“The greatest men
are those who have the natural process to simply view
a person as another
person. Whether it be the chief
executive or office cleaner,
a friend or foe, a beautiful woman versus her grotesque female counterpart;
his distributed respect is only given once
earned.”
If
I was to defend my fellow men in one small way, at least when they are at a
stage in their life when they are yet to venture into the world of what is
known as interaction strategy and female emotional psychology, it would have to
be the infatuation they hold with the beauty of what many women can
display. Usually this is physical, as
this is a woman’s major playing card, but sometimes it can be the spell of
those puppy dog eyes and engaging personality.
Of course the former is far more common than the latter when it comes to
the way women can bring about unconscious male behaviour.
How
do women do this to men?
- First, this is because a good deal of men interact, and are in relationships with, women who are more visually attractive in relative terms. This can range from marginal to significant amounts in physical grades, and naturally the greater the margin the more a man will shift to the more supplicated end of infatuation.
- Second, men are sexual predators. Someone only needs to see how many men can manage to get it on sexually with the most grotesque types of women to know how they must have urges that simply need relinquishing. So if they can find it in them to attain erections with those women, you can imagine how smitten they must be once upgrading.
- Third, and this is more applicable to men post 25, they can see a life fearful in being alone. This is not a concern that rivals a woman’s trepidation of this subject on like for like basis, but it is a big thought process they go through. As their friends start to settle down like dominoes knocking down the next one, nights out become less and less. As nights out become fewer, options are far more sparse, even to very good looking men or men of high status. If you don’t mingle, you remain single. So when an opportunity does arise, bang goes any calm, and with it is a production of viewing a woman on a level above her physical attractiveness objectivity.
All
this falls against the way a woman desires a man to act. It is often said on this blog, and I am never
tired of reiteration because it all the more by men and women alike seems to be
ignored: women’s ego feeds off habits as explained above, but their intimate
predilections are diminished this way.
As
I write this post I am sat in a prestige sports car manufacturer’s
showroom. Let me tell you that there are
some mighty impressive cars, surpassed only (almost!) by the impressive
presence of 3 of the young women in the service/administration
departments. It would be easy for me to
start staring in admiration every time one of them walked past, and part of me
wants to. Very few days will pass when I
sit in a room with 1 cute woman and 2 hot women no more than 10 yards away from
me. But I have learnt this is the last
way any man should behave if he harbours ambitions to be successful over
time. I have no doubts that an adequate
opportunity will not develop where I can escalate anything on this given day. One of them knows about my girlfriend, and
although this pre-selection validation helps a man far more then it hinders
him, on this occasion it would likely deter any future success if it came my
way. It’s all about weighing up the
situation to benefit you.
Naturally,
this high status kind of environment attracts high status and wealthy potential
male customers. For the sake of
argument, I’ll class the salesmen in this category too. Every single one of them is clueless in how
to act with them. Maybe they aren’t
interested in any of the girls, and they are in fact just being friendly and
amicable guys. If this is the case,
applauds go out to each and every one.
But something tells me that if they were sent a message that offered
them a chance with these women, they wouldn’t hesitate for a single
second. Nodding heads, supplication,
over complimenting, eyes too glued onto the women when they talk, agreeing with
everything they say, no stimulating conversation (I admit this can be hard for
colleagues), and no hint of apathy or doing their own thing is all to be seen
here. Not for a minute would I say they
should be complete assholes, but one thing I could say is being a complete
asshole will get them further than their current processes. It hurts me, because away from the arrogance
and desperation to portray a level of importance and power, they are probably
genuinely nice guys. Contrary to the
reputation some might attain because of their supposed powerful positions, most
high status men are just like the representation of over 80% of guys when in
the company of women – beta males acting how perennial nice guys act.
This
is why I’m not a huge advocate of high status male websites and magazines with
regards to the productiveness of male advice in view of attracting female
attention. I won’t name names, but “high
status” male offerings may give you an idea towards my critique. I can’t lay claim to be a consistent reader
of either source I’m referring to, therefore if I am wrong or inaccurate to my
claims then I’ll happily hold my hands up.
But from what I have read, they do appear to succeed and fail almost in
simultaneous fashion.
The
positive part is that they do offer beneficial advice in how to become the most
attractive male in terms of fashion, healthy lifestyle, appealing fragrances
and workout routines. They also do touch
on fundamental aspects like acquiring the appropriate attitude and confidence,
in addition to how to portray body language that will project appeal onto
women. However, in my opinion too much
of the advice is focused on trying too hard to please women. They won’t say this in words, but to me it
comes across as the way a man should do this and do that in order for her to
like him.
It
sends a message of seeking out for her approval. As 99% of men don’t replicate the visions of
highly aesthetic men as seen on the web links or magazines (not that good looks
is a barometer for how men act), and likewise they do not possess the immediate
high status and fame that male celebrities can exploit, you can only imagine
that the gut instinct for a relatively naïve man is to believe he must try
harder. When a man has a mindset to try
harder, it rarely has a happy ending in securing the woman he most
desires.
As
touched on above, good looks and high physical attractiveness for men only play
a small part in ultimate attraction. It
helps to get women’s attention, but so many other factors are in place that can
give lesser looking men a slice of the pie.
However, if I was to say one thing that does help in being part of the
top end of male physical attractiveness – the combination of facial good looks,
impressive body profile and height – it is the way that through an
unexplainable mentality, or past experience of intimate dealings with many cute
and hot women, you are never that infatuated when the next one comes
along.
Should
you admire women? When deserving, yes. Should you have uncontrollable sexual urges
when one so stunning is in your peripheral vision? In a discrete fashion, oh yes. But infatuation, no. This may upset a woman’s ego, but forget
about that. Men of all kinds should
think about taking a step back on one of these opportune moments. It’s amazing how the path to most reward
comes from less, rather than more, effort.
No comments:
Post a Comment