tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post5469604607108813311..comments2024-03-16T15:29:13.544+01:00Comments on Women's choices: men's divorces : How far can a preselected man be more attractive to women?Vi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-17957672286145522662022-07-05T12:59:05.675+02:002022-07-05T12:59:05.675+02:00There are a few possibilities I see for you:
1) As...There are a few possibilities I see for you:<br />1) As you are a bright and studious person, you should be able to spot the women who are very introverted and somewhat social inept/awkward. I know these women don't fall off trees, but they are out there. Have you thought about joining a library club or similar where these kinds of women are most prominent?<br />2) Enrol on a dating site for autistic people. At least then you have that common ground, you will not feel inferior (or even superior) to anyone, and they will know your situation and background from the start.<br />3) Whilst I'm not saying you should go for historic older sluts or anything like that of course, there could be some advantage in looking for older women. As you know, this isn't my prerogative or what I do in reality, but this is about you. Older women (older than you in particular) give a lot more leeway to men's deficiencies, because in simple terms they have far less options than their younger female counterparts. <br /><br />An amalgamation between 1) and 3) could be worth thinking about. If you want someone younger than you, I still feel there are enough women out there who won't turn their backs on you just because of your autism and social restrictions.<br /><br />Finally, I fully appreciate that a person's genetics are what they are and you are who you are, but sometimes a man has to look at himself and ask the question to whether there is anything he can do to make a scenario and life better for himself. In your case, is there any kind of compromise or force within that can bridge the gap between who you naturally are, versus where you want to get to?<br /><br />At the risk of talking about myself to finish (but please see this as the example to what I mean above), I wasn't a naturally confident kid. My Dad was as introverted and socially low confident as they come, and my Mum wasn't naturally graced in this element too. Nevertheless, I realized this shortcoming and I did something about it to improve my life.<br /><br />How did I do this? Three main ways:<br />1) I taught myself the body language, verbal execution skills etc to somewhat cloud the natural weaknesses.<br />2) I found great perspective from life experience and tragedies (mainly due to serious cancer illness).<br />3) Most importantly, I stopped worrying how people viewed me or what they thought of me. I comprehended that even if 90% of people don't like me, there is still that 10% who do and they are worth my time. It took a huge weight off my shoulders in forming this mentality. I started to enjoy life more.<br /><br />Good luck mate. Keep the faith, and let me know how you get on.<br />Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-87035191916706370362022-07-05T12:58:01.621+02:002022-07-05T12:58:01.621+02:00Hi komunisti.
I hope you are well? Yes, I absolut...Hi komunisti.<br /><br />I hope you are well? Yes, I absolutely remember your comments. The good thing about this blog is it is not very exposed to the masses, therefore every comment I receive I can recall.<br /><br />That disturbs me to hear your disillusion right now. Obviously it is difficult for me to know exactly how this woman would respond to you without me knowing anything about her, but I have a decent amount of knowledge on these topics so I'll give you my best assessment.<br /><br />My best guess is she was a lower cute to average looking woman. An introvert like you, pretty shy and low in confidence, and perhaps with not belonging to big social circles. A good family girl. I'd say (correct me if I'm wrong of course) that all this considered is why you caught her attention in the first place. The fact you are four years older would be a big draw to her too.<br /><br />Unfortunately, as much as her introversion was aligned with your autism characteristics at first, my hunch tells me that, whilst being an insecure, low-confident and timid female, and whilst she is looking for a man who isn't the bad boy of town etc (there are a minority of women out there who who genuinely desire to have a nice guy, and this increases as women get older), you were just that bit too below the traits in a man she was looking for. I guess she still wanted a small bit of confidence, leadership and social competence in a man.<br /><br />It's just a bit of bad luck in this case. As for moving forwards, it's up to you in terms of whether the heartache and distress you are suffering outweighs your inner desire to meet a woman. If not, then there is no need to stop looking and trying. There will be women (albeit a small minority of women) out there for you, I can assure you of that.<br /><br />Loads of women (especially post 25) have no inclinations to go out to pubs, clubs etc. As most women don't exactly have a great sense of humour anyway, I believe the whole "women love men who make them laugh" thing is totally overrated and a fallacy by and large. I doubt the hot attention whores who end up with dense male sports stars are with these men because these men make them laugh...<br />Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-57599716105523740472022-07-04T04:06:02.760+02:002022-07-04T04:06:02.760+02:00Hi Vinay,
How are you? Hope you're fine.
I h...Hi Vinay,<br /><br />How are you? Hope you're fine.<br /><br />I hope you remember me, I'm the autistic guy who write comments last year.<br /><br />This year a woman 28 years old approached me. I'm 32 years old.<br /><br />Well, we lasted 2 months, without sex. It's the first time a girl approaches me and have the courage to talk to me.<br /><br />I must say she didn't know about my condition, which is a lack of intelligence in social situations. In other words I'm boring individual with no interested in make laugh a woman or entertain her with pubs, going out dancing, etc.<br /><br />In fact, my own word is full of books, readings and music.<br /><br />She quited me, she told me that I'm not make to being with a woman. And trust me, she's right.<br /><br />Even the "intellectual" women will guys with a bit of social qualities.<br /><br />I think I have lost the battle and the war. Is forget about women a realistic choice? <br /><br />Hope you will bring me an accurate answer.<br /><br />Thanks.komunistihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18236079342297875870noreply@blogger.com