“Can we both
look good together, or should I show my bad side and you show your good side?”
In
the whole of 2013 I made a conscious and excessive effort to trace how many
couples I could see where, from a neutral observer’s perspective, one could
safely say that the woman and man were an eye catching bond. Not to put too fine a point on it, I was
looking for hot couples. This annual
duration included vacations to New York City, Northern Spain and the top to
bottom of Portugal. Many cities in the
UK, whether it was social or business activity, were also visited. And there's also the other 200 plus days I woke up and walked out the door too. I saw 2 couples that ticked this box in a
whole calendar year.
Many
posts in this blog will cover, directly or indirectly, the reasons why I
believe this dynamic – of both high physically attractive women and men walking
hand in hand – is isolated viewing. I
never get tired of pointing it out, because I believe men never grow in
comprehending the reality and women never tire of its denial. But ladies and gentlemen, you cannot hide
from what you see. Or in this case, it’s
what you don’t see.
However,
every now and again when a pig flies through the sky, a person can come across
the above vision. Just for clarity, the
man is Cristiano Ronaldo – the recently awarded World Footballer of the Year
for 2013. The woman in the picture is
his girlfriend – Irina Shayk, a 28 year old Russian model. Ronaldo did reference her as his wife in the
gala speech as he picked up the award, but there are no actual records to show
they’re officially married. They’ve been
dating since 2010. Make no mistake about it, this image is
extremely rare to find in life outside of the rich and famous.
In
the case of Ronaldo, the Portuguese star is at the pinnacle of his powers in
many measurements. Encroaching his 29th
birthday, he proves how men should be able to look at their physical peak at
this age. In truth, and like all men who
choose a healthy lifestyle, he should be able to take this look well into his
30s. Without trying to sound too cocky
or self-promoting, I could go toe to toe with Ronaldo on the facial features
and body profile side of physical attractiveness, but his extra couple of
inches in height (to give him a near 6ft 2 inches stature) elevates him to an
overall 9/10 male rating.
Now
that the physical side is out of the way, let’s focus on his even more babe
magnet attracting metrics. Along with
Lionel Messi, Ronaldo has been head and shoulders the best footballer in the
world over the last 7 years. So
basically he is the best at what he does in the highest profile sport on the
planet. Annual earnings of $44m/year
don’t hurt do they, and commercial spin offs would likely make this figure to
appear on the light side. And, in true
fairness from the interviews I’ve seen over many years, he does seem to be a
guy with an abundance of intelligence, charm and personality. My friend recently criticized his arrogance,
to which my reply was along the lines of questioning whether “Ronnie” could be
as good as he is without this demeanour.
My friend responded by stating that Messi does it in a more unassuming
manner. In truth, when you’re the best
footballers in the world it really has no bearing on anything. Fame, talent, status and money are hardly
going to be taken as an oversight due to a lack of modesty.
You’ll
notice Ronaldo has his eyebrows waxed to further emphasize his “pretty boy”
look. Men in the “real world” should
take note of this, and I’ve made this exact same mistake myself. You have to realize and accept that famous
men can get away with certain grooming where men off the street cannot, even if
you’re on a comparable looks level to them.
So if men are trying to replicate famous celebrities in hope it attracts
women, yet it actually is not attracting them in ultimately closing deals,
understand it’s because you are not offering women anything to mitigate against
the irritable feeling they have in considering being with a good looking
man. Women will date men of equal, and
sometimes greater, physical attractiveness relativity if there’s something in
it for them.
When
I observed Ronaldo’s girlfriend at the gala, she went through differing
expressions and emotions. When he was
making the speech and was up there on his own, I sensed a touch of envy in her
eyes. Nevertheless, I have to point out
that when his little boy (Cristiano Jnr) ran up to stage and the father picked
him up, she did seem to have genuine happiness and pride in that glee of
hers. Maybe there’s a point to all
this. A woman is more proud of her loved
one when there is a portrait of his production alongside him (Shayk is not the mother of the child). When a man stands alone, with spectators
captivated to his brilliance, a woman can perhaps feel a discomforting air of
inferiority complex when comparing against her own value to the world.
To
bring all this back to us folk who are not so rich and famous, it’s imperative
to understand that if Ronaldo was just a “normal” guy from a random city, but
he looked exactly the way he does today, he would struggle to find a woman to
date him. This is all the more relevant
to women aged above 23, and it’s on the basis he runs by the standard male
process in desiring to be with a woman of similar or greater visual beauty. For starters, he would be better looking, in
gender relative terms, than 99.9% of women walking down the standard streets. In addition to this, even if he was more than
happy to concede to an 8/10 or 8.5/10 woman, it is highly unlikely many of
these women would lead by their sexual impulses before the itching pride, trust
and ego concerns that eat away inside their bones.
But extreme wealth, fame, talent and status
remove all these barriers to give him an access to pretty much any woman he
wants. This is just, once more, another
reminder that male looks are such a minor passage in the whole scheme of things
to the acquisition of a woman who a man desires the most. This gap can be bridged, to an extent, when a
good looking man has the opportunity to show a woman how great a guy he is, but
until that time arrives he fights the battle of her negative perception.
Where
it does become tricky is when you put two men of wealth, status, personality
and charisma parity in front of a woman, yet one of them was less physically
attractive than her but the other was on her par or greater. My inclination tells me, and general
observation would back this up, that the majority of hot women would take the
man who is typically 10% to 15% below their own self-rated visual
blessings. Cute women would proceed in a
similar way, but they would more likely run with the man on their level – hence
an above average looking man – than a less visually appealing man. This is because status and money is hard to
validate in environments where women don’t know a man personally; therefore an
above average looking man is not going to give a cute woman massive trust or
egoism issues. In other words, an above
average looking man will not turn many female heads on his look alone, and he
won’t take the stage away from his girlfriend’s cutie face. As for average looking or ugly women, it
simply goes one stage further. They
would have no problem dating a man who is on the same looks grade as them,
because a man on their level is not going to be appealing unless he holds a major
social status profile.
So
yes, male good looks are a blessing and an obstacle in equal measures. Other desirable metrics give lesser looking
men an upper hand, because male looks are not too important to women for long
term partner suitability. Male good
looks, with little else to accompany, also act as a disadvantage to appeal to
women in most scenarios. When a man
starts to input other further attributes to his already in place good looks,
this kind of high value man starts to level up the playing field once more,
even to the point where he edges ahead.
Some
sources I have read via literature from the United States could lead a person
to believe that there is a gradual shift back to a viewing of more women going
for better looking men. I certainly
didn’t see it from my last trip there less than a year ago, but I would be the
first to back this up if I did one day start to see a trend emerge. For now, you can only sit back and take a
pleasant viewing from extremely rare hot couples. But even in celebrity land, with a woman and man of similar earnings and profile, you're still
more likely to see this….
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