“There’s a reason a rock doesn’t move far, whilst pebbles scatter like dust.”
This video link comes with a warning. It’s not for the faint-hearted or romantic types out there. Even I, as one of the most uncompassionate and unforgiving people out there in this respect, didn’t enjoy watching through to the inevitable ending. It gives me no pleasure that knowing what goes on in the world tears away at people’s (mainly men’s) hearts. I’m just willing enough, unlike most, to face up to this truth and reality.
Now there is more than a fair chance this was all scripted in order to spread the message across. We can but speculate. It’s also a possibility that the people involved know of or suspect of a woman who has, with proof or otherwise, implemented this paternity fraud strategy to maximise her life opportunity and welfare. What we cannot say is that is does not occur. How common it happens, is open to debate with the assistance of cloudy evidence.
In my view, there isn’t a great deal of valid source out there to offer objectivity regarding how many men are victims of this despicable action by women. Forums are a waste of time looking at, simply because they will belong to extreme opinions and anecdotes. On the one hand you will have pockets of men (belonging to the tiny minority of male population who are willing to face up to female dark sides and misdemeanours) who will be so misogynistic in this respect that they may allow their objectivity to be superseded by their passion of knowing how hard done by men are in the modern world. On the other hand, and in far greater numbers, will sit women who will try and justify their actions in situations of such kind, or more likely deny that it happens very often.
I offer a snapshot taken from Wikipedia:
Research published in 2016 indicated that one in 50 British fathers is unknowingly raising a child who is the biological child of another man, and that misattributed paternity is rarer than commonly believed.
A 2005 scientific review of international published studies of paternal discrepancy found a range in incidence, around the world, from 0.8% to 30% (median 3.7%). However, as many of the studies were conducted between the 1950s and the 1980s, numbers may be unreliable due to the inaccuracies of genetic testing methods and procedures used at the time. Studies ranging in date from 1991 to 1999 quote the following incidence rates: 11.8% (Mexico), 4.0% (Canada), 2.8% (France), 1.4% and 1.6% (UK), and 0.8% (Switzerland). These numbers suggest that the widely quoted and unsubstantiated figure of 10% of non-paternal events is an overestimate. However, in studies that solely looked at couples who obtained paternity testing because paternity was being disputed, there are higher levels: an incidence of 17% to 33% (median of 26.9%). Most at risk were those born to younger parents, to unmarried couples and those of lower socio-economic status, or from certain cultural groups.
A 2008 study in the United Kingdom found that biological fathers were misidentified in 0.2% (1 in 500) of the cases processed by the Child Support Agency. Of that 0.2%, those resolved with DNA paternity testing between 2004 and 2008 showed that between 10 and 19% of mothers had misidentified the biological father; data about why mothers identified the wrong biological father was not available.
I’ve highlighted the critical part simply because, in my interpretation, the rest of it is only relevant to men who have never pursued a paternity test and most likely never suspected or been willing enough to face up to the possibility that they are not the biological father. With this in mind, the highlighted segment is the only pertinent language due to it illustrating the figures when men insisted on a paternity test, or at least a paternity test was carried out. No surprises then that when tests are undertaken the higher figure of over one in four men being victim of wrongful fatherhood identity and upbringing. In some cases, this would be nearer to one in three men.
What do I believe?
As much as I’m a cynical person in this whole field, I have to admit that I didn’t think it would be as high as a 26.9% statistic of men who are bringing up kids who aren’t, in essence, their legal responsibility. I thought it would be nearer to around 15%. If my perception is below the actuality, we really do have problems here.
The reason I thought it would be little more than one in ten women who strategically convince one man he is the father concurrent to knowing another man biologically is the father is because I stand by my thoughts documented in the previous post. In other words, I’m a firmer advocator that a woman is inclined to get pregnant without her male partner’s consent or agreement when the time suits her to have a child. Maybe I need to rethink this. It leads one to suspect that many women are not only getting pregnant when it suits them, but they are also playing the “Alpha Fux, Beta Bucks” game simultaneously too. Have the good genes from the edgier and more aesthetic man, and the provisioning luxury and reliability from the nice guy sucker.
A final thought
For a moment, let’s just say the video is born out of the truth. I think women need to be exposed in this way, and equally they should be criticized for these respective care-free actions until the cows come home. We have encountered a western world society over the last generation that appears to be way too forgiving when women make mistakes (or more likely strategic choices) of this nature, yet it has them never or rarely being responsible or accountable when the shit hits the fan so to speak. Conversely, society seems to willingly and eagerly condemn men for even the slightest wrong move made. Hypocrisy and convenience strike the middle pin once more.
What the world should be doing, if it has any interest in making it a better place and producing happier relationships for the long term, is broadcasting as loud as possible when women do act out of line. In addition, it should highlight detrimental consequences they face when doing so. Until this day consistently happens, women will, with next to no remorse or contrition, continue to believe they can have their cake and eat it. They will constantly think they can carry out these wrongful acts, in the knowledge there will always be a safety net to catch them when they fall.
One thing I do know is that, no matter how hot the woman is, no matter how good a potential long-term partner she is, and no matter how much I am in love with her, I would not even contemplate for a single second staying loyal to her if she put the wool over my eyes for all these months or years. The same applies if I was cheated on. Unfortunately, there is too great a number of men who would forgive and try to forget.
Every pregnancy should be compulsory to go through a paternity test to confirm the man is the father. No circumstance should be exempt. This would soon reduce paternity fraud in a significant manner, and it would finally make women see sense that they cannot play childish games with men’s lives as if it were picking out a pair of shoes they can take back to the store the following week.
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