The rule of thumb for female projected attraction onto men goes
through this process:
At a young age, most women desire the popular bad boy. These men are usually more physically
attractive than the average male level, but they are rarely from the best
looking 5%. The reason for this
prevalence is that, at a young age, the female mind is at its peak in terms of
required challenge, unpredictability, intensity, drama, and a need to be the
one chasing a sexual target.
As women get older – post 23 years of age - their preferential
emphasis in seeking potential male mates takes an imperceptible change of
direction. Although they still have
visceral feelings for the bad boy types – because the female mind doesn’t
simply switch off from these feelings that draw them towards these men – a
conscious awareness has been established to confirm that most of these men, for
a number of reasons, are not inclined to settle down, be reliable, or take on
the role as a responsible provider. As
women at this age are now forming priorities for reliability over instinctive
emotional connections (even though the ideal scenario is to find a man who
ticks both boxes), they will substitute, to an extent, the bad boy with a nice
guy. Nice guys generally fall into the
beta male category, and the vast majority are average in aesthetic terms.
Another consideration to female selectivity is the age at when
women’s sexual market value starts to decline.
Exceptions will always take issue with the reality, but rarely do
regular women become more visually impressive beyond 25 years of age. They will
subconsciously be aware of this apparent perpetuation of their pinnacle look,
and this realization forces them to reinforce in their belief that the highest
calibre men are those of higher status - but not the highest in physical
attractiveness. Basically, they now
doubt they are on a level playing field with better looking men, so they drive
force to other desired metrics, even if they are not convinced of this
transition in their own mind. This
recognition of sexual obsolescence, even if in plausible deniability, draws
them to lesser looking men who they would perceive to have a heightened
appreciation of their existence. In
addition to all this, a large amount of women above 25 years of age formulate a
mental state of trust, insecurity and egoism issues that are negative in taking
into account being in a relationship with a good looking man. With all this in mind, a suitable choice
would appear to be a high earning, high status, commitment willing, but average
looking man.
Although this is the normal course of events in the path a woman
takes in emotional decisions, it isn’t always a route that will conclude to a
happy ending. Whilst the bad boy
dilemmas in the early days will sustain heartache, sleepless nights and stress,
this dynamic does fall in line with how a woman views a high value male. When women hunt down a man, the brain is
informing her that he is of high quality.
Once she is knowledgeable a man is proceeding in all the constant
sycophancy and tracking, an element of what she feels the need to do in being
validated by him is taken away. Men will
almost always need to make the first move – as very few women are proactive and
open to possible rejection – but a re-frame of this hunting strategy needs to
be in a way that involves a woman requiring a man that little bit more than the
inverse. With women making conceivable
safer and more secure options in being with men who very few (or no) women are
magnetized to, this bond is always susceptible to boredom, predictability and
irritation on their parts.
The majority of men make the big mistake in thinking the way to a
woman’s heart and sexual impulses is through constant flattery. As most men fall into the “average” bracket –
average in physique, facial features, status and personality – and as female
cosmetics allow a transformation to look more attractive than they naturally
are, it is no surprise that many men find themselves alongside a woman as, or
fractionally more, physically attractive than they are. There are also pronounced numbers of women
significantly more pleasing on the eyes than the male counterpart they walk
alongside.
Nevertheless, these real
life observational dynamics can send out cryptic messages to the curious
onlookers. Men need to understand the
distinction between feeding a woman’s ego and her longer term happiness, as the
two rarely go hand in hand. The nice
guys of the world – the average looking men as most are – produce the feeding
pot to make women feel better and more important in their existence. They believe that, due to scoring above their
league in beauty feasibility, they should be inclined to go the extra yard to please
her. This strategy of excessive
compliments, in addition to the emotional safety and financial expenditure they
offer, is all well and good in the early stages of relationships. Women are instinctive to natural egoism
escalation, and this good feeling will supersede any other biological mechanism
that derives from meeting a man. There
are some exceptions, as a small minority will place advanced priority on inner
visceral grasp over self-centered thoughts.
However, the sycophant mannerisms that boost a woman’s ego is short
lasting in her appreciation, and it isn’t long before the positivity he brought
to her self-indulged world turns to frustration on her part. The simple fact is this: a woman is aware
that the higher value a man is, the less he will need to act supplicated when
around her. A man with options – who
isn’t afraid to lose his female partner – will have a care-free attitude that
subconsciously enforces a woman in love to seek approval from him. It is a re-frame she is not aware of, but it
is an invisible attribute he possesses to keep her interested. This isn’t to say complimentary words should
be abandoned throughout. It is a simple
balance between saying the words at the right time, in the appropriate context,
and in incremental measures. A woman
needs to earn kind words from a man. If she
acts as a good person when in his presence, he returns the gesture. When a man succeeds in this process, and
never allows it to fragment, she will never take him for granted.
When all is said and done, the sexual market is a numbers game and
a case of supply and demand. There is a
shortage of high social status bad boys in relation to women in general, and
the small number of these men will take up the small number (although a higher
quantity than high occupational status bad boys) of the most physically
attractive women. This procedure is
prominent, but not isolated, to women under the age of 23. There are far more average men – in physical
attractiveness, personality, charisma, money and status stakes – than pretty
women. On the flip side, there is a good
deal more pretty women than handsome, high calibre men. There are also a lower number of extreme high
occupational status men than beautiful looking women in the world. As female visual beauty dominates male
projected attraction over any other female offering, whilst women assess a
number of male strengths and weaknesses in suitability, the top 4% of eye
catching females in a country’s population (90% of these being cute, 10% hot) will
almost always have choices to make. This
isn’t to mean all of them end up being happy with the man they ultimately
select.
The big winners and losers in the modern day sexual market are as
follows:
High social status men – bad boys
From a short term perspective, popular men with notorious
reputations for being pre-selected will be the biggest winners in the modern
day sexual market. This will be most
prevalent with women below the age of 23, but because there is a short supply
of men who fit this bill, the demand of cute and hot girls will rarely be on
the light side. In simple terms, women
love the thought of being with men who hold down local popularity. To be alongside a man who many other women
crave to be close to, this completes the external validation and inner
importance satisfactions. As a man in
this bracket gets older, he will still attract women, but the numbers will
diminish. More women beyond the age of
23 will be wary not to engage with him – even if they are still attracted – and
younger women will not see an ageing bad boy with the same alluring eyes as his
younger former self.
Young (up to age of twenty-five), high extreme physically
attractive (“hot”) women
These women have the pick of nearly all men desiring their time. This will be the main bulk of men (average
looking nice guys), the most physically attractive men, the highest status men,
and some “sugar daddies”. If they have
additional feminine, intelligence and endearing personality traits, this will
further widen their attraction onto men.
Above average to average
looking men
Needless to say, but
important to clarify, the more sexual market value metrics these men possess,
the more women they will attract. Men in
this segment have a large pool of women to choose from. As most women in general prefer relationships
with men less physically attractive than they are, a moderate calibre average
looking man can acquire a woman a level or two of physical grades above the
objectivity of his own. This is all the
more achievable in a current economic climate that has resulted in a more
challenging process for women to take on sole residence ownership and attaining
a greater disposable income. Simply put,
women may now be more inclined to place physical likings down the pecking order
in favour of a man’s contribution to resources.
If men of this kind prefer not to dive into the high maintenance stigma
that exists with the most visually alluring women, they will not be condemned
and disqualified by women with similar looks in relative terms. This is only true because women have far less
trust, insecurity and egoism issues with men who are not receiving uncountable
glances from female competitors and the outside world in general.
High occupational status
average looking men
Even if considerably older
than the pursued female lovers, the revolution of high profile celebrity
programmes, magazines and media exposure has produced predilections for women
to have a taste of the action. This
“action” requires cash, and high status usually derives in the form of
money. Even without the added benefit of
the financial aspect, high social status also goes hand in hand with the
evolution of projected lure of fame. If
a man was in an occupational high status position (even if low paid), or if his
occupation gave him the opportunity to exploit power and dominance, women are
drawn to these positive metrics that elevate their external validation and
perceived importance.
High calibre good looking men
High calibre good looking men
In the regular world, men
of this nature would represent less than 1% of all men in the sexual
market. Logic would point to the fact
these men have limitless options with women, and some of them do. As these men are not solely relying on their
physical impressiveness to appeal to women, they are ticking most boxes that
women look upon when choosing male sexual partners. However, although these men are also looking
for women with a range of qualities, they are no different to any other man in
respect to placing maximum emphasis on how a woman looks. As most women prefer men less physically
attractive than they are – as general observational evidence would point out –
in addition to many of the “hottest” women being low in self-confidence, there
are perhaps not the abundant luxuries men in this category can enjoy that
people’s perception would allow them to believe. Consequently, whilst the ratio of high
calibre good looking men to high grade looking women is approximately 1 to 4 in
number, the likelihood is that only 10% to 20% or these female minds have the
inner emotional security and confident demeanour to venture into long term
intimacies with men of this kind.
Good looking moderate to
low status men
This group will typically
be young men under the age of 30. This
is because most men will physically look their best before they reach their
thirties, in addition to not having the years of occupational experience to
elevate their status and wealth. A cocky
and arrogant attitude of these men in their younger years also often forms a
barrier that prevents them from manifesting an impressive personality and
charisma. Good looking men will believe in the fallacy that male good looks are
the most important accolade to have in attracting women. To an extent, they can be forgiven for this
misconception, as they will notice the inundated glances received from the
opposite sex. What many of these men
fail to grasp is the realization that women are only looking, and not
touching. Such a small percentage of
women are relaxed in the arms of a man who will attain as much visual attention
as she does, and good looks to a man can be a drawback if he has very little
else to offer. It’s no coincidence many
good looking men are single: they simply claim they are sexual players, because
they can get away with people believing this is the case. Men in this category will have their most
successful endeavours with women up to the age of 23. There on after, the success rate will slide
with women above this age, and they will be best advised to analyze their
chances with women in their late teens and early twenties – the age range where
women are more prone to place greater emphasis on the way a man looks and have
less fear in being with good looking men – for as long as possible.
Above average looking (“cute”)
women
These women will have more
choices than they possibly believe is plausible. Although they will almost always come second
best to a more sexually attractive female, especially if it is on an “apples
for apples” comparison with regards to personality and feminism traits, there
is a large pool of men to choose from.
However, the bad news is that they will lose out on their probable first
choice – bad boys (if younger women) and high status men (if older women). This unfavourable outcome on their parts is
purely down to the reality that the low number of men in these categories will
plot for the women with higher physical beauty.
Nevertheless, as most men fall into the average sexual market value
region, there are more than enough mediocre males in looks, personality,
charisma, financial and status terms to share around. Further to this, because most of the top 20%
of physically attractive women stay away from the equivalent aesthetically
pleasing men, confident women with above average looks can strive, and likely
be successful, in securing a good looking man.
Ugly men
An ugly man’s dating
success is totally aligned to his respective other offerings. If he is a low value ugly man – hence low
paid, low intelligence and low ambition – he will attract, and locate, a woman
of a similar level in relative terms.
It’s when he has other sexual market value aspects women desire that it
becomes more interesting. An extremely
rich grotesque man, with high social and occupational status, will often be an
overall “better” option for many women than a good looking man with other
mediocre attributes. This could even
include many of the “hottest” women.
This may sound strange to people who do not study the sexual market to a
great degree, but it all falls back to female reservations in being with men as
physically attractive as themselves.
Whilst an ugly man will not even attain a second look from a decent
looking woman (unless it is in humour or disgust), the imperceptible
compulsions that exist to not be with better looking men can lead a female mind
to rationalized thoughts, and conclude that an ugly man’s strong points can
cloud over her immediate repulsive viewing.
Average to ugly women
I'm an ugly to average dude and have no problem pulling hot women.No great job just know what to do
ReplyDeleteWell I'm a g-l labourer and women want me all the time. I do have a mate who is a pretty boy and he seems to get attention from ugly women.Never seen him with a beauty.
ReplyDeleteAlso you need to know what women want.It's no good just being good-looking and waiting for girls to flock to you.U gotta make it happen
ReplyDeleteIt's not that he's shy, just not got much to say.Sometimes he can get nice grils too though
ReplyDeleteBe sweet and keen. Women need to feel special. Then throw them around like you just don't care. Every women likes a bad boy every now and again to keep them keen.
ReplyDeleteBonjour from Lyon. Nice post. So if high status men et the hottest fillies, why is it that the ones I know have ugly wife?
ReplyDeleteObviously it is relative to the man's need for a hotter woman. Some do take a good personality and potential wife over hotness, give half a grade or 1 grade. But high status men should be able to grade up considerably if they knew how to handle women and attained knowledge of female declining value & options as time passes by.
ReplyDeleteMais oui. The ones I refer to do seem like they cannot deal with the beutiful women of the world. Also, most French men seem with good jobs do seem to have tall thin wife.
ReplyDeleteMerci
Some sense in this post but it depends on the woman's confidence. A good looking woman with confidence can get any man. sure she may not be with the best man she could get to the eye but this is because she prefers other things men can offer. It wont be because she lacks the courage to do it. Also, only a few girls go for bad boys...why the obsession to women and jerks??? Are you a jerk?
ReplyDeleteAlso, looks only plays a small part as women aren't that fussed what a man looks like as long as he's a decent guy
ReplyDeleteUgly women have no chance unless it is a desperate man wanting a pump and dump and get the hell out before she tracks down his 2nd name. Wonder why they dont join gyms at least that would mean she could get a 2er!!
ReplyDeleteTake the cute woman as I would class myself. These women have tons of options as they can be much more proactive than the more stunning women.Stunning women stand back and wait while we go for it if we see it.Yes, we may not always get the men we want, but we can sure get something good too.
ReplyDeletelet me go and throw up over the 2 of you
ReplyDeletemaybe an ugly chick will
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