tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post2567457006152511867..comments2024-03-16T15:29:13.544+01:00Comments on Women's choices: men's divorces : Hot women dismissing hot men: my first and final memoriesVi Nayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-29756141763993334742015-03-05T22:42:20.588+01:002015-03-05T22:42:20.588+01:00Yeah but True Players are Very GOOD LOOKING. I spi...Yeah but True Players are Very GOOD LOOKING. I spit on beta male players, in fact, I laugh at them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-48333674225250689252014-07-20T21:52:18.073+02:002014-07-20T21:52:18.073+02:00Now you’re falling into the perennial female trap ...Now you’re falling into the perennial female trap – perception and assumption without evidence. Whether I am or not, please show me where I have self-proclaimed to be a player. You won’t find it, as I never have.<br /><br />Besides, there will be some male players who are only average to above average looking – especially those with high social status. Women are attracted to men who other women like. Many women will go for a notorious player over a loyal, but unwanted, man. Does the common denominator start to ring a bell yet? Simply put, a high percentage of women will put aside issues like a man being a player if he is less physically attractive than her. <br /><br />Ladies, accept it is an egoism issue more than anything else. <br />Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-88902471282615339332014-07-20T21:51:16.476+02:002014-07-20T21:51:16.476+02:00Well what you said above just summarizes the gener...Well what you said above just summarizes the general disparity of confidence, insecurity and trust between women and men. I’ve dated a good few hot women in my time, and I’m under no illusion that they all received bundles of attention from men. Admittedly, most of these men would be run of the mill guys, but some would be good looking, rich or social profile men too. But each and every time I’ve attained the inner confidence to be with them for these 2 main reasons:<br />1) I have the confidence in myself that she won’t find anyone better.<br />2) If she did play away (and to date I haven’t found out of one who has), she has just saved me a great deal of time down the line and I can move onto something new and better.<br /><br />There aren’t many men (in percentage terms) who turn down opportunities with the hottest women for reasons as you mentioned to why women turn down the hottest men. I guess women simply aren’t designed this way.<br /><br />That said, I do commend you for your honesty about why you do want to date or do not desire good looking guys. I note your “want” reasons are motivated by how your external importance is seen upon, as opposed to how he intrinsically makes you feel about being with him. <br />Naive guys out there: Mmmm, never doubt a woman’s integrity.<br />Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-41476546717286415542014-07-19T15:21:21.128+02:002014-07-19T15:21:21.128+02:00Anyway Vi Nay, aren't you a player who has dat...Anyway Vi Nay, aren't you a player who has dated a multitude of women? The last line where you condescend women who avoid men like you is silly in light of that fact. Women are right to be wary, if they want something serious, why would they date a player like you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-49325703101078340272014-07-19T15:15:58.189+02:002014-07-19T15:15:58.189+02:00"The vast majority of hot women do not take k..."The vast majority of hot women do not take kindly to being with a man of equal physical attractiveness. Even if he is slightly below her (8.25/10 v 8.5/10), this negligible plus on her side will most often not be enough to ease her discomforts when a man is at the high end of male beauty."<br /><br />This is true to an extent, but you don't acknowledge the inner conflict that we have. On the one hand, we DO want good-looking guys because it makes others jealous and boosts our social status among the legions of FB friends and acquaintances we have, etc. It also shows that we've upgraded from our exes. The problem is that men who are TOO good-looking are so high risk for infidelity or partner abandonment and they get so much attention that it's bound to be a source of conflict. In an ideal world, you could have a guy who is hot in private but not in public. Maybe a nice stomach that he keeps cover up with baggy shirts lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-46478650927312387862014-07-12T16:00:04.729+02:002014-07-12T16:00:04.729+02:00I've noticed this "presumption" too,...I've noticed this "presumption" too, and the debate could go on and on...<br /><br />As a snap-shot summary, the general consensus is right. Women are attracted to men who act in alpha fashion - challenging, charismatic, firm attitude, self-oriented and apathetic etc... As the majority of men are average looking, the guide is to act this way in order to shoot above your league. This is true, and it does work.<br /><br />However, you have to bear in mind that so few men in percentage terms are alphas (or even close to being so), yet if you walk down the street on a Saturday afternoon or enter a restaurant in the evening, 90% of women under the age of 40 are with lesser looking men. It is simple reality that only a few of these men will have innate or developed alpha traits. Some will be cash rich, but this again will not come close to make up the percentage of mismatches. You can talk about great personality or a big dick, but we all know this only takes a man so far. Pure and simply, women prefer to be with a man for an LTR who is less aesthetically blessed.<br /><br />Nevertheless, it is far better to have both - high male physical attractiveness and alpha attitude.Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-62645293070768649192014-07-12T02:41:27.337+02:002014-07-12T02:41:27.337+02:00This is a very insightful and alternative analysis...This is a very insightful and alternative analysis. The majority of the Manosphere presumption out there advocates that the "unattractive man" has "alpha attitude" that makes up for his lack of looks.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-57967813046454653282014-06-23T13:03:07.026+02:002014-06-23T13:03:07.026+02:00The point you raise is a thoroughly valid one, and...The point you raise is a thoroughly valid one, and it is worth a little more fuel to the fire.<br /><br />A woman’s most valuable asset is her physical attractiveness. She has an instinctive desire to display this to the world. The odd exception could be an ugly but intelligent woman (think of an older female politician, GP or similar), but even then in relativity her vagina will probably still be a bigger draw to low calibre men than her wealth and intelligence. With this in mind, nearly all women will perceive this asset to be removed from their living luxury if they are seen alongside a man of equal or greater physical attractiveness.<br /><br />Think of the times when a woman will attain the greatest satisfactions from her photographs. The likelihood is it will be when she is on a beach holiday/honeymoon and her wedding day. If the aftermath photographs she holds up show a portrait where her man is as or more eye catching than her, it leaves a bitter taste in her mouth that far outweighs any positive feeling she may get from someone complimenting how good her male partner looks.<br /><br />So in terms of a hot woman, or any woman by and large for that matter, she needs to find the balance of not being repulsed but not being outshone. This is why the vast majority of women are with a man who is that 10% to 15% below in looks terms.<br /><br />A woman’s dream ticket is to find and lock down an “attractive man”, but this shouldn’t be confused with a “very physically attractive man”. She will aspire to locate a man with as much personality, charisma, wealth, status, intelligence, potential, ambition etc that benefits her, but not someone who makes her feel physically inadequate or inferior.<br /><br />The reason you see so few hot women with hot men, in comparison to the remaining female population, is simply because these women from high end glamour have been/are more accustomed to attention and compliments being swamped in their directions. This form of sycophancy will almost always be in relation to their physical looks. When a very good looking man is standing next to her, it is an uncomfortable emotion she rarely experiences. Even though she is likely sexually aroused by him, the self-protectiveness of her ego needs will rule over. And all this is without even going into her trust issues. In truth, over 95% of hot men want to date a hot woman, but not even 10% of hot women want to date a hot man. Do the probability maths on that...<br />Vi Nayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032920019978546878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1136566595965586346.post-82720669993577714372014-06-22T02:44:06.617+02:002014-06-22T02:44:06.617+02:00You bring up an interesting trade-off/ competing f...You bring up an interesting trade-off/ competing forces when it comes to the ego of a hot woman. It would seem from what you have said in this blog that a woman will derive ego satisfaction from feeling comparatively more important/attractive than as many other competing women as she can given her natural looks and what they may bring her. <br /><br />I sincerely wonder where the disconnect is in this whole ego-feeding pipeline which causes a hot woman to want to be seen as more physically attractive relative to other women, yet not desire to be associated with objectively highly attractive men, since it seems to me that "landing" a high value and attractive man would only serve to further boost her relative "proof" of attractiveness for others to see, and thus further ego fuel in her furnace.<br /><br />There is only one conclusion I can draw from these premises: the magnitude of EGO SECURITY of being the sole "shining star" of a couple in a physical sense OUTWEIGHS the EGO BOOST she stands to gain from association/ landing a man who is highly attractive to other women.<br /><br />EGO SECURITY > EGO BOOST (Perhaps a reflection on feminine nature in general, actions of security taking precedence over actions of potential gain)<br /><br />I guess some part of me still thinks that a hot woman would be highly motivated to secure the most attractive man she possibly could, based on the ego fuel this scenario would provide her in the form of jealous stares from her envious "competitors" who may not be physically attractive enough to likely land an equally attractive "hot commodity" man.<br /><br />But I digress, being a man, I must accept that I bring my inherent masculine nature of thought and rationale to this subject, which may be inadequate in the matter of parsing out the female psychology and nature of these decisions.senseiwolfnoreply@blogger.com