“Getting up earlier won’t make the sun rise any sooner.”
There were a few reasons the woman verbalized to me in terms of her jettison reasoning, some true and some not so true I would expect, but there was one explanation that stood out which was quite direct at her husband’s shortcomings. I cannot quite remember the exact words or justification.
When I spoke to the husband shortly after her departure, he was very much heartbroken and searching for rationale. He asked me to tell him anything she had said that might give him closure, therefore I reluctantly declared the direct words she had informed. Before I could even catch breath, he totally dismissed this could at all be the reason. In essence, he didn’t want to accept any deficiency on his part.
There are four main ways a man fails in being any good with women:
· He often refuses to accept the misdemeanours, lies and manipulations accustomed to the lives of a high percentage of modern-day women, and in particular a woman he is involved with.
· He disregards any possibility that her lack of interest, or dwindling interest, is a consequence of failures belonging to him that severs his inner pride
· He holds a mindset she is too good for him.
· He refuses to believe she simply isn’t interested in him.
Only last week I sat in the gym coffee area to do some work prior to a meeting. Having performed this same routine for a while now, the young woman who works on front desk (an 8/10 in looks) always made it her business to bring me a coffee and stand to talk for at least twenty minutes. Over the last few weeks, she had given me embarrassed looks on many occasions. On at least two instances she went out of her way to inform me she was single. When I casually asked her last week if she wanted to take some lunch together, there appeared no hesitation whatsoever as she passed over her number.
Hopefully as an advanced writer in the field of female emotional psychology, my text interactions were in accordance with the intuition gained from her personality and general experience acquired from many other women. As it turns out, her responses over the last seven days have been brief, intermittent and lacking any in true enthusiasm. Apathetic at best.
I could list a near dozen possible reasons to explain her sudden change from excitement to apathy, but it’s simply not worth dwelling on. If I had the inclination to ask her, she would just give me a bullshit story. The facts of the matter are I must accept that she simply isn’t interested in taking things further, pending a huge change of emotion or motivation on her part. Move onto the next.
And once you rebel against the golden four rules as documented above, over time your mind manifests to bring about lower expectations in women. Call it water off a duck’s back, if you will. I’m not going to lie and say I’m not slightly disappointed, because I am. I’m no stranger to women rejecting me through their perception of my character (hence them not knowing me on a personal level), but this woman had the opportunity to analyse my personality and see there is some brain to go with the brawn. So, disappointment - yes. Frustration, surprised and bitterness – no.
Q-tip 1:If you expect little from women, and in turn start to second guess and predict their likely moves, you will accustom yourself to view them more easily as interchangeable and moveable commodities. You start to use them in a very much similar way to how they use you.
Q-tip 2:There is a nuance between a woman not being interested in a man, against a woman not being interested in taking things further with a man. In the case of the former, a woman is simply not attracted to the man or/and she finds him unappealing. In the case of the latter, this in fact can often be a scenario where she is very attracted to him and finds him more than appealing, but her lack of confidence, high insecurity, low trust thresholds and big ego forces her mind to forbid in venturing on.