“What she doesn’t have is what she wants, and
what she doesn’t want, but is something
else her female counterpart could have, she doesn’t want her to have it.”
There are a
few reasons why you see a considerable higher ratio of male personal trainers
in the gym you attend in comparison to female personal trainers.
One reason
is, in simple terms, even in today’s world men represent a higher percentage of
the overall working population. This may
seem obvious, but it needs pointing out.
Outside of the retail industry and occasional other trades, there will
usually be more men than women in a working environment.
Another
reason is that, by and large, a man won’t believe he can gain physical results
he desires by taking the advice of a woman who holds expertise in this
field. She could in some ways be more
beneficial to him than her male counterpart, but a gym member of male gender
will rarely see it this way. When
parting ways with hard earned, honest money, you will go by the perceived law
of average.
Similarly to
the above, the average man will be wondering how the onlookers view him being
trained by a woman. Not good for his
street cred, he may think. Flip the coin
and it is highly unlikely a woman in her gym kit will feel this way in being
trained by a man. Many women will
actually think the male gym instructor will give her a better end product.
Less sought
after (hence less physically attractive) women may like a bit of male company
which they cannot acquire in other living environments. In this case, thirty minutes of attention
from an in-shape man can give her a little reassurance and ego boost that she
needs to get through a depressing week.
Flip the coin once more, and I doubt any half decent man feels the same
way in need of female company. If he is
that desperate, he’d be better off saving the thirty quid or so and using it to
pay a hooker.
Nevertheless,
make no mistake that the main reason, especially if you base it on a decent
percentage of women who attend the gym being >6/10 in the looks bracket, is
due to the pre-selection emotion that goes through a woman’s emotional brain
when seeing a man with other women. In
simple language, when a woman sees a man with another woman - on regular
occasions, with different women, and in flirty contact - she becomes more
attracted to him irrespective to his physical allure or other positive (or
negative) character or provisioning ability offerings.
It’s an easy,
lazy and naive assumption to think that the reason male personal trainers
attain a lot of female admirers is because they all belong to the top (let’s
say top 5%) of physically gifted men in overall physical attractiveness. They work out for a living, so they’re
naturally in shape over and above the average man ploughing away in an
office. Fair point, but again it is a
lazy view. If you analyze it a little
more closely, yes, some are in the top bracket, but some are not.
In essence,
when a woman walks into the gym and sees a male personal trainer flirting with
an attractive woman, and in turn his delegate is smiling with puppy eyes and
giggling back, she becomes jealous that it is not her. She wants to be the one receiving the
attention with a hundred plus people watching on. But when a woman becomes jealous of another
woman being with a man, this can only favour the man in question. When a woman is emotionally jealous, she is
never more attracted onto a man. When a
woman is totally indifferent towards a man when seeing him with another woman,
he may as well be invisible such is her none attraction onto him.
And how does
she counteract this irritable jealous feeling that niggles inside? You guessed it - she signs him up to give her
personal training. Another woman does
the same, as does another, and the manufacturing chain goes on. Supply and demand is part and parcel of any
industry well-being, and ultimately a personal trainer is selling his
product. This is why male personal
trainers are more prevalent than female personal trainers. They are simply more in demand.
Side story
There is one particular
male personal trainer in the gym I attend who backs up my explanation the
most. He is in his late 20’s/early 30’s,
about 5ft 9” tall, naturally in good profiled shape, and facially top 3% even
if not absolutely striking. I’ll give
him 7.5/10 in overall physical attractiveness.
You could say he holds that overall optimum striking shot in being at
the top end of above average looking men, whilst not quite bordering into
unattainability in female eyes.
As others
have come and gone, this guy has stayed at this gym for many years, and
naturally this has allowed women to see him in the company of inundated female
members during this timeframe. You will
often see him giving half an hour of his time to women (usually women
>6.5/10), and I’d hedge a fair bet that many have seen him with women they
feel they can compete with in beauty terms.
I’ve never seen him with a hot delegate (granted, there aren’t that many
hot women in there), and I think there is a story in this alone.
However, his
ex-fiancé is also a personal instructor at the same gym. She is hot, with a pretty much faultless body
and very pretty face. They split up a
couple of years ago, and he is now in a relationship (did I see an engagement
ring on her finger today?) with another attractive woman (albeit not quite on
his ex’s level) who is a regular attendee at the same gym. When you see the two of them in close
proximity, for a guy like me who is naturally observant in this field it is
quite some amusement. I doubt many
others have picked up on this frosty atmosphere between the two women.
I don’t think
the ex-fiancé has ever quite got over him, and seeing him rub it in with the
new girl probably only humiliates (and makes her more attracted to him
simultaneously) even more. My guess is
she has never met anyone on his overall objective level since they parted ways,
and ultimately that is the only way a person truly gets over an ex. One-night stands, short term flings and
social media exploitation help in the immediate term, but they only paper over
the cracks of a broken heart.
Q-Tip:
Any honest person, woman or man, will confess that when
they have been in a relationship with someone they genuinely loved, nobody can
replace them until they meet someone who is at least on the same level. They could go on dozens of dates and still
feel this way. However, when they do
meet that new person who is on equivalence or higher, the ex-lover takes up
barely a moment of their reminiscent mind.
Side note
At the risk of talking about myself, I do play
some part in all this tri-factor. Even
when the ex-fiancé was dating the male personal trainer, I also sensed some
attraction from her onto me. Don’t get
me wrong, I very much doubt she would have even come close to taking things on
with me in replace of him had I (done the wrong thing) and asked her out, but
it did come across as the natural female inclination to be interested in man
who is objectively more impressive than her male partner – better looking,
taller, at least equal body impressiveness, more masculine voice, better body
language, better personality and, such was the evidence of dress style and car,
wealthier. She may have even told her ex
in the past that, if they weren’t together, I’d be her type. Maybe not, but we can but not speculate.
The current girlfriend has also given me more
than a few glances and smiles, making sure the personal trainer is not
nearby. Again, women aren’t stupid, and
they can work out male value pretty quickly.
Both the ex and current see me occasionally working on my laptop after a
gym session in the week prior to any client meetings, and a man dressed in a
suit will, for those few seconds, negate the social status attributes that are
blessed to male personal trainers.
It made me chuckle this morning, as all three of
them were in. I caught the current
girlfriend catching me checking out the ex-fiancé, and the ex-fiancé didn’t
seem to make any kind of excuse to walk past me on a couple of occasions. The girlfriend, to me, seemed to have that
amalgamated rollercoaster feeling going through her mind in positive/negative
terms. Part of her had that ego
satisfaction of getting one over the ex, knowing she is the chosen one who is
now dating the man her foe was once engaged to.
On the other hand, concurrent to me checking her rival out was a likely
negating irritable emotion. At that
moment I bet she had visions of the two of us (the ex and I) one day being a
couple. In conclusion, a woman only likes
another woman being with a man who is not objectively more impressive than the
man she is with.
In simple language, when a woman sees a man with another woman - on regular occasions, with different women, and in flirty contact - she becomes more attracted to him irrespective to his physical allure or other positive (or negative) character or provisioning ability offerings....
ReplyDeleteJust curious?..so we are all robots?..so we marry/divorce etc...so this means we have nothing,and even we realizing it is not good ?..
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Society would love us all to be robots and abide by the "required" duty of get a good job, marry a woman, and have kids. But society couldn't give a shit about the consequences men face from a divorce, which he will usually bear the worse of it - financially, emotionally, psychologically
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