
of them barely gave me any eye contact during conversation, and certainly
nothing in terms of any conversational interest in my life. If ever there was a case in point that believing
a woman giving you bed eyes is a passport to taking things to the bedroom or
further development, then think again.
I’m even struggling to recall one woman asking me nothing who did decide
to give me a chance.
Then I
contrast the none asking (and hence those not wanting to take things to the
next stage) women with those who did show an interest in my life with more than
a couple of questions during the primary conversation. I wouldn’t for a moment state every one of
them did give me their number or hold inclinations for seeing where things led,
but most of them did. I would also add
that those who did ask questions, irrespective to whether they were willing to
move things on, were often those who gave me less eye contact and interest
indicators in comparison to those who asked nothing and did not want any part
of me when interacting (yet women who looked over at me a lot).
Why is
this the case?
Women and
men differ in countless emotional, character, behavioural and decision-making
ways, however one way they are exactly the same is in their instinctive
reactions to members of the opposite sex they are sexually attracted to. In the same way a man instinctively looks at
a woman he wants to bang, a woman uncontrollably looks at a man who she would
like to sleep with if there were no other consequences involved. When I illustrate consequences, I’m not
simply and only referencing having a boyfriend/husband. A consequence to woman – a woman who has seen
a man who sexually arouses her – is often a follow on thought that she views
him as poor partner material, who makes her feel inadequate due to his equal or
superior physical attractiveness status in gender relative terms, or who puts
her nose out of joint due to her not being the star of the show when together
(as he strikes more attention than her).
Therefore, a
woman cannot control, at least in the immediate term, her eyes to not look at a
man who see would like to have sex with.
This is simply an animal trait in a human body and mind that will never
change and cannot be controlled. Bear in
mind too that in a world where >99% of men fall anywhere between ugly,
average looking, to above average looking (hence anything ranging from 1/10 to
7.75/10), a woman doesn’t see many men on a regular basis who gives her this
uncontrollable feeling. A high
percentage of these women are with boring and sexually unappealing husbands
too, and seeing men leagues above in aesthetic value only compounds the
difference in physical attractiveness levels.
However,
when the man approaches a woman, her secondary emotion comes into play. Women have fragile prides yet strong egos,
and once you place both traits in a melting pot it produces an ugly recipe
known as a woman in either antagonism and hostility mode or, at best, someone
who just acts with discomfort and a lack of eye contact. The by-product of either is one who
consciously does not ask questions. “If
I don’t ask him anything about himself, it proves I’m not interested!” This is her vain and ingenuine attempt to
protect both her pride and ego. Add on her
perception that a “golden boy” must have so much going on in his life, and her
counteraction to this irritable feeling is to avoid any inferiority or jealousy
running through her veins. If she doesn’t
ask, she can believe what makes her feel better about herself.
Contrast
this with women who do ask you questions early on. By clear majority, it is no coincidence that
women who showed verbal interest in me early on also came across as far higher
in internal confidence than women who did not ask questions. This confidence goes hand in hand with women
who are willing to date the highest quality (or best looking) men. They have confidence in themselves, therefore
they have confidence these men won’t stray.
Again, a by-product of a woman who wants to take things further with a
man is to find out more about him – and hence ask questions. A woman I was seeing at the back end of last
year fitted this explanation like a glove, to the point where she went toe to
toe with me on proactive flirty comments and discrete physical touch from the
moment we met. I do sincerely and
whole-heartedly miss her, but when the circumstance is living a four hour drive
away from each other, something inevitably and eventually has to give.
Q-Tip 1:
Confident women, matched with beauty and
feminine ways, are extremely rare but they do exist. You just need to screen much harder for them
and accept that they almost exist like unicorns.
A final
thought
There is an
extreme opposing view that needs to be explained, and it is one that could come
across as a contradiction to all as explained above of not analyzed accordingly. There will be many cases where a woman will
ask a man questions, even if in fact she has no intention of getting sexual
with him. In this case it will be the
common event where the woman likes the attention he gives her, she likes the
ego thrill boost of standing next to someone who is less physically attractive
than her, and she ultimately has not an ounce of desire or hunger to get
physical and sexual with him.
Effectively she is too comfortable, which is actually a greater detrimental
consequence to a man than her feeling at unease next to a man. Ultimately, when a woman is at total ease
with the environment, her eye contact and question distribution will be far
higher.
Similarly,
but more idealistically for a woman, is the perfect scenario where all the
boxes are ticked as illustrated in the above paragraph, yet she holds enough
attraction onto him for sexual endeavours.
This is where she strikes the perfect middle ground between too much
comfort and feeling inadequate. Most of
these men will not strike her immediate attention from a distance, but there is
enough liking on her part to see where things go. An average looking man with a cute woman, or
an above average looking man with a hot woman, is the dynamic you need to look
for here.
A final
(final) thought
I approached
the brunette as explained in this post the other day. I wasn’t
bothered about the bling ring she was wearing the week before, and as it turned
out she wasn’t wearing it once I engaged with her. To say she was lacking in responsiveness was
an understatement, and I barely opened my mouth before noticing a lack of
enjoyment in her facial expression that I had approached her. Far cry from the woman who had been staring
and smiling at me on more than a few occasions only a week before.
Was it a case she was at her highest fertility cycle point last week (hence holding inclinations to be with an edgy man), and back on normality cycle point a week later (hence back to the more dependable inclination for a mundane man)? Can’t be ruled out. If so, maybe I need to wait another three weeks before going up to her again!
In true
predictability:
·
She
asked no questions, with the exception of: “I can’t believe you just come up to
people you don’t know like this…do you do this to a lot of women?”
·
She
gave me hardly any eye contact.
·
When
I asked her name, she straight away (after telling me her name) said:
“Unfortunately I have a boyfriend.”
·
Despite
the numerous stares in my direction as little as seven days ago, she claimed she had never
seen me in the gym before.
·
When
I subtly said (concurrent to a smirk on my face) I could have sworn she was the
girl looking at me last week (although followed by saying my eyes aren’t what
they used to be), she said I need my eyes testing. I responded by saying, “I think they call it
plausible deniability - on your part.”
As a last note, a lot of men, as I once did in my younger days, dry up and react with disillusioned and demoralizing internal emotion when a woman drops the “boyfriend” word. I gave her my usual response that has never failed me in any past situation of equivalence:
“Just tell
him you’re upgrading, he’ll understand.” She froze faster than a teardrop during a Siberian winter.
Q-tip 2:
If any mission in your life cannot be
completed, whether within or outside of your control, make sure you have fun
along the way. At the end of the day,
the fun was in the attempt and not the accomplishment. 
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