Wednesday, 12 May 2021

Avoid at all costs

 

“A vision of authority protrudes external admiration.

 A vision of nerves creates external repulse.”

  

There are certain visions of men that bring about an emotion in me which is balanced between sympathy and disgust.  An example could be, for want of a better one, when you walk past someone who is wearing a clearly cheap cologne, yet it doesn’t hide the fact he hasn’t washed his armpits in a couple of days.

Unless you have been living in a cave for the last few years, pretty much any adult in the world will recognize the man in the above video.  Welcome to the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom – our very own Alexander Boris de Pfeffel Johnson (Boris Johnson to you and me!).

As far as status and profile is considered in the United Kingdom, it gets no bigger or influential than the Prime Minister.  The key word here is status.  There will be many businessmen, actors, sports stars, entrepreneurs etc who are far wealthier than BJ, but they wouldn’t be as well known.  Ask any adult (and most adolescents) who the random aforementioned celebrity or similar is, and only a percentage (depending on who he or she is) will be able to tell you.  Show a picture of Boris Johnson to this same group of people, and pretty much every single one will know it is him. 

Of course, without knowing him personally, I really like Boris Johnson on face value.  It’s been a tough time since he took over the realms, most notably guiding us (with a lot of good decisions compared to other countries) through the national epidemic and global pandemic.  He comes across as a genuine, decent, likeable and approachable guy, and that is my kind of person.  A lot of idiots working in middle/senior management or directorship - who think they are the bee’s knees basked in arrogance, self-importance mentality, and bully boy approach (because they have nothing other than their profession to stand out in life) – should take note. 

I even said to someone the other day that if Boris joined us for a pint, it would just be like him being one of the lads and he would easily blend in with the group and amusement.  My friend said that we would probably even talk more sense than him – a comment that made me chuckle but was perhaps a bit harsh.

Dreadful male body language and demeanour

Unfortunately, on this occasion, I need to pick on his act above to spell out how awful it portrays him.  A vision of this kind radiates neediness, nervousness, insecurity, supplication, jealousy, a lack of trust in being with a better-looking female partner, and a downright deficiency of confidence in his own existence, calibre, and sought-after status to other women.

Someone like Boris Johnson, even with the ridicule he would sustain for holding onto his fiancĂ©’s arm, can get away with this due to his Prime Minister label.  Many women would even give the “It’s so cute” crap because it shows how much he loves her and is protective of her.  Wrong.  Love and protection of a woman should not be construed as all the negative verbs illustrated above.  Love and protection are easy offerings to give a woman, effortless in their nature, but commanding, assertive and assured in her recipient mind.

Not to be confused with this previous post, a man should always strive to be in a position where his female partner, irrespective to whether it is his (new or long term) girlfriend, fiancĂ©, or wife, is the one uncontrollably and subconsciously (even unconscious to a point if in bed during the night/early morning) taking his arm, hand or otherwise.  When it is the inverse situation – him grabbing her – then there are only murky waters ahead at worse, or at best she puts up with it based on her ego being a bigger priority than her heart.

Q-tip:

Be the man who only grabs his female partner’s hand when she is in a potentially vulnerable external scenario (hence a crowded environment), or when a dominant approach is required (hence towards the bedroom). 

A final thought

Some of you may be wondering why Boris Johnson would get away with this poor act of kind in relation to any other (non-famous) man off the street.  A longer explanation of this concept will be given in another post, however for now, I’ll simplify it in the way of how (post 23 years of age, and some younger too) women prioritize their requirements in what a man can offer them:

1)    Her survival (hence a man’s economic status producing a better life for her)

2)    Her ego/self-importance (his profile/status accordingly raising her status)

3)    Her sexual needs/inclinations for fulfilment (fundamentally picking the men who arouse her the most)

Obviously, Boris ticks the top two very highly.  Again, a more elaborated illustration of this female selection criteria awaits in a future post.


Acknowledgements

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Monday, 3 May 2021

The vision of a lonely woman


“People don’t seize moments.  Moments seize people.”

(Boyhood, 2014)

  

As regular readers of this blog will have worked out long ago, I’m not the most forgiving or compassionate when it comes to women’s situations in life on a general basis.  I believe they make a rod for their own backs, mostly and metaphorically.  

Nevertheless, on occasions my compassion, thoughts and consideration do stretch beyond the normal stingy offerings, especially when it appears like a woman is struggling in life.  This male concern tends to increase in a direct lineage with female age, and this makes sense.  As women get older, they become less desirable to men.  As they become less desirable to men, they usually become friendlier and more approachable.  As they become friendlier and approachable, it is a natural inclination for a man to be friendly and engaging in return.  Unlike women who are aroused and attracted to men acting like jerks/bad boys, men are less attracted to women who act like bitches and a basically unpleasant human being.  Most women fail to, or refuse to, get this easy concept in their heads.                            

The anecdote

In this post written a few months ago, I documented meeting an attractive young woman where it appeared to have promise in where it could lead.  To clarify straight away, it didn’t lead to anything.  There were a few reasons why: 

·       First, with UK lockdown announced measures extended for at least another few months post our interactions in January, there was no opportunity to meet.  This naturally, on both her and my part, deflated the enthusiasm in text language.  If you can’t get sexual, there really is no place to go.

·       Second, I still get the feeling she had some kind of “ex” on the scene where, whilst not her boyfriend, didn’t allow her to fully commit her mind to me.  I always had the feeling I was kind of her next lined up guy after this one finished.

·       Third, my liking towards her as a person incrementally decreased every day for the approximate four weeks we kept in touch.  Whilst she most definitely came across as potential girlfriend material when we met and spoke, her games, disappearing acts (in text terms) and attempted apathy (most likely contrived rather than natural) started to piss me off.  Over time, she came across as a time waster and, quite frankly, someone who had her head in the clouds and came out with a lot of crap.

Once she didn’t reply to my final text around middle of January, I wrote this off as something that will 99% chance not ever come to anything.  It actually came as a relief, as due to not being able to see her, I would never have been able to totally know whether her apathetic demeanour was one of not being that interested, or conversely being very interested but vainly attempting to act otherwise to keep her pride and ego intact.  These are the things only truly known when you see a woman in actuality.  

Post lockdown

The first Saturday morning after gyms reopened, as I walked through the male changing rooms into the gym area, she miraculously came out of the female’s equivalent at the same time.  Coincidence or planning on her part?  I looked at her and the first thing that struck me was how much weight she had lost.  I hate to condemn women for this, especially considering how most women have put on weight during the closure of gyms and similar, however her nice curves had transformed to a skinnier frame not as much to my liking.  Her skin was also incredibly spotty.  She mentioned, most likely to justify why she wasn’t looking too great, how she had been out the night before on cocktails.  Strange that, as I don’t know of many people, let alone women, who would attend the gym at 8am after a night on the booze. 

We walked down to the weights area, but the voice inside my head had no inclination whatsoever to talk for long about the interim period or anything else.  I was fortunate that my first planned exercise was at the near side of this area, to which she said (with enthusiasm) that she would see me later.  I rattled on with my workout, and never went to see her.

The following Saturday, she was working out around the core body area which is situated where I was to wrap up that day.  After I had completed my workout, I felt obliged to have a quick chat.  She never asked me anything about myself, and all content was about her job, her friends, her planned vacations, and a (friend’s) wedding in the summer.  That aside, as she spoke there wasn’t a part of my penis that ran away with my mind.  I had lost pretty much all my sexual attraction onto her.  I made a final comment to finish the conversation, and I walked off.

The following Saturday, she walked in and commenced dead lifts about ten yards from me.  I noticed she had her hair tied up, but enough to indicate that her hair had been trimmed from waist/lower back length to shoulder length/2” past shoulder.  That’s an eight to twelve inches off her once long, brunette style. 

Q-tip 1:

I fully appreciate sometimes women need to shorten their hair length based on mitigating circumstances, and some, once kids come along, will do it through conscious choice due to the reduced time it then takes to get ready each morning.  Nevertheless, a woman who reduces her hair length by a significant margin will, by near absolution, lose a pronounced degree of her physical attractiveness.  Any honest man would say the same.

The lonely look

I can tell a lonely look in a woman’s face when I see one.  I can also detect one that reflects frustration in life.  This woman couldn’t hide either.  No amount of social media posting about how dramatic, busy, fast-paced, popular and sociable her life is will conceal the reality that goes on inside her head.

I sympathise for these kinds of women – like her at the heart of this post – because I have, by and large, found myself in romantic involvements with girl’s girls (women who are more into girl gatherings than having a boyfriend all the time) than homely girls (women who seemingly are never without a boyfriend in life).  This is despite the latter outweighing the former by, based on my estimations and experiences, a 10:1 ratio.  Girl’s girls love the life when there are plenty of female social options.  As explained in this post, the last year, and the medium term here on in at least, isn’t a great place to be this woman.

The usual scenario of female friendships groups

The problem for girl’s girls is, as strongly implied above, they are only as happy as the women who accompany them.  In any given female social - whether genuine friendship, convenience friendship, or fake friendship – the chances of all women belonging to a girl’s girl character is near on impossible.  Even looking at it optimistically from her perspective, a group of eight women would comprise of this:

·       1 nr dedicated girl’s girl

·       2 nr single girls who will, at that particular time, will be indifferent about meeting a potential boyfriend

·       2 nr single girls who are actively on the lookout for a boyfriend.  They aren’t too keen on girl gathering longevity, but they do like to stay in touch for drama’s sake

·       3 nr women who have boyfriends, and rarely go out with the girls 

Like I say, this is the girl’s girl optimistic scenario, and it will most likely be between the ages of 18 to 22.  Beyond this age range, and the boyfriend inclination and likelihood of a woman only increases. 

With this in mind, the chances for a girl’s girl to have constant, consistent and regular female gatherings is very slim over a long timeframe.  Simply put, most women prefer the validation of a boyfriend showing he loves her, no matter how mediocre or low quality the man in question may be. 

The good news for girl’s girls

With all this said, there will almost always be a safety net for a girl’s girl to fall into.  By sheer nature of subconsciously being (or consciously choosing to be) a girl’s girl, the vast majority of these women will belong to the most alluring segment of female physical attractiveness.  It is exceedingly rare to find a woman who is a girl’s girl to be <7.5/10, and far more often she will be >8/10. 

On the other side of this dynamic is their preference in men.  Girl’s girls will typically have high demands in male quality criteria (usually based on his wealth and status, but sometimes on his physical attractiveness level too), however as we know, there are far more attractive women in the world than high quality men in supply.  In sheer mathematics terms then, a high percentage of girl’s girls would be left waiting forever if they only settled for men at the highest end of male sought after calibre.

However, over time a woman will reduce her demands once the female group starts to diminish into numbers barely more than herself, and the irritation of being single for too long, simultaneous to her female friends broadcasting how great their male partners are (broadcasting that will rarely be as true or objective as they claim it to be), will lead to her looking at the next tier below in male offerings.  If still unable to locate a male suitor in that tier, she will reluctantly look in the tier below. 

If typical said girl’s girl is the usual 7.5/10 to 8.5/10 in physical attractiveness, there will be a huge pool of men for her to select from.  As most men (75% as a conservative estimation) will fall into mediocrity (not just physical looks, but most other metrics too) in male sought after terms, this will manifest as an end concept of seven or eight men out there for every single girl’s girl.  Some of these men will be single anyway, but even most men with girlfriends would ditch their better halves for an opportunity to be with a hotter woman.

Q-tip 2:

Only marriage will stand in the way of most men ditching their lesser looking female partners for the opportunity with a much hotter woman.  Absence of marriage, there are very few consequences he needs to consider.

A final thought

You will hear a lot of women bemoan the circumstance that the reason they are single is because they can’t find a man.  You can call bullshit on this claim.  What she is really saying (without having the courage to say it) is that she can’t find a man (at that particular time in her life) who meets the criteria of her demands and expectations.  

Any woman of 7/10 (And I’d even go as low as 6.5/10) or above should never have difficulty in finding a man once she grasps the reality of life, expectations, and the sheer gender number comparisons as explained above.  If she is single, and she consequently holds a grudge with life about it, she needs to take a closer look to home.

If any woman below 6.5/10 is single, she has a more justified reason to complain about being single for too long.  In this case, she faces the unfortunate circumstance where the majority of men are simply scouting for something a bit better.  There are still plenty of men out there for her, she just has to be realistic to the kind of men who will commit.

Wednesday, 21 April 2021

Men’s mistakes in replicating women’s habits

 

“Turn the mirror away from you.  This way you become in control of yourself naturally.”

  

I, like many, was extremely happy when the gyms reopened last Monday in the United Kingdom.  Unlike a lot of women, including attractive women, who have clearly piled some winter pounds on during the last four months, I have pretty much maintained my body profile minus a bit of muscle size.  I’m glad to be back in the routine, nonetheless. 

I only joined this current gym last September, and allowing for shutdowns, this would mean I’ve barely been attending more than three months in essence.  One man who stood out, for the wrong reasons, was a man who wore the over ear (and hence, oversized) headphones.  The guy is around 6ft 2” tall, average looking facially, with an above average but not overly striking body profile.  He strikes me as, without me knowing him on a personal level, someone who rates himself a fair bit higher than objectivity shows.  It wouldn’t surprise me if he is one of those men working in a middle to upper management position in construction, accountancy, law or similar, with the BMW/Audi/Mercedes company car to suit.  If I’ve met one man like that in my life, then I’ve met thousands of others.

I emphasise the over ear headphones, because I think this accessory doesn’t do men any favours with regards to a person’s perception and interpretation of his confidence.  If a man holds desires to make women find him more attractive, remember that women are assessing his confidence levels more than anything else.  If said man falls below this required benchmark level on her part, he is running on an uphill treadmill from the start. 

But many women wear these headphones…?

Yes they do, but as much as women wear them because they hope people will interpret this as them (said woman) being cool, busy, and zoned into training, the bigger truth is it is an insecurity characteristic that attempts to conceal the lack of inner assurance to interact and hold eye contact with anyone other than someone she knows.

This isn’t a big issue at all to women, because men don’t judge women on confidence levels.  Most men even prefer women with shy, insecure, and low confidence traits.  Basically, as long as a woman looks good, men barely give a thought to other factors (other than her personality when considering the longer term).

The other way round….

On the other hand, women place far less emphasis on the way a man looks (as has been documented numerous times on this blog, it can be counter-productive for a man to look too good) and far greater attention to other factors.  Until the time she has knowledge of his wealth and status levels, the only other metrics, outside of physical attractiveness, she can judge him on is confidence and body language.  Don’t throw this down the toilet.

As a shopping list, here is an unexhaustive list of things a man should do:

·       Strong posture

·       Walking with his head held high, eyes looking in a totally straight direction

·       Acknowledging people when they walk past with a slight nod

·       Indifferent, but slight smirk facial expression when walking past people

·       Positive walking action, but not too shoulder swaying in attempts to try too hard

·       Strong voice tone, but not too loud to again bring try hard attention to himself

·       Eradication of wearing items like headphones which illustrates he isn’t confident and at ease with the social environment

·       Good dress style, but in a clean and effortless manner

·       Great hygiene

·       Tone of eau de toilette, but relevant to the occasion (If in gym, two to three sprays.  If going to work, four to five sprays.  If on a social occasion, six to seven sprays dependant on strength)

A final thought

This is a shorter post than usual, but I don’t think much more needs to be said.  There are so many luxuries an average (and also below average) looking man has to attract women of greater physical attractiveness in gender relative terms than the equivalent looking woman has to attract sought after men.  Take advantage of this undeniable life situation.

Q-tip:

A woman wants a man who is above her in as many comparable metrics as possible, with the exception of physical attractiveness. 

Tuesday, 30 March 2021

Women dissing better men than the men they are with


Ernest Hemingway once wrote, 

"The world is a great place and worth fighting for."  I agree with the second part.

(William Somerset: Se7en, 1995)

  

A reader asks a question on the back of this previous post.  It is a question that could be seen as a very strange concept in life, but with life experience and knowledge of how women psychologically work, there is an easy explanation:

 Hey vinny, I get this alot from women. I am well built from home workouts so I get quite the looks in public. I would rate myself a solid 8 on the rise.

My question is when a woman is with her bf or husband and she makes a joke or nag on my appearance what would this mean ? This happened at the park today and the guy she was with was average from an honest opinion.
If she is so into him why would she even mention me in any kind of way joking or not, is there something going on in her subconscious mind about me?
 

My response:

As has been mentioned what seems like a thousand times on this blog, all else equal (and often all else not even equal) in vast majority (90%) cases a woman will opt for a less physically attractive man as a partner than her own physical attractiveness assessment.  This gap – of how much less physically attractive a man she desires to be with - is typically 10% to 15%, but it can often be higher than this disparity range.

As has also been mentioned 999 times on this blog, it is important to emphasize said woman is selecting this less attractive man to make herself feel better about life based on his comparative lesser physical allure.  It is an ego-based motivation.  In addition, women know that the bigger the gap a man is below her physical attractiveness, the more he will appreciate her.  The more he appreciates her, the more he exerts and spends on her.  This act on behalf of men is counter-productive in winning a woman’s heart and keeping her interested, but it does stroke her ego to the point where she feels better about life and herself.  She just doesn’t feel better about being with him.

For further clarity then, a woman is picking out a lesser looking man to fulfil her self-importance in life, massage her ego, and provide herself with the most materialistic life possible.  Genuine love and positive sex – and the fulfilment she can attain in being with a man who will provide this for her – are most certainly secondary to the primary aforementioned motivations. 

An additional couple of points to the above, in terms of why women are often found with lesser looking men, are:

1) At a younger age (in particular pre 30), women on a wholesale basis are more physically attractive than men in gender relative terms.  Therefore, even in the unlikely and minority event where a woman would entertain, or even proact, in being with a man as or more physically pleasing to the eye than her, the sheer numbers alone usually enforce her to be with a lesser looking man.

2) Women don't take kindly to being single for very long.  Even career girls, girl group hungry women, or social media whores eventually prefer to be validated in proof of girlfriend status.  With this is mind, a woman will settle for a lesser looking man, even when she is not that into him, in order to show the world that somebody loves her

Why did she diss you?

Now the parameters have been set out, onto the meat in your question.  I can relate to what you experienced, as it has happened on dozens of occasions to me too. 

The first point of call is to know what is going on in that little subconscious, and sometimes conscious, mind of hers.  Deep down she knows, again perhaps more subconscious (or at least refusing to openly accept it) than conscious, that the reason she picks out mediocre looking men as like the man you described is because of the reasons I illustrated above.  You didn’t mention her physical attractiveness level, but reading between the lines she is above him in a more than pronounced upward leverage. 

Because deep down she knows why she has picked out this man in a settling (not to be confused with settling down) mentality capacity, there will always be a degree of resentment on her part that is not only projected onto him, but also onto herself.  This resentment can be mitigated to an extent if the lesser looking man has high status (social or professional) and wealth, however even then she will always be wondering what it would be like in being with a more aesthetically gifted man.  When you see movies where the underlying plot is based around an extremely attractive woman sitting by the mansion poolside whilst her rich (but uninspiring looking) husband is at work, and she is fantasizing and carrying out acts of infidelity with a hot man, rest assured that the far-fetched storyline that may exist elsewhere in the film has most definitely replicated what goes on in any other woman’s mind in this respect.

This resentment and jealousy of your significant better physical looks, in comparison to her male partner, uncontrollably acts as a way for her to try and ease and counteract this negative feeling she experiences for those few seconds (or longer if it was a meeting of another kind).  Her piss taking of you is not a product of genuine and natural verbal execution, but simply a way to try and make her feel better about herself once more.  In that moment, she is thinking of the words “jerk”, “playa”, “crap boyfriend material”, “cheater”, “poser”, “a man who takes longer in the mirror than her”, or “a man who has nothing more than his good looks”.  For a few seconds if nothing else, she has convinced her mind that she is better off with the man alongside her.  

Of course, any man who knows how women work will know why she acted this way, and in your case you should take this as the biggest back-handed compliment around. 

Q-tip:

In a woman’s mind, the opposite of love is not hate.  The opposite of love is when she feels totally indifferent towards a man to the point where he may as well be invisible.  If you can’t be loved by a woman, it is no bad thing at all to be hated by her. 

Hopefully, this explains the reason why she was negative towards you.  When women stop looking at you – whether in admiration or hostility – and refrain from dissing you in the way you documented, this is the day when you are no longer attractive to women in the way you once were.  It is a similar dynamic to the way a woman experiences inundated male glances, attention and expenditure when she is 21, and for every year that passes by, the quantity decreases.  By the time she has reached 30 (and 35 even more so), she may as well be a different person who graces the earth.

A final thought – possible comebacks

I know it’s not easy to always have a spur of the moment response when - as women do in a gutless way rather than eye to eye - make these silly comments when walking the opposite way, it’s a self-enriching process to have a few lines to fire back at her:

·       “As long as you feel better about yourself in being with him, sweetheart.”

·       “When you want a real man and better sex, come and see me, babe.”

·       “Sounds like someone has a thing for me!?”

·       “Most women would die to sit on this body.  Wow, you must be different to them.”

·       “I guess you’re a girl who isn’t bothered about men’s looks then?”

All of the above will, whilst not saying it in direct form, allow her to know what you are getting at.  She will know exactly what you infer, and in that moment you have fully negated her sassy and stupid comment.  She will wish she never opened her mouth.

Part of me doesn’t like the comments I offer, as it may well be that the man she is with is just a genuine, honest, likeable and nice guy.  Unfortunately for him, if this is the case, his girlfriend crossed me, so it left me with no choice but to load my gun and shoot back. 

My preferred strategy is when a woman would actually say this sassy comment face to face, and then not run off in cowardice fashion. At that point I would bombard her with discrete but understandable psychology in the form of what I write in this blog.  This scenario has rarely happened to me, as again there aren’t many women who have the guts to do this and hold their ground.  Women are in far greater comfort zone when they don’t put themselves at risk to hear things their prides couldn’t bear to hear.

On the isolated occasions this has happened, as soon as I have given them a mild dose of psychological explanation in alluding to their insecurities (in dissing me or picking a lesser looking man), they have more often than not immediately walked off without response.  You could argue I have cut my nose to spike my face – as it may have been an opportunity for short term sex – but from my experience, the body language in a woman gives it away from the get-go.  

In essence, if she said this comment with a slight smile and awkward demeanour, I’d be much softer with my response in thinking she does quietly want me to take things further.  If the female approach is with fire in her belly, resentment in her face, and hostility towards my existence, I would act out exactly as explained.  There is no way this woman would touch me with a barge pole – at least three weeks in the month anyway!

Thursday, 4 March 2021

Paternity Fraud: How common is it?


“There’s a reason a rock doesn’t move far, whilst pebbles scatter like dust.”

 

This video link comes with a warning.  It’s not for the faint-hearted or romantic types out there.  Even I, as one of the most uncompassionate and unforgiving people out there in this respect, didn’t enjoy watching through to the inevitable ending.  It gives me no pleasure that knowing what goes on in the world tears away at people’s (mainly men’s) hearts.  I’m just willing enough, unlike most, to face up to this truth and reality.

Now there is more than a fair chance this was all scripted in order to spread the message across.  We can but speculate.  It’s also a possibility that the people involved know of or suspect of a woman who has, with proof or otherwise, implemented this paternity fraud strategy to maximise her life opportunity and welfare.  What we cannot say is that is does not occur.  How common it happens, is open to debate with the assistance of cloudy evidence.

In my view, there isn’t a great deal of valid source out there to offer objectivity regarding how many men are victims of this despicable action by women.  Forums are a waste of time looking at, simply because they will belong to extreme opinions and anecdotes.  On the one hand you will have pockets of men (belonging to the tiny minority of male population who are willing to face up to female dark sides and misdemeanours) who will be so misogynistic in this respect that they may allow their objectivity to be superseded by their passion of knowing how hard done by men are in the modern world.  On the other hand, and in far greater numbers, will sit women who will try and justify their actions in situations of such kind, or more likely deny that it happens very often.

I offer a snapshot taken from Wikipedia:

Research published in 2016 indicated that one in 50 British fathers is unknowingly raising a child who is the biological child of another man, and that misattributed paternity is rarer than commonly believed.

A 2005 scientific review of international published studies of paternal discrepancy found a range in incidence, around the world, from 0.8% to 30% (median 3.7%).  However, as many of the studies were conducted between the 1950s and the 1980s, numbers may be unreliable due to the inaccuracies of genetic testing methods and procedures used at the time. Studies ranging in date from 1991 to 1999 quote the following incidence rates: 11.8% (Mexico), 4.0% (Canada), 2.8% (France), 1.4% and 1.6% (UK), and 0.8% (Switzerland). These numbers suggest that the widely quoted and unsubstantiated figure of 10% of non-paternal events is an overestimate. However, in studies that solely looked at couples who obtained paternity testing because paternity was being disputed, there are higher levels: an incidence of 17% to 33% (median of 26.9%). Most at risk were those born to younger parents, to unmarried couples and those of lower socio-economic status, or from certain cultural groups.

A 2008 study in the United Kingdom found that biological fathers were misidentified in 0.2% (1 in 500) of the cases processed by the Child Support Agency. Of that 0.2%, those resolved with DNA paternity testing between 2004 and 2008 showed that between 10 and 19% of mothers had misidentified the biological father; data about why mothers identified the wrong biological father was not available.

 

I’ve highlighted the critical part simply because, in my interpretation, the rest of it is only relevant to men who have never pursued a paternity test and most likely never suspected or been willing enough to face up to the possibility that they are not the biological father.  With this in mind, the highlighted segment is the only pertinent language due to it illustrating the figures when men insisted on a paternity test, or at least a paternity test was carried out.  No surprises then that when tests are undertaken the higher figure of over one in four men being victim of wrongful fatherhood identity and upbringing.  In some cases, this would be nearer to one in three men.


What do I believe?

As much as I’m a cynical person in this whole field, I have to admit that I didn’t think it would be as high as a 26.9% statistic of men who are bringing up kids who aren’t, in essence, their legal responsibility.  I thought it would be nearer to around 15%.  If my perception is below the actuality, we really do have problems here.


The reason I thought it would be little more than one in ten women who strategically convince one man he is the father concurrent to knowing another man biologically is the father is because I stand by my thoughts documented in the previous post.  In other words, I’m a firmer advocator that a woman is inclined to get pregnant without her male partner’s consent or agreement when the time suits her to have a child.  Maybe I need to rethink this.  It leads one to suspect that many women are not only getting pregnant when it suits them, but they are also playing the “Alpha Fux, Beta Bucks” game simultaneously too.  Have the good genes from the edgier and more aesthetic man, and the provisioning luxury and reliability from the nice guy sucker.

 

A final thought


For a moment, let’s just say the video is born out of the truth.  I think women need to be exposed in this way, and equally they should be criticized for these respective care-free actions until the cows come home.  We have encountered a western world society over the last generation that appears to be way too forgiving when women make mistakes (or more likely strategic choices) of this nature, yet it has them never or rarely being responsible or accountable when the shit hits the fan so to speak.  Conversely, society seems to willingly and eagerly condemn men for even the slightest wrong move made.  Hypocrisy and convenience strike the middle pin once more.

 

What the world should be doing, if it has any interest in making it a better place and producing happier relationships for the long term, is broadcasting as loud as possible when women do act out of line.  In addition, it should highlight detrimental consequences they face when doing so.  Until this day consistently happens, women will, with next to no remorse or contrition, continue to believe they can have their cake and eat it.  They will constantly think they can carry out these wrongful acts, in the knowledge there will always be a safety net to catch them when they fall. 

 

One thing I do know is that, no matter how hot the woman is, no matter how good a potential long-term partner she is, and no matter how much I am in love with her, I would not even contemplate for a single second staying loyal to her if she put the wool over my eyes for all these months or years.  The same applies if I was cheated on.  Unfortunately, there is too great a number of men who would forgive and try to forget.

 

Q-tip:

Every pregnancy should be compulsory to go through a paternity test to confirm the man is the father.  No circumstance should be exempt.  This would soon reduce paternity fraud in a significant manner, and it would finally make women see sense that they cannot play childish games with men’s lives as if it were picking out a pair of shoes they can take back to the store the following week.

 


Acknowledgements and References

Youtube.com

Wikipedia

Monday, 8 February 2021

Women’s life strategy pregnancies

“If life is a lottery, how many of us buy a winning ticket?”

  

About a year ago, I saw a young man who looked no older than 21 walk into the semi-detached house opposite to me on the cul-de-sac where I live.  Since I’ve been living here, I’ve lost count of how many different residents have come and gone in that particular house, therefore it is obviously rented accommodation. 

As the weeks passed by, I then saw a woman who looked a few years older than him walk into the same house.  She was carrying a baby.  I haven’t had a conversation with any of them, however my next-door neighbour works with the young man at a nearby car manufacturing company. 

As further weeks passed, now well into the COVID-19 pandemic and associated restrictions, I saw another woman pull up and knock on their door.  She also was carrying a baby.  It wouldn’t surprise me if the woman who pulled up was my neighbour’s (the female neighbour) sister, but it could just as easily be her friend.

Did he want to be a Dad?

Call me cynical, but I find it hard to believe that a man barely in his twenties, earning likely well below average wages and still in his theoretical liberated days, would have chosen to be a father at this stage in his life.  Call me further cynical, but I also find it incredibly coincidental that two women, either sisters or close friends, just so happen to get pregnant at the same time and have babies of remarkably similar age. 

This all begs the question to how many pregnancies are an example of when the man is on board.  I have never been a father - most likely through a combination of destiny, circumstance, being astute minded, and some admitted lucky escapes (the one not so lucky escape some years ago was my own fault, as she had made me fully aware of her contraceptive situation) – but if I was in that position I would like to think, perhaps being too optimistic in this day and age, that this conversation could take place:

Her: “Darling, you need to know that I’m not on the pill, or I’m thinking of going off the pill because it causes me bad side effects I don’t want to have any longer.  So, you need to either wear condoms or we take the risk of what could happen.” 

Me: Okay sweetheart, at least I know, and we can make that decision together.  Basically, we’re not close to being ready to be parents together, so I’ll wrap up for now.  If we do ever drop our guard and the worst happens, we then have nobody to blame but ourselves.” 

Pie in the sky?  Too much to ask in modern society?  All I will say is that I have been lucky to an extent that most girlfriends I have dated for over a month (I took it upon myself to wear condoms before this timescale) have been honest with me and told me they were on the pill, or otherwise.  I think this has more to do with the fact these women, by and large, were very much characteristic “girl’s girls” – hence more interested in their own life, career and/or self-importance to contemplate the hassles of motherhood. 

Coincidence or what?

Take a look at this video I caught on the news last week.  

It defies belief that on one street a range of apparently similar aged women all fall pregnant around the same time.  One of them alludes to the pregnancy coincidences being due to a lack of social offerings during lockdown therefore people are having more sexual intercourse with more time on their hands.  I think that is a convenient (but believable to the masses) reason which is used to cloud over the real reason.  The real reason, in my view, is because women use it as an excuse to have a child when they want to have one.  When they see other friends, and foes nearby, getting pregnant, they don’t desire to be left out.

You’ll see three male partners out of the six women referenced in the video.  I could have closed my eyes, and ears, and these men would have looked and sounded just as I expected them to.  Feminine, weakly spoken, lapdog characteristics, and basically the secondary importance within the relationship.  Goodness gracious, where have the real men gone…?

Unplanned pregnancy percentages

There are a few conflicting sources online that would lead you scratching your head to what the accurate percentage of planned or unplanned pregnancies result in.  This article will be one of the more truthful out there, illustrating a 45 percent of total pregnancies in the United States each year being unintended.  In any case, the statistics are only as good as the truth behind the words of the people declaring this information.  It doesn’t take a genius to fathom that there are many women, and men, out there claiming a pregnancy was planned when deep down they know it was not.  I guess it is a pride thing at the end of the day.

The article would leave an innocent reader to think that the contraceptive pill and condoms are a terrible source of birth control.  I’m no medical expert at all, but in all the time I have relied on women telling me they were on the pill and using it properly and responsibly, in addition to the other times I used condoms, if these contraceptive offerings were so ineffective then why aren’t I paying child custody for a small soccer team?  You may say I’m firing blanks?  My answer to that would be, at least prior to chemotherapy, I attained a fully normal sperm count as tests proved.  So, were all these women infertile?  Highly unlikely.

The true reason

The truth of “unplanned” pregnancies, if we are willing to face up to it, is one of three reasons in the main:

1)    Women are not on the pill when they tell their male partners they are.  The likelihood is she wants to get pregnant.

2)    Women skip the pill, or are strategically irresponsible, to coincide with a lack of barrier during their most fertile days.  She consciously wants to get pregnant.

3)    Women avoid having an in-depth conversation at all with their male partners about whether she is on the pill or not.  The likely scenario is she, whilst not being totally in conviction, thinks having a child will be a good change in her life pattern.

A final thought

As I documented in this post a few years ago, there are tell-tale signs to detect women who will contrive a pregnancy to suit their life.  You can never be totally sure even if you are a smart man, however with a bit of good screening you can place better odds in your favour in what to do.

I stress you can never be totally sure, because although I would humbly rate myself as a smarter man than most in this respect, I’m the first to admit that if a woman tells me she is on the pill, I usually trust her words and hope she acts with integrity.  I guess the dice is rolled on my part if she has future motives and plans that aren’t on the same path as mine.

And I don’t desire to be a total hypocrite.  I’ve said a number of times to people that I shouldn’t be here.  My mother and father should have known by then they weren’t right for each other, and in turn not conceived me.  My older brother I can accept, but not me.  So, it’s more than a chance that I was not planned by both parties.

Q-tip:

The societal birth rate requires both genders to produce, but only one has full control.

 

Acknowledgements and References

Youtube.com

BBC News

The Washington Post

Tuesday, 2 February 2021

Are uglier women more open to good-looking men?

 

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

  

A loyal, dedicated and inquisitive reader asks for my thoughts on the previous post.


I am surprised the 16-23 bracket isn't higher for woman 1. I would have expected 60-70%. But looking back on my personal experience the most obvious signs were/are from women in their 30s.

I had a few questions for you somewhat related to this topic.

I notice generally, older/uglier/heavier women seem more likely to appreciate a man's physical looks (or at least be more vocal about it) than highly attractive or even above average looking women.
Is it because of

a) Do older/uglier/ heavier women have less to lose and more to gain by catching the guy than the attractive girl so they can "swing for the fences"? Ala your post about an ugly girl with 50/1 odds as opposed to an attractive girl with 2/1 odds betting on the horse.

b) Because the older/uglier/women have had less butt kissing from men throughout their lives they have less of an ego and are more secure (relatively speaking) compared to the attractive women?

c) It's a massive ego boost to the older/uglier/heavier woman to land a good looking guy, so they will work to reel him in and make it very easy for him?

d) They truly value male physical looks more than the attractive woman?

Your post was very thought provoking and really made me sit down and think. If you listen to all these red pill/black pill pundits, and take what they say as fact, you'd assume the girls in the age bracket 16-23, 90% - 95% would be woman 1 and clearly that is not the case.

 

My response: 

Your comments sum up it up admirably.  I will add in accordance:

a)    In essence, you are right.  An older/uglier/heavier woman will not receive the feeling of emotional rejection any better than a hotter woman, but on a bang for buck basis she will have more to gain (due to a greater leverage of self-importance) and less to lose (as she will have pretty much assumed she has no hope anyway) in being declined by a good-looking man.

b)    Correct.  Whilst I wouldn’t say the older/uglier/heavier woman is any more secure of herself in significant terms, the fact she hasn’t experienced the plaudits from female friends or male lapdog friends/boyfriends to illustrate her beauty, her ego isn’t as large, and her pride isn’t as fragile.

c)     A cute or hot woman possesses her own validation and self-importance from knowledge of her own high scale physical looks.  She does not need a good-looking man in her hand to verify this.  An older/uglier/heavier woman, needless to say, has no such validation luxury.  With this in mind, you find the less attractive women being more proactive, forthcoming and sexually easier than better looking women.

d)    It’s important to emphasise that a cute or hot woman will value the sexual arousal and heart-racing feelings a top end physically attractive man will give her every bit as much as the lesser looking women you reference.  I would go as far to say that said cute or, and especially, hot woman even values it more, such is the fact she can sniff closer reality to experiencing it for herself.  Nevertheless, as explained in c), the distinction is the zealous approach a lesser looking woman will take in comparison to the better-looking woman. 

Now on to your first paragraph – in relation to women aged 16-23.  At the most, I could be stretched to a 50/50 split (bear in mind I documented in the post as 40% will act out as Woman 1), but no more than this.  The fact I analysed from the female age of 16 also has a pronounced impact.  At the female age of 16 to 18, the highest prioritised male metric is social status (even more so than from 19 to 21), but at that male age a young man’s physical looks portrays predominance as his social status anyway.  Exceptions could be an ugly or mediocre looking male DJ, bartender, or similar local profile role.  So ultimately a majority of 16 to 18 year old women will happily, and often eagerly, seek out the best-looking men.

Next, moving on to your comment about the pundits.  All I will say is, in respect to 16 to 23 year old women, two things:

1)    If there are 90%-95% of women in this age range who place ultimate priority on their sexual and heart racing requirements, I would love to live in this world.  I most certainly don’t see it as the case.  I would have loved to live in this world during my University days if so.  Nevertheless, granted women at this age do place a greater need for blessed male aesthetic value.  It just isn’t near to the percentages these pundits claim it is.

2)    These pundits must judge male physical attractiveness levels far more generously and compassionately than I do.  I can only assume that what they see as an above-average looking man (7/10 to 7.75/10) to me is a good-looking man to them.  If this is the case, then yes, you could argue the hottest women want to be with these men.  But to me, these men are above-average only.  This is why you see most 8/10 to 8.5/10 women with 7/10 to 7.75/10 men.  And more than a few women opt to go below 7/10 too, which only further exemplifies Woman 2 as described. 

Q-tip:

Honesty and objectivity do not derive from wishful thinking.  They are the product of facing up to the truth and reality, and the opening of your eyes to what the world is really like.

A final thought

It should be pointed out, and for the purpose of not being misguided, that it is still only a small minority of older/uglier/heavier women who are more open, and often proactive, to the path towards the best looking men.  Don't think there are hoards of these women going out their way to strike gold with the hottest men for the reasons as explained above.  Most still won't, it's just that in percentage terms there will be more older/fatter/heavier women taking on this role than cute and hot women.

In fact, and I most certainly go from first hand experience, some of the most acrimonious, hostile, and sometimes physically aggressive (barging past me for no reason with robust contact) demeanour has come from the compartment of older/uglier/heavier women.  I knew none of these women.  I can only assume that I put their nose out of joint due to the inferiority complex placed on them, in addition to their perception of me being a playboy or golden balls who has everything he wants.

So whilst a hot guy can make a cute or hot woman feel less important about herself, he most definitely also manifests negative emotions onto the less attractive women too.  It's just a different kind of negative emotion produced.