Monday 10 June 2019

Accepting she doesn’t like you


“Getting up earlier won’t make the sun rise any sooner.”


I recall a time in my early twenties when speaking to a woman who was nearly thirty years my senior, and she confided in me regarding her impending decision to leave her husband.  Her husband was ten years older (than her), and although they had been “together” for a decade, they had only lived under the roof and been married for less than a couple of years within this timeframe.   Knowing the woman, the man I reference was nothing more than a validation tool, a source of internal attention on her part, and a release from an existing unhappy first marriage she lived in prior and during the decade or so I document.  She never really loved him, and in truth he was simply a stopgap and stepping stone to something better.

There were a few reasons the woman verbalized to me in terms of her jettison reasoning, some true and some not so true I would expect, but there was one explanation that stood out which was quite direct at her husband’s shortcomings.  I cannot quite remember the exact words or justification. 

When I spoke to the husband shortly after her departure, he was very much heartbroken and searching for rationale.  He asked me to tell him anything she had said that might give him closure, therefore I reluctantly declared the direct words she had informed.  Before I could even catch breath, he totally dismissed this could at all be the reason.  In essence, he didn’t want to accept any deficiency on his part.

There are four main ways a man fails in being any good with women:

·       He often refuses to accept the misdemeanours, lies and manipulations accustomed to the lives of a high percentage of modern-day women, and in particular a woman he is involved with.
·       He disregards any possibility that her lack of interest, or dwindling interest, is a consequence of failures belonging to him that severs his inner pride

·       He holds a mindset she is too good for him.
·       He refuses to believe she simply isn’t interested in him.


Only last week I sat in the gym coffee area to do some work prior to a meeting.  Having performed this same routine for a while now, the young woman who works on front desk (an 8/10 in looks) always made it her business to bring me a coffee and stand to talk for at least twenty minutes.  Over the last few weeks, she had given me embarrassed looks on many occasions.  On at least two instances she went out of her way to inform me she was single.  When I casually asked her last week if she wanted to take some lunch together, there appeared no hesitation whatsoever as she passed over her number.

Hopefully as an advanced writer in the field of female emotional psychology, my text interactions were in accordance with the intuition gained from her personality and general experience acquired from many other women.  As it turns out, her responses over the last seven days have been brief, intermittent and lacking any in true enthusiasm.  Apathetic at best.

I could list a near dozen possible reasons to explain her sudden change from excitement to apathy, but it’s simply not worth dwelling on.  If I had the inclination to ask her, she would just give me a bullshit story.  The facts of the matter are I must accept that she simply isn’t interested in taking things further, pending a huge change of emotion or motivation on her part.  Move onto the next.

And once you rebel against the golden four rules as documented above, over time your mind manifests to bring about lower expectations in women.  Call it water off a duck’s back, if you will.  I’m not going to lie and say I’m not slightly disappointed, because I am.  I’m no stranger to women rejecting me through their perception of my character (hence them not knowing me on a personal level), but this woman had the opportunity to analyse my personality and see there is some brain to go with the brawn.  So, disappointment - yes.  Frustration, surprised and bitterness – no.

Q-tip 1:
If you expect little from women, and in turn start to second guess and predict their likely moves, you will accustom yourself to view them more easily as interchangeable and moveable commodities.  You start to use them in a very much similar way to how they use you.

Q-tip 2:
There is a nuance between a woman not being interested in a man, against a woman not being interested in taking things further with a man.  In the case of the former, a woman is simply not attracted to the man or/and she finds him unappealing.  In the case of the latter, this in fact can often be a scenario where she is very attracted to him and finds him more than appealing, but her lack of confidence, high insecurity, low trust thresholds and big ego forces her mind to forbid in venturing on.

Wednesday 5 June 2019

The not so body beautiful women go for

  “No purpose, no point.”


As a huge boxing fan, and secondary to this week’s launch of crappy Love Island UK, it came across to me as a worthwhile reminder of the male body women actually go for and choose in a long-term partner.  It is imperative, for any valid analyzation, to distinguish between what women desire in longevity aspects in comparison to what they are sexually turned on by.

On Saturday night, the professional sport of boxing brought about a mind-blowing surprise that resulted in Mexico’s (Mexican/American) Andy Ruiz Jr beating Britain’s Anthony Joshua.  Ruiz consequently, for now at least, became the unified heavyweight champion of the world.  Joshua was more than just a heavyweight champion.  Although not too well-known in America, he had become the highest profile sports star in the United Kingdom, and his wealth and fame illustrates this undeniable consequence. 

What made people scratch their heads even more was down to the polar opposite physical aesthetics and stature of both men.  Even if you do not follow boxing, your eyes cannot hide from the below image.



At the risk of technical explanation, Ruiz in fact could, and probably did, attain better cardiovascular endurance than Joshua on fight night.  Ruiz also has a far more advanced amateur pedigree than Joshua prior to turning professional, and this manifests in a “boxing muscle brain memory” that allows greater decisions to be made when hurt.  In essence, a body beautiful isn’t always the most effective and productive profile to produce in heavyweight boxing.  Ruiz was most likely better prepared fighter for a boxing match.  He just looks like Grimace from McDonalds' because he eats a lot.

Nevertheless, what intrigued me the most about the two extreme sides of physical stature belonging to both men was how the general public looked upon both fighters in the lead up to the big event.  Which body do you think the average men on the street would aspire to have, and which one did they perhaps somewhat laugh at?  Needless to say - Joshua and Ruiz respectively.  In respect to women (who would know not the first thing about boxing) looking on, which man were they salivating over when the top was off, and which one were they repulsed by?  Again, it would obviously be Joshua in the former, and Ruiz in the latter. 

But women aren't logical

As a reminder to the purpose, this previously published post will give more than enough real-life evidence to explain the differences in how women are emotionally moved by a man’s body.  All else equal, most women would rather have sex with a man possessing Joshua’s physique, yet become the long-term partner to a man attaining Ruiz’s figure.  You will find a lot of women claiming that they would choose Joshua when in fact they would opt for Ruiz, mainly to hold down their integrity and score troll points in front of their friends.  As always though, watch what women do rather than listen to what they say. 

But Joshua would have more women after him than Ruiz?

Absolutely he would, but this is only because he is famous and rich.  As I’ve documented on more than a couple of occasions within this blog, male high status and wealth – and the status whoring and easier life as a by-product they bring to a woman’s life - will reluctantly enforce her mind to erase the thought of being with a top end physically attractive man. 

Q-tip:
If there’s enough of an incentive to improve her life, a woman will move away from her distastes.  This applies to reluctant venturing on with men who belong to both the grotesque and physically blessed extremes of the male population.