“Money talks,
nonsense walks.”
I
stand by what was written in this post some months ago. Modern day
women in my lifetime have usually been seen alongside uglier and passive
stricken men by clear majority, and the recession only further compounded this
trend. However, something struck my
attention recently regarding a possible change of tastes that many women may
undertake in 2015.
Fifty
Shades of Grey movie
Until
yesterday, I wasn’t aware that the Fifty
Shades of Grey film is being released in February of this year. Its official release date on Valentine’s Day,
whether by more coincidence than good planning, could be an outcome of pure
genius. I haven’t read a single page of
the book, and as ignorant or arrogant as this may sound, a two minute showing
of the film trailer, a glance at the Wikipedia description, and past
recollections of women’s over-excited words during the 2012 hard copy
availability is enough for me. I can
fill in the blanks on my own.
And
the snap-shop blanks are basically for an innocent “butter wouldn’t melt in her
mouth” woman to fall for a handsome, successful, dominating, mysterious and
wealthy man. In turn, she has to abide
by his leadership, terms, experimentations and somewhat unorthodox tastes in
life, and most applicably, sexual endeavours.
Ultimately, he is everything that is the opposite of men who women fall
for settle down with.
Casting
selection for the two main roles (Dakota Johnson plays Anastasia ‘Ana’ Steele
and Jamie Dornan is Christian Grey) was unforgiving in enabling this particular
film to carry out the script with credible critique, and some may even argue
that on face value alone they have got it slightly wrong. However, remember that films of this genre
and romantic novels are primarily and predominantly scripted for a female
dominated audience – their mass paying customers. As films and novels, in the main, represent
fallacy over reality, this process aligns with the female mind and actions in
life. There is a media necessity and
perhaps obligation in catering for the female brain to believe what occurs in
the movie, no matter how small the probability, could in actuality happen to
her.
So
a low end cute woman (which is still at least a full grade above the female benchmark)
as the main act securing a man above her league, in numerous metrics, gives off
hope and inspiration to all those millions of aspiring and fairytale sets of
eyes out there.
In
real life, a good looking man (Dornan is 8.5/10 in overall physical
attractiveness) of 6ft height, toned physique and billionaire profile is not
going to pursue, no matter how great the mental connection, a 7/10 looks rated
woman like Johnson plays in her role as Ana (accepted, when Johnson is done up
for the red carpet she can leverage up to 7.5/10). If a man was this blessed he could have the
hottest woman out there, and even one, or many, with something between the ears
too. A pump and dump with a cute girl,
maybe, but not a sustained obsession.
Side
note to above:
In
the “real world”, you will see more non-wealthy/low status 8/10 to 8.5/10 men
in overall physical attractiveness alongside girlfriends who are cute (7/10 to
7.75/10) women than hot (8/10+) women.
This is partly down to the fact that cute women outweigh hot women by at
least 10:1 in number, but mainly due to hot babes either not liking male
aesthetic impressiveness as competition or not attaining the inner confidence
to trust them. With this in mind, and
based on the trailer clips, Dornan’s slightly toned down and more attainable
transfer to Christian Grey allows a naive viewer’s grasp on loose possibility,
if not reality. I can understand, on a looks
isolation basis, why the casting director may have overlooked Sean O’Pry as the
lead role. O’Pry’s 9/10 looks would have
made the love couple’s visual comparisons too implausible. The other way round – hence a hot woman of 9/10
and a very wealthy above average looking man of 7/10 – and feasibility to true
life observations is met.
The
impact on women
Come
this mid-February premiere and beyond, I expect a considerable higher
percentage of women, even those who possess male partners, to go to the cinemas
with female company only. You have to
bear in mind that women will have read the book, and although they may have
made passing comments to men (including their boyfriends or husbands) that they
were a little turned on by the literature, they are fully aware that their
boyfriends in most cases are simply too nice to even be anything like the way
Grey is portrayed. They will also be
aware that their better halves, by clear majority, will not feel comfortable
watching it with her. Men love sex in
practice, but they aren’t too keen to talk or learn about diversifications,
experimentations, methods or satisfactions that sex can offer their female
lovers.
These
men, nice guys by huge proportion, are also blue pill believers. They cannot quite bring themselves to
acknowledge women need a level of domination, care-free and apathetic
considerations to her emotional, sexual and psychological needs. The common and conventional man has to
believe predictability, passiveness, provision, consideration and care rule her
heart, because at the end of the day, these are his go-to strengths.
So
far, women have only been exposed to the written version of Fifty Shades of
Grey, and although many of them have come out by saying they like the way a man
can act in this manner, I think it is important to note that a book offers
nothing more than a fantasy. Feminists,
and women who speak up for timid female mice and followers (both usually
unattractive, so pretty much the same person), will argue that this is only a
daydream fantasy, and in fact 95% of the time women do not desire a man such as
Christian Grey.
Believe
this at your peril. True, women do need
a level of financial security and responsibility in a man who they view as
husband and father material, but there is always more than meets the eye to a
human fantasy. Women do want a man like
Grey, but just not to that extreme day in day out. But they sure want that kind of man more than
a mundane and unchallenging male support dummy.
It’s a similar dynamic to how a man would want the most glamorous model
or porn star he sees on his laptop. He
just wouldn’t go their long term if she had nothing else to offer in terms of
mental capacity or empathetic inclination.
But
the film will make women’s minds play over like a totally different ball
game. They will see for themselves what
they truly desire, in moderation. It is
conceivable they will know what they visualize for a couple of hours is a world
apart from what they can expect when they get home. I would expect that, in the midst of watching
the film, many of them will replay the life they have lived through their safe
choice made when they met their “loved one”.
They may have a huge diamond ring and couple of kids to show off, but is
this enough to feel alive? When they
wake up in the morning, will they try and re-live what they saw last night on
the big screen? Is it all too late, or
is there still enough life and time in her to take a road that offers less
security but more passion?
And
the reason most women will deny they want a man like Christian Grey is because
it de-values their importance to the world.
As we live in a western society where 9 out of 10 men worship the ground
women walk on and dare not even say a wrong word about them, women’s egos have
become too accustomed to this kind of beta male nice guy. They don’t sexually get off on these men, but
when surrounded by them, it is an easy automated system to adopt in thinking
anyone who doesn’t polish their pedestals is an outcast. Even a most desirable, unique and good
looking man can get rejected by a woman who thinks he won’t value her existence. Although she may crave for his bodily fluids
to meet her own, a woman with an ego bigger than her heart and sexual needs will
always take the option of a safe, mundane, but idolizing, man.
How
will it end?
So
Fifty Shades of Grey could be both the major talking and turning point in a
woman’s life come the first quarter of 2015.
I predict it will be, and I’m starting to see signs of it myself in bars
and shopping malls in respect to female behaviour with just one guy like me. A few more are now touching as much as
looking. Because possibly for the first
time, but most certainly to the greatest extent, women will be asking themselves
the question to what they are really on this planet for. It will be thrown in their faces like never
before. Some will avoid the film
altogether on this basis, comprehensible in knowing they cannot deal with the
truth.
After
that, much depends on a woman’s ego to happiness life balance
requirements. Could this be the year
that women are finally swayed from safety to hunger? Will it be a transitional period of gradual uncontrollable
desires that place less priority on tomorrow and more on today? Will we start to see more eye catching women
with men of parity in this respect? Or
will it all simply be a few weeks of lust, sweat and glory, before normal
service is resumed?
Acknowledgements
and further reading
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