“Getting
up earlier won’t make the sun rise any sooner.”
There were a few reasons the woman verbalized to me in
terms of her jettison reasoning, some true and some not so true I would expect,
but there was one explanation that stood out which was quite direct at her husband’s
shortcomings. I cannot quite remember the
exact words or justification.
When I spoke to the husband shortly after her
departure, he was very much heartbroken and searching for rationale. He asked me to tell him anything she had said
that might give him closure, therefore I reluctantly declared the direct words
she had informed. Before I could even catch
breath, he totally dismissed this could at all be the reason. In essence, he didn’t want to accept any
deficiency on his part.
There are four main ways a man fails in being any
good with women:
·
He often refuses to accept the misdemeanours, lies and
manipulations accustomed to the lives of a high percentage of modern-day women,
and in particular a woman he is involved with.
·
He disregards any possibility that her lack of interest,
or dwindling interest, is a consequence of failures belonging to him that
severs his inner pride
·
He holds a mindset she is too good for him.
·
He refuses to believe she simply isn’t interested in
him.
Only last week I sat in the gym coffee area to do some work prior to a meeting. Having performed this same routine for a while now, the young woman who works on front desk (an 8/10 in looks) always made it her business to bring me a coffee and stand to talk for at least twenty minutes. Over the last few weeks, she had given me embarrassed looks on many occasions. On at least two instances she went out of her way to inform me she was single. When I casually asked her last week if she wanted to take some lunch together, there appeared no hesitation whatsoever as she passed over her number.
Hopefully as an advanced writer in the field of female
emotional psychology, my text interactions were in accordance with the intuition
gained from her personality and general experience acquired from many other
women. As it turns out, her responses over
the last seven days have been brief, intermittent and lacking any in true
enthusiasm. Apathetic at best.
I could list a near dozen possible reasons to explain
her sudden change from excitement to apathy, but it’s simply not worth dwelling
on. If I had the inclination to ask her,
she would just give me a bullshit story.
The facts of the matter are I must accept that she simply isn’t interested
in taking things further, pending a huge change of emotion or motivation on her
part. Move onto the next.
And once you rebel against the golden four rules as
documented above, over time your mind manifests to bring about lower
expectations in women. Call it water off
a duck’s back, if you will. I’m not going
to lie and say I’m not slightly disappointed, because I am. I’m no stranger to women rejecting me through
their perception of my character (hence them not knowing me on a personal level),
but this woman had the opportunity to analyse my personality and see there is
some brain to go with the brawn. So, disappointment
- yes. Frustration, surprised and
bitterness – no.
Q-tip 1:
If you expect little from women, and in turn start to
second guess and predict their likely moves, you will accustom yourself to view
them more easily as interchangeable and moveable commodities. You start to use them in a very much similar
way to how they use you.
Q-tip 2:
There is a nuance between a woman not being interested
in a man, against a woman not being interested in taking things further with a
man. In the case of the former, a woman
is simply not attracted to the man or/and she finds him unappealing. In the case of the latter, this in fact can
often be a scenario where she is very attracted to him and finds him more than
appealing, but her lack of confidence, high insecurity, low trust thresholds
and big ego forces her mind to forbid in venturing on.