tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11365665959655863462024-03-25T00:31:37.681+01:00Women's choices: men's divorces
Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics
Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comBlogger316125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-12345088787391032442024-03-15T15:45:00.005+01:002024-03-15T15:46:01.160+01:00Some men will never warm to you<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;"> “Nothing is little to him who feels it
with great sensibility.” </span></span></i><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif">(R.H. Blyth)</span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I could lay
testimonies to dozens of men who epitomise what I will write within this post
subject, but I will pick on this particular example for the purpose of
self-amusement and recent reflection.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I recall a
man (Richard) in the gym I went to a while ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>From first impression based on nothing more than life experience, he
struck me as a bit of a wannabe <i>Ladies Man</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For summary of what I class as a wannabe (as
opposed to actual) <i>Ladies Man</i>, I offer you these usual signs.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Usually
middle aged men, but they can sometimes be men even younger than thirty.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Often
small business owners, or in a middle to senior management or director position
within their employer hierarchy.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Average
looking facially (as >95% of men are).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Overweight
to average body profile (but not significantly obese).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Average
height (occasionally short men too).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Arrogant,
and into their own self-importance – measures of which are way above their
objective value.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Prevalent
in not so discretely broadcasting their popularity and success with women
(usually with no proof).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Bullies
and ridiculers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Like
the sound of their own voice.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Poor
listeners.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Often
not the most intelligent in a natural sense (even though they may have made it
up the employment ladder via other sources).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Antagonistic
towards objectively more sought after men.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In case you
have not worked it out yet, I dislike these types of men very much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I pity them equally.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The man
at the gym</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Back to the
man I referenced above.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I always do,
irrespective of my first impression of any man or woman, I give someone a clean
piece of paper in terms of judging them on the person they are when interacting
with me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Occasionally my first thought
can be a little array from the actual persona.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Usually however, my first impression is pretty much on the money.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In his case,
the latter prevailed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I remember sitting
in a spin class not long after I had finished my radiotherapy treatment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was near full visual recovery at that
stage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As the class was a 50/50 split of
women and men – which included mainly mediocre women, with two to three
reasonable looking – I sensed the first time I sat down on a bike that he
looked at me with distaste.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As
explained in <span style="background-color: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/03/alpha-male-true-origin-explanation.html"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">this previous
post</span>,</a></span> men of such kind – wannabe ladies men and men who think they are
alpha males – hold an instant discomfort, jealousy, dislike, and acrimony
towards men who are more physically attractive in a pronounced manner. In essence, men wrongly think that women are
attracted to men in the same way men are attracted to women (based primarily on
physical allure). Whilst women are
sexually attracted to men of the highest physical attractiveness, unlike men’s screening
for women, most women opt to select less physically attractive men as their
male partners.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Another time
that stands out is when I was doing my hair in the toilet area mirror (hence
outside the main changing room).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He
walked in, and straight away in a ridiculing fashion said – “Oohh, do I look
okay!”<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The idiot
was clearly trying to have a go at me, entwined with his instinctive envy,
negativity, and hostility towards me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
I had my time back, I would have given him as much, if not more, ridiculing
comments back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I guess I was not quick
witted enough on the spot.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I cannot
quite remember if anyone else was in the toilet area at the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Logic would suggest there was (maybe someone
was taking a shit !?), because<span style="background-color: white;"> <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/05/pathetic-male-bullies.html">pathetic bullies</a></span> </span>are renowned for speaking out in these moments
with a safety in numbers mentality.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
any case, the principle is the same.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He
still had the comfort of other people around (the changing room is literally a
wooden door away), therefore his choice to say what he did at that particular
moment ran in true predictability.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">On other
instances when I have struck up chit chat with him, <a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/05/pronounced-signs-of-mans-discomfort.html">his <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;">unease with my presence</span></a> is all too clear to
see.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He just talked about himself, and
never asked any questions in return.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Once more, a predictable habit of someone who feels inferior next to
another, but who tries to conceal this inferiority complex by talking and self-promoting
themselves.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">When you
work human psychology out, and you fathom the way people act even when you do
not like their conduct, life becomes a lot less infuriating.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A later comparison
of his differing behaviour</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A couple of
years down the line, when I had now joined another gym, and I went for a coffee
with a friend of mine who was also a member of the previous gym I
referenced.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He started to tell a story
which included a really friendly and engaging type of man.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">When my
friend mentioned the name “Rich”, I asked him if he meant the same man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It clearly was him, because as much as the
physical similarities we both described for him, we both mentioned the building
products company he owned.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My friend
could not have spoken more highly about him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Nevertheless, I could not just sit there without saying that, as much as
I believe what he says, it has been transparent from my interactions with Richard
that he has not been so amiable. My friend was taken back a little by my words,
but we left it at that.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The easy
conclusion to Richard’s polar opposite demeanour is this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My friend is a chap in his sixties, with
naturally no urge (or appeal) to hit on attractive or half-decent women in the
gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Compare that to myself, who he sees
as a major obstacle in his quest to attract these women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It does not take a genius, therefore, to see
why there is such a difference.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It is kind
of amusing, because this post takes me down a memory lane trip with regards to
my early ventures to America.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At the
time I did not think much to this, but it all collates into a common theme.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I am
certainly not saying this applied to all men (I recall one really friendly and
likeable young man in a hotel gym in Charlotte who I spoke to, and he was quite
a good looking guy himself), however it struck me how many native men appeared
belligerent or unengaging around my presence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As American
men, in my opinion and experience, are the most competitive men in the world in
terms of their endeavours to attract and mate with women (in particular the
most sought after women), it retrospectively derives as no surprise that they
did not enjoy a man of my look as a potential competitor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Throw in the British accent to assist (most
American women love the male British accent), and voila monsieur, the natural
consequence is a man who cannot control himself to a defaulted
unfriendliness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Once
people stop becoming bitter, jealous, antagonistic, and disengaging towards
you, it is time to accept that you no longer hold a desirability, social
standing or/and importance level that you once owned. Sometimes your biggest frustrations in life
can be a by-product of your greatest blessings.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-78250741653700600112024-03-02T14:45:00.003+01:002024-03-02T14:45:22.167+01:00Can relationships be happy over time?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">“To loved and lost, or to never have
loved at all?”</span></i><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"> </span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">There was
always a phrase I recall as a kid that was used in many films or TV
programs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would expect nearly everyone
has heard it before:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">“<i>It is
better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.”</i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Back then,
it simply passed my mind as an obvious saying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Nearly everybody desires to partake in the feeling of love, therefore
even if it does not work out, you will always have the experience that cannot
be taken away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Fast forward to today,
and I would still go by this consensus, however there is a bit more to it than
meets the eye:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">A recent
movie</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I recently
by accident came across a low budget movie on Prime Video.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The movie itself will not stay in my memory
for very long, however the dynamic possessed a somewhat greater appeal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In summary, a woman was married to her extraordinarily
rich, but over-controlling and serious, husband.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her suffocation due to his dictatorship
caused her to have an affair with a loser – no job, no money, no ambition etc –
of a male lover (albeit a nice enough guy), however for a brief period of time
she could not take the smile off her face.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It was like the lead weight had been taken off her back, and she could
finally breathe in some air.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">As she and
her lover lay in bed, the man actually made a striking point.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His words were (in particular reference to
her interface with both him and her husband):<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">“<i>You can
have everything, but if you are unhappy, your life will be a pile of shit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And you can have nothing, but if you are
happy, your life will not be a pile of shit.”</i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">In a way,
the rest of the plot was predictable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>After a bit more fun and sex with the loser, she gets caught up in a
drugs raid where he is arrested.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She
consequently sees him for what he is – someone who could not realistically
provide for her – in most categories, past a phase of a few weeks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Conversely, the husband most likely gave her
what she needed a few years ago – marriage, money, and security – yet the
thought of being with him forever makes her want to vomit.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Speaking of
vomit, she ends up getting pregnant.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It
was most likely the loser’s seed, although it also turned out that she had two
abortions when with her husband.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One
scene in the film showed the husband explaining to someone that she had two
miscarriages.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Read into this what you
will.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I am going
to keep this post short, because there is plenty of literature and <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/09/are-all-relationships-doomed-for.html">assigned posts which cover this topic in detail</a></span>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, in
the modern western world it really is difficult to be happy over a longer
period of time.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Who is
most to blame – women or men?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Both.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, women want more from men that
what they (the women) can realistically expect or what men can feasibly
provide, whilst men want a pie in the sky life where their female partners stay
as attractive as when she was younger and when they first met.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst the former scenario is highly unlikely
in comparison to the latter scenario being impossible, the one common factor is
that neither are satisfied with the outcome.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Babies and material things can paper over the cracks for a time, but it
will pretty much always come back to haunt.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Divorces
creep up to a near one in two rate, yet even this high ratio does not tell the
full story.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Of the half that do stay
together, how many are still miserable and just plodding on because they cannot
get out without it having drastic ramifications on their life?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would say this accounts for forty percent,
therefore, looking at it from optimistic eyes, this leaves a lucky one marriage
out of every ten who are genuinely happy.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Long term
cohabitation couples who are not married (and in particular if they do not have
children) will be a little happier in my opinion, but the recipe of distaste
towards their partners still follows the same path.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It just takes longer to get there.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">It is
easy to make a woman happy in the short term of a relationship cycle. Her massaged ego and validation needs alone
produce this happiness. The medium term
brings about reduced happiness, bordering onto unhappiness. As far as the long term is concerned, this is
when unsavoury and frustration emotions take over at best, to abominate and
resentment feelings at worst.</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Never
finding a woman who you stayed with for a considerable number of years can be
viewed upon like this. You most likely
never reached the peak or trough of happiness and unhappiness respectively, but
your average happiness level over the equivalent period of time would have been
higher. Your stress levels will have
been much lower too, which should mean you currently stand in better health
than otherwise.</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Marriage,
or even long term relationships, are near on irrelevant when you are that dying
man reflecting on your life. You will
only remember the love and happiness you acquainted with women, irrespective to
whether you were with her for a lifetime or a month.</span></i></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-27077633512854021302024-02-17T14:32:00.008+01:002024-02-17T14:33:42.913+01:00Which male attributes most attract women?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“If unsure or uncommitted of the
corrective move, always go with your instincts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">You never truly know which decision was
best, so at least your conscience is then clearer.”</span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This was an <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/Which-part-of-the-male-body-attracts-females/answer/Audrey-Lewis-73">interesting article</a></span> I
came across the other day, aligned to the post title:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">**********************************</span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Ah, now that's a question with a lot of
layers, isn't it? I remember a conversation I had with a friend of mine over
coffee about this very topic. It was one of those lazy Sunday afternoons where
the world seems to slow down just enough for a good chat.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She was telling me about a study she'd
read, which suggested that different people are attracted to different things.
For some, it's a physical trait like the eyes or a well-defined jawline. Eyes
can be quite captivating, you know, they say a lot about a person's emotions
and thoughts. And a strong jawline, well, it often signifies strength and
determination, doesn't it?<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">But then she leaned in, with a twinkle in
her eye, and said, "But you know, it's often more than just physical
features. It's about how he carries himself, his confidence, and, oh - a sense
of humor is a big one!" We both laughed at that because, honestly, who
doesn't appreciate a good laugh?<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">And then, with a more serious tone, she
mentioned something that really stuck with me. "It's the little
things," she said. "How he listens, the way he shows respect, his
passion for his interests, and kindness. Those are the real deal-breakers."<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin: 0cm;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">So, in essence, while
physical traits might initially draw attention, it's often the personality and
behavior that truly captivate. It's a mix of both, and what attracts one person
might be completely different for another. It's the beautiful complexity of
human attraction, don't you think?</span></i></p>
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Over time,
and with more experience gained from and observation acquired with women, you
will fathom which women are more honest than others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No women is immune from lying, in particular
when faced with emotional topics and preferences regarding men, however you
will be able to distinguish between those who speak with sincerity, and those
who just say what makes their ego feel better (hence, say what makes them feel
better about life and themselves).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In respect
to the narrator and her friend, I would hedge a fair bet that the former is far
more honest than the latter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My
experience with women, with firm confidence in my view, draws to the conclusion
that when a woman talks about endearing physical features she likes in a man,
providing she states with transparent genuine verbalization (hence, not saying
she likes extra fat around his waist, or bald men etc), she is saying what her
instincts and heart tell her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Conversely, when a woman attempts to bypass talking about the physical
blessings in men – in switching it to the personality side – there is more than
a fair chance she is a woman who resents the most physically attractive men.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">To further
elaborate, I suspect the narrator most likely goes for hotter men than her
friend, all else being equal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Of course,
we do not know what her friend looks like (the narrator looks about a 7/10
based on the photo), as often, but not always, a woman’s physical
attractiveness plays a large part to the kind of aesthetically looking man she
screens for.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Opinions
will always be opinions, and on subjects where facts cannot be pinpointed and where
subjectivity is king, it allows a person to say pretty much whatever they want,
irrespective of how lacking in credibility and how far from the truth it
appears. With this in mind, if you can base your opinion on what you truthfully
believe, and what your eyes see and not what you want to believe, you will live
a far more stress free and productive life.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Male
personality is important…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With that
said, and even accounting for the undeniable life consequence where the vast
majority of women will desire to be with a lesser looking man in gender
relative terms, it is still vital to accept that a man’s personality in
attracting, or at least appealing to, women is especially important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whereas a man places first emphasis in
striving for the best looking woman he can acquire, and other factors come
secondary to this, women do place far greater weight towards a man’s
non-physical attributes.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This is why
I have always said that for all men – irrelevant of their physical
attractiveness degree – personality is something they should work on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is most likely, for most men, far easier
to improve their personality and character than it is to become significantly
better looking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I dissect three
categories:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Ugly
to below average looking men</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">,
absent of extreme wealth and social status,<b> </b>will not be able to secure
much better looking women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless,
if he has a great personality, he will bridge that gap of what he wants, against
what is he currently getting.<b><o:p></o:p></b></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Average
to above average looking men</span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">,
even with poor to mediocre personalities, will still regularly be able to secure
women at least 10% more attractive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This
is a direct result of a woman desiring to be with a man who is noticeably, but
not significantly, less physically attractive than herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, throw in a good personality and
charisma to assist, and this leverage will jump to 15% at least, and even
>20% on rarer (but not uncommon) occasions.<b><o:p></o:p></b></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Good
looking to very good looking men’s </span></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">necessity
for a good personality is arguably greater in comparison to ugly and below
average looking men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perhaps not so much
at a younger age where college/university women or younger women in general are
more inclined to go for lunkhead (but hot) men, but from a female age beyond
24, it is harder for these men to solely rely on their hotness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This illogical reasoning is because, as
described above and inundated times on this blog, women are looking for reasons
to not date the best looking men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
said good looking man can bring an endearing personality to the table, it
mitigates this obstacle and predicament to an extent.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">How
important is male humour?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Male humour
requirement is a grey area to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If it
was imperative in attracting our good female gender, then the most beautiful
women would all be with comedians (which is not the case) and not
sports/film/music stars (which is the case).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>With this simple observation considered, it is an easy assumption
therefore to say that women place far greater priority on male wealth and
status, than they do on male humour (or on male personality generally).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With this
acknowledged, you could make an argument that a man’s humour level is not of immense
importance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, you have to
remember that >99% of men are not sportsmen, Hollywood actors or musicians,
and >99% of women do not look like these referenced stunning lookers seen on
the television, internet or magazines (coming to think of it, these celebrity
women do not look as good as that in the flesh, such is the photographic
enhancement world we live in), therefore you need to look into it from the perspective
of us mere mortals of the world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My take on
it is that having a sense of humour is far better than not having one and being
anxious all the time, and it will, more often than not, give a man a better
chance of upgrading with women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would
also though say it is by no means a deal-breaker if you do not have a profound
sense of humour, as if you are living in the same world as me, most women take
themselves too seriously - which prevents them from being able recipients of
humour anyway.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">And at the
risk of talking about myself to end this post, I would say I have a good sense
of humour - as a by-product of not taking myself or life too seriously – but I
am not a hugely funny person.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What I
mean by this is, unless in an environment where I am at most comfort (usually
one on one or in small groups, and with people who I know enjoy my company), I
am not a competent jokester or storyteller.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The way I
have mitigated this, one could say, weakness, is to, at the risk of repeating
myself, not take criticism or haters too seriously.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am not a great thinker on the spot in
coming back with one lines in the face of ridiculers or people antagonistic
towards me, however I have learned to respond with a mild smirk and hold a few
defaulted and memorized one liners when applicable.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My personal
favourite is as follows:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Ridiculer
(example): <i>“What the hell are you wearing!”</i><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My response:
<i>“You don’t like me very much, do you?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is
that because you’re worried your girlfriend may like me more than you?”</i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">This has
been beneficial on a few occasions, because I find that no matter how humorous
a man is trying to be at my expense (and usually these men are not funny, but
just trying to be funny in front of their mates), the sheer power of psychology
and reality conquers any form of humour they produce.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At the end of the day, if you fire back
something where even the funniest man in the world has to question his worth,
his weapon of humour has effectively been destroyed.</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-2259222334591265802024-02-03T15:02:00.005+01:002024-02-03T15:11:04.928+01:00Materialistic and stressed out Brits<p> <span style="font-family: arial;"> <i style="text-align: center; text-indent: -36pt;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“There may
only be one crowned, but usually it takes two to either fail or succeed.”</span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Post gym
workout, I was having a conversation the other day with a middle aged man who
runs a pharmacy business. We started
talking about stress levels and people having heart illnesses in the United
Kingdom at much younger ages these days.
It opened up a ten minute discussion on the whys and hows…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">His main
reasoning behind this predicament derived from <span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">obesity</span>.</span>
Being a pharmacist, his knowledge of medication evolvement <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/food/articles/britain_diet">regarding obesity</a>, and its necessity it should be said, is far greater than mine. With this considered, I can only respect his
view and assume he knows what he is talking about.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">He went on to
further add that the only true way to confront the obesity plight we live in is
in the form of prevention. He elaborated
in terms of the way to reduce obesity levels is to address it at an early
age. We both agreed that even if this
process were to be successful (as there is little sign of success right now if
it is in place), it would take decades, maybe generations, to show any sign of objective
real life improvements. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My take
on it…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I responded
in a way that whilst I agreed with his thoughts, the bigger reason towards our
country becoming a high stress and heart attack vulnerable hotbed is more a
by-product of working excessive hours, and further to the point, the stress
involved within the time we work. He
very much agreed. Don’t you just love
talking to someone on a similar wavelength to you!?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I then
stated that the main cause of this – <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.tuc.org.uk/news/british-workers-putting-longest-hours-eu-tuc-analysis-finds">British people working longer hours than other countries in the Europe</a></span>
– is because we have effectively replicated our big brother of the United
States in becoming over-materialistic and searching for the (American) dream. In essence, too many of us Brits have been
dragged into the “Keeping up with the Jones” mentality, in holding desires for
our lives to look better than our colleagues, friends, acquaintances, and even
enemies.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A recent first-hand
view</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Having
recently been made redundant, I met up with a Chief Operating Officer/Director
of a large company in the demolition industry.
I had actually met this man just under five years ago to talk about the
same job we were about to discuss, but back then nothing came of it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I went into
the meeting with an equal dose of open-mindedness and reservations to
suit. I met both him and his right hand
man, and we sat down for just under an hour.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The COO just
about recognized me from five years ago (granted, his high ranked position will
mean he meets a lot of people), to which he said it was my hair he
recalled. To lighten up the conversation
back, I said that I had aged in the interim period, but then haven’t we
all. He exerted a mild chuckle.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What first
struck me, somewhat pertinent to my comment as explained above, was how much he
had physically aged. Five years may have
passed in time, but he looked ten years older.
When he had to take a call, his right hand man took over for a
while. What was clear to me was how
stressed and haggard he also appeared.
If he were to tell me his blood pressure and cholesterol levels were
excessively high, I would have said to myself that you are only telling me what
is obvious.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The COO came
back, and he clarified that the main reason they are looking to recruit someone
is because, due to the workload over recent years, he has been working evenings
and weekends. In his own words, he said
this is why he is always pissed off.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As the
meeting progressed, I remember saying to myself that, in spite of it being a
financial package higher than anything I had earned previous, it just simply
would not be worth the hassle and sleepless nights. It brought back memories of a course I went
on in my early career, and the course leader explained that no matter how many
pay rises you receive, it will not compensate if you are just moving from one
role to another, or within the same role in a job, that you hate.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A few hours
later, the recruiter rang me to ask how it all went. I told him that even if they offered a
position, I would not be interested in pursuing.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">How does
this all come together?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I have tried
to narrate this post in such a way in order to illustrate how it all manifests
as follows:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;">1)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">We are a nation which is over-stressed
and susceptible to early heart trouble.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;">2)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">We are obese and unhealthy.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;">3)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The main reason we are obese and
unhealthy – compounding the effects of stress, mental health, and heart issues
– is because we work long hours in jobs where we encounter too much anxiety and
sleepless nights.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;">4)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Because we are working too long and too
stressed, our poor diets and lack of exercise – due to both a shortage of time
and lack of self-esteem – produce our obese and internally unhealthy bodies.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;">5)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Because of all this, we are basically an
unhealthy human being in waiting for a heart attack.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In a way
then, one factor feeds off the other.
Obesity is a result of over-working and high stress, and high stress and
a lack of free time fuses further obesity.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Why do we
work this way?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
the crunch of the matter, in my view, will be explained. It is a view that not many people truly
consider, or perhaps more to the point, they will not accept, as it goes
against what society wants and needs us to believe. Even clever pharmacists, doctors, or other
high professionals will abstain from this belief, because quite frankly, most
of them have been dragged into this quandary themselves.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In easy
summary, the male British mindset is one, to secure the best woman he can
attain, and two, to keep the future wife <s>happy</s> from leaving him. He thinks he needs to give her everything he
possibly can, no matter how unhappy he becomes.
If it means him taking extra hassle roles time after time, working
longer and longer to cater, just to give her the biggest house, best cars, best
schooling areas for the kids, and fancy holidays, then who gives a crap about
what is best for him…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">And I
believe this is the problem we live in today in this country. We all want things we cannot afford, or at
least things which will cause us an unhealthy existence to get there. If men desire to choose this path, then be my
guest. It has been a path I repulse in
seeing, and most certainly a path I have never held any ambition to dip my toe
into.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Furthermore,
not only is this problematic situation causing male unhappiness and deprived
health, but it is often a root issue for marriage breakdowns. There cannot be many men out there who enjoy
being over worked, over stressed, and overweight, and whilst his respective
wife may enjoy the extra money this troubled life of his brings, it is rarely
enough to maintain her love and liking towards him unless it is a constant
barrage of excess money. Even this is
usually not enough to save the relationship. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Notwithstanding,
such is the lifestyle they need to maintain to impress others, disposable
income of excess and not knowing what to do with it is very rarely the
case. What is the reality is that even
if the man is taking reasonable pay rises as he moves up the career ladder, the
extra money seldom keeps up with his female partner’s expectations and required
predilection for the nice life.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With this in
mind, he just gets unhealthier and more unattractive as each monthly pay cheque
arrives. In the simultaneous timeframe,
his wife’s attraction towards him gradually, or quite often hastily,
deteriorates. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The final
chapter of this sorry state of affairs is, quite aptly, an affair. The man slaving his guts off becomes unhappy
with his life, concurrent to his wife and children not appreciating him for his
endeavours. Sex becomes more infrequent
as each month passes, and, like no mean coincidence, temptations on business
ventures or office interactions lead him to adulterate.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This is if
his wife has not got there first. She
has become so unattracted and unappreciative towards him that, even if just for
sexual pleasure as opposed to having a clear intention to leave him (usually
she will hold desires to leave him, as a woman who cheats on her man does not
want to be with him in any capacity), she will very much screen for better male
options regarding infidelity or longer term.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: <i>Y</i></span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 107%;"><i>ou can have
everything, but if you are unhappy, your life will be shit. Alternatively, you can have nothing, but if
you are happy, your life will not be shit.</i></span></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-88244550544952946042024-01-19T16:44:00.007+01:002024-01-19T16:57:01.305+01:00Get out at the first red alert<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;"> “You may only succeed if you desire
succeeding; </span></span></i><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">you may only fail if you do not mind
failing.” </span></i><span face="Arial, sans-serif">(Philippos)</span></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">A red alert
via a woman’s action/s should be a man’s confirmation, which is usually
confirmation retrospective of earlier suspicions and tell tale signs, that the
time has come to move onto something else.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><a href="https://deepestconfessions.quora.com/https-www-quora-com-What-was-the-Im-done-moment-in-your-last-relationship-answer-Matthew-Perkins-42">This man</a> needs to offer no more words than the below predicam<a name="_Hlk123300224">ent</a> he once found himself mixed in.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">“We had a fight about her sleeping over at her
ex's house. She insisted it wasn't a big deal. When I asked her how she would
feel if I had a sleep over with my ex she said it was different. I said yeah,
we didn't live together and weren't engaged, you were. She then said if I
didn't trust her to have sleep overs with other men then it was my problem to
figure out. I left and told her her stuff at my house would be outside, come
get it before it garbage day or it was going in the can.”</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Time to
say goodbye</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">On the basis
this man’s actions were true to his words, I applaud his taking of no shit from
her once she fell way below the standards and relationship ethics that any man
should expect, as a minimum within her part of the relationship, his female
partner to abide by and adhere to.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
have heard and seen this kind of story once too often for my liking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To be frank, if I had only witnessed it once in
my life then it would be one time too many.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The part we
do not know is whether he was aware of her intention to sleep over at her ex’s
house before she chose to do so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For
removal of any doubt, if I were in his position and she had told me this was
her intention, I would have plainly told her that should she opt to do so, the
exit door to our relationship would happen a microsecond later.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will give him the benefit of the doubt in
believing he was not aware of such circumstance beforehand, in which he then categorically
did the right thing in calling it off the moment he found out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In truth,
just by her telling him that she did intend to sleep over at her ex’s house,
even if she ultimately did not do so in practice, it would be a red alert sign
in itself to broadcast such a thought.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
am not saying that on every single occasion I would dump a woman just by her saying
she was going to do so (providing she did not carry it out), because it would
need a little assessment of the case by case (or woman by woman) process.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">For one, it
could be that she is lying (maybe there is not even an ex on the scene), and
she is just trying to test my reaction.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>There is also the possibility that she is just going through a few
moments of attention-seeking, personal validation hunting and self-ego
stroking, and desiring to feel better about herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, by and large any woman stating
these words of staying at an ex’s house is a sure sign to either put her in her
place straight away or run for the exit door after having your fun for one last
time.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Why would
a woman do this?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">To reiterate
the words in the above paragraph, there are a few reasons a woman will inform
her male partner that she is sleeping over at an ex’s house.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
is just trying to test what kind of man you are (and hoping you put her in her
place for suggesting such a thing).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
is an attention seeker.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
is a woman who needs the male company of more than just her lover (even if it is just platonic with the other men).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The
love of one man is just not enough for her validation and purpose in life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, she may not be looking to play away,
but ultimately her drama and attention requirements lead her down this path.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
is still into her ex (most likely telling you they are just friends).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
constantly needs to feel better about herself, and the relationship and
companionship with a male partner is not enough to float her boat in this
respect.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
has got to the stage where she is so fed up with you that she no longer cares
what you think.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is almost hoping
that pissing you off will force you to dump her, in order to not feel guilty
about her actions in what she is doing to you or her being the dumper (note:
this is rare because for one, women have little guilt of their misdemeanours in
the first place, and second, they have too much pride and ego to be the one who
was dumped unless they crave on sympathy acts).</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Further
thoughts</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The man in
this story does the right thing in turning the tables – asking her how she
would feel if the roles were reversed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What he received here was the typical and predictable female answer in
these scenarios.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instead of giving any
kind of objectivity or substantiation to her answer, she just comes out with
the “it’s different” ambiguity line.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These
kinds of piss poor answers are accustomed to women because it allows their
little minds to allow their conscience to be clear, concurrent to thinking it is
the man being the devil.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Essentially,
she is always the victim (so she believes).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>In essence, she wants her cake and to eat it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">She then, in
equal predicable fashion, plays the card of accusing her male partner of not
trusting her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once more, it is a vain
effort to move the guilt from her mind and onto him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A weak man falls for this in fear of losing
his woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A strong man tells her how it
is going to be on his terms, and he is happy to face the consequences of losing
her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are plenty of other women out
there for him to bang, and many better than her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I can assure
you that no woman who is sincerely in love with her male partner would sleep
over at an ex’s house.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She would be so
in love with her current partner that the risk of upsetting him – and further
him telling her to go forth and multiply (and hence, him ending the
relationship) – is not worth taking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Additional
to this, women fully in love with their male partners actually look to create
distance from their exes (and distance from other sought after men in general)
rather than bridge the contact back or expose themselves to other men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You could argue that sometimes this is to
eradicate any temptations she may have to play away, but more common is because
she, at least in the current time, only holds inclinations to be with and think
about her respective male partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Love
conquers all, at least in the short term before love fragments simultaneous to
bad habits reoccurring.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Finally, and
in conjunction with the reason of not carrying out the action to sleep at an
exe’s house, a woman holding genuine love for her male partner does not even
suggest the possibility of sleeping over at her ex’s residence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even if there are no skeleton emotional
feelings on her part any longer, or it was a case of a mixed group of friends
having a party at his house, a smart woman will not rock the boat in the
first place.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Nearly
all men have jealous tendencies, in respect to other men sniffing around their
female partners, when they are in love with a woman. There is nothing wrong with this mentality
from an internal mindset perspective, because if he was not jealous, it is
symbolic of him not being in love with her (or even infatuated by her sexually,
without the love). However, this
internal jealousy has to be controlled by not exposing or illustrating too much
external jealousy. Once a woman sees a
man is too jealous, and this is all the more pertinent the hotter the woman,
male jealousy will be construed as an unattractive male trait. She will then start to feel she is too good
for you.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final,
final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">On this
topic, it most probably has not escaped you in terms of how a decent number of
times in your life you will have seen the inverse dynamic to the explanation in
this post – where a man finds himself either intentionally or unintentionally
(directly or indirectly) socialising with his current female partner and his
ex-girlfriend/fiancé/wife.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst I
fully respect and understand why the female partner should do exactly what I
instruct on the male predicament side – in which she should impolitely tell him
to pack his things if he makes efforts to see his ex – it is no coincidence
that far more often than the gender inverse scenario where men are not on board
with this, a lot of women seemingly are happy to go along with this.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Just across
my road there is a daughter in her mid-thirties who still lives with her
parents.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is one particular
ex-boyfriend of hers who regularly comes round to see her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes he is on his own, but infrequently
his current female partner comes along too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If you saw the daughter, you would realize that due to a shortage of
male takers she probably is simply happy for some male company and attention,
but another part of this will be because she holds onto hope that one day she
can prize him back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The fact he has a
new partner just fuels her motivation to do so.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">As far as
why the current female partner goes along with it, or generally women who
(often voluntarily) find themselves in this same threesome bubble, the
explanation is simple.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whereas men are
no more (and often less) attracted to their female partners, all else being
equal, when she is in the direct interface with a male ex, women apply the
opposite emotion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Simply put, a woman is
always looking for something that attracts her more towards her male partner
(and for verification he is good enough for her and that other women find him
attractive), therefore you find that the jealousy she inflicts on herself
ignites and enhances her attraction onto him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The
person in the relationship who controls the jealousy see-saw is the person who
controls the relationship. Always aspire
to make your female partner that little bit more jealous of women striving for
you, in comparison to you being jealous of her having male suitors. No woman wants a man who no other woman
wants.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-23384682540073806022024-01-05T14:53:00.008+01:002024-01-05T15:06:12.121+01:00Is life a destined disappointment?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">“You either die a hero, or you live long
enough to see yourself become the villain.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Before I
elaborate on the topic, I will caveat that it is always a better mentality to
venture through life, even on a daily basis, with a glass half full perspective
rather than a glass half empty.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With
that said, I am a realist, and I know full well that no matter how hard you try
to visualize the sky to be brighter than what you see, this approach is not
easy at all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In today’s murky world,
even I struggle with this.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It is kind
of ironic, because I should possess a better foresight of perspective and
appreciation than most people, given my health history.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At the time, once overcoming a serious cancer
battle and hearing the great word of “remission”, I felt like a rubber ball for
pretty much a year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nothing seemed to
faze me or cause any degree of anxiety.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Do not get
me wrong, not every day was a bed of roses, but for a near twelve months I felt
like I was floating in the sea with play thoughts of almost being skin tough
from any shark attack.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, I
then recall work started to get a bit hectic once more, and it was like
everyone no longer held any compassion for what I went through.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I get this, as you cannot live off a tragedy
for ever.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">For every
year that passed post remission though, it was like ten percent of my
perspective built up was lost.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By the
time ten years had passed, it pains me to say this, but it felt like the cancer
ordeal never happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Part of me is
grateful for this because it proves how I have stayed healthy with no relapse
or repercussions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The other part of me
hates myself for this because I always thought a cancer battle would make me
see life differently, and more importantly value it as a blessing.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Extreme
generation lightbulb moments</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Like most probably
another couple of hundred million or more men in the world, as an adolescent I
always wanted to be a footballer (soccer player).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst being a good player at local level, I
was not even close to the ability required to be a professional.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">At
twenty-two, shortly after graduating from University, I remember a World Cup
summer where I spent every day dribbling a ball around the garden, fantasizing
that I was a player in the tournament.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Strangely enough, my thoughts were of representing my late father’s
country of birth, as opposed to my own birth country of England.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe this was because he came from a small
country (population, economy, land size, etc), therefore the fantasy of lifting
a World Cup in those colours held a far greater enrichment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, I believe the colour of my skin has
always made me, subconsciously, believe that I am a larger part of my late father’s
production, as opposed to my (English) mother.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Fast forward
a few years, I remember sitting in my late Grandfather’s living room during a
cold winter afternoon, as we both watched the football on his television.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The poor man would only live another couple
of months after that day, and his eyesight had deteriorated so much that I knew
he could not truly see what was going on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I will never forget how he later that day said he saw snow during the
match.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There was no snow (just his
degenerated eyesight seeing this), but I agreed this was the case.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">During the
match, he said words to the effect of how great it must be to be a footballer,
and subsequently asked me if I wished that I still played.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I never actually thought of it until that
day, but it was like an eighty year old man had lived his whole life wishing he
had achieved just that little bit, or a lot, more than he did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was in the main an optimistic man too (I
will always remember him telling me that being jealous of others is a form of
poison), but I guess even for someone of such positivity, human nature dictates
to look back.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">At the other
end of the age spectrum, only the other week I sat with my ten year old step-nephew
whilst he played on the tablet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He
played a bus simulator game, and I asked him if he would like to be a bus
driver.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He said no.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The bus then
went towards a hospital.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I asked him if
he would like to work in a hospital.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He
said no.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I asked if he would like to
work in an office, and in what capacity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He said no.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I finally
asked him where he would like to work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>His words were – “I would quite like to be a footballer.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have to say that it brought a little tear
to my eye and pain to my heart when I heard these words.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">And the
conclusion is…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
there are seventy years difference between these male voices, yet effectively
they are saying the same thing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One is
reflecting on life prior to his final days, and the other has multiple decades
ahead of him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The common ground is this
though.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One spent his whole life wishing
to be someone else, and the other will, likely, spend his life (probably from
his late teens onwards) dreaming of being someone else.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I have a lot
to be grateful for in life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most of all,
I am currently healthy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Believe me, no
amount of money or fame can compensate for waking up and living your day in
physical pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am financially more
secure than the average person.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not to
contradict myself, but money does help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am considerably more physically attractive than the average man, and
this alone gives greater options in attracting the opposite sex.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would like to think I attain a superior
personality and confidence levels in comparison to most people too.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With all
this considered, if I am honest, I have still spend some of my life wishing to
be someone else, wishing to do something else, and wishing to live a different
life to what I have lived.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, I do
not think I am at all alone in this thought-process.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Human nature is a hard battle to fight with.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">How does
this relate to the purpose of this blog?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Occasionally,
I enjoy writing a post that is somewhat left field from the main theme of this
blog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do not think it does any harm at
all, and I am a great believer that, no matter how far you may stray from
someone or something in life that is a product of the main destination, there
is usually a link that detours you back to where you started.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Be that as
it may, I do think there is relevance to all this, in so far to how it
manifests back to women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In easy
summary, if men – who are generally characterized as far more realistic,
logical, perspective-oriented, and sensible than women – spend most of their
lives wishing for more than life has provided, then you can imagine how women –
who are generally characterized as far more idealistic, illogical, irrational,
expectant and unrealistic than men – will see life as an even larger disappointment.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Because as
long as a pair of female eyes and ears are unavoidably (or perhaps
uncontrollably) projected onto the life of the rich and famous, a woman will
always wish for a better house, car, clothes, and life, than what she has.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When a wish becomes an expectancy, if you are
the man standing as her male partner, this will rarely bring about a happy
ending.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">So, there
you have it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Other than a lucky tiny
micro-percentage of male existences, a man spends his life yearning to be
another man, or at least the same man living a different life (I tend to be the
latter – where I am happy who I am, but I would like a “better” life).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The benefit of being a man is, in spite of
living with this voice within on a near daily basis, the male mentality allows
a dream to be a dream, and he simply gets on with the grind of life.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With women,
it is not that straight forward.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As
women have fragile egos, you will find that a lot of women try to verbally over-promote
how happy they are, even though the voice within will be telling her
different.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The perceived scrutiny of
social media, peer pressure, and trying to out-do her friends, force her to
broadcast to others that she is living her best life.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The problem
with this exposure is, in metaphoric terms, the higher you climb up a mountain
(hence the more you promote your life to be of higher importance than what
objectivity shows), the heavier and harder the fall.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If she sets a mindset of self-promotion and
high expectations, this will in most cases produce an end result of
despondency, and possible depression.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">For an
analogy purpose, if men and women could choose a rollercoaster ride, the former
would take on a steady trajectory with occasional thrills, whilst the latter
would venture to one with constant highs and lows. Men are happy with a quiet life, in contrast
to women feeding off unpredictability and drama.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final,
final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I was
walking away from the supermarket the other week, when I saw a quite attractive woman talking
to someone on her phone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Although she
was walking the opposite way, she repeated three times – “Nobody seems to think
it is his fault.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This
conversational topic could have been about various permutations, but
my immediate thought was along the lines of something like he (her partner) had
let her down badly, misbehaved, or even cheated on her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In any of
the cases, I could not help thinking from her facial expression that she
actually enjoyed the topic of him, in some form (cheating included), performing
these misdemeanours.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was like she had
the world listening to her, and she was the centre of the universe.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A decent
percentage (a far higher percentage than people would care to admit) of women
get some kind of thrill out of their male partners cheating on them. The drama, attention, sympathy, and
competition with the (actual or alleged) woman he played away with is a stronger
motivation and ego boost than the heartache she may be going though.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-79681031454943216072023-12-23T15:14:00.004+01:002023-12-24T15:56:55.339+01:00Do people regret having children?<p><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span></p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“Regrets should never be condemned,
especially if their regrets are based on honest words.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those who paint an untrue rosy picture, often
get caught with their pants down.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Considering
it is a female narrator, this is about <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/No-lying-did-you-regret-having-children/answer/Lance-Berg-2">as honest an evaluation</a></span> you will find regarding
the pros and cons of having children:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">*********************</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span style="font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">Of
course I did, and I find it hard to believe you can find anyone who didn’t.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">At some points.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">Children are an enormous drain on you,
physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, financially. Pregnancy is
miserable, and if you’re a man, the fact that your wife is miserable is also
going to make you miserable, and you don’t get the hormonally charged rewards,
nor do you have the hormonally charged brain mechanism that makes you forget
the misery. (If the latter didn’t exist, the human species would die out, as no
woman would have more than one child)<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">Once the child is born, you’re up feeding
every two hours, and struggling to perform all the functions for a helpless
infant who cannot even communicate their needs… even their one communication
channel, crying, is also used merely for exercise, so it doesn’t even
communicate that there is certainly a problem to solve!<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">This combination of stark terror, utter
confusion, and extremely poor sleep goes on for months, and only gradually
tapers out. When they are thirty, you’re still going to be feeling some degree
of it.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">But that leads to the opposite complaint;
there’s an awful sense of loss that is continuous, as your child gradually
grows away from you, away from needing you for everything, to needing you for
some things, to needing you less and less… and it’s SUPPOSED to work like that.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">The flip side of the coin is, it’s very
rewarding, particularly if you had them on purpose, which suggests you have the
sort of personality that WILL find it rewarding. I would not give up the
experience for anything and ON BALANCE do not regret any of what it cost me.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin: 0cm;"><i><span style="font-family: georgia;"><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">But I wouldn’t be human
if I didn’t regret some of the costs</span><span style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif">.</span></span></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">************************</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Unless you
are blessed enough to be born into great wealth, or you somehow fall into vast
money via other sources, any honest person will tell you that the following are
a negative consequence of having children:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Less
money for yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Higher
stress and anxiety levels (mainly through financial implications children
bring, but also just the natural day to day worry of being a parent).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Less
time for yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Less
energy to do anything in life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Less
opportunity to accomplish what you would like to in life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">You
will often physically appear, and likely feel, older than you are.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The female
narrator pretty much travels her thoughts through three paths.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will nuance my own take on it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">When the baby is born, and probably up
to a year or two, the positive feeling of bringing a child into the world is
like nothing anyone can explain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Their
reliance on you is absolute, concurrent to you having to learn on the job
(especially for the first one).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Nevertheless, the sleepless nights and constant worry cannot be totally
ignored, and this negativity only compounds the higher the stress and longer
the hours are within your profession.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Pretty much from kindergarten through to
further or higher education (and in some cases, even beyond), children will
generally travel a linear line where their expectations and expense to their
parents goes up and to the right, simultaneous to their appreciation and
emotional dependence of their parents moving down and to the right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Some children and adolescents are better than
others in this respect, but what I write is a fair generalization.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Post leaving home, a typical sibling no
longer has as much inclination to spend time with their parent, irrespective to
whether said adult was a good parent or not.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The narrator as good as says this, and she alludes to the narrative that
when a parent has done all to navigate their son/s and/or daughter/s to the
independence line, the siblings are not so forthcoming in giving back.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">By and
large, a parent is the giver, and the sibling is the taker. This dynamic is unsurprising and to be
expected, such is the fact it was the parents’ choice to produce the child in
the first place. Some children of
parents may even think in later life, such is their bleak view of what life
offers, that they wish their parents had never of bothered.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A common
thought of men</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I always
remember sitting in an office a few years ago when the discussion revolved
around having children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My line
director, aged just under sixty at the time, came out with these precise words:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">“As much as
I love my three kids to bits, if I had my time again, there is no way I would
have any of them.”</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">My neighbour
across the road effectively said the same thing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He loves his daughter and son, but knowing
what he knows now about the world, if he was in his twenties or thirties today,
there would be no way he would desire to be a father.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I do not
think it is any coincidence that both these men are of similar age, and more
pertinent, with similar aged children (in their thirties).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When you and the kids are of elder years, I
believe it is easier for men to be truthful to what they sincerely feel.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Contrast
this to fathers in their twenties or thirties (and maybe forties, if these men
had children later in life – with children aged as young as babies to
teenagers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You will not find many men,
no matter how hard life seems as a primary consequence of being a father,
confessing to such likely truth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Part of
this abstaining of verbal reasoning will be internal pride, and part of this
will be to not upset his female partner.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A side
story</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">One memory
that always makes me chuckle is during last summer when I was waiting for a
flight back home from Copenhagen Airport.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>To kill a bit of time, and as a big fan of male fragrances, I had a look
around the duty free area.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Stood next to
me was a middle aged man with his wife and son (aged about eight).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The man
clearly had a passion for nice fragrances too, as the look on his face appeared
like a kid in a candy shop.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There was
one particular Boss EDT which appealed to him, as he could not stop sniffing
it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I always wonder, with married men
who like to smell nice, whether it is due to personal pride and good feeling,
trying to impress other women, or a combination of both.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Along came
the wife, and he told her how much he liked this fragrance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He also asked for her opinion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I could sense her apathy straight away, not
so much with the scent but with the thought of him spending more of the family
kitty (on himself!).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">What must
have been an even bigger pill to swallow however was when the son said - “Come
on Dad, you have enough already don’t you?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>His wife could not wait to agree.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As they walked off, I will never forget how he had one last spray,
sniffing it as it fragmented into the air, with that insincere consoling in
saying to himself – “This is what having a family does to you.”</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">What
about women?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With women,
and once more in particular younger women, it will be even more scarce to find
those saying they regret having children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You may actually find more women broadcasting how hard it is to be a
parent than men saying likewise, but this is more to do with a need for drama,
attention and sympathy, as opposed to any regret in being a mother.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
women generally are more motivated to become parents than men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even in today’s world, far fewer women are
career oriented than men or feel the urge to be the main breadwinner, therefore
you will find greater numbers of women striving to be a parent in earlier time
than equivalent or similar aged man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">You also
cannot ignore the social media whoring that now exists in the current day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Many women possess as much of, if not a
greater, inclination to show off baby and child to their army of social media
followers, than the natural desire just to be a good mother.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What a sad state of affairs.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The narrator
makes the point of how rewarding having children is, <b><i>especially if you
have them on purpose</i></b>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What she
is practically saying here is that a large percentage of people these days do
not plan having children (or more to the point, the <a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2014/08/susceptible-swimmers-for-contrived.html">women either contrive a pregnancy</a>, or they are just irresponsible in not taking contraception correctly).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, I do agree that when a child is
planned, it must be a far more enriching outcome than conceiving with someone
you barely know.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">As someone
who has never been a parent, I could be accused of being a natural pessimist of
being a parent based on my own agenda.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Fair argument.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With that said,
any person that knows me will be aware that I put my honest words well ahead of
my ego or need to feel better about life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If something is wrong in my life, I have no problem admitting this to be
the case.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">And there
are not many days when I do not think about what it would be like to be a
father, especially as so many people have commented on my natural comfort in
interacting with children.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My response
is always one of it being so much easier to appreciate children in small doses,
in comparison to the day in, day out leaning on my shoulder.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In
conclusion, there is no right or wrong way in how to navigate your life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most of it is fate anyway.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One thing I have always stood by though is to
criticize people who seem to think having children is the only sane, sensible,
natural, and mature path of life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">For anyone
to know this, they would need to live two simultaneous lives – one in being a
parent, and one in not being a parent.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Until such a day when AI or evolved technology caters for this, nobody
can honestly say which route is the better.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But if you have no regrets, the route you chose, or perhaps the route
life pathed out for you, is an easier one to accept and appreciate.</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-6422245612915574902023-12-09T14:11:00.002+01:002023-12-09T14:11:40.687+01:00Older men broken-hearted by younger women<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“If there is one common theme I have
learnt, it is that when people come out with the truth, no matter how gruesome
it seems, they all subsequently feel better about life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When you find someone looking stressed and
worried, they are most likely lying to themselves.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I have heard
more than a few situations in recent times of older men who have been driven to
despair by their much younger girlfriends or much younger women they became
entangled with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As a writer, advisor
and, if someone wishes me to be, mentor in giving men the best understanding of
emotional female psychology, this subject fills me with a cocktail of sympathy,
frustration, bewilderment, and pity - all mixed into one big shit show that
results in the end product.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My
biggest mistake</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">To
illustrate where I once was, allow me to explain this short story during my
late teens.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Facing up to your own
mistakes, in my opinion, is the only was in truly learning how not to make the
same errors of judgement in the future.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I got
involved with a girl who was a year younger than me (our two ages are not
relevant to the purpose of this post, but it is just to outline the
scenario).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She had not so discretely
shown her interest in me during the previous weeks, but it was not until late
October time of that year when we started seeing each other.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I would say
that her interest in me was higher than my zealousness in her at that
stage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was attracted to her, but
perhaps not in any infatuation manner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>There is most likely reasoning in this of course, in terms of a woman
never being more attracted to a man than when she is the chaser.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">From the
point of dating up until the new year, the attraction balance moved to a much
more neutral gauge to, if the truth be told, me being slightly more interested
in our relationship than her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From
January up until Valentines Day, it was clear how her enthusiasm disintegrated
over those six or seven weeks, simultaneous to mine staying the same.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She did not buy me a Valentines Day present
(from recollection, I am not sure she even gave me a card!).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Valentines
Day itself was a joke, and my naivety and lack of understanding regarding women
back then stood out like a sore thumb.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When
I picked her up around midday, she made it an instruction that she was only
available until mid-afternoon - to which she needed to be home to prepare a
dinner for her guy friend and best (girl) friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With a pair of balls to assist me, bearing in
mind I paid for the whole day as a student during the same timeframe she worked
a full-time job, I should have known she wanted out when the time would suit in
the very near future.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I hate myself for
not knowing this basic principle back then.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
it got worse on my behalf.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>God knows
why, but after I dropped her off and went home, I felt the need to go back and
park my car near to where she lived.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
guess part of this was a lack of trust emerging, and another part was just a
will to feel I was still in her life that day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The
inevitable parting of ways occurred around early March, with her citing that
her commitments to work and studies were not accommodating of boyfriend
time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Low and behold, a few weeks later
I heard she was seeing someone else (a below average looking dude too, it
should be said).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I hated her for all she
had done, but I still loved her simultaneously.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I spent the whole spring and summer thinking about her every moment of
the day, sometimes deliberately going to venues where I knew she would or might
be.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">There is one
big factor to all this though.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was a teenager!</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Make your
mistakes with women early in your relationship cycle of life, and then learn
from each and every mistake you make.
Ensure you are never that older man making the same mistakes as your
younger self.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The fatal
male mistake</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A few years
ago, I had a friend who was in his forties.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He told me about this nineteen year old Polish woman at work who had
been flirting with him, in spite of her having a boyfriend (also Polish, and
who also worked there).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was
attractive from the pictures he showed me, without being unbelievably stunning
or anything.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The things
he told me – bearing in mind at that time I had been writing about the subject
of women for over five years – made me want to put my hands over my head, and
in turn strangle him in attempts to shake some sense into that brain of
his.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He would tell me how one day she
could not stop looking at him and would be touchy-touchy and feely-feely,
followed by another day where she would blank him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As much as I, in easy summary, tried to make
him understand that she was clearly a perennial attention seeker and prick
teaser who would not be leaving her boyfriend for him, he just could not get
this painful truth inside his skull.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Then one
early morning, I saw him in his car waiting for the gym to open.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He appeared totally dazed and zombie looking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When in the gym, it appeared like he was
struggling to breathe, almost to the point where I was expecting him to have a
panic attack.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Looking back, this
anxiousness on his part was because in a few minutes time he would be venturing
towards the workplace.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">That was the
last time I ever saw him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I later found
out that he was placed on absence leave, and later still he claimed mental
health issues.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not long later, he left
the firm.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Without
proof, a simple jigsaw puzzle configures this:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">His
obsession uncontrollably made him harass her at work.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">She
reported him to Human Resources.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">They
put him on absence of leave due to the above events.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
claims mental health due to the work stress.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The
two parties agree on a settlement, and he is gone with the wind.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Another
older man / younger woman predicament</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Only today,
I was speaking to a gym buddy who has a few dozen labourers reporting to him in
a warehouse environment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He told me that
one of the men – aged forty-four – had got involved with an eighteen year old
woman.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The girl, as
she can only be described as, started to cheat on her older lover.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not only this, but she wanted out of the
relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The man went into my gym
mate’s office to inform him of this dire state of affairs, and he has gone off
with stress/personal reasons.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">When will
men ever learn?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As much as
similar aged women to these two respective older men (and older men generally) <span style="background-color: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2022/09/female-hatred-on-men-dating-younger.html"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">hate the thought of this
possibility</span>,</a></span> there is nothing illegal or necessarily wrong about a man
becoming romantically and/or sexually involved with a significantly younger
woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If they both know what they are
getting involved in, why should anybody or anything stand in the way?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The problem
is, if you are that man who strives to hunt down or in undeliberate process
finds himself in the midst of a much younger woman, you need to attain a good
amount of experience with women on a wholesale basis in order to know the
waters you will be swimming in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women
who are much younger than you will want and do much different things compared
to women of similar age to you, and you need to be fully aware that a lot of
these habits, pastimes, and character traits will not be to your liking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your dick can only work so hard to conceal
what will be inevitable anxiety, frustrations, and annoyances.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As
illogical as this may seem, the logic in reality is this. Men who attain a lot of experience and
knowledge acquired from past relationships with women, are men who are best
equipped to date much younger women. Men
who have accrued only pocket-sized past experience (and as a by-product, minute
knowledge) with other women, are men who are better advised to get involved
with women their own age, or even women who are older.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Which
types of women are less or more likely to go for older men?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In the
easiest summary and explanation as possible, I would categorize as such:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Girl’s
girls</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><b><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Girl’s
girls</span></i></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> – a woman who
is prevalent for female outings/socializing and social media whoring/attention –
is <b>less likely</b> to seek a much older man than herself, especially if he
is not a man who looks considerably younger than his birth certificate.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">One reason
is because she will often perceive her own credibility to be reduced in dating
someone much older, however the bigger reason is because dating an older man is
associated with getting older herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Most girl’s girls, from my experience, have a greater fear of getting
old than other women, therefore they will go to extensive lengths in trying to
stay younger.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is why you find a
decent share of girl’s girls in their late twenties and early to mid-thirties
who date a man a little younger than herself.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With this
said, a girl’s girl will usually get intimate with a much older man if he is
from the high wealth spectrum.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What she
has to gain from this will outweigh the aforementioned distastes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Homely girls</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><b><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls </span></i></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">– a woman who
holds a far greater inclination to always be with her male partner – is <b>more
likely</b> to be open in becoming associated with a much older man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, this will be more prominent if he
looks younger than his chronological age, although it may not be a deal breaker
if he is not.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I find that,
due to their infrequent time spent in female girly nights, drama, attention-seeking,
and immaturity, most homely girls are more mentally mature and grown up than
other female characters (in particular, in comparison to girl’s girls).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in mind, it is rational thinking to
conclude that, in possessing a greater female maturity herself, she will
naturally desire a man who is far more settled and mature than the men of
similar age to her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Homely girls
are also in a comparable sizeable hurry to settle down with respect to
commitment, housing ownership, monogamy, marriage, and motherhood.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All this is far more likely to be located
with an older man.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I guess, in
the simplest conclusion, it is a simple case of most men belonging to a male
existence that is high in sex hunger, concurrent to being low in emotional
female psychological knowledge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His
penis is drawn towards much younger and hotter women than women his own age,
but he lacks the basic, or better still extensive, knowhow to why women act the
way they act.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Because if a
man thinks the way a younger woman acts – in so far as mind games, lies,
disappearance, fidelity, mood swings, maturity etc – is the same as a woman his
own age, then he is in for a rude awakening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This will explain why so many older men who find themselves involved with
much younger women, like the two exampled men in this post, are not as a
coincidence ending up with mental health issues.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If you
deep down know you cannot mentally cope with the games younger women will play,
it would be prudent to not get embroiled with them in the first place. If you know you can easily deal with it, you
should lead with your sexual urges, in knowledge that the in due course games
she will play, and inevitable parting of ways which thereafter occur, will be
no skin off your nose.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 4: </span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women do
not in fact naturally or voluntarily play less mind games with men as they get
older. Their lower desirability projected
onto men, and their decreased options via male takers, enforces them to make a
conscious, even if reluctant, decision to not play these games as much.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-76798076880653061772023-11-24T18:04:00.003+01:002023-11-24T18:05:16.738+01:00Men in newly wedding rings – how do women respond?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;"> “Forbidden love is like being addicted
to something. </span></span></i><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">It feels good at the </span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">time </span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">and gives you pleasure, but there’s no
good that can come from it.” </span></i><span face="Arial, sans-serif">(Mark Twain)</span></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As much as
the above phrase holds a lot of sense and logic in reality terms, you want to
try telling women that no good can come from it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The more you tell them this, the harder they
will try for it to work and to prove you (or the phrase) wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even if they are fully aware no good can
derive from it, it will not stop them one ounce in still going through with the
forbiddances.</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The more
drama, self-attention and (usually legal, but sometimes illegal) wrongdoing
something in life has attached to it, the greater a woman will strive to
achieve it.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">About two
months ago, I recollected <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2014/04/just-how-effective-is-it-for-men-to.html">this previous post</a></span> written nearly a decade ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I sometimes have to wonder where time
goes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One thing is for sure, it goes too
fast, and I doubt there are many honest people out there who think much
differently.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Time is nobody’s friend,
and time only serves to try and punish you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I digress….</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">When have
I worn wedding rings?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In spite of
never being married, the wearing of a wedding ring has been a generally
intermittent, but occasionally regular, habit of mine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I offer you the reasons to why I have done
so:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As
someone who looks like I do (far more alpha and good looking than the average
man), yet who has mainly worked in predominantly beta male environments and
industries, the <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2020/08/the-perfect-mentality-for-stand-out-man.html">immediate perception another man will put on me is dislike</a></span> and that I should not
be there, and I am just a player amongst loyal and committed (and most usually,
not in demand with women) men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Perception is an evil tool; however key personnel can often make
decisions based on what makes them feel better about themselves (even if this
decision is not the most productive and beneficial).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When men see me in a wedding ring, the warmer
reception I receive from them is undeniably pronounced in comparison to if I
did not wear one.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Similar
to the above, women in meetings or interviews I have attended also look upon me
more fondly when they see a wedding ring on my finger, in contrast to the times
they were less amiable when I did not wear it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Whilst
few women will go out there way to directly ask a man out (they will usually
wait for him to ask her, no matter how blatant her interest), on the rare
occasions I have found myself in these situations, a wedding ring can give me
that distance from her growing enthusiasm.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This of course is applicable to women to whom I am not sexually
attracted.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">I
tend to be a person who other men either really like or totally dislike.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There has never been much in between.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In respect to the latter group, it is an
unproven (but plain to see) circumstance of their jealousy towards what they
see.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst this is not a major reason
at all to wear a wedding ring, to take a metaphor, I am not going to knock a
gift horse in the mouth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Simply put, men
in social environments are friendlier and less aggressive towards me when they
see me in a wedding ring.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
with antagonistic behaviour and body language towards me, similar to the
exampled men as described above, also appear to manifest a greater warmth
towards me when they spot the ring on the finger.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, not that this is any skin off my nose
either way, but it likewise does not do any harm.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">So
many women in my life have <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2015/05/hes-ok-to-look-at.html">given me indicators of interest</a></span>, only to reject me when I have approached them
and asked them if they would like us to get to know each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These women have nearly always later been
seen with average to above average looking men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As much as it would appear I am dragging myself down to these respective
women’s level in games and maturity terms, it gives me a good feeling for them
to later see me wearing a wedding ring.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It puts their nose out of joint, and if the truth be told, I get an
enriched feeling from this somewhat retribution.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The most important reason – attracting attractive women</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
with acknowledgement to all the above points, by far the most relevant and
important choice to wear a ring has been based on, rightly or wrongly, my
prediction that it will benefit me in the face of women I would like to get
romantically, or just sexually, involved with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">With
that said, and whilst I would like to think that I have been decisive and
consistent with everything I have written in this blog over the last decade, I
equally appreciate that for some men like me, this may not always be the best
decision to make.<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; mso-highlight: yellow;">take another look at the post I
wrote in 2014</span>, y</span>ou will clearly see how I caveated this conundrum accordingly.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">What did I choose to do?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">When
I went on a short vacation towards the end of September, this naturally meant
that I did not attend the gym for about ten days.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This gave me a convenient time, on return, to
start wearing a wedding ring in the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Most people in there – bearing in mind nobody in there knows me
personally or on a deep level – would just assume that I got married in the
time I was away.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">If
the truth be told, I also wanted to amuse and intrigue myself regarding how
women in there would respond.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It has now
been a month; therefore, I offer my findings.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Also bear in mind that, over the last three years I have been a member
in this gym, there have been a good few dozen women who I sensed sexual
interest in me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I must have spoken to at
least twenty of them.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 54pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">One
female that stood out just so happened to be a young woman who I had never seen
in there before I went away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think she
only joined about five weeks ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She
has been very pleasant and engaging (we now speak most times we see each other
in there), and the ring most certainly does not put her off.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is however impossible to compare her
conduct against how she would have been prior to me wearing it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I also think her pleasantness, in any case,
has a lot to do with the fact she is no older than 21, and quite hot.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 54pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Another
woman who I was interested to observe her etiquette is a Personal Trainer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Although I have sensed her attraction in the
past, this has also been amalgamated with somewhat resentment of my existence,
no matter how friendly and acknowledging I have been with her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To start with, she looked at my ring with a
little tear in her eye.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As the weeks
have gone on though, she has become more affable as every time has passed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She has even gone as far, occasionally, to
ask me how I am (almost alien for a woman to do these days, such is how wrapped
up in their own lives they are)!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 54pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">In
terms of the women I have sensed attraction onto me (and who I am attracted to
in return), but who I have never spoken to, my gut instincts have sensed a
recognizable sway towards being more cordial as opposed to more negative body
language.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 54pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who I am not attracted to (whether they have shown any sign of attraction onto
me or not) have also come across as anything ranging from the same as before,
to a greater warmth.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 54pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">This
finally leaves women who I have spoken to in there (the vast majority who I
would like to take it further with) – aged approximately between 22 and 31.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Each and every one of them in the past, after
showing an interest in me before I approached them, have either said they had a
boyfriend or they cut the conversation short in moving away from me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To each and every one of them, since they
have observed the ring, they have looked a little disappointed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Concurrently however, their body language has
been noticeably more congenial.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">I will
never forget the words of a former female work colleague. She said – “Women don’t want to be with you,
but they don’t want another woman to have you.”</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
this little experiment of mine has only confirmed and reinforced what I already
knew, and what I pretty much predicted to happen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To illustrate what my former work colleague
alluded to, women will only start to appreciate a man when they start to think
it is too late to have him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In truth,
and to elaborate on this female psychological way of acting in these scenarios,
the vast majority of women do not want to be with a man like me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The reasons have been explained inundated
time before on this blog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The problem
is, this defaulted message in their minds to not want to be with me, fights a
battle with the other side of the mind in not wanting me to be with anyone
else.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Cake and eat it, to take a phrase.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In
conclusion, women want the best of both worlds.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>A woman desires to be with a lesser looking man than she in order to
feel better about life and herself, but she does not want the better looking man
than her boyfriend/fiancé/husband – a man she will possibly have turned down –
to be with another female competitor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
she had her way in life, said hot man would fall into indefinite celibacy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At least, her ego would think this way
(strangely, her heart and sexual feelings want to fantasize in him sleeping
with as many beautiful women a possible).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If a
woman sustains a tear to her eye and a sharp pain to her heart when she sees a
man with another woman, part, or all, of her deep down wants to be with
him. If a man was having sex with
another woman in front of her eyes, yet she barely gives a toss, he may as well
be invisible to her existence. </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final,
final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">By the way,
if you were to do a quick engine search on this topic in terms of investigating
an online forum or comments section within a designated article, you will find
a lot of predictable comments from women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The lion’s share of these female comments will consist of words to the
effect that they are not more attracted to men who wear wedding rings (all else
being equal for credibility to the analysis), and in fact they would stay away
from these already committed men.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Most
scientific studies, but far more importantly your real life experience and
observations, will of course indicate otherwise.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women have very little to non-existent
contrition in lying, especially with regards to emotional and relationship
oriented subjects they are faced with, in order to, on the outside, make it
look as if they are ethical, moral and, for want of a better term, good people.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">As always,
as a strong man with a pair of balls and a bit of common sense, you need to
rise above this bullshit and say it for what it is and what you see.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Watch what women do, and do not listen to
what they say.</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-24746898636758304022023-11-08T17:18:00.002+01:002023-11-08T17:28:13.755+01:00Mate guarding is not a good look<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“He who constantly looks over his
shoulder, is he who is outwardly afraid.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Let us start
with a textbook definition of <i>mate guarding</i>:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><b><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: yellow; color: black; mso-highlight: yellow; mso-shading: #1F1F1F; mso-themecolor: text1;">Mate guarding is the physical guarding of a female in
order to deny rival males the opportunity to mate with her and is one of the
most commonly used defensive strategies observed in mammals</span></i></b><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: yellow; color: black; mso-highlight: yellow; mso-shading: #1F1F1F; mso-themecolor: text1;"> (Nichols, Amos,
Cant, Bell, & Hodge, 2010), birds (Hoi, Tost, & Griggio, 2011), insects
(Simmons, 2001), and fish (Alonzo & Warner, 2000).</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The animal
kingdom, in many ways regarding female and male existence, is not much
different to human behaviour when considered to how the male species acts in
this respect.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In both cases, they are
essentially doing the same thing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
reason human deportment is more fascinating, in my mind at least, is because
the psychological element to such ways of behaving is that bit more intriguing
to explore.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Taking
animals first, the male is fundamentally, and almost solely motivated in,
attempting to not allow another male competitor to mate with his female
companion (or the female he is attempting to mate with).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In simple terms, he does not want anything
else to stand in the way of him mating with her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is very other little consideration to
him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes he will fight off the
male rival, whilst other times he will submit to a superior force he cannot
compete or fight with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Now taking
humans, the male is pretty much doing the same thing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He does not want any other man to have sex
with his female partner, or the woman he is trying to bang, in putting it
bluntly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, his mate guarding
tactics are a little more subtle than exampled animal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>More to be explained on this later.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A
relevant anecdote</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">There is a
woman in the gym w<span style="background-color: white;">ho <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2022/10/are-tall-women-more-likeable-and.html">I wrote a post about last year</a></span>.</span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span> Without
going back on old ground, it was obvious she was, and seemingly still is,
attracted to me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Since the
early part of this year, there has been a man who looks in his mid-twenties
trying to grind her down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is a 7/10
in physical attractiveness terms, so in respect to her, he falls perfectly into
the approximate 10% deleverage strike zone that most women strive for.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">On paper,
this dynamic in him being 10% to 15% less physically attractive than her should
have been an easy path for her to continue on with him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After all, providing he did not have bad
odour or something, there is very little obstruction for her to venture on with
him on this basis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, it was clear
for a couple of months that she was not exactly being forthcoming in making
this, on paper once more, somewhat easy decision.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The main
reason behind this is, in my knowledge of how women think and act, because he
is about three inches shorter than her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The number of times she would speak to him – for attention purposes in
the early stages – ensuring either she was sitting down, or he was sitting
down, was too transparent for any person with two brain cells to not fathom.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She would often take her trainers off when
near him too, just to bridge the height gap as much as she could.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">About three
months ago, she and her female best buddy must have had some kind of falling
out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was amusing that one day they
were always acting like little girls and carrying out over-exaggerated
laughing, to almost overnight walking past each other with devil eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Without any proof, my guess is that the tall
blonde (the woman referenced in this post, and the previous post) let her
“friend” down on a so called agreement to go on a holiday or rent a house
together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, just a hunch.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Anyway,
around this time of the fallout, it was clear that she finally submitted to the
guy who had pursued her for months on end, and they had become a couple.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I even noticed from the other side of the gym
where the two of them were training on the cables together, and every time they
went to talk, she kind of crouched down a little to less expose the height
difference.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I certainly do not think it
was any coincidence that she started dating him at the time of the fallout with
the other woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Jealous
male mate guarding</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It just so
happens every Wednesday, gym routine people as we are, that a common time
occurs when I work out on a bench a couple of yards diagonally in front of
her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As someone he will have sensed her
being attracted to (and she may possibly have told him this pre-dating phase),
in addition to being one of the rare men in there who actually smells decent,
it is plain to see his discomfort and jealousy when this occurrence hits him in
the eyes.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What he does
to counteract this displeasing disposition is to, as soon as he sees her and I
in close proximity, move from his training area and start to help her
train.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It really is pitiful, but in
essence this is what human male mate guarding is in a nutshell.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Not only
does this man fail in what is right to further attract women (in particular
women you are already dating), but this also has a negative effect on his
training results, such is his endeavours in wasting time staying close to her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Bad move, on both counts.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Do women
like male mate guarding?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The easy
explanation to this question is to effectively summarise how women act in two
extreme psyches.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the one side you
have her ego, and on the other side you have her heart (and sexual arousal to
accompany her heart).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A woman seeing her
male partner (or a man generally) trying to mate guard will enjoy the head
swell ego boost to illustrate that a man in her life is so into her that he
will go to the lengths of mate guarding and competitor interception, but the
other side of her will concede that by acting out this mate guarding trait, he
has taken away what beats her heart faster and makes here panties wet – due to
him making it too blatant that he is doing such thing.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Because a
man mate guarding is in no uncertain terms a man who is jealous, insecure, and contains
a feeling of inferiority in comparison to the man or men he is mate guarding
her from.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Deep down women know this, and
in their honest veins no woman is sexually attracted to a man who is showing
these character colours.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is not to
say many, many women do not tolerate the irritable feeling that mate guarding
negatively decorates, because as implied above, most modern day women will go
with their egos over their hearts.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Is mate
guarding productive or unproductive?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Before
answering this question, the first aspect to address is simply numbers
based.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In the modern day, most (>80%)
of women will put their egos ahead of their hearts, and most (>80%) men are
beta males who uncontrollably and by default deliver with mate guarding
strategy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this considered, you
could make a firm argument that mate guarding is beneficial in securing, and
keeping, a woman.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">On the other
hand, if you have morals and principles to be the best version of yourself as
feasibility allows, accustomed with taking a firm preference in getting women
to be sexually attracted to you rather than making them feel better about life
and themselves, then mate guarding is a complete no go zone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As with everything, the choice is that of
your own.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Men low
in confidence, but high in jealousy, insecurity and inferiority will be
prominent of mate guarding. Men who are
the inverse to this, combined with savviness and high knowledge of what makes
women tick, keep their distance from their female partners, even when many
other men are around. When all said and
done, it is simple assessment to how good a catch you believe you are for her
in contrast to the hoards of other males around her.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Side note</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I wrote most
of this post a few weeks ago, before finalizing today.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In this interim time, the woman and man I reference
in this post have evidently left the gym to join most likely another place.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">My hunch
tells me this change of events is two-fold.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He gets her away from a venue where there are edgier men who she sets
her eyes on than him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She alleviates
herself from the irritable and resentful feeling and day in day out experience of having to look at men she would, in honesty and sexual
instinctiveness, want to have sex with more than the man she is with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For now, it works beneficially for both.</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-58621845981795819192023-10-20T17:29:00.009+02:002023-10-20T17:40:12.989+02:00People fail to understand the female emotional mind<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;">“If everyone followed their own advice,
the world would belong to far fewer hypocrites.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/My-fiance-got-his-co-worker-pregnant-Our-wedding-is-in-2-months-and-everything-s-paid-for-He-says-he-still-loves-me-and-that-he-made-a-mistake-What-should-I-do-What-would-you-do">This question from a post I came across</a></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="background-color: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/My-fiance-got-his-co-worker-pregnant-Our-wedding-is-in-2-months-and-everything-s-paid-for-He-says-he-still-loves-me-and-that-he-made-a-mistake-What-should-I-do-What-would-you-do"> </a></span>made me chuckle somewhat:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;"><b><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-GB;">“My fiance got his co-worker pregnant.
Our wedding is in 2 months and everything’s paid for. He says he still loves me
and that he made a mistake. What should I do? What would you do?”</span></i></b></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">It did not
amuse me because of the situation may I add, as the woman has my sincere
sympathies, but it was more to do with the question per se, and the subsequent predictable
counselling that was returned to her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Taking the
latter first, the comments are as you would expect.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I skimmed down a number of them, and the
response theme, from both other women and men, is that she should not stay with
him, irrespective of the set of circumstances.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Even if
clear and simple, and at the risk of sounding obvious, this is the logical and
correct advice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As many of the
commenters directly said or alluded to, a mistake is speeding in a car, putting
on the wrong socks, taking a piss in a public area you thought was hidden
because your bladder was exploding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A
mistake is not committing infidelity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Infidelity in terms of consented sex is predetermined, no matter how
much under the influx of alcohol or drugs you may be.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women and
men are very prompt and direct in condemning infidelity. Usually, it is because they are not desired
enough by the opposite sex to cheat themselves, and other times they are bitter
and jealous because they are not able to do so. </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Even as
someone who has never cheated himself, I never take a condemner’s words
seriously when they speak about adultery unless I know them personally.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is because it is easy to criticize a
person when you have never been in that position yourself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you have been in that position, and you
have made the wiser choice than the one you condemn was incapable of doing,
then conversely, I am all ears to the words you speak.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The
woman’s question examined</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With my
knowledge of female emotional psychology, the question is also predicable in
terms of knowing what she wants to do, and most likely, what she will do (or
did).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In case you have not worked out my
cynicism at this point, I would place a fair bet on the likelihood she did,
even after all this, stay with him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The first
giveaway is the question itself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Any
person with an ounce of pride and common sense would not need to ask even one person what he/she should do, or what another (hence, the person you are
asking) would do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your pride and common
sense alone should look at a person who has cheated on you with disgust, and
after the heartache has eased and tears have dried, see it as a lucky escape.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Whilst
acknowledging this being a poor comparison, for a moment I put myself in her
shoes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If I found out a woman cheated on
me two months before our wedding, and she got herself pregnant to the dude,
even if I poured every penny I ever earned into the wedding day, credit cards
and debt to accompany, I would not even need to contemplate for a single second
in staying with her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I could never look
at her in the eye without repulsiveness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I could never like her as a person again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would never hold an ounce of respect
towards her from that day on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, even
if not feasible there and then, I would most certainly fall out of love with
her as the days tick by.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The
woman’s thought-process</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
women, and especially a woman in her position, do not act with logic.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I offer some reasons to why this is the case:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">There
is a good chance the man she is with is relatively, maybe even highly, sought
after in the eyes of other women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As
clear-cut as this may seem, it is no coincidence that the higher a man’s
attraction towards other women, the more likely he is to cheat.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Equally, the lower a man’s appeal to other
women, the less likely he is to be caught with his pants down.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">With
the above explanation in mind, the woman who has been cheated on may think she
will never secure a better man than her fiancé.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As has been explained in the past on this blog, a woman will usually opt
for a sought after but unfaithful man, over and above a less desirable but
faithful man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">In
conjunction with both the above points, there is a fair chance the woman is in
her mid/late twenties to early thirties (based on the usual marrying female
age).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even after her fiance’s
misdemeanours, she may feel time is not in her favour to start again and find a
suitable male partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is almost like
spending years climbing to the top of a mountain, falling down, and realizing
it will take even longer to climb back up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Time is nobody’s friend, but it is much harsher on women (than men) in
the thought-process of having to start again.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Even
as little girls, a female mind is channelled to dream and fantasize about her
wedding day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Especially in this day and
age, the numbers of men who will propose to a woman (or more to the point, men
who can offer women the dream wedding) are dwindling year on year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this considered, many women, even women
who have been cheated on and found out their male partner has got another woman
pregnant, will hold a motivation for a self-exposing and attention-seeking
day that overpowers the ill feeling his actions have caused.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2016/10/why-women-forgive-unfaithful-men.html">illustrated in this previous post</a></span>, the way the female emotional mind works is to be more attracted to
a man when he attains preselection proof.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Even after all this, the woman in the centre of this predicament will
find her cheating fiancé more sexually attractive than before she found out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The very strong and sensible women will walk
away due to what he has done, but let us be honest, strong and sensible women
are extremely rare in percentage terms.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">No matter
how hurt her pride, ego and heart is, a woman will still usually make a
decision based on how much she has to gain.
This is a simple reason why so many women stay with men who have
breached their trust.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">For all the
wise and accurate words this woman received, I did not see one comment which
dissected her decision like I have done in this post.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is not any attempt to blow my own
trumpet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is to emphasize how people, and especially men, appear to have no clue to why women make the
decisions and choices they make.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women
are more clued up than men in their comprehension (after all, they are women!),
but they do not take fondly to being exposed for how they emotionally think,
and consequently act out.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">It is in
a woman’s interest for men to lack conscious knowledge of how the female mind
works in both emotional and psychological ways.
For as long as this is the case, they can sustain the life of taking a
man for a fool, and him being none the wiser.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
giving advice is easy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What is a far
harder task is understanding how people think in psychological respects, and
subsequently offering guidance based on understanding how that person’s mind
works.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you fail to do this, you are
effectively basing your argument on all people being the same.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I call that ignorance, for want of a better
word.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">And as much
as many people may criticize my life – in getting romantically involved with
women significantly younger than me, abstaining from commitment, never being a
father or getting married, taking long vacations on my own etc – whilst there
are people out there who have committed infidelity, or men who have walked away
after impregnating women (and never knowing or contacting their sons or
daughters), I can confidently say to myself, and to them if they so wish to
hear it, that I am twice the person you are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If you desire to criticize my life, I suggest you take a closer look to
home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Rant over…</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-51551325480210358702023-10-06T14:53:00.005+02:002023-10-06T14:57:13.496+02:00Men being alienated by others<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;"> “A successful man is one who can lay a
firm foundation </span></span></i><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">with the bricks others have thrown at
him.” </span></i><span face="Arial, sans-serif">(David Brinkley)</span></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This post
may not apply to many men out there in percentage terms, but judging by
comments received over the last decade of writing within this blog, I would
expect that it applies to more than a few male readers out there.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A disintegrating
friendship</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It pains me
to say this, but my once best friend and I have become increasingly distant in
contact terms over the last four to five years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It would be easy to blame COVID-19, and the associated restrictions
during this time that have manifested into lower general social interaction for
today, but that would be a weak reason.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The signs were there well before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I always try and blame myself first in situations of this nature in
order for the purpose of credibility and balanced argument, but after further
analysis it just started to become that bit clearer.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Of course,
nothing can stay the same in friendship terms, or at least it rarely can.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have no problem with this, as friends
settle down, get married, and have kids.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am not a huge socialiser myself (I am a socially interacting person,
but the distinction in words and actions should not be construed as a
contradiction), therefore the last thing I desire is anyone ringing me every
week to go out on a routine and frequent basis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As what was
two or three nights a week becomes once a week at best.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once a week soon turns into once a month or
so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once a month transfers to every few
months.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once every six months soon
becomes difficult to commit to.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Before
you know it, a year (or a couple of years) have passed, and you realize you
have not had any meaningful or sustained conversation in all that time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The role of me performing best man at his
wedding now seems a million years ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If the truth be told however, I could have done a much better job of it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With that
said, I dismiss the possibility of this estrangement on the wedding roles.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Since then, I have suffered cancer, and he
was supportive during my dark moments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>We did not distance in significant terms post his wedding, and he never
once made me feel like he was disappointed with my efforts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, on a few occasions he thanked me for
keeping the stag do low profile.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is
not the biggest drinker out there, and knowing this I deliberately refrained from
exposing him to any typical bachelor party games (much to the disappointment of
the twenty other stags).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The early
signs of alienation</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Whilst far
from a bad looking guy, my friend falls into a very mediocre standpoint of male
physical attractiveness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Being a couple
of grades above him in this respect, I never used to sense any kind of
resentment on his part when we went out together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, I always recall him telling me that
he once asked a woman he knew (an ex-girlfriend of a friend of his) what she
thought of my aesthetic blessings, concurrent to me talking to her friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst I would not go as far as thinking he
ever took pride in standing alongside a much better male friend (most men do
not, but a tiny minority of men actually do), I equally never picked up on a
vibe of bitterness either.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
it was around 2019 that I first noticed his discomfort when we went out for a
drink.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I documented in <span style="background-color: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2019/05/isolated-occasions-of-women.html"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">this previous post</span>, </a></span>there
was one occasion when a woman commented on me as we left the bar.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the same night in a later bar, a few tidy
young women transparently placed themselves in our vicinity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Around this similar timeframe (a few months
earlier), there was another night when he pointed out a hot blonde haired girl
at the other side of a pub.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At the risk
of tooting my own horn, I saw this blonde checking me out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I kind of think he saw this too.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The firm
sign of alienation</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Then came
the late spring/early summer of 2021.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Restrictions had been lifted in terms of social gatherings, therefore
little genuinely stood in the way of any potential get togethers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I suggested going for a drink during a phone
conversation, and his reluctance and reservation was all too obvious – stating
he was still not confident in the social gathering aspect due to COVID numbers
still being high.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This would have been
fine and accepted by me, but the problem was he let it slip a few minutes
earlier that he had regular Friday nights meeting up with his local
neighbours/friends over recent weeks, and in the local pub.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Then he made
this big thing about me inviting another close friend of mine (who my once best
mate knew through me, but who was never even near to being a close friend of
his) when we next meet up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I found this
somewhat strange, because he had not seen my other friend for a decade by
now.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Further still, he had never held
such a desire in the interim period within this decade.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Up until a
few weeks ago, we had not even shared a conversation in over a year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can recall no more than half a dozen texts
(during just one message phase) between us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>We always send each other a birthday card, but I half expected he would
not send one this time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My birthday came
around, and as predicted no card came through the letterbox.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not even a text message.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were finished, as far as I could care by
now.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Four days
after my birthday, I heard a knock on the door after dark.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I went round to the back gate, to see him
there with his daughter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was almost
like he was using her as a hiding place, literally and proverbially.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I let them in through the front door, and he
was there with a belated birthday card.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He made it clear early on that he could not stay more than a few
minutes, although the conversation was amiable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As he left and I again proposed a catch up, he once more felt the need
for my other friend as referenced above to be there if we did.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What is
the conclusion?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I can only
give my honest opinion based on what I see, in addition to life experience in
other interaction scenarios over many years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I hate to say this, and I sincerely take no liking or pride out of it,
but I place the main reason down to male physical inferiority complex of
another man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">An argument
could be put to me along the lines of why would this be the case now if it were
not the case as far back as our late teens and throughout our twenties?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Good question.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My honest answer to this would be that, as
the responsibility of marriage and kids has naturally taken its toll on his
physical appearance (although to be fair he still looks young for his age), I
have developed and maintained my physical allure predominantly as by-product of
a less stressed and low responsible to others lifestyle.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The physical gap in our late teens/early to
mid-twenties, whilst noticeable, was most likely never significant in his
eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As the years have passed, the gap
has become wider.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This gap has brought
about discomfort on his part that enforces him to subconsciously (and maybe consciously)
not want to be with me on his own.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Any other
examples?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As I am
conscious to not make this post any longer than it needs to be, I will not roll
off another dozen examples that I could describe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instead, I offer you the tell-tale signs that
cannot hide the perennial vision of one man being uncomfortable (which will
mainly be due to his inferiority complex) with another man.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Extraordinarily
little eye contact with the other man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Body
leaning at an angle away from the other man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Transparent
discomfort in body language when alone with the other man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">An
obvious need to end any conversation as soon as possible with the other man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">No
return questions, irrespective and despite the other man asking about his life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
sudden burst of comfort and confidence when other men come into the close
proximity and environment.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Ridicule
towards the other man when other men are in the same real estate, yet no
ridicule (or conversation in general) when just the two of them are together.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Awkward
body language that is all to clear to interpret that he does not want to be in
the same close area as the other man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Spiteful
looking face when together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No smile or
comfort when the other man is talking.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Only
talking about himself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Displeasure
when the other man mentions something about his own life.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What
about women in this dynamic?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Women follow
a similar path to how all is described above in these scenarios.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, as women place their greatest power
in their physical beauty, if a man is better looking than her in gender
relative terms then she is even more in discomfort, bitter and acrimonious than
exampled inferiority complexed man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Regardless,
what women do is to place every given effort to not put themselves in that
irritable and distressing feeling or presence in the first place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Based on the fact that they can usually choose
where stand, sit or associate, in addition to many social environments being
same-sexed, they can mitigate and eradicate any such awkwardness in the first
place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Further still, they can by and
large choose which men they socialize with, and they can most certainly choose
which men they become more intimate with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>By vast majority, they will choose men who make them feel better about
life (hence, lesser looking men) in comparison to not choosing men who make
them feel lesser about themselves (hence, better looking men).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Do not
allow alienation to destroy you</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Alienation
can be a lonely place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In a world where
most people rely on social interaction, social reassurance and social
acceptance, when other people are not forthcoming towards you, or worse still
they are resistant and retracting when faced with your existence, you will have
days when feel so alone that you question what life is really all about.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The good news
is that, even though people – women and men alike – follow a general trend in
socio-psychological behaviour, there is still enough variation in human
personality and character for said alienated man to live in the hope, and
eventual knowledge, that a brighter day will one day be his.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It may take more screening for to find these
people who are engaging and embracing of your uniqueness, and they will be at
times awfully hard to locate, but there is enough of them out there, even in
their small membership, to produce a better day.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">When you do
find these people, I can assure you that just one of them is worth a thousand
of the jealous and disgruntled losers out there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is like a breath of fresh air, such is
their rarity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You enjoy talking to them
so much that the other thousand idiots who do not like you become irrelevant
and invisible as far as you are concerned.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You learn to spend more time on those who value you, and less, or no,
time on those who resent you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It
probably has not always been that way if you are honest with yourself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I certainly took a while myself to fathom who
I should spend my time, money and love on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I will be the first to admit that I did not always get this formula
right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wish I could have that time
again, but the next best thing is getting it right for today.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Your
greatest lessons are a result of your biggest mistakes. Your biggest mistakes will usually be high in
naivety and low in life experience. As
you get older, the mistakes you make should decrease in greater numbers. If you are still making the same mistakes in
later life as you were when much younger, you are simply not taking note of
your life patterns.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought – alienation for women</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It is only
fair to balance out this alienation debate in considering whether women – in
this respect the top end physically attractive women – face the same
predicaments as the highest value men encounter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are similarities, with obvious
variations.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">From my
experience, only a tiny percentage of men (men of all shapes, sizes, ages etc)
hold a tendency to alienate the hottest women in the same or similar fashion to
how women, as described earlier, alienate the most aesthetically gifted
men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Quite simply, men will generally
suck up to and pedestalize hot women, whereas women by majority resent the
existence of hot men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This
miniature segment of men who do give the cold shoulder to beautiful women are
men who have given up hope in ever being able to attain such a woman, and they
try to disguise this frustration by stating words to the effect that she is too
high maintenance or a gold digger.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
easy explanation, these men act this way because they have conceded they are
not good enough to secure women at the high end of the sought after spectrum.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In terms of
whether other (mainly mediocre or worse looking) women are inclined to alienate
their much hotter female counterparts brings about a more complex description
of events.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From where I have been
standing all my life, it appears that most women do not refuse to be in the
company of a much more attractive female acquaintance or friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst this companionship may be insincere in
association with concealed inner hatred and jealousy, you have to remember that
women are obsessed with their social standing, and how socialising with another
person can elevate their social proof and popularity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Therefore, even if plain Jane or the
fat/uglier woman has a natural dislike to the hotter woman’s visual attributes,
she will use her hotter friend to elevate her own reputation.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
in fewer cases I have seen hot women being alienated, ridiculed, or attempted
to be devalued by lesser looking women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You
can probably picture in your head the gobby (and often ugly) woman in the
group.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this said however, I have
also seen it by women who may not even be that lesser looking than the woman
they belittle.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">Whilst a
clear part of this nasty attitude will be down to envy of another woman’s
hotter blessings, it is no coincidence that a larger default towards this
loathsome disposition is when another woman belongs to a much more desirable
male partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You will find it hard to
locate any factor out there in the world, in so far as illustrating female
indignation and mean-spiritedness, as when one woman has to concede that
another man is far more craved for by other women than the man she is with.</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-41466762369060529142023-09-17T13:58:00.015+02:002023-09-17T14:11:22.120+02:00Are all relationships doomed for unhappiness?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“If you think before you start, you
breath before you end.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-most-common-regrets-that-people-have-once-they-grow-old/answer/Sean-Kernan">online viewpoint</a></span> stood
out like a sore thumb to me one day.</span></p>
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<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">Some couples are so deeply incompatible.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">Their value systems, choice of free time
activities, senses of humor, energy levels, sleep cycles, physical chemistry,
interests and general demeanor all are on completely different planets.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">You wonder how they ever got together. The
obvious thing for them to do is break up.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">But Nope.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">They keep moving forward, move in, get
married, have kids.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">And get divorced 30 years later, 30 years
too late.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">They one day look in the mirror and
realize that time is no longer their friend: they’ve lost to it and are lost in
it.<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin: 0cm;"><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829;">Choose wisely, people.
Or pave the long, bitter path of regret.</span></i></p>
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">By and
large, the narrator of this all so common predicament is right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Men and women are such different species and characters
that, absent of the enjoyment of sex (yes, some women do enjoy sex with a small
minority of men) and societal birth rate production system requirement, you
could make a fair argument that the world would be a better place if a male and
female landscape existed on entirely separate environments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This may
sound harsh, lacking in romance, and cynical to a large extent, however I will
stand by this until my dying day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do not
get me wrong, a tiny and fortunate percentage of men and women are together,
and last together, through sincere and uncontrollable love and compatibility,
however these are the lucky, or more to the point extremely rare, people out
there.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Why so
different?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In truth,
men and women have never been similar.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Men like sport, women like shopping.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Men like a stress free life, whilst women look for drama and problems.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Men are financially responsible, whilst women
hold a belief that their male partner can grow money from his conifer
trees.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Men have solid friendships,
whilst women bad mouth people at will.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The list
could go on and on, and <span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="http://www.vinaywcmd.com/2013/09/1-five-fundamental-differences-between_6568.html">this was explained</a></span> in <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="http://www.vinaywcmd.com/2013/10/five-fundamental-differences-between.html">much greater detail</a></span> </span>shortly after the inception of this blog.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, it takes only the purest (and
most likely, dishonest) advocators of love and relationships to lay down the
argument that women and men genuinely need each other, outside of the two
reasons I offered up top.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">You could
throw in another reason for a female and male bond, and this is to refrain from
loneliness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A sense of loneliness, to
many people, could be perceived as a risk to mental health and potential
suicide, therefore even an unhappy relationship is a better option than
loneliness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would firmly disagree with
this concept, because to me it is better to be alone and not lonely, than to be
lonely but not alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The lights are on
but there is nobody at home, so to speak.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The
biggest contributor to unhappiness and resentment…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Men and
women inevitably come to resent each other, and I go along with what the
narrator alludes to in so far that marriage compounds this resentment and
unhappiness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst the extremes of love
and exhilaration with a member of the opposite sex on one side compared to
distaste and bitterness on the other side is not a direct link to and
consequence of marriage, the rigours of marriage (mainly financial oriented)
allow an easier and quicker destination to the natural side of despair.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
and once more with marriage as the main fuel supplying the engine in this
respect, I hold the firm opinion that the biggest contribution towards
unhappiness and resentment to each other is as follows:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
man resents his female partner not being as physically attractive as when he
met her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes this resentment is a
natural consequence of female ageing, to which he should hold greater
compassion and understanding towards her, even if he still resents life for
allowing it to happen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Other times
though it is down to her lack of effort and inclination to stay thin and as
attractive as plausibility allows, and when this is the case, as often it is,
his resentment can be justified to a larger degree.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
woman resents her male partner for not supplying her with the ‘Ken and Barbie’
fairy tale life that brings about a bigger house than they live in, much more
disposable income than they attain, higher status cars than they own, and kids
in better schools than they educate in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>When she sees her friends and female acquaintances apparently living a
more successful life in this manner, her resentment towards said male partner
who is not providing this, escalates further still.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In a
nutshell, everything else to the above explanation is a mere side show.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Simply put, men desire their female partners
to stay young, thin, and attractive for all of time, and women expect their
male partners to supply things beyond their means in order to keep up a
lifestyle that can be exploited to friends, family, colleagues, and on social
media.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Neither factor is feasible, but
neither party (in particular, women) are understanding of this reality.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Are there
any answers to prevent eventual unhappiness?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I would love
nothing more than to be the writer of a story with a happy ending, but hand on
heart I am struggling to find one for couples in the modern era.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think this applies even more so for couples
who were born post 1990, where the materialistic and social media world has
contributed heavily to a predicament that I do not wish to live in.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With this
said, from a man’s perspective I can think of a couple of mitigations that
would reduce eventual unhappiness and resentment of his better half.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">First, he
could be up front and honest with his female partner that the live beyond his
means and keep up with the Jones lifestyle makes him want to vomit, and it is
not a life he wishes to ever be led down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whilst this approach is certainly not a bullet proof strategy, you will
find more women than not will without hesitation depart from you if they hold
desires for a man to provide her with this life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If she stays, and on sincere terms, then she
loves you for who you are, and not what you are.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Second, he
can abstain from marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A man cannot
control a woman he is nailing getting pregnant, however to this day there is
still no (western) law to state he must marry the woman he is with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in mind, I go back to the age old
phrase someone once told me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That is,
for as long as a woman is not married to a man, she still holds a motivation to
be charming, and in association to stay as physically attractive as
possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once the wedding cake has been
sliced, the incentive on her part has been lost for ever.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The ending
the narrator documents is quite a sad one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He is effectively saying that time is nobody’s friend, and time waits
for no man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If this is what he is saying,
and I strongly suspect it is, then he is not half right about this.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">It does not
really make any difference if you got married or not, because there are very
few (honest) people out there who can look at their life thirty years later and
say that time did not go too fast.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
know I cannot.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You know when time is
going too quick when a four year reoccurring event like the Olympics or World
Cup comes around again, yet it only seems like two years since the last one,
and not double this period as it is.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> In essence</span>, time is moving at twice the speed you can take it all in.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">What you can
control however is the decisions within your power.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nobody forces you to get involved with the
wrong woman in the first place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nobody
forces you to remain with her, even if your penis says so, stay concurrent to your
mind saying get the hell out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even if
she does contrive a pregnancy, there is no law directing you have to stay with
her especially if, deep down, you know she is not right for you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is certainly no obligation to get
married, irrespective of the social network, family or society pressures that
will inevitably dive your way.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">You have one
shot at life, and unless technology one day finds an unlikely way, you do not
encounter your final days knowing you have the reassurance of doing it all over
again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Every day is a blessing, and the
decisions you make decipher how blessed these days are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Use them wisely, and at the same time let me
leave you with this phrase:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span style="background: white; color: #181818; font-family: Merriweather;">“Marriage is like a series of opposing
reflections, inverse images getting ever smaller like nesting dolls, each one
of you trying to squeeze yourself smaller to fit inside the hopes of the other,
until one of you cracks or stops existing.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p></o:p></span></i></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-64955744275725365132023-09-01T15:13:00.005+02:002023-09-01T15:13:49.823+02:00Never kiss ass younger men<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"> “Being a poorer version of your true
self is more enriching than </span></i><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">being a better version when trying to be
someone else.”</span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Perhaps
subconsciously and only acknowledged retrospectively, but the fundamental
reason dawned on me recently to why I lost my passion for football
(soccer).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Considering how I once loved
the game, and somewhat hero-worshipped a few of the high profile players when I
was a kid, makes this a sad state of affairs, but I can only be honest with
myself to the true reasoning.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">In essence,
I reached an age in my life when I became older than the average professional
footballer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst nobody (or very few
honest people) enjoys becoming older (although there are advantages where age
acts as a benefit, especially for men), when the years tick by it is just an
accepted cycle of life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You live via a
linear curve from a new-born baby to grasping your final breaths, whether that
finale results in illness, tragedy, or simple father time.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I have, in
the main, been a reasonable acceptant of the all so common psychological
predicament of knowing you are getting older.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Not everyone is so lucky, or maybe mentally strong, in this respect, as
they struggle to navigate through the path of life that is becoming older.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am a firm believer that, when you hear
about celebrities committing suicide in their thirties and forties, this is a
by-product of not yielding favourably to the “what once was” memory, and once
the attention on themselves is not close to what it once was, they decide to
live in peace rather than live in recollection.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This view of mine may seem harsh and cynical, but this blog was never
designed for politically correct language and explanation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">A pitiful
sight in football</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Going back
to why I lost my passion for the game then, it emerged in my mind that a number
of friends and acquaintances were idolizing footballers – sometimes footballers
a full decade their junior – and consequently kissing their asses to a degree
and sight where I almost desired to puke up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It was a pitiful living delivery in full hands over eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not that I am a believer of kissing any other
man for that matter, but when it is a younger man who is the recipient of this
idolization, it becomes all that more cringeworthy.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">As someone
who has spent his whole adult life trying to be the best product of the person
I can be, you can imagine scenes and verbalizations of this kind – older men
kiss assing younger men – were too much for me to take.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ultimately, I was left with a choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I could either ridicule them all for it,
which almost certainly would have made me the bad guy in all this, and they
would have likely held it against me, or I leave the scene entirely.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The latter option was naturally the easiest
and most sensible one to take.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Other men
as role models?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Not that I
am against a man having role models, or perhaps more in my case, men who I
admire in terms of their character and demeanour, and, to a lesser extent,
their look and style.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For example, I
look up to the late Nelson Mandela for his sacrifices, courage, and clear
approachability in spite of his worldwide fame.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am inspired by the talent and charisma of Will Smith and Justin
Timberlake.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The appearance and elegance
of Enrique Iglesias, Cristiano Ronaldo and Matteo Berrettini receive my instant
admiration.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Nevertheless,
all the six men mentioned are seen in my eyes as simply human beings where I
look to improvise my whole self, in manifesting to devise the best version of
myself that plausibility allows, and that limitations restrict.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I look at all the good aspects of my
grandparents, parents, and brother, simultaneous to aspiring in refraining from
allowing their bad parts sneak onto my persona.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Sometimes the negatives from your ancestors and siblings are within your
control to eradicate, but unfortunately other times the genetics are too strong
a force to compete with.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">If you accept
your weaknesses, you are in a much better position to suppress, mitigate and
even possibly remove them gradually and entirely. When a person strolls though life thinking
they are right about everything, they continue to be wrong for an indefinite
time. Often this time is forever.</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">The gym
kiss asser</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">To wrap this
post up, if ever there is a man (Craig) you would strive to not be like in this
respect, it is the man I am about to explain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He is about thirty-seven in age.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
feel a little bad speaking of him this way because his heart is in the right
place and he is much friendlier and sociable than the average person in today’s
world, however he just gets it all horribly wrong.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">I believe a
large proportion of his kiss assing exploitation is a consequence of his small
man syndrome, insecurity, and inability to just be comfortable within his own
environment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The most confident men you
will find are those who can just blend into an environment, get on with their
duties, yet feel no necessity to talk to anyone around.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your gym time is a prime example of this
advice.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Unfortunately,
in Craig’s case, he always seems inclined to talk to anyone he either knows
well, or barely at all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Add on his
annoying high volume voice (you can hear what he is saying from thirty yards
away), and it is all the more crushing to what people must think of him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">One
instance, there was this man benching dumbbells sat next to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would say he is a few years younger than
Craig.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was lifting fairly impressive
weights, however Craig felt the need to go and compliment him on it, and ask
him how he does it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is beggars belief
to me in terms of what a man has to gain by doing what Craig did.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">If this was
not bad enough though, he engages numerous men a decade or more younger than
him, sucking up to them and asking them all about how they do that, or how good
they are at this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I just feel like
saying to him - be your own man, mate.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">A final
thought – how do women construe this?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Any honest
woman will tell you that seeing an older man kiss assing a younger man is maybe
the quickest way to lose any sexual attraction onto him, on the basis there was
some attraction in the first place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It
is detrimental enough if she saw him standing in awe of an older man, but this
is slightly more forgiving.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If she sees
him adulating a man his junior, she is only going to think he has very little
to offer.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Because,
simply put, there is very little, if anything, that an older man should need to
learn off someone quite a bit younger.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Occasionally there will be, however by and large this should not be the
case.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Years
equate to age. Age equates to
experience. Experience equates to
learning. Learning equates to wisdom. Wisdom equates to self-mastery. </span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">If you
find yourself soliciting a man younger than you, it may be a good time to
commence contemplating how you can improve yourself, and how you can become a
better version of yourself.</span></i></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-37737961464701636812023-08-18T14:41:00.007+02:002023-08-18T14:50:18.432+02:00What did you learn too late in life?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;"> “When you miss a great opportunity, the
human tendency is to compensate </span></span></i><i><span style="font-family: arial;">in seeking lesser versions of what you
missed out on.”</span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/What-did-you-learn-too-late-in-life/answer/Scott-Stancik">This article</a></span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">
of soul searching philosophy left me with a pausing moment, and retrospective
contemplation to how it related not only to my own life, but other lives
too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I add my own comment below each of
the narrator’s points.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">*****************************************</span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Looks absolutely do matter. It's
biological. As a fully grown man I have come to accept this.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">This very much depends on the gender.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For a woman, physical looks are very
important in achieving the best life for herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The better looking a woman, the far more
likely she is to secure a male partner who is higher in wealth and status.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">For a man, physical looks are far less
important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Being good looking as a man
should, if he is astute in life with regards to how to take advantage of this
blessing, transfer to a more confident male human being which will radiate onto
women he would like to have sex with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless,
this is not his good looks per se that ignites the most appeal for said woman
to pursue with him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As has been
explained inundated times on this blog, being very good to great looking as a
man will usually be counterproductive in pursuit of women.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Intelligence also matters a great deal.
You will sometimes have seconds to make a life altering decision and no one
will be there to advise you.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Intelligence is not a dissimilar explanation
to looks, yet in a kind of way it works as an inverse dynamic.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As a woman, being intelligent is not hugely
important.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is not even close to being
as critical as beauty.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The times
intelligence is important to a woman is if she harbours ambitions to maximize
her career and earnings potential.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Also,
intelligence will offer her a better opportunity to being spotted by very
wealthy, and equally intelligent, men.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">As a man, intelligence is vital in so far
that being intelligent will in majority cases lead to better opportunities for
a lucrative career.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Therefore: if
intelligence manifests money and status, money and status subsequently attracts
the most sought after women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With all
this considered though, male intelligence in isolation is only truly important
to (the very low percentage of) intelligent women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As most women are not highly intelligent,
being too intelligent as a man will actually put off most women.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">In terms of having seconds to make a life
altering decision, I strongly disagree with this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most scenarios in life will allow you to take
a deep breath, ask for a night to sleep on it, and make the consequential
decision days or even weeks later.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You
could say it is relatable to calling a timeout in sport.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If he is referring to being put on the spot
in saying the right thing at an important meeting or when chatting up a woman
he would like to bang, then I would agree more that thinking on the spot
becomes crucial.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With that said, the
smartest people out there have a way of answering a question without answering
the question, and still leave an audience or recipient convinced with the
answer.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">If you have a positive attitude you will
draw people to you like Gravity. <o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">I would fully agree with this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Positivity is hard not to be drawn to unless
you a person who pitifully thrives on being negative and miserable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If your attitude is positive, the vast
majority of people in life will see you in brighter lights. <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">You need to decide which of those people
is worth your time.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Those that mind don’t matter, and those that
matter don’t mind.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We have all been
guilty of spending too much time, money and exertion on those who could not
give a crap about us and only are about themselves.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Conversely, we have all also been culpable of
spending too little of our endeavours and concern on those who care about
us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">The best example of this life misdirection is
in the face of women when choosing men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>How many women have you known who go running to, or back to, men who
treat them like dog poo?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Equally, how many
women do you know who treat men like garbage – men who have gone beyond the
call of duty in trying to make her happy? <o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Don't waste your time on people who will
forget about you in half a second if you stop giving them attention.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Pretty much the same explanation as
above.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ultimately what the narrator is
saying here is that you are dealing with an attention seeker and narcissist if
a person is only interested in themself and what the world carpet lays down for
them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">I would say that, taking both 4. and 5.
together, my biggest mistakes and learning paths in life came from these
situations.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I spent far too much of my
early life chasing after people (both women and friends) who could not give a
shit about me, and not spending those respective efforts on the people who did
have my best interests at heart.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
nothing else though, these big mistakes have allowed me to rectify what I
should have done then, to what I always do now.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Many peoples affection for you extends no
further than their use for you.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Another fair and true point.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ultimately, he is saying that people will use
you until you have nothing left to offer them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Once your use is done, they will move onto someone and something else
that loads up a new arsenal of expectation ammunition.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Once more, if you spot a person like this in
your life, give them no more than what you need to in order to maximise the
well-being of yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">7.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Don't waste time worrying about the past.<o:p></o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">Whilst easier said than done, in essence he
is right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Regrets make you old, and
bitterness poisons the people around you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You cannot change the past, but you can determine your future to an
extent.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">The reason I stress <b><i>to an extent</i></b>,
is because for every year I live, I have come to terms that a large proportion,
maybe even a huge proportion, of a person’s life is down to what is written in
the stars.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This applies for both good
and bad things that occur, no matter how hard it may be to accept the
misfortunes and tragic conundrums there and then.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is almost like the big man in the skies,
or maybe people who are no longer with us who we had an impact on their lives,
are looking down in conducting good and bad luck in mapping out our destiny,
and deciding which path we should take.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11pt;">With all this considered, it should be an
even greater reinforced mentality to form that you should not worry about the
past.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Human nature will always dictate
in forcing us to reminisce, but in the end our stress levels and misery are magnified by looking back, and our happiness and hope derives from looking
forward.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 0cm;"><i><span style="color: #282829; font-family: arial; font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="q-relative" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 0cm; margin-left: 60.0pt; margin-right: 24.0pt; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 24pt 0cm 60pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Segoe UI";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">8.<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span></i><!--[endif]--><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 11.5pt;">Don't waste time being anxious about the
future. Life can change on a dime.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Very much
so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst looking forwards is generally
healthier than looking back, many people are liable to worry about the future
too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whether that be a lack of money,
possible loneliness, problems at work, or any other possibility the future may
bring, fate will usually deliver what it wants to.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">As an
investor in the financial markets, I can testify for the errors people, and
myself included, have encountered in overthinking, overcomplicating, and
placing too much faith in what they believe is a certainty to happen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Life can change on a dime.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You just need to be there at the time it
does, in being mentally strong enough to cope with the negatives, yet not
getting carried away with the positives.</span></p><p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">*****************************************</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I was only
thinking the other day about public speaking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I have never been a natural, or someone who is comfortable, in public
speaking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What has made it easier over time,
however, is having far less concern to what the audience think of me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Some people will like me, others will
not.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No skin off my nose either way.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I am a great
believer that my life improved, in a psychological capacity, when I stopped
worrying about what people thought of me in a general capacity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I realised that I would never please
everyone, therefore even if it is only a small minority of people who like me, I
will not lose an ounce of sleep over the majority who are averse to my
character.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You get on with your life,
and I will get on with mine…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I have an
older brother who clearly has grown to dislike my character.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If he had an honest bone in his body and he
was put on a lie detector so his life depended on it, he would know my opinion
of this is correct.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His body language
and facial expressions when I am in close proximity to him is as negative, and
even acrimonious, as two active eyes could see, and what a candid mind would
marinate.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">What is most
disappointing is that I do not particularly like his character either, but the
difference is I have always accepted it, and people of similar personality, for
what life is all about.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It would be
boring if everyone was like him, and likewise if everyone was like me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The beauty of life, in my view, is the vast
numbers of different characters that exist.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A strong
man accepts a differing character to himself, even if he does not enjoy the
company of that opposing character. He
shows a way to be pleasant, amiable, and inquisitive towards that person, no
matter how disinterested he is in them.
A weak man does the complete opposite, in living in resentment, jealousy
and bitterness when an opposing character to himself is around. And more often, he acts with a lack of
interest in said opposing character, in attempts to conceal his transparent
feeling of inferiority.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-63037405397098493442023-08-05T15:48:00.010+02:002023-08-05T15:50:40.344+02:00Artificial and unnatural exploitation of love<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">“Many people deny the outward reality by attempting to conceal their inner bitterness.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As a
relevant link from <a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2019/01/women-grabbing-their-male-partners-arms.html">this</a><span style="background-color: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2019/01/women-grabbing-their-male-partners-arms.html"> <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">previous
post</span></a> </span>from over four years ago, I came across a somewhat bizarre, yet in
other ways predictable, female action a few weeks ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like anything in life, but in particular with
women’s emotional habits, what a long time ago once left me with head
scratching, now manifests to an instant comprehension.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The
scenario</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It was a
random Friday morning at the gym, and after I had fulfilled my forty-five
minute workout, followed by a nice sauna and retrospective shower, I left the
male changing room at about 8am.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As you
turn out of the changing rooms, it is about a fifteen second stroll to the exit
barriers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That short walk means you see
all the cardiovascular trainers to your left, with the machine weights also
left side but merely a few yards from your vicinity.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As much as I
criticise people for looking down at their phones when walking (the biggest
sign of insecurity if ever there was), it is habitual of me to, once turning
immediately right outside the changing room, quickly turn on the gym app that
allows a member to enter and exit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After
a couple of seconds to do this and subsequently eyes back on the line of sight,
I saw a side view of a very nice figured blonde standing next to the one of the
shoulder free weight machines.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She
looked familiar, but without seeing the front of her face it was not clear to
whether I had seen her in there before.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As I walked
past her, I got a glance of her boyfriend sitting on the shoulder machine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was a blonde haired dude, and above
average (but not good or great) in the male physical attractiveness scale from
what I could quickly assess.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No surprise
on the hot girl with above average looking man dynamic, but blonde with blonde
is much rarer, in the UK at least.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As I reached
to approximately five yards away from this woman, I noticed how she bent down
to, what seemed like, say something to her boyfriend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I made it just past her, I just heard a
loud kissing noise that all seemed a bit too fake for belief that it was
natural and spontaneous.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It all simply
came across as that bit too try hard and contrived.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Why would
a woman do this?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Now of
course, someone could say to me this was just a coexistence, and it was a
display of affection and love.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I cannot
prove in any way, shape, or form that this was not the case.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, the timing of this huge smack
on his lips all just came across that bit too much of a coincidence, and if she
did this, coincidentally, in just those ten seconds that it took me to pass
her, does this mean she did it about another hundred times throughout their
workout?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have my doubts.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My better
judgement, even if seen upon by others as an arrogant and self-promoting view,
is that she had seen me in there before, or/and saw me walking towards
them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As women, in particular hot women,
have egos that do not take kindly to seeing better looking men than their male
partners, especially when the two referenced men are in close real estate that
smacks her in the face for real life comparison, this manipulated action of
kissing her boyfriend with the highest vocal noise possible was the perennial
and typical reaction a woman like her will implement to try and ease her in the
moment discomfort, derived from the explained emotion she was going through.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
and as documented in this blog on more than a couple of times, women are torn
between a tug of war when it comes to their decisions and psyche with men they
see and choose.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the one hand, a woman
has an imperceptible compulsion to be with a man who is lesser looking than her
in gender relative terms.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This ticks the
box for her enlarged ego, but it reduces the optimum beat of her heart and
wetness of her pants.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the other hand,
a woman often knows she could secure a hotter man, on occasions (but rarely)
she will act upon this impulse, her heart is telling her she likes him, but her
ego is sending messages to go with a safer option and hot him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Why the
resentment of this decision?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The problem is
women are not good at making decisions and then consequently accepting them for
what they chose to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Men, whilst not
perfect in accepting making half-hearted decisions in life, are much better at
this rationalising process.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In other
words, when women make decisions they deep down are not totally happy with, or
when they know they could do better, they go looking for other people to blame,
or they blame life with resentment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
last thing they blame is themselves.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This is why
then, you find women being hostile towards better looking and more sought-after
men in comparison to their boyfriends, fiancés, or husbands.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This negative emotion was <span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2021/03/women-dissing-better-men-than-men-they.html">illustrated by me in this post</a></span>
</span>when a reader suffered a similar, albeit more acrimonious, reaction from a
woman when in a comparable scenario.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Simply put, women are not at ease with this predicament, therefore they
go looking for ways to try and counteract this bitter taste in their mouth.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Have you
ever gone out with your girlfriend, alongside her friends and a couple of the
respective female friend’s male partners?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As the night goes on, or sometimes even pretty much from the first
drink, you will find a common pattern emerge that only becomes more pronounced
for every time you find yourself in the same social dynamic.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Let us just
say that there are six women in the group.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Three of the women have male partners with them, and three are on their
own and currently single in relationship status.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What you find is none of the women are
totally satisfied, and the reasons become transparent the better a man becomes
in understanding female emotional psychology.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The single
women are jealous of the coupled women, because women’s uncontrollable mindset
is to be desired and validated, which is a by-product of being with a man (even
if the man is not that sought-after, or not even desired by the single
woman).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The more sought-after the man
belonging to one of her friends, the greater degree her jealousy sits upon.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
this does not mean it is a jealous free night for the coupled up women
either.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst a woman does crave for validation
and to have a man directly desiring to be with her and to love her, the force
that pulls against this tick in the box is her inner need for drama, fun,
gossip, and further admiration (from other men).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Drama, fun, gossip, and flirting/getting
off/one night stands with other men will be the luxury only at the disposal of
the single girls out that night.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Ultimately,
women can never be fully happy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They
want to be loved by a man, but they also want the drama queen life that escorts
the single life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Some women can
disengage between the two cycles of life, and they have the maturity to know
the two roles cannot, on a wholesale basis, run on a simultaneous period.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Unfortunately, in a world where female
maturity is running south concurrent to the drama craving life heading north,
most women have difficulties distinguishing, and accepting, the extreme paths
each life sits at.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A final,
final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As a man
assessing all this, you have three questions to ask yourself when face on with
this conundrum.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>First, do you have past
knowledge of her being a drama queen, fun loving girl?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Second, has she sincerely (and happily)
changed from this life since she has been with you?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Third, are you convinced, should you take it
to marriage or kids, that she will never go back to this looking over her
shoulder mentality?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls (girls who have very few female friends, and are not accustomed to or
liking of going out a lot) are the best girlfriend and wife material women. They are also the most loyal and faithful
women, and they give you the least stressful life. The downside, however, is these women are the
most notorious for dropping you with the premature and unplanned “I’m pregnant”
words you most likely never wanted to hear.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-4726334394519964382023-07-18T12:32:00.012+02:002023-07-18T12:42:44.878+02:00Gym selfies and posing is a huge mistake <p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">“Process is an amazing way of changing
sentiment.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Whilst I did
not see it in person, and had I done so it would have been a mixture of extreme
humour combined with rolling my eyes up to my forehead, somebody recently told
me that they saw a man in the gym set up a tripod filming set, to subsequently
record his workout in full glory.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my
opinion, acts of this kind are big mistakes.</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The
following day from being informed about this pitiful living motion, I saw a
woman then film her boyfriend when he was performing bicep curls.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have seen this couple in there before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They come across as a “poor man’s” attempt to
be a local ‘power’ or celebrity couple.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He is fairly good looking, tattoos on both arms and much of legs, and
clearly on the juice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is also quite
hot and in good shape, tattoos on both arms herself, everyday use of sunbeds as
clear to see, and despite being well what looks like past her mid-thirties,
quite an attractive face.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would say
she is at least three years his senior.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A woman
being seen with a boyfriend who is both younger than her and as physically
attractive as her is a very rare sight.
Nevertheless, it is more common for women to seek out younger men when
in the decade between early thirties to late thirties than in any other similar
time span in her life. It is also more
prominent for abiding and regular gym women like the woman described (over fake
tan, boob implants, very much into her self-exposure etc) to date aesthetically
impressive men who are on steroids.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">To
reiterate, this viewing is rare, but then women like her are scarce in the
whole scheme of a female environmental population.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in mind, you will have most likely
seen a few dedicated female gym trainers – most who have never had kids, and
are obsessed with keeping in top shape -<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>alongside buff men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A past
mistake</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I recall a
long time ago now when I was innocently walking from one side of the gym to the
other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As it was early morning and
perhaps my full conscious thought-process was wandering somewhat, a woman
shouted over to me as I walked past her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I did not
understand a word she said, but she started walking towards me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As I looked at her, before I could catch my
breath, she placed her phone in my hand.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She then proceeded to ask me to film her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I felt like a right idiot filming her for
thirty seconds doing a squat set, but there I was.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One of the big boy trainers ridiculed me for
doing so, and in fairness I deserved every bit of it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In my
defence, it all happened a little too quickly for me to react in the corrective
manner, and it was during a time in my life when I was a lot more green and
naïve.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If the same scenario happened
today, there would be an instant message from brain to body to not even take
the phone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In addition to this, I would
politely inform her that I am short of time, and that I do not take part in
this kind of request.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It goes against my
principles.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Of course,
whilst it does sincerely go against my principles, the bigger reason in refusing
to film a woman in the gym (or any other place for that matter, perhaps with
the exception of being with a girlfriend in a wonderful place in the world) is
for self-interest on my part and not devaluing other people’s perception and
view of me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Simply put, a man filming a
woman, irrespective to it being his girlfriend or worse still a woman he is not
banging, comes across as a man who is trying too hard to impress a woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A man gets the best out a woman when she is
endeavouring to impress him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Men posing
in the gym</span></u></p>
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<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With this
considered however, a woman posing in the gym (or any other place), taking
selfies of herself, or embarrassingly filming herself, will get away with this
deliverable much more than a man will.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This is simply because if a woman is hot, most men turn a blind eye to
an exhibition act of these kinds due to the male mind primarily being attracted
to women who are the most sexually attractive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He might have knowledge that a woman performing her life this way is a
red alert for poor long-term material (although I tend to think most men do not
even have this level of comprehension), but he will take oversight due to the
rewards that are led to his penis.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">On the other
hand, a man showboating in the same method will, by and large, be frowned upon
by other women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The lower the confidence
of the woman (and do not forget that most women have low confidence), the
greater she will be less appealed towards him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It is always important to note that only famous men can truly get away
with elevated level posing and self-attention seeking in the eyes of female
onlookers.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">For further
explanation, female distaste of male posing kind of aligns with female distaste
of male physical allure.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Both items
prickle her ego.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst a woman may not
be less sexually attracted to a man she sees posing (on the basis she was
sexually attracted to him in the first place), these acts of posing will deter
her thoughts of desiring him as a male partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Ultimately, she will perceive him as a bit of a wally, and as a modern
day western world woman is obsessed with how she believes the world thinks of
her, she sure to hell does not want to be known as the girlfriend with a posing
wally of a boyfriend.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><u>Variables to the above</u></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Like any
study of women’s emotional thought-process onto a man, there is sub-vision
analysis required which implicates on the severity and forgiveness of his
delivery.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I offer a selection:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">An
ugly to below average looking man will hardly ever gain anything from posing in
the eyes of a woman, but he will equally not lose any admiration either.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This may sound like a contradiction to all
the aforementioned explanation, but quite simply she had zero attraction onto
him in the first place, therefore it could not move any further south.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On a rare occasion, an ugly to below average
man seen posing could make a woman think he has something to offer beyond his
ugliness (maybe she thinks he could be a professional/potential athlete,
fitness Youtuber, or personal trainer), and we all know a woman is far more
attracted towards a man when she sniffs money and social status.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Average
looking men will follow a very similar path to ugly and below average men in
the question of posing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There will be
very little difference, other than an average looking man naturally will have
more female suitors (even if most are not sought after women) than uglier men,
all else being equal.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Above
average looking men need to tread carefully when posing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In normal circumstances, there is no better
position in the linear scale of male physical attractiveness than being above
average looking (7/10 to 7.75/10).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>An
above average looking man has a woman’s emotional ego in a perfect position –
she finds him attractive, but he does not put her nose out of joint by being too
easy on the eye.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, should he
start to pose too often and too blatantly, this luxury of a woman’s ideal
emotional temperament can be thrown down the toilet.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Men
at the high end of male physical attractiveness should avoid being seen posing
at all costs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A woman already feels
intimidated, inferior, and ego damaged in seeing men at the top end of male
aesthetic beauty, therefore posing will only further alienate and distant her
intentions in being with him that much further.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">In
respect to all the above, if a man holds high social status and wealth, the
negative consequences regarding his degree of posing will be mitigated to a
large extent.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A woman is easily put off
by a man when he does something she does not like, and she is very unforgiving in
any wrong move he makes (whether it be her male partner or just a man she
knows/sees), however these displeasing sights or acts are put to one side when
she has something to gain which is a greater incentive than the things that
enforce irritation in her mind.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What is
the solution / what do I do?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">When all
said and done, let me start with the simple part.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In no way, shape or form should a man take
pictures of himself, film himself, or, as shameful and shameless as it gets,
set up filming equipment to do so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Let
that be the foundation of this post, if nothing else.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">With that
said, gym mirrors are there for a reason.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It would be a bit weird if you faced away from the mirror during a set
performance, therefore use the mirror for, and only for, the time you perform
that set.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Amalgamating
the two therefore, I think I have perfected the happy medium of what to do in
the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">During a set, I focus entirely on the
mirror to assess my form and technique.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This viewing of myself is far more with focus on a mind to muscle
signal, as opposed to the necessity of how good I am looking.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Once the set is complete, if it is a
standing exercise I look away from the mirror, and use the short rest period as
an opportunity to stretch out and take a small sip of water.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Occasionally I may even have a discrete letch
at an impressive looking woman in there, before focusing once more on the next
set.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If on a bench exercise, once the set is
complete I stand up and stretch/sip again in facing away from the mirror.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If the mirror is in a more isolated part
of the gym when performing a bench exercise, if possible post set I will
stretch out in facing the brick/plasterboard/timber wall as opposed to looking
in the mirror.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Once all sets are finished, I quickly
move on to the next exercise and area in the gym.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What all
this results in is not allowing any woman to think I am too into myself,
concurrent to them knowing I am a serious and dedicated trainer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
will look for any reason to believe dating a good looking man is not a good
decision. Do not make this decision easy
for them.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-58821836687068929752023-07-05T13:26:00.007+02:002023-07-05T13:28:07.375+02:00Life lessons in dealing with women<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“The biggest lessons in life derive from
your mistakes and failures rather than your triumphs and accomplishments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You just need to ensure the latter evolves
from the former.”</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I picked up
on <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-biggest-lesson-that-life-has-taught-you/answer/Dr-Adithya-Meher">this article</a></span> via
a daily link that arrives to my inbox.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">*****************************************</span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">Today is my ex-girlfriend's birthday. I
didn't text or call her from past 6 months so today I called her. The
conversation went on something like this....<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Me: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Hey,
happy birthday!!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Thankyou.
By the way who is this??<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Me: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Guess...<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She : </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Adithya??<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Me : </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Thank
god u remember me, how are you doing? I heard that u qualified in JEE mains<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She : </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Yeah,
well that's not such a great thing to brag about <i>(irritated)</i><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Me: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Its
okay yar, not a problem, prepare well for advanced..<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Dude,
I'm actually outside now and phone's battery is about to die, so shall we talk
some other day?<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Me: </span></b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">How
much percentage of charge is left?<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><b><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">She: </span></b><i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;">Hung
the call</span></i><span face=""Segoe UI",sans-serif" style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">Later I checked in whatsapp, she was
online almost all the time. I had such a heavy schedule, but still I managed to
call her and tried to talk. But the way she responded was so devastating.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><span style="color: #282829; font-family: georgia; font-size: 10pt;">This incident has taught me a great lesson
in my life….<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="q-text" style="background: white; margin-bottom: 12.0pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 0cm; margin: 0cm 0cm 12pt;"><b><span style="color: #282829; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="font-family: georgia;">“Don't waste your time in convincing
useless people because they never appreciate your value in their life"</span><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">*****************************************</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">My introductory
thoughts</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">There will
be very few (honest) men out there who have not, at least once in their life,
replicated this kind of mistake or poor choice of actions as the narrator does
so in this scenario.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I know I have, and
on more than a couple of occasions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">It is an
applauding trait to face up to your mistakes, shortcomings, or poor
judgements. It is an incredibly poor
trait to never do so.</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With this
said, the only way a man can learn to better execute in future decision-making
with female interaction is to not consistently return to the mistakes once
made.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You can forgive one error, maybe
two or three, but sooner rather than later it is not a half bad idea to nip
them in the bud.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you primarily do not
learn from your own life experience, and secondary you do not understand what
you see with your own two eyes via others, the unwelcome news is there is not a
better source out there to assist you.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The key
mistakes</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">There are a
number of mistakes this man makes, based on the information he declares in his
shared story.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will list the mistakes
and poor assessments on his part, along with the easy factors he should have
comprehended in order to refrain from this apparent poor common sense delivery.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">On
the assumption the ex-girlfriend never contacted him (it is highly unlikely she
did, based on him saying he never contacted her), there was no reason for him
to contact her in the first place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do
not care if it is her birthday, in fact any man getting on with his life would
have let the day pass by without conscious awareness.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Even
if her birthday came before his birthday since the split six months ago, he
should have installed a mindset that if this was the chronological case, she
would not have sent him any wishes in the slightest.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If
there has been no contact in six months, you can place your house on the fact
she was getting on with her life, in conjunction with truly little (if any)
passing thought towards him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Any
woman still in love with a man will have sent messages of some kind post
parting of ways, especially in the preliminary stages when her heart is still
achy, and she is hanging onto hope that the two will reconcile.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The
vast majority of women will not stay single for six months.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He should have assumed she is either in a
relationship with another man, or she is in something more casual (but still
sexual) with another man.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Why
did he call her after six months of no contact?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>At most, and still not advised, he should have only sent a two word
WhatsApp message.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her response (or lack
of) would have given him the signs to whether she is wanting to get it back on,
or she is after nothing more than a bit of attention-seeking for a day or two.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Her
first reply of “Who is this” is an insult to a man who was once her
ex-boyfriend (kind of makes me wonder if the whole thing meant a lot more to
him than it did to her, even at the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Was he even nailing her!?).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
she genuinely (and I very much doubt this was the case) no longer attained his
number on her directory, then this is not a good signal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If she (as I expect was the case) played the
plausible deniability card that she did not recognise the number, then this is
also not a good sign – as a woman still into a man would not gamble like this
(granted, some immature women do this just to play the hard to get game).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">His
“Thank god you remember me” line is dire in order to try and get a woman to
like you in a sexual manner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Any man
coming across like he is grateful to be with a woman is a man who will not
succeed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A woman needs to believe she is
at least as gratified to be with a man as the inverse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In an ideal world, she is even more happy to
know him than he is joyful to know her.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Similar
to the above, he gets it all wrong by being the obvious chaser.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women are more aroused by and attracted to a
man when they chase him.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If
you are trying to nail a woman – whether at interaction stage or in attempts to
reconvene what once was – being called “Dude”, “Mate” or similar is not what a
man should desire to hear.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If it was
“Babe” or “Hun”, this is a more positive sign she may want more (however, do
not take this as a major positive in text language alone).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As
soon as she cooked up the desperate lie of a flat phone battery, that is enough
evidence, if there was not enough present beforehand for him, to know she is
bullshitting and is not interested.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
she had simply claimed she was late for a meeting but would love to pick up
later, then it would have been more believable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>An average phone battery will have at least eight hours of life;
therefore, it is somewhat coincidental that after a minute of conversation with
him, it is going flat.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">His
“How much percentage of charge is left?” question is the mother of all
desperation and supplication.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is one
thing to be lied to by a woman, but to subsequently come across as believing
her, and further still clinging onto any last grasp of her existence, just
makes a lesser man out of yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Hanging
up on the call, even for the most naïve and blue balls man, has to be the final
nail in the coffin to any pitiful grasp of hope that the woman likes you in a
sexual endeavouring way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For your own
sake, move onto something else.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Such is
the constant and guilt free process women take in lying to men (and lying to
themselves and others too), a man will find it extremely hard to control a
woman’s lying habits. What a man can
control is his pride, dignity, and decisions to bin her once he realizes said
woman is a constant liar. Take control
of what you own, and your life will be a happier one.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Has the
man learnt from this?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Without
knowing the man, or without ever mentoring him in any such capacity, it is
unknown whether he learnt from these mistakes, or he continued in the same exercise
with the next woman he met (or God forbid, the same woman once more).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can only pray for him that the pennies did
drop.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">He did seem
to be incredibly upset, and for that he has my greatest and sincerest
sympathies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have been there myself,
and I know readers of this blog have been there also.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can guarantee you that any man saying he
has not, is a liar.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">To his
credit, he did write the corrective words at the end.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, he is effectively saying that she
does not deserve his efforts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My only
concern for him, and many men who act like him, is that they say the right
things in not being prepared to be treated like dog shit by a woman again, but
they rinse repeat with the same deficiencies when love encounters down the
line.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">You may or
may not have noticed, at the time of the man writing, that the two of them were
junior doctors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>May I point out that a
doctor in the medical sector – whether still within the education institute or
fully practicing – are commonly seen as the <1% of professional, educated,
and intelligent people out there.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Two things
come to mind on this matter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>First, it
further illustrates that no matter how educated, intelligent, or highly
professional in career status a man may be, this does not compensate for his
knowledge level of emotional psychology savviness when dealing with women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Based on observing numerous men in this
compartment lacking experience with women, I would even go as far to say that
these men are the men who are the ineptest with women, and they leave the scene
of crime with the heaviest hearts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That
said, a lot of these men do tend to go for less attractive (Plain Jane) types
of women, therefore their receipt of broken hearts and sustained lying to is
mitigated to a considerable extent.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Second, do
not think that it is only lower class, lower educated, or less intelligent
women who are most prone to <span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2020/11/screening-for-lying-women.html">lying to and playing immature games with men</a></span>.</span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whilst I would argue that you are more likely to encounter these habits
with women in this group (such is a lower class or low intelligent woman’s
greater need for drama, problems and issues), it simply reinforces the proof
that, if it means moving away from one man and onto a better male option, a
woman who belongs to this higher class/intelligence/educated segment will
happily lie and manipulate until the cows come home if it means moving up the
food chain ladder, so to speak.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If you an
intelligent man yourself, the only difference between a lower intelligence
woman and a higher intelligence woman is that you will naturally find the
latter more enjoyable to be with than the former. Nevertheless, your mentality approach should be
that you cannot trust one of them any more than the other.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-63120484419313139232023-06-16T14:28:00.003+02:002023-06-16T14:28:34.398+02:00Deadly sisters, or left with no choice?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“When you stop chasing the wrong things,
you give the right things a chance to catch you.” </span></i><span face="Arial, sans-serif">(Lolly Daskal)</span></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I watched an
interesting movie last week by the name of <i>Deadly Sisters.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></i>I will try not to spoil the plot for you,
but based on the film deriving from real life past sequence of events, I would
expect more than a few people know about the origin in any case.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As I am
conscious of not creating any spoilers, in addition to plenty of literature out
there which can <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Linda_Andersen">elaborate on the synopsis</a></span> should you wish to tame your inquisitiveness, I will implement
my thoughts from a different angle.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
have to confess that the film moved me, and from that perspective alone, it is
usually proof that the consumer (in this case, me) was gripped on the storyline
and respective acting.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Caveats
to the film</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Even though <i>Deadly
Sisters</i> is based on a true (and I use the word true with caution) story,
there are still areas which you need to establish with regards to how much is
what actually happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A bit like my
criticism of some scientific studies in the emotional preferences spectrum, the
results are only as good as the honesty behind the candidate’s answers.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In other
words, whilst I have no reason to not believe the vast majority is based on
factual events, there is no guarantee every scene played out is what occurred
in reality.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Did the film production team
work with the two sisters (I highly doubt this was the case, due to privacy,
security, and identity consideration if nothing else), or did they base it all
on what came out of the trial.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As much
as the trial evidence and information would have given a good grounding to what
went on, nothing comes close to a person who experienced the event telling the
event from their experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To
reiterate once more though, this is providing the storyteller is basing it on
honesty and clear memory.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A small
backdrop to the film</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">At the risk
of contradicting myself from further up, I do feel it is necessary to
articulate a few words regarding the nuts and bolts of the film.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, two teenage sisters (I think they
were sixteen and seventeen) and their younger brother (about eight in age, but
maybe younger) lived with their alcoholic mother in Ontario.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What went on from there does not leave too
much to the imagination.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">On top of
her alcoholism, and medication to compliment the cocktail, this pathetic excuse
of a mother and human being of forty-four years had a liking for the wrong
men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Wrong men, who liked to abuse
her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The second husband (I believe he
was the father of all three children, but I stand to be corrected) was a decent
guy based on the film portray, but it appeared he got out due to her alcoholic
ways.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He went on to have a new partner
and family, and it came across to me like he wanted to cut ties with all
involved during his past life (including the kids).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
not only did the mother’s boyfriends like to abuse her, but it led the viewer
to believe they also abused the daughters too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As a writer and person who never holds back in criticising women’s
emotional habits and choices, but equally a moral person who detests any
thought (let alone sight) of a man using his male physical domination to damage
his female partner, part of me, in times of this nature, holds strong desires
to dive through the television screen and give the man my strongest right hook
to his face.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Like I have stated in the
past, there is a firm distinction between knowing when to stand up to a woman
for her own good, in comparison also being the shield for when she is in
desperate need of help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I digress….</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The worst
parts of the film</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Aside of the
one scene where the mother’s lover tried to abuse the youngest daughter, there
were a few aspects to the film which left me with a bitter taste to my
mouth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even as I write, it still rattles
me slightly as of today.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The first
aspect, and this happened on at least two occasions, was when, during her
pissed up moments in barely being able to stand up, the daughters encountered these
pitiful visions of her hopeless existence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What a sad state of affairs to be a young adult, and having to see your
parent effectively act like the kid concurrent to the kid having no choice but
to play the role of the adult.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If an
adult is not mentally mature and financially stable enough to bring up a child,
they simply should not have a child until they are. Too many people have children when they have
not even grown up themselves, and the ones left picking up the pieces are the
children trying to find their way through the murky waters of life.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Second, simultaneous
to being plastered and seeing the daughters as much in bewilderment as
discouragement and panic, the mother then played the “I am such a bad mom”
card.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As far as I am concerned, this
line is not worth a penny or cent if a woman cannot back up her apologetic ways
with actions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my opinion, too many
women use the “I am a bad mother”, “I am a bad person”, or “I am a bad
girlfriend” (although granted, women do not generally apologize unless it
benefits them in some way) line in a vain attempt to detract from the sin they
have committed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Too many recipients of
these words are too compassionate to these women’s, in the face of it,
contrition.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">When a
woman says she is a bad person – providing she has genuinely been a bad person
and not just seeking attention for saying it - the recipient of these words
(and in particular if you are the male partner in this dynamic) should ensure
they reinforce the fact she has sinned, rather than be appeasing of her
actions. It is only when a woman is condemned,
with negative consequences to follow for her, that she may start to act in
accordance. If she is not told to
retribute with solid actions, her cry for sympathy will be assumed on her part
that she can sin again, and again in the same manner.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">However, by
far the biggest gripe I had with this woman, or a dreadful title of a mother,
was during one instance when she was once again under the influence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She sat on the couch kind of flirting with
her lover (the man who had groped and been physical with the younger daughter a
few times) who was also inebriated, with the two daughters and young son in the
same room.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The little boy smashed a
glass or something, to which the man smacked him to the floor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The idiot left just saying something like, “I
am done” (with the whole relationship etc).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As if that
was not bad enough, rather than let the moron leave, form a mindset that she
will only see him again if hell freezes over, and, most importantly, take
instant care and concern to her son, the despicable woman instead goes running
after her boyfriend in plea for him to not end things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nothing like getting your priorities right,
is there!?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A related
story that I know…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This
resentment of her family, and the clear illustration that a lot of women, even
after mothering children, put their own life and welfare ahead of their
siblings, often leads me onto a time in my childhood that never leaves my
memory, albeit in a much smaller way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It
hurts me to think about it, but sometimes the honesty and truth, aligned with
how other men can benefit from my experiences and thoughts, is duty I feel a
necessity to accept.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">You will
hear a lot of women go on record that nothing comes before their daughter/s or
son/s, and that they would give their life for them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In >99% of cases when these female words
are heard, I truly believe them.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In the
larger scheme of things though, surely these words are a given.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If I was a parent, I would give my heart,
kidney, liver, eyes, ears and limbs to my kid if it meant them surviving and me
living my last day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As a nonparent
myself though, women who are mothers saying these words – that they would give
their life for their child/children – is the equivalent of me saying I would
give my life for my mother ahead of my best friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Bit of a strange one, if you ask me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The reason I
perhaps am not too gratifying in these words are, whilst I do believe women
when they say they would put their children ahead of anyone in the world,
including their boyfriend or husband, is because this is an easy answer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As this conundrum would be a highly unlikely
future decision, the words are easy to say.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Even the useless woman in the film dynamic would most likely have acted
in the same way.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">What I am
far more interested in is how said woman acts during her life, as opposed to
giving out lines to make herself look better in hugely improbable
scenarios.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In other words, how does she
act in terms of priorities when faced with the juggling act between her
children and new male partner (male partner who is not the father of her child
or children)?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This is when
you see which women come out the sea naked, and which women just said they were
naked when in the sea.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From my
experience in observing women over the last couple of decades – women who have
children but are then dating a man who is not the father – a large percentage
of them place their own happiness first, and they only place their children’s
happiness ahead of their own when it would leave a negative effect on their
children’s welfare, and not happiness per se.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Too many
women for my liking, after having a child or children (which, let us not
forget, was her choice and under her control), give the verbal broadcast that
they are entitled to a life too. Yes,
they are, but are they placing their own priorities and happiness ahead of
their son or daughter? I believe too
many are.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 4: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A woman
does usually love her children over and above anyone or anything else. The problem is, the immoveable force she faces
with this unconditional love is the uncontrollable female need to feel better
about herself. Often, she does not
strike the corrective balance that is a requirement to be a good parent.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-17161464259741026812023-05-29T13:20:00.003+02:002023-05-29T13:21:08.973+02:00Pronounced signs of a man’s discomfort with another man<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">“Power is found within.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Weakness is detected by those with power.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I sat in the
sauna on my own for a few minutes on a quiet Sunday morning post my gym
workout.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Subsequently, in stepped a man
I knew by face and minor acknowledgement, but we had only ever interfaced on
one conversational occasion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That one
past conversation involved his friend being there too (in the sauna once more).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A past
linked story</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Around the
month of April in 2021, I was training on the boxing bags during another Sunday
morning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I saw a lovely shaped and
pretty blonde haired woman not so subtly looking in my direction.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She stared over on about three occasions, but
it was with a lot more of a cordial expression than the usual girls who glance
over with antagonism or neutrality.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A fortnight
later, and once more I saw the same woman in there on another Sunday at a
similar time to before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Again, she made
very little concealment to express her interest in my goings on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst she was perhaps a little skinnier than
my ideal female figure, it was only marginally thinner than that perfect (in my
view) shape.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She looked about 23 or 24
in age.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">I should say
that, on the second time of seeing her, she did have one guy hanging around
whilst she warmed up on the treadmill.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
noticed they were talking, but it all seemed a bit too friendly and comfortable
to construe it as them being lovers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I continued
on that basis in any case, especially considering she was not with him during
her weights regime.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As the
interest was quite clear, on both her part and mine I must add, I had set it in
my objective to approach her the next time I saw her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, like life’s coincidental magic
weaving its destiny wand so often it seems, I never saw her for the rest of
that year.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A year
later….</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Approximately
twelve months later, and I walked towards the entrance of the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A woman held the door open for me with a
smile.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She even said, “Are you
alright?”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She walked off ahead of me,
and then a few minutes later I saw her with a mixed-raced man in the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The two of them trained together throughout.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The penny
then dropped to amalgamate all the incidents.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The woman was the blonde haired girl as explained.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The man with her, and hence her boyfriend,
was the man in the sauna as explained in the first paragraph.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They trained together, with only isolated
occasions alone, for the next six months and on regular visits.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In spite of
her being with him on pretty much each instance, she continued to keep looking
over in my direction.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There was even one
comical time when I returned after a two week absence from the gym post a
summer vacation, and as I trained on the squat machine, she kind of lingered
over and stayed within a couple of metres.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>As she did, her boyfriend walked over and quite aggressively said to
her, “Why have you come over here!?”</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
both of them stopped coming to this gym around October of last year.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have not seen her since.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He started back during the early part of this
year, but he now trains with a different buddy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whilst I sensed his annoyance with my extant being, there was one
occasion when I walked in (on a day when he was with his girlfriend last
summer) and he gave me the respect nod and facial expression.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That was the only time, although if we
crossed paths he would somewhat, perhaps in discomfort, acknowledge back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Back to
the sauna….</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">So, as he
enters the sauna, I asked him how he was.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He reluctantly asked me back, to which I then asked him how his training
was going.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">The first
thing I noticed was that he went to the furthest part away in the sauna as
possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No problem, as everyone has
their favourite spot, I guess.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What was
more transparent though was he turned his body at a right angle away from me,
which meant of course he could not look me straight on.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">When he
spoke, as I do with everyone, I looked him in the eye the whole time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When I spoke, I would say at most he looked
me in the eye a third of the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
asked him, as much as to keep the conversation going if nothing else, a good
number of questions about himself, his life, his job, and other things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am struggling to recall one question that
he asked me about anything, myself, or the world.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Male
weakness signs</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As explained
in <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2021/06/why-most-men-dont-like-highest-calibre.html">this previous post</a></span>,
there are tell-tale signs to comprehend which kinds of men warm to you and companionable
towards you, and which kinds of men are in total discomfort when around
you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Allow me to list the easy signals
that represent the latter:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">At
all costs, he will make attempts to not sit or stand near to your vicinity.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If
no choice but to be near you, he will turn his body away from you.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will appear totally uncomfortable in both body language and facial viewing when
near to you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Then compare that to how at
ease he seems when with someone no more, or less, physically attractive in
respect to himself. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will give you truly little, sometimes even no, eye contact when talking.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will not acknowledge you when walking in opposite directions.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will not ask you anything about yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">When
you talk about your life, his facial expression and body language will portray
a form of negativity and frustration, and it will be clear he desires you to
stop talking.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Sometimes
he will try and ridicule you, and in vast majority of cases it will be when
other men, or women, are around and within the same conversation.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Aligned
with the above, he will not ridicule you when the two of you are alone.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will make astronomical endeavours to not be alone with you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If no choice to be one on one with you, his
disconcerted disposition cannot be hidden.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">He
will simply try and talk to anyone else before having to talk to you, even if
his life depended on it in proverbial terms.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In contrast,
you can pretty much flip the script and illustrate the polar opposite for men
who are comfortable around you, to the extent where they even make efforts to
spend time with you and enjoy every second of being with someone of unique
stature.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To list some of these men:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Solid,
family men (who have no interest in playing away from their female partner).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Most
(although certainly not all) considerably older men than you.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Gay
men.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Feminine
but heterosexual (or closet!) men.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Men
who have no intention to be fighting for the most sought after women.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Rare
men who just embrace the existence of stand out male figureheads.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Men
(in the way women act with famous or high status men), who attain a mentality
to find comfort in knowing a striking looking man, and/or well known, man.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">A common
misconception – that the highest calibre men should act this way….</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">One common
misconception I have always laughed at is that a man acting apathetic and
disinterested with another man is because he is so much cooler, in demand,
busier, more popular, more sought after and, ultimately, a man with more social
status and worth to the world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I call
total bullshit on this, perhaps social proof obsessed segment of the
population, consensus.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">For one, and
with misfortune acknowledged for anyone who has been dealt a cruel blow in life
for the statement I will make, each man has two arms and two legs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Everything else is simply side factors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We are all individuals, we all have our
purposes, and we all possess our own strengths and weaknesses.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst I may be better looking and stand out above
the average man, this does not make me any better than any other man who steps
out his residence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I sincerely mean
this.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Second, if
you are a man who has been blessed with physical attractiveness, personality,
charisma, wealth, knowledge, social status, or savviness much over and above
the average man, then the way I view this is that these blessings are something
a man should be appreciative of, and not used as a reason to look down on
others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In simple terms, if I have been
blessed in some ways, I find it enriching to disperse happiness to the lives of
others, no matter how small this contribution can be within my offerings.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This means I take pleasure in giving, rather
than expecting those to bow down to my stature.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Third, and
most importantly in my opinion, is that if a man is comfortable and at ease
with his existence, it should be the easiest and most natural procedure in the
world to show an interest in the life of another.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in mind, a man who asks questions, who
holds comfortable body language, who radiates positive facial expression when
listening, who is happy to be in the same vicinity as another, and who is
generally a likeable and engaging person, is worth a thousand men who believe
acting cool, apathetic and unenthusiastic is the way to go.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This is perhaps
kind of, in a nutshell, why I cannot stand the whole fame and celebrity
business.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, I cannot stand
people who are up their own ass.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Humility
is not thinking less of yourself. It is
thinking about yourself less.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">My mother
once gave me the wisest words. She said
that irrespective to whether it is the King of England or a tramp on the
streets, you should treat them both with the same amount of respect. I take it one step further and describe in
terms of treating a person with the same amount of respect that they offer to
you. </span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-47920079376445762042023-05-12T16:33:00.003+02:002023-05-12T16:34:22.647+02:00Pathetic male bullies<p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">“You can leave a place through several
reasons, but you will happily return if the culture was enjoyable. If you disliked
the culture, no incentive should make you return.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">If I could
choose only one aspect to talk about in life that I despise, I would most
likely choose the topic of bullying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Bullying, and the by-product character traits that belong to bullies in
general, have no place or time at all in my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The worrying part is, I have observed a
pronounced increase in bullying over the last decade<span style="background-color: white;">, <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2014/11/work-jerks-but-male-partner-lapdogs.html">not only in the workplace</a></span>, </span>but in social
environments too.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My first
memory of bullying</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">My dislike
of bullying, most likely subconsciously back then, came about as early as
junior school (around aged nine).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
recall a boy within a social circle being bullied by the schoolground bully, as
he was unnecessarily punched in the arm numerous times.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He walked off crying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Part of me
feels guilty for being in the circle of on watchers.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perhaps this does not make me much better,
that day at least, than the bully himself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The victim boy was also alienated by this crowd, as we were “instructed”
to no longer be his friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For the
record, the bullied boy that day went onto be six foot tall by the age of
thirteen, extremely popular at secondary school (a different secondary school
to me) with girls and other boys, and one of the best footballers of his age in
the city.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If you
are a late developer, and/or you find yourself being bullied and humiliated at an
early age, try to analyse this low time in your life as only a phase. You will be the winner over time, as the
bully goes on to dead end jobs and a low life.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Around the
time when he was being isolated, I believe the innate trait I was given - that
held natural sympathy for strugglers in life - took over.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am certainly not looking for any plaudits,
let it be said.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, one evening I
cycled past his house, and there was this uncontrollable and somewhat obligated
inclination to turn round, knock on his door, and see if he wanted to
play.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will never forget the look on
his face, as someone had finally shown him the hand of friendship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>From memory, news got back to the bully and
others that I had done so.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I just passed
it off as feeling sorry for him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Early
memory of workplace bullies</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As near
adult life came about, the whole workplace bullying observation was all too obvious
to ignore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My first job, at sixteen to
twenty-two, was working as a supermarket replenisher/trolley boy/checkout kid -
to financially support my education years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>There were so many pitiful assistant managers, managers, senior
managers, and branch managers who appeared to choose the path of being complete
and utter pathetic bullies.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I hated the whole
culture and predicament.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">It was bad
enough these men being verbally aggressive towards young students like me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I recall one particular day when I went up to
the assistant branch manager, and I addressed a question by saying “Mr”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He looked down at me and said, “Kev will
do!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What a tosser!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There were a hundred ways he could have
phrased and toned it in asking me to call him by his first name next time, yet
he chose the worst way possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In retrospect,
this idiot did me a favour.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was
conceivably the light bulb moment I required to reinforce that, when I reach a
senior position within my career path, I never even come close to repeating the
way that twat acted with me. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I understand
as much as anyone that extreme nice guys cannot lead an army (numerous posts in
this blog have documented how I think too many men are too nice these days),
however you can lead an army with respect for others, and respect for yourself.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The
greatest men, in my opinion, ignite unrequired and unsearched respect and
admiration from onlooking women and other men.
The weakest men, in my view, are those who go searching for this praise
and approval, in vain attempts to bring attention onto his strengths, most
likely to try and hide his shortcomings.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">During this
supermarket phase, I knew of this warehouse man named Gordon.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was a lovely family-oriented person (wife
and two children), even if with respect he lacked ambition, drive, and intellect.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was an industrious worker though.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">There was
this particular time when, due to family commitments, he asked the hierarchy if
he could change his shift pattern.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They
refused, to which he asked them to reconsider.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>When I asked him what they said the second time, it will stay with me
forever when he explained their response was – “Can you really afford to be
asking this?”</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If you
can, build a life for yourself where a bully boy needs you as much, or more,
than you need him. Form this mindset
that you are not afraid of the consequences, in which standing up to him is
your prerogative in setting an example to less forthright and courageous
men. They may not back you in the moment
(such is their fear of losing their job, being afraid of what will happen etc),
however be assured that they will respect your actions.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Later
viewing of workplace bullies</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">As I have
worked through the differing industries from twenty-three until the present
day, my observation of male bullies in the work environment has rarely taken a
time off phase.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Some have tried to talk
down to me, although bullies tend to prey on men much weaker and frightened of
the circumstances men than me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Coming to
think of it, workplace bullies hold common dominators.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I list these:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Many
suffer from small man syndrome (<5ft 6”).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Nearly
all are not physically attractive.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Most
are overweight.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Some
of them do not smell too good (high stress = high sweat levels).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
high percentage have truly little natural charisma and personality.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Most
do not attain a high level of self-confidence.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
lot of them think they are ladies men (including those who are married and have
kids).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Many
have over-leveraged themselves with big mortgages and beyond their means
lifestyle.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Pretty
much all of them, outside of their profession/status, have extraordinarily
little else to offer the world.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">If this
sounds harsh of me, then my answer to this would be to not be a bully in the
first place.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you are not, then I
would not need to criticize you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Simple
as…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">How do
you overcome bullies?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">You will
find that bullies, whether in the workplace or in social environments, are only
comfortable intimidating other men when they have a crowd to show off in front
of.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in mind, you have a few
options:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Answer
bullies back as soon as they provoke you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You will usually find that bullies do not like it when someone stands up
to them, and because of this they are shell-shocked and in silence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The chances are they will not attempt to
humiliate, ridicule, provoke or bully you again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They will move onto someone else.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">In same
fashion as above, if a bully acts in similar delivery in the face of someone in
your proximity, respond back to the bully on behalf of the (most likely) weaker
recipient of his words.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">With
plausibility in mind, be more physically daunting than the bully.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Bullies are fundamental weak men, and you
will find they are not comfortable around better looking, and more
aesthetically gifted, men.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">More
important than physical attractiveness, acquire a stronger psychological
mindset than the bully.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If he has made
you angry, the next time you walk past him, give him firm eye contact which
illustrates you have his number, so to speak.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Add a little nod if you do meet eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Your expression needs to be only slightly aggressive.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Get
bullies on their own.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As stated above, a
bully needs a crowd to take comfort in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Safety in numbers mentality, comes to mind.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You will find that bullies crawl into their
shell when there is no audience around, and it is a simple scenario of man on
man.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Bullies
despise high value men…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In addition
to all the above, it is undeniable that men who are bullies abhor the sight of
the most sought after men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After all,
bullies are renowned for trying to be ladies men, and the most sought after men
are the men who are the most popular with women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is a predicament that a bully cannot
stand.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Most bullies
are average to below average in male physical attractiveness terms, but I could
be accused of this being a lazy analysis, such is the fact that >90% of men
fall somewhere between average or lower in this respect.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, I am struggling to ever recall
one bully I have encountered in my life where I could objectively say he was
good-looking/high physical attractiveness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">This
observation of mine is more than just a simple coincidence, or a case of law of
average numbers examination.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you ask
me, a top end physically attractive man would never feel the urge to become a
bully, because he has little to prove.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A
male bully, average looking in association and by definition, feels he has
everything to prove.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Ultimately,
this is the fundamental reason a bully hates a high value (and hence usually,
very good-looking) man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The man with
high physical attractiveness is effortlessly attracting women, whilst the bully
is working his ass off to try and attract women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I guess, from the bully’s standpoint, he
thinks life is just not fair.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is
why he abominates the man who sexually attracts an array of women in the same
environment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A final thought – non-verbal or not obvious
bullies</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">There is
another type of, less obvious, male bully out there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These bullies are harder to identify if you
are not that switched on, simply because they are more discrete in their
antics.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You could even argue that they
are not bullies as such, and in fact just resentful, weak men.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Funnily
enough, you will also find, as I have (and still do) in my life experience,
that a highly blessed visually attractive man is the recipient of this weaker
man’s meagre acts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As this weaker type
of bully is not as verbal or provocative as a traditional bully, this man looks
for ways to try and devalue a higher value male competitor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In a way, it is just as derisory as a bully
of any kind.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">In essence,
what he does is try and seek a way to lower a high value man’s importance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As the high value man is already capturing
attention and compliments, the weak bully will endeavour to isolate any
conversation away from his sought after male contender, he will strive to talk
about any topic he knows this man is not knowledgeable of or interested in, he
will ask questions to other people (men and women) to avoid the stand out man’s
verbal entrance, and he will, probably more than anything else, refrain from
asking this man any questions about himself, or subjects he knows he excels in.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">Do you know
anybody like this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I know of two, and unfortunately,
they are too close to me to say who they are.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 4: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Bullies are
fundamental cowards, and they attempt to compensate this deficiency by being
louder, brasher, more aggressive, and with provocative words. You will rarely see a bully in a fight with a
man of equal or greater threat, because by default he will always look for
someone weaker than himself.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-91949416505752589402023-04-28T16:37:00.053+02:002023-04-28T18:06:10.990+02:00Girlfriends in my life<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;">“If you dance with your eyes closed, the
memories seem to last longer.”<o:p></o:p></span></i></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Adrian asks
a couple of questions on the back o<span style="background-color: white;">f <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/04/mens-declining-looks-create-enhanced.html?sc=1682166825860#c8874600652498733695">this previous post</a></span>.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span face=""Trebuchet MS",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: #666666; font-size: 9pt;">What type of women have been the ones that you
have dated, and how is it that you screen for them?</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span face=""Trebuchet MS", sans-serif" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; background: white; color: #666666; font-size: 9pt;">How do you screen women to be homely girls,
as you call them. Cause at the end of the day, that’s the type of girl I want.
I don’t want headaches. Thanks again.</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">My response:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The easiest
way to answer the first question is to give a synopsis on the five longest
relationships I have been involved in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The durations ranged from five months to over five years, although all
but one of them consisted of breaks within the emotional association.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometimes I saw other women in those
separation to reconnecting interim periods, and other times not.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Claire :-
7.5/10 hotness level</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I met Claire
when I was at university.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Although she
was not the first girl I had sexual endeavours with, she was the first I dated
who surpassed the four month mark.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When
it did pass this milestone, I started to realize we would be more than just a
freshers fling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were together for
over three years.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Claire was
the most confident woman I have ever been involved with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She possessed a magical amalgamated
innocence, gutsy, bubbly and outgoing personality, which was assisted with an
air of self-assurance but still occasional doubts in herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She put herself out there in an empathetic
way, and whilst not enjoying rejection via acquaintances or professions, she
shrugged it off and got on with things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Even to this
day, with comparable physical looks to one side for a moment, I have to say she
was the best girlfriend (and wife) material out of any woman I have been
with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would even go as far to say that
she is one of the best in this respect out of any woman I have met in my
life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even though it seems a million
years ago, I still think of her occasionally.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She was not the one for me if I put my hand on my heart, but I doubt her
now husband could have asked for anyone better.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In terms of
us getting together, it was quite simple.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I saw her checking me out in a bar from close distance, and we had an
extended conversation later on in a small nightclub.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A couple of days on, and a mutual friend told
me she was interested in me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst I
was not instinctively attracted to her (I actually liked her friend more in a
sexual attraction manner), I just felt so relaxed when talking to her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We started dating about a month later.</span></p><p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Claire was one of those women you could introduce to anyone, in knowledge she would just mingle in with the conversation irrespective to it being someone she knew or a complete stranger. It was a joy to be with her, even if she still had occasional moments of trying to create drama and arguments unnecessarily. She was fairly good and willing in bed, but not great.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">An important
note to Claire and I is that we had quite a few mutual friends.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These respective social groups were not incredibly
close, but close enough to ease the initial stages of what could sometimes be
awkwardness or silence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When you know a
woman either personally or through friends, the path to something more serious
is a far smoother and easier one.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Steffi :-
8.75/10 hotness level</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I met Steffi
on a summer vacation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was queuing for
a drink when I noticed this extremely attractive long haired blonde (hence,
Steffi) behind me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When we got to the
drinks order point, I was kind of ignored by the bartender, and I somehow ended
up returning to the back of the queue.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Bizarrely though, this blonde also ended up back behind me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">When we
reached the drinks order point once more, the blonde asked me if I could order the
drink for her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I did, and it led
naturally to a conversation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I remember
seeing her eyes look at me in such an obvious attraction that even a half-drunk
man could not be oblivious to.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">We had an
incredible three nights that followed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
remember struggling to find her in the nightclub on my final night, and I
almost resigned to never seeing her again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The mobile phone signals were patchy, although I almost wondered at the
time if fate was just meant to end this way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I was even considering leaving the venue such was my despondency, when suddenly
we set eyes on each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think it
was one of those moments where the world could not stand in the way of
unmeasurable sexual attraction and love.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">To this day,
I have still never felt the way I did that night, in that moment, with any
other woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am not saying I loved
Steffi the most, as I did not, but that one night will stay with me
forever.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> With this considered though, she was the least experienced and, as a probable by-product, one of the worst between the sheets in respect to experimentation, variation, proactive approach, and willingness to please me. </span>We lasted about five months,
before her university ventures took over her priorities. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I’ll never
forget the day I saw her disappear up the airport escalator towards departures,
as I watched on with internal tears dropping to my beating heart.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That was the final time I saw her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If the truth be told, and in spite of dating more
than a few other women in between, it took me a year to get over her fully and
truly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lesson learnt…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Zoe :-
8/10 hotness level</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Zoe, out of the
five I refer to, was probably the furthest away from me in respect to
compatible alignment of character.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She
was not a thicko in intelligence terms by any respect, in fact compared to most
women I have met in my life she attained a much more endearing personality and better
conversational skills.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Nevertheless, she
was the least educated out of all.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">We met in a
bar on a random winter’s Saturday night in my local city of Derby.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Me and a friend somehow got talking to one of
the women in their group (about half a dozen of them), and it did not take her
long to ask me what I thought of Zoe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>After saying I liked Zoe, and her friend telling me to talk to her
(apparently Zoe had already told her I was “fit”), we exchanged numbers after a
ten to fifteen minute conversation.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">We went out
a couple of nights later, and we dated for six months during a period I was
mainly out of work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It ended quite
acrimoniously, and she said some nasty things the day we split (although she kind
of retracted the following day, most likely to ease her guilt).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When I look back, it was most probably
nothing more than sexual chemistry, and a need to find a long term partner from
both perspectives at that time in our lives, which put us together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Without proof, I would put my house on the
likelihood she had slept with considerably more men than any of the others
included in this post.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">She was not
a slut by any stretch, but she did like sex.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Coming to think of it, I think in this dynamic she was a rare woman
(especially considering she was 27 at the time) who went for me on sexual
attraction terms, rather than being the usual woman who would look but not
touch men who look like me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Zoe was a
far better catch than most women out there, however she was the catalyst for me
facing up to the truisms of what women can be like.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I guess I should thank her for that, in a
roundabout way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With all this said, I still
wish her well, wherever she is now.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Elizabeth
:- 8.5/10 hotness level</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I doubt I
will ever meet a woman again in my life who held such a high average score in
overall female evaluation as Elizabeth (Beth).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She was not as affable or trusting as Claire, nor was she not quite as
hot as Steffi, but I did think this woman could have been the one, if there is
such a thing these days?</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Beth and I
met during the early hours in a nightclub shortly after I had concluded my
chemotherapy treatment, although I did not go into remission for a few months retrospectively
(post radiotherapy).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In spite of the
hair loss (although it had grown back to almost a shaven look), muscle
depletion and pale skin, at the end of the night Beth placed herself in a
proximity to make it crystal clear that she desired me to approach her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I duly did.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I still
wonder if my reduced physical attractiveness - at that point in my life
compared to my pinnacle (pre cancer) look – actually played a significant role
in giving me the 10% deleverage compared to Beth’s gender relativity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Would she have been so forthcoming,
accommodating and receptive if I were on her equivalent level at that time?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One can only go on life experience, and I say
50/50 at best (she was still only 23 at the time, therefore still at the female
age when a man’s physical attractiveness is a higher priority).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">We started
off seeing each other on a casual basis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This was a surprise looking back, as I was only the third man with whom
she had slept with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was still finding
my feet though after the most traumatic experience of my life, and she was in
the final few months of her Masters degree.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It worked well for then, but after a few months we both acknowledged we
wanted more.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We did have breaks due to
reasoning I will not go into, but accounting for this we were together for over
five years.</span></p><p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Love is always hard to measure, both at the time and retrospectively when comparing amongst all and others, but if someone put a gun to my head and asked me who I loved the most in pinnacle terms, I would be foolish to say it was not Beth. The physical feeling of my first orgasm with her will never leave me, although it has to be said that she, whilst hopefully still enjoying it, was left wondering why over so soon. In my defence, it was the first time I had sex for over six months (mainly due to reasons as explained above)!</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Kaitlin
:- 8.25/10 hotness level</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I met
Kaitlin when Beth and I were still together.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The story is worth elaborating on, because it illustrates and emphasizes
how two people can coincidently meet, and then continue with something
stronger.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In short,
Beth and I were clearly coming towards the end of our relationship for good
this time, however we did meet up on a holiday together in Slovenia and
Austria.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When we arrived back to the airport
in London, she went back in her car to where she was working at Bristol, and I
jumped in the shuttle bus which would take me back to my car parking site.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The driver
of the minibus asked me to go in the front next to him, as all the back seats
were taken.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Thinking we were about to
get going, I saw this attractive brunette (Kaitlin) walking past our vehicle,
so I took a good look at her in thinking that would be the only time I would
see her in my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As it happened, she hops
onto the final unoccupied seat sat next to me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Kaitlin
smiled at me straight away, and she made a self-assertive comment that she was
conscious of touching me in reaching for her seatbelt lock.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I responded by saying she could touch me
where she wanted to, and we just hit it off for a mere ten minute journey.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I took her number, without telling her
anything about my relationship situation.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The next day
though, I revealed that in spite of being in a relationship that looks like it
is on the final legs, the facts of the matter are that I was still with
someone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She said it was worth staying
in touch, and a few weeks later I told her I was now single. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We started seeing each other every weekend and
more up until quite recently, to which it faded into inevitable parting of
ways.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even now we do still meet up
occasionally, but it is intermittent rather than regular.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">My
relationship with Kaitlin was a wonderful time in my life (COVID-19 aside). We were a great match, and neither of us took the negatives in life too much to heart, in seeing the positives above anything else. No matter what happens, I will always recollect her with nothing but fond
memories.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was dirty in bed, but honourable,
personable, sociable, and comfortable to be with outside of the four
walls.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">We both loved
travelling, and when I look back it is a great shame COVID-19 came around in
this regard.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After living through the
final year in seeing Beth become a little above her self-importance station
(mainly through the law firm she was employed at, and men who wanted to nail
her bad mouthing me), dating a much more chilled woman in Kaitlin was like a
breath of fresh air and weight off my shoulders.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wish her all the happiness in the world,
with or without me.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">How do I
screen for women?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Adrian asks
how I screen for women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In a way, the
five examples given are perhaps not the best cases to answer this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Claire kind of came via friendship networks,
Steffi due to her on the spot pursue of me and our instant sexual attraction,
Zoe through attraction and mutual inclination for a serious and long term partner,
Beth perhaps because of her assessment that I was the best option out of an
otherwise mediocre male bunch, and Kaitlin simply down to common sexual
chemistry and external interests.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With this in
mind, they were all pretty much reactive scenarios rather than me having to
screen, per se.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This goes against the
norm however of by and large a man (and very much myself included) needing to
be the initiative-taking member, and Adrian asks a valid question to how I
screen.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I guess the straightforward
way to produce an answer for him, therefore, is to look at the common
denominators between all the five women, irrespective to whether they hunted me,
or I am to be the would be hunter, so to speak.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">All
upper cute to hot in female physical attractiveness levels.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Rare
women who put their hearts ahead of their egos.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Rare
women who are prepared to give good-looking men a clean piece of paper.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
with confidence levels above the female average by a pronounced margin.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
with evidently bubbly and likeable personalities.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
with decent to good professions (or at least a strong work ethic mentality).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who appear like they have not slept around.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
with good hygiene and odour.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who take pride in their appearance.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who do not take themselves, or life, too seriously.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who do not go out their way to be involved in drama and problems.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who can be my confidant as well as my lover.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who are loyal to their friends.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who can think for themselves, and not be influenced by jealous acquaintances or
bad advice.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who show an interest in me, and do not just talk about themselves.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who have good family values.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
who hold a degree of reality to how the world functions.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Of course,
to tick every box above is pie in the sky.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What a man can do is use his experience with women to know early on
where she may sit on the linear of each extreme.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Screening
for homely girls</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Adrian asks
for my advice on screening for homely girls, such is his preference to be with
one of these female types.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The good
news is that the vast majority of women, whilst I acknowledge not all sit on
exactly the same seat in this context, hold homely girl traits.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most women do hold firm desires to have a
boyfriend over predilection of constant girls nights out and living the life, therefore
finding one eventually should not be too difficult on a numbers analysis alone.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Where it
becomes harder to find a homely girl is how to establish your screening for
one, and then subsequently establishing the traits and habits that are
associated with being an extreme homely girl.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Let me assist:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If
you see a woman always or by near absolution with her boyfriend (in the gym, in
the mall, in a bar etc), over being with her female friends, this is the
biggest giveaway sign of a homely girl.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It may not be ideal for you if she is currently with said boyfriend, but
in essence this is near guarantee proof that she prefers to spend her spare time
with her male partner.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are not usually hot.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this in
mind, a homely girl will most often range between average to cute (compared to
hot girls - at least until hot girls settle down with the higher value man - who
prefer girly time and social media whoring).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls do not tend to have a lot of female friends, and more to the point they
do not go out in female parties very often.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls, even if usually only on a platonic basis, have a fair share of male
friends in comparison to other female types.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I guess there is a sense of this because they are not comfortable in the
company of better looking female friends.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls tend to be close to their mothers, although they can just as easily be
daddy’s girls too.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are renown for being shy and conservative in social environments,
especially when alone and not in the comfort of anyone they know personally.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are not greatly confident, and they present with timid body language.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are very reserved, indifferent, and quiet around strangers.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are rarely career oriented women, as they strive to find a man with a
much better profession.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Homely
girls are rarely single, such is their lack of motivation for female party
existence.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
will surprise you all the time, but will they surprise you less when you get to
know them in greater numbers, and over a longer period of life experience time.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-83675063417718859242023-04-21T15:55:00.021+02:002023-04-21T16:11:09.895+02:00Men’s declining looks create enhanced female openings<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> <span style="font-family: arial;">“There is kind of beauty in imperfection.” </span></span></i><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="font-family: arial;">(Conrad Hall)</span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">A reader
makes a comment on the back of <a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/02/black-pill-community-poor-choice.html">this </a><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2023/02/black-pill-community-poor-choice.html">previous post</a></span>, </span>based on his experiences with women over an
apparent decade of his, relatively speaking, diminishing physical
attractiveness.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span face=""Trebuchet MS",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: #666666; font-size: 9pt;">Great post & I agree with your hunch that
most of these "Chads" the blackpill folks refer too are above average
looking guys (7 to 7.75). A lot of those blackpillers focus on physical
masculinity traits as opposed to overall aesthetics.</span></i><i><span face=""Trebuchet MS",sans-serif" style="color: #666666; font-size: 9pt;"><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">I've followed the blog off and on since its
inception and while I wish the blackpillers we're right, my own experience in
my physical prime says otherwise. If they were, this blog would probably not
exist. I find they often discount pretty boy traits or a more balanced
handsomeness.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">Also the older that I get, the more I agree with
pretty much all you say in this blog.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br />
<span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">When I was in my physical looks prime in my 20s,
I struggled with women. I was around an 8, <a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2014/07/womens-interpretations-of-male-group.html"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;">based on your ratings from the photos in your article
about mens photographs from July 2014</span>.</a></span></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">Now in my late 30s/early 40s, I'm more of what
the blackpillers call a Chad, more masculine looking, but lose some of the
pretty boy handsomeness. WIth natural aging and some weight gain, my looks have
diminished from an 8 to maybe a 6.75 or 7.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">However, my success with women is much better
now. Women are not as cold or distant and seem more excited and open to see me.
I strike a more decent but not awe inspiring look now.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">I would probably do a lot better dating in a big
city now than I would have in my 20s</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">I think having good looks is a blessing &
should be something a man is proud of, but as I've experienced as well as many
commenters in your blog it is a disadvantage with women.</span></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">My response:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Not that I
ever needed an anecdotal comment of this nature to reinforce a conscious belief
I have attained for over a decade, combined with a probable passing
comprehension I held as someone younger too, but it is always a breath of fresh
air when I hear a life experience of this kind from another man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You see, there was/is a method to my madness
after all…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">As I have
stated previously, it is an incredibly difficult topic – the best looking men
having trouble getting women to date them (whether for just sex or longer term
relationships) – to try and explain to the everyday man off the street.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are a list of reasons to why this is a
hard explanation to pitch.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The list is
unexhaustive, but it will cover the main points:<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">One,
it comes across as cocky and arrogant to suggest you are too good looking to
make women feel comfortable with you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Two,
the vast majority of men, such is the fact that the vast majority of men are mediocre
looking, will have never experienced first-hand this somewhat counterproductive
scenario for themselves.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Three,
men are not very observant or knowledgeable to how women select male partners
on a physical attractiveness basis.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Four,
most men wrongly assume that women think the same way as they do – in believing
women screen for the hottest men in the same way men screen for the hottest
women.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Five,
lesser looking men prefer to think, and take egotistical comfort in thinking,
that the main reason women will box below their weight in physical looks terms
with male partners is because of what a lesser looking man has to offer her –
status, money, personality, profession, confidence, manhood size etc.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Six,
it puts a lesser man’s nose out of joint when an exampled much better looking
man than himself is spoken about, let alone about this topic.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The
reader’s experience…</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This is why,
when the words arrive from another man who has sailed the linear path of
good-looking (8/10) to just about above average (6.75/10 to 7/10) in male
physical attractiveness, you have to stand up and listen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His honesty is applauding, but again, he only
describes what I would have expected in any case.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I like his
words referencing that women, since he has declined a full grade or more in
physical looks terms, are not as cold or distant and seem more excited and open
to see him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My good reader friends, this
in a nutshell exemplifies a woman’s ego.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whilst she may not be as instinctively sexually attracted to him in bed
eyes or heart beating respects, he has hit the perfect balance to tick all the
boxes.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This perfect
balance is what is called <b>male above average physical attractiveness</b>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is still more aesthetically gifted than
the majority of men a women will see, but he is not at a striking or stand out
level that puts her nose out of joint.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This is just the way she likes it, especially at the beginning.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A recent
experience of my own</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Forgive me
for taking this opportunity to relay it back to me, but it is worth yet again
illustrating the way women’s emotional minds, and their ultimate decisions,
work and play out respectively.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The woman at
the heart of this now familiar and consistent real life occurrence is the woman
as explained in<span style="background-color: white;"> <span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2022/10/are-tall-women-more-likeable-and.html">this post (the tall woman)</a>.</span></span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span> Over the last
year, if I said that I have caught her looking at me a hundred times then this
would genuinely not be an exaggeration. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">During the
last few weeks, let us just say that my path to talk to her in an intimate way
was made clearer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This timeframe over
the last month also coincided with a few very friendly smiles from her
projected onto me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After a couple of
visits to the gym where the timing was not quite right to approach her, the
time arrived last Monday (a public holiday, therefore I had, as she would have
too, more time on my hands due to no pressing work commitments) to do so.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In
relativity to the gym presence, she was looking as hot as she could do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her hair was down, she had clearly given
herself a weekend self-tanning lotion application (as I notice she does most
weekends), and she was wearing high shorts to show off her long and toned legs.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">If you
are a top end physically attractive man (>8/10), you will have your best
opportunities, or at least your best chance of her being positively receptive,
when a woman is looking at her hottest.
If she is below you in the slightest (or by further margins of course),
the positive outcomes will most likely be compromised. </span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Even with
this considered, I would be hard pressed to say she is anything above an 8.25/10
at her absolute peak.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is leveraging
to allow for her best on a night out look, which I have never seen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am pretty much at that level in gender relative
terms without even having to spend five minutes getting ready.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With these factors in mind, I can nearly
always anticipate the predictable outcome playing out, but in any case, a man
should always run with the glass half full when the conclusion is unknown.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">As this
woman had always come across as an approachable and friendly person, combined
with me believing (based on the inundated affable glances in my direction)
there was a fair chance she is a rare woman who embraces male beauty rather
than being acrimonious towards it, I felt there was a good prospect she would
at least be warm and positive in the introductory stage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How wrong I was.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">At the end
of my session, it appeared she had finished too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She walked up to the water fountain, and I
stood next to her in asking her nothing more than an environmental question
about her workout.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She kind of looked at
me, and subsequently looked away immediately.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I asked her the same question once more, and she ignored again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I walked away.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Whilst not
happy about this, I gave her the plausible deniability benefit of the doubt
that she could claim she never heard me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Her head was not facing me, and she had her earphones in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe she was a little fazed about the fact I
had approached her, therefore I decided to give her another chance a couple of
days later.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">On this
occasion, she was facing more towards me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I walked up to her and said, “Morning, are you alright?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She ignored me, and once more kind of looked
away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I moved to one side a bit to look
her in the eye, and I repeated the words in louder tone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ignored again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I then proceeded to train where I needed to
(five yards away from her), and I walked away before she had finished and
without saying anything else to her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Two days
later, as I walked nearer her position (in only noticing her at the point I
needed to turn at a near ninety degree angle) she was smiling at me in the same
affectionate way as she had expressed just a couple of weeks ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I did not blank her, but I just gave her an
indifferent look back before striding on.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">What is the
betting that if I went through the same process as the reader – in losing a
full grade or so in physical attractiveness – she would have been far more
receptive?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Would she have not only
spoken to me, but also been open to invitations?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My answer to both questions is a categoric
yes.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This is why
a dynamic of this kind is so hard to explain to most men out there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the basis both parties are single, most
onlooking men would just expect said good-looking man to approach said hot
woman, and for them to start dating as soon as phone numbers were
exchanged.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What most men have no idea of
is how the hot woman thinks, and how her ego dictates and controls her actions.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">For the
record, I have seen her in comfortable disposition concurrent to talking with about a dozen other
men in the gym over the last few weeks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>These men range from 5.5/10 to 7.25/10 in male physical
attractiveness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In this same timeframe,
she blanked me as explained.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sheer
coincidence?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I very much doubt it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The trend is your friend, until the end.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Some of
your biggest knockbacks, cold shoulders, rejections, and nose out of joint
demeanours in the aftermath of interacting with women can be seen as the
biggest back-handed compliments you will encounter. You just have to paddle between the logic and
illogical, and subsequently work out the truth for what it is. The truth is often what the masses would construe as illogic reasoning.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">All else
being equal, a man should hit on a woman who is 10% to 20% more physically
attractive than he is. It is just
reversing the formula when calculated from what women want in men.</span></i></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-26931603274206970782023-04-05T17:37:00.007+02:002023-04-05T17:42:13.838+02:00Men’s conundrum with women: sink or swim?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"> “There is usually a brighter day for those
who live in darkness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Finding that light is just harder
without a torch to guide you.”</span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Komunisti
asks for not only my thoughts, but he welcomes any further comments from other
readers of this blog:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: georgia;"><i><span style="background: white; color: #37474f; letter-spacing: 0.2pt;">Hello Vinay, how are you?</span></i><i><span style="color: #37474f; letter-spacing: 0.2pt;"><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">Hope you're fine as always!</span></span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">Well, I would like to ask you something.</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">As you already know, at my age, and I'm about to
turn 33, I have no experience with women, what a shame...</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">I've learned to no longer trust the happy ending
of fairy tales and I know that now it's more than late for me to find a woman.</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">Not my fault, I, despite my poor social skills,
have tried to make friends with women, to no avail.</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">What I would like to ask you Vinay, but also the
other users, is whether it is worth regretting my failure. Should I learn to
live with my failure in love?</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">Maybe in the future I will be approached by
older women, I don't know, maybe one day in my 40s a 35 year old woman will
approach me. How disgusting.</span><br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" />
<span style="background: white;">Well nothing, just a question that has been
nagging me for a while</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: #37474f; font-family: arial; letter-spacing: 0.2pt;">My response:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Your
question could not be more perfectly timed, because only this morning I had a
conversation with a woman in the gym who I had never spoken to before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will answer your question directly, but please
allow me for a moment to elaborate. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is
somewhat related to your situation.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">The woman
in depression</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I sensed,
whether through attraction or just desired company, that this woman held
desires for me to talk to her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was
quite attractive<span style="background-color: white;"> (<span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://www.vinaywcmd.com/2016/07/women-and-nose-studs.html">minus the silly nose ring through both nostrils</a></span>),</span> and when I started
conversation she had a nice way of immediately engaging.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perhaps it is always easier to talk to a
woman when she is not giving you great urges to bang her.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I guess, when less is at stake, you take the
no skin off my nose metaphor to even greater lengths.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I digress….</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">To cut it
short, she told me that she had to train every day in order to distract her
mind from the depression she has recently gone through.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She had attempted an overdose, and she made
no secret of the drugs and bad boys which had taken over her life for a decent
amount of time in her life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Add on a father
who committed suicide at forty-three (also through overuse of illegal
medications), two young kids she is mother of through her ex-husband (she
married at twenty!), and clearly not two pound coins to rub together, <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>and it did not take long for me to realize how
much a mess her life has become.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In essence, I
was quite matter of fact with her in my answer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Without apology in my words, I in no uncertain terms told her there are
only two options, with no middle ground to compensate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She either pulls the trigger so to speak in
deciding there is no way out of her depression, or she finds a way, with all
the necessary assistance to accompany, to find that brighter day.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Komunisti’s
predicament….</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Not for a moment
do I believe Komunisti is even close to this level of despondency, but the
point of this anecdote was to illustrate, in merely a few paragraphs, how murky
the water can appear, and how deeper it becomes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Life never wants to make it easy for most of
us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can only assume, with my own first-hand
experience to fall back on, that the tests are to see if we fight back, or give
in.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Komunisti asks
if he should learn to live with his failure in love.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My answer to this – which will seem evasive
at first but should hopefully piece together by the end – is that defining himself
as a failure on this item of life alone, is by no means a symbol of failing in
life generally.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Finding love is magical,
but I believe people need to look at the bigger picture of love in a (longer) timeframe
perspective.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Komunisti’s
situation is very rare, and I am not going to sugar coat it one bit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst most men are not exactly fighting off
willing female participants to sleep with them, most men will, by the time they
die, have still slept with no more than five women.<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial;"><a href="https://yougov.co.uk/topics/society/articles-reports/2023/03/01/how-many-sexual-partners-have-britons-had">This article</a></span> </span>only confirmed what I already knew from nothing
more than knowing how the world works.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
simple terms, most men are mediocre looking and mediocre in other none physical
attractiveness desirables, therefore the average man off the street is not finding
himself with an array of women queuing up to open their legs for him.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Women
will try and convince you that men are shitbags, and these men sleep around for
fun. The reality is that only a tiny percentage
of men do this, only a tiny percentage of men are attractive and desirable
enough to be able to do this, and ultimately the vast majority of men are floundering
though numerous social or online environments to locate the best (hence,
usually hottest) woman they can find within what feasibility allows.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">With this in
mind, Komunisti has therefore only slept with four or five fewer women than the
average man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think this numeric
context alone mitigates his apparent self-belief that he is a failure with women.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Nevertheless,
for a man to have never experienced any kind of female sexual intimacy at the
age of thirty-three is almost, although not entirely, unheard of.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As alluded to above, most men have not slept
with any where near as many women as they would have liked to bed, but they
will have, even if totally clueless in the comprehension of how women psychologically
and emotionally work, had some minor experience with the opposite sex.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A decent number of these men will have
married and fathered children with the first woman they had sex with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You could argue, and I mean this with
sincerity, that these men are even worse off than Komunisti right now.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>More on that later…</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In essence then,
deeming yourself as a failure in this respect is perhaps a little harsh, and
even a little inaccurate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can however
totally understand why you see it this way.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">Regretting
this failure, and learning to live with failure in love?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Komunisti
asks the question directly – should he regret this failure, and should he learn
to live with this failure in love?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
will answer each part separately. </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">In terms of
regret, well in my opinion the biggest regrets are formed from what you did not
do, rather than what you did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In other
words, the biggest regrets in my life, with women at least (and many other
aspects of life too), are when I did not approach a woman who I thought was
interested in me (providing I was interested in her, of course).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Conversely, some of my biggest weight off
shoulder moments have been when I did approach exampled woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do not get me wrong, far, far more women
declined my advances than those who welcomed it, but just the feeling of
knowing I could move onto something else gave me so much enrichment and relief
that it almost cannot be understated.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">It is my
hunch then, through little fault of his own due to innate characteristic
challenges, that Komunisti actually regrets more the fact he has not rolled the
dice with women (hence, not approached more women), than the regret of not
actually finding a woman who will take it to the next stage with him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because, if he has approached and engaged
with inundated women, and even if they all turned away in proverbial (or often
literal) terms, he should not have any regrets at all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He did all he could within the powers of what
he had, and if he did not succeed, there was little more he could have
done.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To me, this represents more that of
environmental mistakes, rather than regrets per se.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">The second
question – should he learn to live with his failure in love – is entwined with
my answer regarding his perceived regret.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am a great believer that it is, up until a plausible point, never too
late to learn and fix something.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Putting
aside the social character deficiencies, the ironic part of all this is that,
at thirty-three years of age, a man is at the pinnacle stage of attracting the largest
pool of women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, I should add, many
women who are in their prime (aka hottest years).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women as young as eighteen (granted, this is
a minority of eighteen year olds, but still a fair slice) to as old as mid to
late forties will find a man at this age attractive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This pinnacle male attractiveness stage –
both physical and nonphysical – can last up until forty at least if he looks
after himself (although the younger female age bracket range will move up in
accordance from eighteen to twenty-four).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Consequently,
only you can truly decide whether now is the time to live with this perceived
failure in love.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My honest answer is
that I think there is still plenty of time, even if it means fishing in
different ponds (as I have given you this advice previously) in finding suitable
women to meet your personality differences.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Once you concede for good, you are on a slippery slope in ever
attempting to recover and climb back up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Your acceptance could be toxic for your benefit, so choose wisely.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Giving in
or giving up on something is like a game of Snakes and Ladders. It is easy to fall down, but incredibly hard
to climb back up to where you were.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final
thought – what defines success with women?</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">For further
perspective, let us evaluate what defines success with women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Some
will say the optimum success is how many women a man has slept with, but I do
not totally go along with this, especially if a high percentage of these women were
mediocre to repulsive looking women.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If so,
he would have been better off spending his time jerking off to hot babes
(although there are many men who can just get aroused by the simple thought of
a woman’s vagina, irrespective of what she looks like).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Others
may argue that success with women is determined through the quality of women a
man has experienced medium to long term relationships with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst I agree more with this, if none of the
relationships lasted, how is success concluded?<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">A
fair debate is made in success being marrying the best woman a man can possibly
attain within his capabilities, and finding a way to stay happy simultaneous to
her being a loyal, faithful, likeable and loving wife.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do not hear, and certainly do not see, many
couples like this.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="font-family: arial;">A final,
final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">I can fully
understand Komunisti’s anguish, depression, frustration, and even anger of his
situation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I truly can.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Women can be complex creatures at best, and
horrible individuals on other occasions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Life experience helps mitigate much of this, but only a dishonest man
tells you he has mastered every type of woman out there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What you do is be ahead of the game in foreseeing
eventualities, even if not totally aware of it at that precise split second of
her misdemeanours.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">What I will
say, in consideration to Komunisti’s zero sexual experience with women, is that
the question should be put to him in this manner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Given the choice, would you rather have lived
your life with women the way you have lived it to this day, or would you rather
be this exampled man?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">This man got married in his twenties (he
had only slept with two women before his wife).<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">After the honeymoon period post wedding (within
the first six months), he noticed her pleasantries started to diminish compared
to pre marriage.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">His wife got pregnant soon after the
wedding, even though it was not discussed with him in so far as planning for a
child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They had a son.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Even as the love in the relationship decreased
day on day (mainly on her part), she got pregnant (unplanned again) a year
after having the boy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They had a daughter.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">To cater for the wife’s material needs –
largest house possible, nice cars, fancy holidays, kids requirements etc – the man
had to take on roles, stress and extra hours at work in sourcing such.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As the love fragments even more, and the
bank balance and life stress is stretched further still, the man becomes all
the more disillusioned with life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">7)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The marriage becomes such a loveless
existence that one, or both, start looking to play away with another
lover.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This eventually goes beyond just
searching.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">8)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">The two of them get divorced five to ten
years post marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even if they stay
together, it is a marriage in name if nothing else.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">9)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As she is entitled to half of what he
owns, he has to move into a residence much smaller and worse than what he had
been living in. Maybe he even had to live back with his parents for a while, or
indefinitely.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">10)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">Even though he has a decent job (that he
hates), his disposable income is limited due to the child support he pays,
combined with needing to save as much as possible to get back on the house ownership
track.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">11)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As the children get older, even though
he loves them like they are his life, he starts to notice they can be annoying
brats.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perhaps the ex-wife bad mouths
him to them.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">12)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">His bond with his children (especially
his daughter) becomes ever distant for every day that goes by.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing" style="margin-left: 36pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="mso-fareast-font-family: Arial;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">13)<span style="font-feature-settings: normal; font-kerning: auto; font-optical-sizing: auto; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-variation-settings: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">As the life he has lived has took its
toll, in addition to the lack of financial assets he attains due to the divorce,
the kinds of women he can attract are not exactly of what he is optimized by.</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">This
exampled man is not an isolated male in any sense at all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I can guarantee you that.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most men will be going through/have gone
through some, if not all, the phases as described above.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif"><span style="font-family: arial;">I guess, in
summary, my question is as follows.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Which
life is better?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is it the man who has
never loved, or is it the man who has loved but who wishes he never had?</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-87359803244382016832023-03-24T17:02:00.022+01:002023-03-24T17:21:55.492+01:00How rough with women in bed?<p> </p><p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">“A man who can improvise to any given
situation, </span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif">or a man who masters minimal tasks?”</span></i></span></p>
<p align="center" class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;">Rolexhandyman
asks for my thoughts on a subject never fully elaborated on during the lifespan
of this blog:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><i><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; font-size: 10pt; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">As usual Ive read most
of your stuff, i have yet to read an essay about how you actually go about
treating a girl in the bedroom. As I’ve been coaching a small group of teenage
boys to understand the gender dynamics, I revert to your essays for
clarification. So I ask, if this does not come off too personal. How do you
treat a quick lay girl( fuck buddy ) vs girlfriend in the bedroom. Can you dive
in more in details, is it true as a man you have to degrade them as much as one
can ? Thank you Vinay. Loyal reader here.</span></i></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">My response:</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">You are right, I have never covered
this topic in great depth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With this
being said, all the lessons you will have learnt and literature absorbed over
the years within this blog regarding female emotional psychology, general
trends, and the differing types of female characters to suit, should entwine
with what I am about to advise.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Q-tip 1: </span><i><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background: white;">A man should be as rough
in bed with a woman as he can, to the point where it does not border onto any
negative consequences.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rolexhandyman, without stating it as
such, is perhaps almost answering his own question with implied words.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That is, you need to tailor your bedroom game
to suit the necessary female character.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If I am right in this thought, he is pretty much correct.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">With this being said, it is too
simplistic to just think any woman wants it as rough in bed as she can
physically take.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are too many
variables within a female character that need to be considered, which in turn
needs to be assessed in how you go about with your aggressive nature.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Fuck buddy girl</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">A <i>fuck buddy girl</i> should, by
and large, be treated like nothing more than a no strings attached lay.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When you channel your mind to only wanting to
be with her for sex, and she feels the same way (which is not as common from a
woman’s perspective), a man should be very forthright in his directions,
thrusts, bedroom decision making, positions, and mentality with this kind of
woman.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">A woman who is a <i>fuck buddy</i> is, by
vast majority, a bit of a slut.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Exceptions do exist, and this exception is most prominent with a woman
who is so desperate to be with the man who is fucking her that she believes by
giving him none committal sex, he will eventually take down his guard, give her
full loyalty and exclusivity, and find a way to love her for who she is and not
what she gives.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Nevertheless, whilst there are many
women like this who have a longer view based on opened their legs, it does not
conceal from most of them being on the cheap side.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In easy analysis, the cheaper the girl, the
dirtier she is.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The dirtier she is, the
rougher she likes it.</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><b><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rough sex scale
requirement = 8 (occasionally 9) out of 10</span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The perennial slut</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">To use a football (soccer!) analogy,
if the fuck buddy girl is champion of the Premier League, <i>the perennial slut</i>
is the winner of the Champions League.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Whilst a fuck buddy girl is cheap, easy, uncommitted and dirty, a lot of
these women are only sleeping with one man in the same given timeframe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whilst this is still not good girlfriend
material action, it is better than a woman who sleeps around.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Some sluts are unapologetic in their
lifestyle, to the point of bragging and seeking troll points for how many men
they can find to sleep with them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This
bragging is worthless however, such is the fact it is so much easier for a
woman to find a man to sleep with her than the inverse.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Sluts of extreme nature – who are
sleeping with more than two men in the same small time span – should be treated
like a piece of meat.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A man in this
dynamic should give her his all, shower her with all semen he attains, and let her
know he is the one in control (although a good conventional ride by her and
reverse cowgirl position should be very much accommodated).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No more questions required.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><a name="_Hlk130391336"><b><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rough sex scale
requirement = 10</span></b></a></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The lesser slag</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">This woman sits in between the <i>fuck
buddy girl</i> and <i>the perennial slut</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>She is neither sleeping with just one man on a none commitment basis
(hence <i>fuck buddy girl</i>), nor is she sleeping with any man she can lay
her hands on (hence the <i>perennial slut</i>).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The <i>lesser slag</i> is a woman
who any half alerted man will have come across on numerous occasions, but as
men are not fast on the pulse in terms of why women act the way they do, these
men never quite fathom the female psychology that sits behind their (women’s)
reasoning behind their directives.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">I have dated more than a few women
who had close friends where I compartmentalized them as <i>lesser slags</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In essence, lesser slags receive a little
compassion from me, because they are not actually sleeping around through
choice. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They are sleeping around because
they are desperate for a man to commit to them.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Consequently, these women would like
nothing more than to find a man, let him take her on a few dates before
sleeping with him, and venturing onto a long term relationship. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The problem is, whether through poor choice,
bad advice, or simply not being attractive enough to play the hard get game,
they end up finding a man (maybe on a night out or through a network) and
sleeping with him straight away.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">As much as men do like the fantasy
of easy access to sex, any honest man will admit that, on the basis he is
looking for a long term girlfriend, he prefers it if she makes him wait a
while.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am not talking like months, but
perhaps a few dates or weeks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">With this evaluated, it is no
coincidence that a lot of men who find lesser slags do not stick around.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This enforces the <i>lesser slag, </i>who let
us not forget once more holds a stronger (or as strong) inclination for love
than sex, to rinse repeat her actions with another man the following week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Therefore, whilst she may not be sleeping
with more than one man during a timeframe, she is sleeping with a lot of men
during a small space of time. Ultimately she is in need of a boyfriend, and she gives it up easily, even if with some reluctance to her actions, in hope this leads to his commitment.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><b><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rough sex scale
requirement = 8</span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The Homely Girl</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The traits of<i> homely girls </i>have
been explained many times in the past, therefore I will not convolute much on
this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In easy summary, <i>homely girls</i>
love the life of a boyfriend, all the time, and are not really into going out
in female parties.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">You could argue that a small proportion
of <i>homely girls </i>carry lifestyle similarities of <i>lesser slags </i>due
to their inner need to find a man, but the difference between the two groups
are that, generally speaking, <i>homely girls</i> do not supply sex on a plate
for men.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They have prides, not so much
big egos though, that place a barrier in front of their crotch to avoid coming
across as too easy or cheap.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Once with boyfriend, a <i>homey
girl’s</i> character translates to the bedroom.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Although this kind of woman is the most loyal, faithful, and often likeable
woman of all female characters (at least with men who do not put her nose out of joint due to him being more physically attractive than her), her natural shy demeanour often means she is
not very experimental in bed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
addition, and at the risk of sounding harsh, she is often not the best in bed
too.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">All this manifests to leading a man
to act with caution in terms of how rough he should be in bed with said <i>homely
girl</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My advice is to start off
slow, caring, and considerate, with plenty of kissing and foreplay to make her
feel valued.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Each time, a man should
crank up the aggression, to the point of stopping where it is obvious he is
stepping over the threshold of pinnacle productivity to how she likes it.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><a name="_Hlk130393459"><b><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rough sex scale
requirement = 6 to start with (moving up to 7 or beyond if allowed)</span></b></a></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Girl’s girls / high
maintenance women / High egotistical women</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">These women have all been bracketed
in one group, because the similarities in their female mentality – and their
high self-opinions – combine to pretty much form one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In other words, a typical <i>girl’s girl</i>
will also possess high maintenance traits and a big ego.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Women of this nature attain
self-opinions of themselves, and expectations of what men and the world should
provide for them, way over and above any of the aforementioned female
types.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This woman can be arrogant, unlikeable,
unapproachable, unengaging, and hold a thought-process that no man, outside of
being filthy rich or famous, is good enough for her.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">With this said, a lot of this high
self-admiration is a front.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most of my
girlfriends have been <i>girl’s girls</i>, and whilst I by no means detract from
how I described them above, they can also be some of the best women you will find.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">For one, I find these women to be
the most physically attractive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think
this is more than a coincidence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Second,
due to their somewhat narcissism and high expectations, you will not find many
women of this kind who either sleep around with loads of men or, equally who
lay it on a plate for a man.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
anything, these women make men work too hard.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Third, once they have been cracked and put down their guards, they are
very loyal to start with.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Nevertheless, whilst they are as
loyal and faithful as the <i>homely girl</i> in the short term, these positives
hold a shorter shelf life due to their inclination to think that the male
partner can do more for her (spend more money on her, get a better house,
etc).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This usually results in her
looking elsewhere sooner rather than later, until she concedes that her beauty
is not what it is and the numbers of sought after men are dwindling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her acceptance of this predicament almost
always arrives later than the reality of it happening.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">In respect to the bedroom, these
women are really the hardest to pitch.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
have dated one girl’s girl who wanted it harder (and telling me this mid-flow
too, I should add!) than I could even give it to her, to one who was extremely
reactive and often just lay there waiting for me to get on with it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For clarity, both were of similar hotness (I
would even say the goldfish in the sheets was hotter than the bed whore).</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Q-tip 2: </span><i><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background: white;">Some women’s egos, and
their fixation with not coming across as cheap, halt them from being as zealous and relaxed in bed as they would like to be.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">With this extreme variable in mind,
I go with the majority who leaned more to the extent of the bed whore than the
goldfish.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most of them like it rough,
but is has to be in accordance with the woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>My advice is, if in doubt, go as rough as possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The law of averages will be on your side.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><b><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Rough sex scale
requirement = 8 to start with (moving up over time)</span></b></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">A final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">The numbers as given illustrate a
generic answer to the purpose of this post.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>A man, in any situation at the beginning, should never go below a 6 out
of 10 in the roughness scale with a woman in the bedroom.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It will usually need to be 7 and above, even at the start.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Q-tip 3: </span><i><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background: white;">Most women like rougher
sex than most men are brave enough to give it them.</span></i><i><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white;"><o:p> </o:p></span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Caveat to above: <i> </i></span><i><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white;">Do not mistake porn examples for real
life rough sex.</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white;">Most women like rough
sex, but they also hold prides that enforce a mindset to not come across as a
slut.</span><span face="Arial, sans-serif"> </span><span face="Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white;">Finding that balance is one that
experience will offer you.</span></i></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">To answer Rolexhandyman’s final
point then, no, there will not be many occasions where a man degrading a woman
as much as he can will be advantageous to him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The times it is, will usually be with the lowest calibre (least
physically attractive) of women out there.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><u><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">A final, final thought</span></u></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Just for fun, allow me to give you
my opinion of the percentage breakdown to the women I have exemplified. It is important to note that nearly all women will not always belong to one group over a longer timeframe, but these estimates are based on what they end up being in majority cases.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Fuck Buddy Girl = 2%</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Perennial Slut = 1%</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Lesser Slag = 10%</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white; color: black; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Homely Girl = 83%</span><span face=""Arial",sans-serif" style="background: white;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">Girl’s Girl = 4%</span></p>
<p class="MsoNoSpacing"><span style="background: white; color: black; font-family: arial; mso-color-alt: windowtext;">In other words, and in spite of
women undoubtedly becoming looser, more promiscuous, and further liberated over
recent decades, the fact is that the vast majority of women are not giving sex
to men on a platter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those who are, tend
to be women I would not be aroused enough to sleep with anyway.</span></p>Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.com2